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| Re: The Red Truth by Nobody: 3:23pm On Dec 02, 2020 |
DEMZEE: Go and read my first comment, don't just jump into conclusions. Your arguments are way off topic. You can't even differentiate between knowledge, a movement and religion. Where do I start from. I don't have the headspace to be explaining. |
| Re: The Red Truth by DEMZEE(m): 3:25pm On Dec 02, 2020 |
jajeri3216: U are just using English to confuse yasef Okay show me any movement,knowledge and religion that doesn't have a dark side to it  Repill movement can b used by anybody but it's not a white supremacists movement Just like Christianity is not a white supremacists movement Or Islam isn't an Arabian supremacists movement 3 Likes |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 7:25am On Dec 04, 2020 |
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| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 7:27am On Dec 04, 2020 |
75.) MAN'S BURDEN With great power comes great responsibility Unlike women, men have a far greater performance burden, as such it is their capacity to perform that determines their sufficiency. This is why you will hear “he’s not a real man” but never “she’s not a real woman” Manhood is precarious, earned each day, womanhood is a certainty, conferred by menstruation. Women do not have the burden that men do, women are valuable by merit of their existence, whereas men are valuable only when they can perform or produce, eg: amass wealth or behave dominantly. As soon as a man can no longer do these things (particularly the latter), he is no longer considered a man. This is why many men who lost their jobs found their wives disrespecting them or leave them and end up remarrying. Because men must invest more, men find it harder to move on, because women are provided for and invested into, they don’t. This is the masculine burden of performance, and it is this constant unending need for men to perform which makes masculinity precarious. Just because a man is considered a man today, it does not mean he will be tomorrow. A man who stops behaving dominantly is not considered a “real man” by either his fellow men or women; manhood is dependant on ability, whereas womanhood is dependant on fertility and motherhood. A woman can behave however she likes, earn as much or as little as she likes, and she will not lose her gender identity to her inability to perform, women have freedom that men do not, the freedom to fail. So yes, women may be the second sex, but that position of diminished responsibility confers a privilege men will never know. 23 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 1:49pm On Dec 04, 2020 |
Lets delve into the union called marriage... |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 1:51pm On Dec 04, 2020 |
76.) REDPILL AND MARRIAGE The idea of love is tossed around in our society as if it is inevitable that we will someday fall in love and stay in love our entire lives. But, only in modern times has it received such exalted status. Traditionally, it has been considered a very fickle emotion. Going back to some of the founding religious documents of our civilization, we find that Eve is commanded to be subservient and obedient to Adam. It is interesting that Eve is not commanded to love Adam, perhaps because the Bronze Age men who wrote these documents knew that was virtually impossible. The Western idea of falling in love in order to get married and have a family is a recent one. In the past, marriages were more about financial arrangements between families than ideas of love. People used to marry young and stay together their entire lives. They also used to have kids young, rather than waiting for the perfect “magic moment” that never comes. This, indeed is quite a contrast to today when most women have been passed around quite a few times before they marry and have children in their 30s if at all, a time when declining fertility puts reproduction at risk. In fact, a woman’s window of peak fertility extends from her teenage years to about the age of 25. After age 25 and especially age 30, it becomes statistically less and less likely she will conceive and more likely she will have complications if she does. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 1:54pm On Dec 04, 2020 |
History of Marriage Love was considered an emotion too fleeting to base marriages on in the past. The history of marriage is an interesting one. The 5,000 year history of marriage along with Briffault’s Law shows us male roles in relationships are more about providing utility value, rather than a woman loving a man. Marriage was originally intended to pass down bloodlines, property, and was used as a bargaining chip. Throughout much of human history, marriages have been arranged by families with the bride and groom having no say over the arrangement. This custom is still practiced in many societies today. Of course, having children and continuing family bloodlines, passing down property rights, and creating a stable environment for children were the reasons marriage came into existence. A dowry (financial reward) was