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Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Newboss(m): 1:59pm On Aug 02, 2020
They're HIS kids. Fūck off
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Tatashi: 2:01pm On Aug 02, 2020
I sense that your family didn't handle doz children well else he wouldn't have come for them. I lost interest when you mentioned a prophet said you plle should give them mark blabla which I'm sure was wat triggered their father to think that "spiritual'' environment wasn't safe. Even the court knows that he isn't fit to be a caregiver until the kids are 18.in a case where a woman dies leaving the kids, the court can grant custody of the kids to her parents but in agreement with their father.

Stop dragging and all of you should come together as a family...in harmony. beg him to release the kids to your family.Beg Beg Beg and make him see reasons they are ''safer" in your home.

Believe me when I say those kids will suffer where ever they are without you guys. A man who can share his little kids to a boarding house and uncle is a very very useless Father.

Don't stop fighting for the kids and when I say "fight" I don't mean violence...Use sense with the man and by God's grace he will release them but plssssss DONT GIVE UP.it may take years but by God's grace he will change his heart and when he doz,pls don't expose your nieces and nephews to any prophet. IT IS NOT NECCESSARY.

Poor kids! May God keep every Mother for her children.

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Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Nobody: 2:02pm On Aug 02, 2020
If I Were D Man, I Would Do Dsame. Why Would U Mark D Child Or Children Fetishly? All Becos A Native Doctor Prophet Said So.

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Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Judybash93(m): 2:12pm On Aug 02, 2020
If i were to be the father of the kids, I'll also deny you access to the kids. A prophet told y'all to give em kids tribal marks? WTF? What will the next thing be? Female genital mutilation? Damn!! Reading some posts really make me cringe. undecided
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by SILVERLINES: 2:13pm On Aug 02, 2020
bestmutiu2019:
please don't mind my bad English,please I need you to help me or advice me on what to do before I kill someone.
My name is ade second to last born in a family of 5,my mum first and second born were male follow by a girl then me and my jnr bro that is ma mum last born
The only girl of my family that is my sister married a guy this guy is so rude and mannerless I don't know maybe it was because of the little money he has,fast forward they had their first born a boy,then two years later my sister gave birth to twins she deliver the first one by herself then CS for the second one,as Almighty Allah pleases my sister died the 3rd day she gave birth to her twins that is November 2017.
Although my late sister husband lost both his parents so those little girls are with my mum she has been taking care of them since then,so one issue arise when one prophet told my mum that they should do this 1,1. tribal marks for those little girls to prevent their late mother from disturbing them in which my late sister husband decline,he came back the 3rd day September 29 2019 that he has come to claim these little girls that he has already paid for their boarding school that they are going to boarding school,twins that is not up to 2 years, meanwhile their first born is not staying with him a boy of 4 years old he says that he should go and be staying with one of his street uncle.
We accept these little twins started their boarding school in the neighboring state, like two months after then when mum go and visit the twins at the boarding school,they says my mum did not have any right to visit these twins because of the instructions their father gave them,my mum cried like say tomorrow no dey.

Meanwhile the first born that is staying with his street uncle he also order that man not to let any of us to see him.
PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO,I TOLD MY SENIOR BROTHER TO TAKE ACTION THEY COME UP WITH NOTHING,PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE,COS I CAN KILL THIS MAN
what action you want to take? You wanna kill the man and leave those little souls vulnerable on the street or will you be able to cater for their well-being and education? Probably you are doing something to frustrate the man financially, what will be ur gain? Mr. Man if you love those children as your claim try to sort it out amicably and they are always time for everything and there will be a time those children will be looking for you and ur family and the the dad will not be able to control them. Ur actions u wanna take may affect those children.
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by baby124: 2:16pm On Aug 02, 2020
He’s a very stupid man. I hope those kids never get abused. When people see kids have nobody and no one is interested in their welfare, abusers move in. As for your mum, let her sit down and stop running from one Alfa to another. See where her tojubole has landed her. Who sent her message? She’s not their mother or father, why will she want to take it on herself to give them tribal marks? Why will their mother harass her own children even when dead? Nigerians and their religious paranoia. Nonsense.

If your mother can, she can seek legal help to get custody of those children if she believes their welfare and future is in jeopardy. 2yr olds in boarding school is absolutely crazy. That boy living with a street uncle may never amount to anything positive in life. Your mum should try to get all those kids under her roof. The father is obviously incapable of caring for them by himself.

