chaircover:

Now I can to a certain degree see why some people are so desperately unhappy in their marriages; because many marry for the wrong reasons and by the time the scales finally fall from their eyes its too late.

Women bypass good solid men of integrity because they are not loaded at the time they walk past.

Isn't it much easier for a good man to make money than it is for a rich bad man to become good?

It is a crying shame that women would prefer to date and say yes to a proposal from a man who like the poster couldn't find a job but decided to be a yahoo yahoo boy rather than a honest humble guy who took a job beneath his level so as not to beg borrow or steal.

And yet we all go ahead and blame our leaders etc when infact charity begins at home. My burning question is what job did the girlfriend have?

ola olabiy:

As undergraduates, girls would say only graduates would do as husband.
Then an Obafemi Martins/Kanu comes along and you begin to wonder.

Money!

Tinax:

i'll manage to date him,but won't marry him, 17k thts very poor, if he's initialy rich then goes poor i'll understand, but to start suffring from the beginning,no way!! he should look for an older woman, say 40yrs.

pro01:

I think the guy in question is severely deluded. N17,000? Lol. Even guys that earn N150,000/month still struggle to acquire the necessary 'logistics' for romance, and to satisfy 'ordinary' girlfriend's endless needs, let alone wife, let alone a guy that earns N17k. I wouldn't blame him though, guess he made the fatal mistake of taking the girl's 'sweet nothings' to heart and believing that she loved him unconditionally. My vast first and second hand experience in the battle-field of love/romance/relationships have led me to the unshakeable conclusion that at the end of the day, after all is said and done, NOTHING is more important than money - not charisma, not good intimacy, not looks, not personality, not communication, nothing. Absolutely nothing. That's the bitter truth. You'll always hear women running their mouths about how they like a guy with this or that quality, but ask them if they'll be with the guy long term, or even respect/love him totally if he were a broke backside, and their answer would be all too predictable. As a married friend of mine remarked over beer a few weeks ago: "it is better for your manliness to fail you than for your pocket to fail you; if your manliness fails you but your pocket remains rock solid, the women would never leave you - at worst they'll secretly sneak out to satisfy their sexual urges elsewhere and come back to you. But if your pocket fails you, the women would scornfully reject you and dump you without even looking back".

So poster, I'll advise the guy in question to get real. Women will be women, whether so-called 'born again', 'good girl' or the out-and-out street love-peddler, there's not too much of a difference - same principles apply, only in different dimensions. Forget that girl and focus on making money by any means necessary,no matter how long it takes you. A man never gets too old to marry even beauty queens, trust me. When your hustle pays you'd have the enviable task of selecting from an endless bevy of nubile beauties to populate your harem. First things first, I tell you. First things first.

pro01:

I think the guy in question is severely deluded. N17,000? Lol. Even guys that earn N150,000/month still struggle to acquire the necessary 'logistics' for romance, and to satisfy 'ordinary' girlfriend's endless needs, let alone wife, let alone a guy that earns N17k. I wouldn't blame him though, guess he made the fatal mistake of taking the girl's 'sweet nothings' to heart and believing that she loved him unconditionally. My vast first and second hand experience in the battle-field of love/romance/relationships have led me to the unshakeable conclusion that at the end of the day, after all is said and done, NOTHING is more important than money - not charisma, not good intimacy, not looks, not personality, not communication, nothing. Absolutely nothing. That's the bitter truth. You'll always hear women running their mouths about how they like a guy with this or that quality, but ask them if they'll be with the guy long term, or even respect/love him totally if he were a broke backside, and their answer would be all too predictable. As a married friend of mine remarked over beer a few weeks ago: "it is better for your manliness to fail you than for your pocket to fail you; if your manliness fails you but your pocket remains rock solid, the women would never leave you - at worst they'll secretly sneak out to satisfy their sexual urges elsewhere and come back to you. But if your pocket fails you, the women would scornfully reject you and dump you without even looking back".

So poster, I'll advise the guy in question to get real. Women will be women, whether so-called 'born again', 'good girl' or the out-and-out street love-peddler, there's not too much of a difference - same principles apply, only in different dimensions. Forget that girl and focus on making money by any means necessary,no matter how long it takes you. A man never gets too old to marry even beauty queens, trust me. When your hustle pays you'd have the enviable task of selecting from an endless bevy of nubile beauties to populate your harem. First things first, I tell you. First things first.

chaircover:

Women bypass good solid men of integrity because they are not loaded at the time they walk past.

Isn't it much easier for a good man to make money than it is for a rich bad man to become good?

It is a crying shame that women would prefer to date and say yes to a proposal from a man who like the poster couldn't find a job but decided to be a yahoo yahoo boy rather than a honest humble guy who took a job beneath his level so as not to beg borrow or steal.
And yet we all go ahead and blame our leaders etc when infact charity begins at home. My burning question is what job did the girlfriend have?

kokoye:

No wonder a lot of people in Nigeria go about stealing and doing 419.

The guy went to college and is struggling day and night to better himself.

Yet some Olorunsogo ladies come here and say he should work hard and be serious!!

. . .is he not trying?

And we want crime to reduce in that country . . .we are fooling ourselves.

lonewolf:

Nigerian girls will always continue to intrigue me. Here, you have a guy who's trying to make ends meet, is working hard and trying to build a good situation for himself. He asks his partner to marry him and she turns him down largely because he's not rich. Amazingly, females on this board subscribe to this nonsense too.

If you cannot marry your man when he's nobody, you are not worthy of him when he's somebody. Period.

This is why I have always said I will not marry anybody who is beneath me in socio-economic standing. (If a girl isn't from a relatively wealthy family or without serious earning potential, we are only f__cking. I can't wife you.) You can never be certain that she's with you because she loves you -- or because she sees you as a ticket to a better life.

Mrs.Chima:

You went on and on about NIGERIAN WOMEN not accepting a man who is not rich BUT YOU WON'T MARRY A WOMAN WHO IS BENEATH YOUR ECON/SOC STATUS? What the bleep?

lonewolf:

Because I am not gona be anybody's meal ticket. Bring your 50%, I'll bring mine. Then we can talk marriage.

Mrs.Chima:

Is that Koyoke?