often arranged to reward the groom for the difficult, lifelong task of taking on one of the family’s daughters as a wife. Four thousand years ago marriage was used to preserve political power in Mesopotamia as kings married off daughters to form alliances, produce heirs, and acquire land. A couple thousand years later, the Anglo-Saxons saw marriage as a bartering chip to establish diplomatic and economic ties. This meant families wanted their children to marry someone at least as powerful and wealthy as they were. Often, marriages took place without documentation and were based on people’s word. That is, until the 1200s when the Catholic Church declared marriage a sacrament. Following suit, Protestants later decided marriage was not a private institution. In the 1500s the Roman Catholic Church’s Council of Trent decreed marriages needed to take place in front of a priest and two witnesses to be considered valid. That decision made marriage a legal contract instead of a private arrangement, and is the beginning of the long arc that has led it to become all risk and no reward for men today. 13 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 2:09pm On Dec 04, 2020 |
Inception of Romantic Marriage For most of human history, marriage was considered much too important to be based on a fleeting emotion called love . It was about men providing material value for their wives, and women producing offspring. Marriage and love have often been considered incompatible. A Roman politician was expelled from the Senate after kissing his wife in a display that was called “disgraceful!” And, the French philosopher Montesquieu wrote that any man who was in love with his wife was probably much too dull to be loved by other women. (The man knew a Beta male when he saw one!) The idea of loving your future wife or husband is a recent development in human history. In our own civilization, it can be traced back a thousand years to the Middle Ages and the troubadours. Troubadours wrote songs and poetry during from around 1100-1350 A.D. that deal with love and courtship. Before this time, a father had to give consent as to who his daughter would marry. A daughter not marrying who her father expected was considered a major show of disrespect to both her father and her family, for not giving him a say in the family’s bloodlines. By the time of the Enlightenment, philosophers began to write about the pursuit of happiness, and told people to marry for love instead of wealth or status. In Africa its a similar storyline. Your father finds wife for you and live together forever. Until we were colonized by the British and they teach us their ways, told us polygamy was bad and monogamy is the best. Made us abandon our culture and today we are in gradually facing the mess they are already in. Our notions of romantic marriage today stem from these developments. 15 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 3:28pm On Dec 04, 2020 |
conclusion The history of marriage shows that romantic love is a recent concept to base marriage on, and marriages have endured without love in the past. Human history and anthropological research shows female marry for resource provision, wealth, status, or power more than it is any emotional attachment. For if the man loses his ability to provision, or his status or power, we see it time and again that he will find himself alone because no woman wants a “loser.” We also see it with the 80/20 rule in today’s society. Women reward the minority of men with sex and attention while leaving the vast majority sexless and alone, no matter what nice guys they are. This brings us to a harsh conclusion: From a commandment to Eve to serve and obey her husband Adam (not love him) , to the fact marriage has existed as an institution without love through most of history, evidence mounts that no, women do not love men the way men love women. Men must realize this and control their emotions. In summary, women want the best genes, whether it be for provisioning, protection, domination or all three. They could care less about the man the genes come from, only the utility provided by them. Oscar Wilde, posthumous Red Pill man knows this when He wrote: Deceiving others. That is what the world calls romance 16 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by toscolee(m): 5:30pm On Dec 04, 2020 |
Dpsychologist: Love is not strong enough reason to marry - Myles Munroe 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 8:03pm On Dec 05, 2020 |
toscolee:Yea. When the love wanes, it becomes pain. 5 Likes |
| Re: The Red Truth by Eaglefocus1: 10:45pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
Dpsychologist, pls send link to the telegram to my email. Thanks ifeanyinwankwo167@gmail.com 1 Like |
| Re: The Red Truth by Blessedboy23(m): 8:40am On Dec 09, 2020 |
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| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 6:01pm On Dec 09, 2020 |
Eaglefocus1:Sent 1 Like |
| Re: The Red Truth by EaglesEyes1(m): 9:41am On Dec 10, 2020 |
Dpsychologist:can repost the telegram link on this thread |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 7:47pm On Dec 10, 2020 |