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Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Chris2863(m): 2:18pm On Aug 02, 2020
Amb1045:
you people should call him and talk to him. make him understand that your family means no harm to the kids. if he refuse to adhere to your family talks, take him to cult
This your own cult self
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Chris2863(m): 2:19pm On Aug 02, 2020
Carfreak966:
You can kill the man for what? Are they your children? Common get out of here boy
Don't mind the fool. He doesn't have sense
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by fkj950ax(m): 2:22pm On Aug 02, 2020
bestmutiu2019:

Issue arise when one prophet told my mum that they should do this 1,1. tribal marks for those little girls to prevent their late mother from disturbing them in which my late sister husband decline


Prophet caused this problem I see. Next time you pray to God on your own and not be looking for salvation in funny places. You really wanted to give someone's child tribal marks... Haba

The children are his. Not yours. Not your mum. Not your family. They are 100% of his children.

Your entire family should approach him with reverence and platitudes to allow you all to be part of the children's lives. Otherwise, you all should wait until they are 21 years old and can take decisions on their own.

Kill him, and you will end up in prison for the rest of your life, AND HIS FAMILY WILL BE GIVEN 100% CUSTODY AND PARENTAL RIGHTS TO THE CHILDREN.

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Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by LegendaryArnold(m): 2:22pm On Aug 02, 2020
If anything please don't put tribal marks on their faces?! What kind of backward mentality is that? Are they complaining that they see their mother?! Even if they see her in their dreams, I don't see anything wrong with it cos she will never hurt them. Let the man raise the kids the way he chooses to. He's their father and the sole custodian to them.
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Iceyjayz: 2:24pm On Aug 02, 2020
johnkey:
your mom is stupid for considering marking those innocent twins face to be scarred for life, rubbish. and to that fake prophet na ogun go kill am, useless family na so my useless older cousin with her dead prophetess mark my face too that year in the absence of my mom.
Lol I can feel your pain
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Angrymode: 2:29pm On Aug 02, 2020
I think maternal families should learn to mind their business sometimes. Those children belong to the man so all this grahgrah you are doing won't get you anywhere.

Go and give your mum her own grandchildren instead of threatening a man because of his own children.
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Miarose: 2:40pm On Aug 02, 2020
I take exceptions to the thought that he can treat the kids however he wants because they are his kids. In a lawful country, children are the wards of the state and wrong handling can cause a parent to lose custody easily.
Now, what kind of boarding school exists for kids of 2 year old? is it a registered institution? an educational body? a religious home?
To the best of my knowledge as an educator, even nursery schools cannot be registered with the ministry of education , rather,with the ministry of women affairs.
Boarding schools for two year olds should be more like orphanages. What manner of a useless man will remove toddling babies from the comfortable arms of their grandmother to such a cold environment? was he raised in one? can he imagine being raised in one?
Adults should growup. Growing up means learning and using our communication skills to negotiate situations, it is not about egos and ultimatums .The issue of tribal marks could have been resolved peacefully with grandma. It is sheer crass to upend the children from their abode of safety to a place of uncertainty.
Humans should learn to be humane.

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Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by LearnedNonSilk: 2:41pm On Aug 02, 2020
First, it's important to note that the exclusive rights to the children is bestowed on the parents (Father and Mother). In this instance the Father of the kids have the exclusive right to his kids to the exception of family members or in-laws.
Even though your late sister birthed the Children, the surviving Parent (Your Brother In-law) can insist on taking care of his children with or without help, assistant or allowing your family (including your Mum) access to them.

Kindly also note it is unlawful and criminal put any form of mark (either tribal or spiritual) on the face, body or any where on a child. The perpetrators of this act whether in the name of tribal mark or whatever are liable to be sentenced to prison. Section 24(1)(2) of the Child Rights Act, (Nigeria) 2003 prohibits making any form of skin mark on a child.

The said Section provides thus: “No person shall tattoo or make a skin mark or cause any tattoo or skin mark to be made on a child.

My advice to you and your family is to reason with your brother in-law on the need to be allowed access to the kids especially due to their young ages.
And if you guys feel the kids are not being taken care of properly or are being subjected to abuse and maltreatment, you can contact any of the various Child Welfare Offices to help out.

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Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by magzey: 2:41pm On Aug 02, 2020
The children belongs to him not your family.Mr undecided undecided
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by clearsight: 2:55pm On Aug 02, 2020
bestmutiu2019:
please don't mind my bad English,please I need you to help me or advice me on what to do before I kill someone.
My name is ade second to last born in a family of 5,my mum first and second born were male follow by a girl then me and my jnr bro that is ma mum last born
The only girl of my family that is my sister married a guy this guy is so rude and mannerless I don't know maybe it was because of the little money he has,fast forward they had their first born a boy,then two years later my sister gave birth to twins she deliver the first one by herself then CS for the second one,as Almighty Allah pleases my sister died the 3rd day she gave birth to her twins that is November 2017.
Although my late sister husband lost both his parents so those little girls are with my mum she has been taking care of them since then,so one issue arise when one prophet told my mum that they should do this 1,1. tribal marks for those little girls to prevent their late mother from disturbing them in which my late sister husband decline,he came back the 3rd day September 29 2019 that he has come to claim these little girls that he has already paid for their boarding school that they are going to boarding school,twins that is not up to 2 years, meanwhile their first born is not staying with him a boy of 4 years old he says that he should go and be staying with one of his street uncle.
We accept these little twins started their boarding school in the neighboring state, like two months after then when mum go and visit the twins at the boarding school,they says my mum did not have any right to visit these twins because of the instructions their father gave them,my mum cried like say tomorrow no dey.

Meanwhile the first born that is staying with his street uncle he also order that man not to let any of us to see him.
PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO,I TOLD MY SENIOR BROTHER TO TAKE ACTION THEY COME UP WITH NOTHING,PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE,COS I CAN KILL THIS MAN

You cannot blame your in-laws for being afraid of your family; I mean in this day and age, how could you even consider defacing those 2 innocent girls? You have to really convince their father that your family means no harm and you have do so diplomatically. Violence will never solve anything.

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Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Ishilove: 2:57pm On Aug 02, 2020
johnkey:
your mom is stupid for considering marking those innocent twins face to be scarred for life, rubbish. and to that fake prophet na ogun go kill am, useless family na so my useless older cousin with her dead prophetess mark my face too that year in the absence of my mom.
Can you call your own mum stupid when she does something you don't like? I guess you can, which is why you can call someone else's mother stupid.

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Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Ooe33: 2:57pm On Aug 02, 2020
Just initiate a court case. Start a custody battle for the kids. I am sure your family will win cos ur home beats boarding sch.
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Oracleforce: 2:59pm On Aug 02, 2020
Why would you give tribal marks to children that are not yours....there is no part of the world that is done....the mistake the man made was that he married from a fetish family who doesn't believe in the word of God....it is so pathetic that some families can use their Ignorant background to destroy homes...

Wahali, the guy is in trouble if he's not strong spiritually...

The guys should just be careful and prepared for the worst scenario because if eventually, he didn't do your bidding, you will send him to his early grave through your juju power...
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by allcomage: 3:01pm On Aug 02, 2020
Tribal marks are the clincher. Those given in time past have done all kinds face make over, rub all manner of creams, lost job opportunities, potential husbands and wives to no avail but here you are in 2020 still planning to spoil beautiful twins their future happiness in the name of tribal marks as prophesied by one dirty illiterate Alfa milking your mum.The guy did well because such fetish family is very dangerous to humanity. You guys can do it and dare him to do his worst. If I were him you would never see the kids until they become adults for nursing such devilish plans.

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Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Mayflowa(m): 3:01pm On Aug 02, 2020
Swissheart:
Firstly, if you kill a man, you'll go to jail and render the kids fatherless so take it easy.

Secondly, your mom wanted to give the twins mark on their faces, their father wasn't pleased with it and he came to pick his kids from your mom. That is also not a problem because he is their father, he has the right to. You mentioned it yourself that he has the finance to take care of them too.

The only issue here is that the man wants to cut all ties with your family, that is what you all have to address. Fighting him, insulting him wont work. You guys should remember he has lost his wife too and he hasn't even gotten over it. Why prepare for battle with a grieving man?

Your mom should talk to him with all sincerity and love. The love you guys have for your late sister should be the basis for whatever you are doing for her kids and to her husband otherwise that man will take those children away from you people for life.

Very sensible contribution
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by incogni2o: 3:11pm On Aug 02, 2020
johnkey:
your mom is stupid for considering marking those innocent twins face to be scarred for life, rubbish. and to that fake prophet na ogun go kill am, useless family na so my useless older cousin with her dead prophetess mark my face too that year in the absence of my mom.

On a ligther note, pls can i see the face
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by incogni2o: 3:14pm On Aug 02, 2020
Ishilove:

Can you call your own mum stupid when she does something you don't like? I guess you can, which is why you can someone else's mother stupid.