77.) chemical hearts Love involves brain chemicals thats why it is called chemistry. When we refer to heart in context of love we are actually refering to a chemical heart, which are brain chemicals —Dpsychologist For centuries, people thought love (and most other emotions) arose from the heart, some still do. As it turns out, love is all about the brain – which, in turn, makes your heart the rest of your body go haywire. Love is a mixture of brain chemicals such as dopamine(feel good), oxytocin(bond), norepinephrine, vasopressin etc 9 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 7:49pm On Dec 10, 2020 |
Lets dive into Neurochemistry of Love |
| Re: The Red Truth by Digmygold: 10:30pm On Dec 10, 2020 |
Kalatium: Na man carry you for belle for 9 months? Redpiller Broke fools all over Nairaland wailing upandan because they are too poor to head a home and have no brains in their skulls to think of how to irk a living to better their lives. This Op is Ubunja the gay lord. Ubunja is Gods victim whose mother is currently dead and getting flogged in hell for smearing the earth with a cursed wrinkled failed devil . |
| Re: The Red Truth by TheUndercover: 11:10pm On Dec 10, 2020 |
Please don't reply or quote the moniker above me. We've passed this! We move! 11 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: The Red Truth by Beirut01: 4:03am On Dec 11, 2020 |
@Dpsychologist, your telegram link isn't working |
| Re: The Red Truth by Kalatium(m): 4:37pm On Dec 11, 2020 |
TheUndercover:I am not even going to shalaye. I don't have her time. 2 Likes |
| Re: The Red Truth by Kalatium(m): 4:40pm On Dec 11, 2020 |
Beirut01:This is the official link.... t dot me /TRPLounge (Change dot to . ) 1 Like 2 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 11:25pm On Dec 11, 2020 |
Kalatium:Yea thats the link. |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 11:30pm On Dec 11, 2020 |
The brain in Love Love at first sight is translated by the thalamus(a parr of the brain) as a “desired human chemical reaction”, an important message which is then sent to the amygdala ( emotional brain centre), resulting in the flooding of your entire system with potent hormones and mind-altering neurochemicals. According to a team of scientists led by Dr. Helen Fisher at Rutgers, romantic love can be broken down into three categories: lust, attraction, and attachment. Lust Lust is driven by the desire for sexual gratification and a need to reproduce. The hypothalamus of the brain plays a big role in this, stimulating the production of the sex hormones testosterone and estrogen from the testes and ovaries. Attraction Attraction involves the brain pathways that control “reward” behavior which partly explains why the first few weeks or months of a relationship can be so exhilarating. Dopamine, produced by the hypothalamus, is brain’s reward pathway – includes spending time with loved ones and having sex. A related hormone, norepinephrine , is released. This make us energetic, and euphoric, even leading to decreased appetite and insomnia. There is reduction in serotonin , a hormone that’s known to be involved in appetite and mood. Ihis is what underlies the overpowering infatuation that characterizes the beginning stages of love. Attachment Last but not least, attachment is the predominant factor in long-term relationships. The two primary hormones here appear to be oxytocin and vasopressin Oxytocin is released by hypothalamus in large quantities during sex, breastfeeding, and childbirth. Vasopressin is also released. These hormones helps in bonding and attachment. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 11:30pm On Dec 11, 2020 |
Love is just an emotion: Love works like a drug, when induced it gives it desired effect and when its effects subsides, your eyes are clear. And you fall out of love. You bumped into that extremely hot girl and you feel your heart stop for a second. you walk up to her and start talk to her. And eventually you two exchanged numbers. And you begin talking. And talking and talking and talking… And you finally decide to meet. And you meet and meet and meet… And then you finally fell in love And you feel like the happiest person on earth. Listen, I hate to break it to you, but what people call “love” is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. If your marriage is solely on love you will live to regret it. Love fades Biologically, all of your emotions are meant to serve a purpose. And once that purpose is done — whether successfully or not — the emotion goes away. These whole processes are there to ensure you go after the mate, successfully carries through with the mating ritual (sex), and ensure the continuation of your own species. It’s all natural, nothing extraordinary. Under normal conditions, no single human emotion exists indefinitely. Sadness, happiness, weakness, strength, LOVE, they all come and go! When they linger more than they are naturally supposed to, it becomes a disorder. Lingering sadness becomes depression, an ugly psychological disorder. Lingering happiness becomes mania — equally terrible. Lingering love becomes addiction! Both men and women tend to view their partner as one thing in the beginning, but their perspective shifts with time, often reach the low point near or after the ending of a relationship. Love is not enough, get that. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 11:33pm On Dec 11, 2020 |