I quite understand johnkey s pain, but it doesnt warrant him calling someone's mum stupid
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Molutex(m): 3:17pm On Aug 02, 2020
Amb1045:
you people should call him and talk to him. make him understand that your family means no harm to the kids. if he refuse to adhere to your family talks, take him to cult
WHAAAAT!!, DID YOU JUST SAY CULT!!!!

Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by tomdon(m): 3:17pm On Aug 02, 2020
Wtf
The guy even wasted time. He waited 3 days, I couldn't have waited that long. And even had to present excuse that he was taking them to boarding school. I will come with either police or escorts and warn the traditionalists never to come near my kids ever again.
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Yankee101: 3:18pm On Aug 02, 2020
If you try giving my kids marks not only will l ban you, I'll call police on you too

Bush people.

He is the father. You have no authority over his children. You seeing them is at his pleasure. Make peace with him and promise to never attempt to disfigure his kids then he might consider. Nonsense
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Nobody: 3:37pm On Aug 02, 2020
YOU AND YOUR MOTHER ARE NOT SERIOUS. ME I WILL EVEN STOP TALKING TO YOU. HOW DARE YOU GO AND TRY TO WANT TO MARK MY KIDS. ARE YOU MAD. INFACT YOU ARE LUCKY YOU DIDN'T EVEN TOUCH THEM. NONESENSE. MODERN DAY SLAVERY.
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Tadeus(m): 3:39pm On Aug 02, 2020
To me, the man is doing the right things. Gave dem marks? Are you kidding me. Nobody dares give my kids dah nonsense tribal mark. Tell your mum to talk to the man and sign undertaking that she wil not give dem tribal mark, you will see dah he will return d kids to her coz I'm sure he is not comfortable leaving d kids in boarding school.
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by Samysearch(m): 3:40pm On Aug 02, 2020
bestmutiu2019:
please don't mind my bad English,please I need you to help me or advice me on what to do before I kill someone.
My name is ade second to last born in a family of 5,my mum first and second born were male follow by a girl then me and my jnr bro that is ma mum last born
The only girl of my family that is my sister married a guy this guy is so rude and mannerless I don't know maybe it was because of the little money he has,fast forward they had their first born a boy,then two years later my sister gave birth to twins she deliver the first one by herself then CS for the second one,as Almighty Allah pleases my sister died the 3rd day she gave birth to her twins that is November 2017.
Although my late sister husband lost both his parents so those little girls are with my mum she has been taking care of them since then,so one issue arise when one prophet told my mum that they should do this 1,1. tribal marks for those little girls to prevent their late mother from disturbing them in which my late sister husband decline,he came back the 3rd day September 29 2019 that he has come to claim these little girls that he has already paid for their boarding school that they are going to boarding school,twins that is not up to 2 years, meanwhile their first born is not staying with him a boy of 4 years old he says that he should go and be staying with one of his street uncle.
We accept these little twins started their boarding school in the neighboring state, like two months after then when mum go and visit the twins at the boarding school,they says my mum did not have any right to visit these twins because of the instructions their father gave them,my mum cried like say tomorrow no dey.

Meanwhile the first born that is staying with his street uncle he also order that man not to let any of us to see him.
PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO,I TOLD MY SENIOR BROTHER TO TAKE ACTION THEY COME UP WITH NOTHING,PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE,COS I CAN KILL THIS MAN

Alhamdulillah.
From ur write up, u sounded like a Muslim. In Islam, seeing such people that give prediction about life is Haram (prohibited). Pls avoid that.

On the issue, the father might be taking precaution from venturing in to shirk. I know he was hard on ur mum & it's painful. I hope the family will come to a good understanding.

May Allah make it easy for ur family. Ameen
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by lastchild: 3:46pm On Aug 02, 2020
Very funny story, the kids in question belongs to the man and not any of you, even if your sister is alive the man has every right to stop any of your family members from coming to his house or seeing his kids

The owners of the kids are the man and your sister only, nobody else
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by 1Sharon(f): 3:52pm On Aug 02, 2020
Why won't her husband deny you access?

He doesn’t want to deal with you superstious moгons.

Tribal marks to prevent their mum's ghost?
Re: Need Your Advice On What To Do About My Late Sister Children by 1Sharon(f): 3:59pm On Aug 02, 2020
SmileDance:
@MMotimo, misery loves company I want to believe mutiu and his mother have tribal marks too and also want to see to it that innocent girls are also scarred for live. The op should just know that he and his mother will go to jail if they try to disfigure those innocent girls


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