Love is unreliable If you do not control love, love will control you. Love is a good servant but a bad master. Love is often accompanied by jealousy, erratic behavior, and irrationality, along with a host of other negative emotions and moods. It appears to turn off regions in our brain that regulate critical thinking, self-awareness, and rational behavior. In short, love makes us dumb. In a way, love is much like an addiction to another human being. Similarly, the same brain regions that light up when we become addicted to drugs is same when we become emotionally dependent on our partners. Have you ever done something when you were in love that you later regretted? Most will answer yes. If you read the story of star-crossed Shakespearean couple, Romeo and Juliet you will see how love is unreliable. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 11:33pm On Dec 11, 2020 |
Harsh Truths About Love The problem with idealizing love is that it causes us to develop unrealistic expectations about what love actually is and what it can do for us. 1. Love does not equal compatibility. Just because you fall in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a good partner for you to be with over the long term. Love is an emotional process; compatibility is a logical process. And the two don’t bleed into one another very well. It’s possible to fall in love with somebody who doesn’t treat us well, who makes us feel worse about ourselves, who doesn’t hold the same respect for us as we do for them, or who has such a dysfunctional life themselves that they threaten to bring us down with them. 2. Love does not solve your relationship problems. If you think love is enough you must be joking. Love may make you feel better about your relationship problems, it doesn’t actually solve any of your relationship problems . 3. Love is not always worth sacrificing yourself. Loving someone to people is to think outside of yourself and your own needs to help care for another person and their needs as well. But the question that doesn’t get asked is exactly what are you sacrificing, and is it worth it ? When it comes to sacrificing one’s self-respect, one’s dignity, , one’s ambitions and life purpose, just to be with someone, then that becomes problematic. If we find ourselves in situations where we’re tolerating disrespectful or abusive behavior, then we’re allowing our selves to be consumed and exploited, and if we’re not careful, it will destroy us. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by Regex: 8:10am On Dec 12, 2020 |
Kalatium: Who art thou, so wise in the ways of science! 5 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by toscolee(m): 3:24pm On Dec 12, 2020 |
| Re: The Red Truth by Kalatium(m): 5:58pm On Dec 12, 2020 |
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| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 12:26am On Dec 13, 2020 |
78.) THE HEDONIC TREADMILL You cannot please anyone. Human needs economically are insatiable. In extention you cannot please a woman. Buy her iphone 12 and she is happy with you but when iphone 13 is out and you are unable to purchase it for her after several request. She becomes angry that you didn't give her what she wants and that you are not caring enough. Understand that most times, women always think of the present and your current benefit. It doesn't matter what you had done for her in the past. When you are no longer useful, she will drop you. Whatever you use to get a woman continue to use it eternally or else she will become dissatisfied and leave. Thats why If you use money to get her, you have to continue using it ad infinitum. 15 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist: 12:28am On Dec 13, 2020 |
Women do not understand loyalty When a Boyfriend is useless drop him like a used sanitary pad—Mercy Eke You cannot buy a woman’s loyalty. Stop thinking because you spend money on her she will remain loyal. You can give her anything she want in this life and she will still not remain loyal. Women’s loyalty to most men extends only to their ability to be a provider or a dominant figure. Betas and Blue Pill men never seem to grasp the fact you can’t buy a woman’s loyalty, and most women (even their wives) have absolutely no loyalty to them other than words and empty promises. (Actions speak otherwise!) Unlike men who will sometimes stand by a brother in need, women will exit (branch swing) whenever it is politically, emotionally and financially prudent for them to do so. They don’t care if the man they formerly “loved” is living under a bridge after the relationship is over, unlike men who will often harbor tender feelings towards women even after being used. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
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