I have been in a relationship for 2 years now and the first year was good but the second years was really bed in the scene that my boyfriend best friend tried to be sleep with me but I refused him and I threatened to tell my guy , then he begged me, he even knelt down begging me that it was a mistake that he didn't mean to get carried away, only to go at my back and tell my guy I seduced him infact ehh It took God's intervention to make things right again but things were never the same again.. last year December I got pregnant for him, he shouted at me and insulted me that am loose to get pregnant at a time like that, so because of the emotional trumer, I had a miscarriage then fast forward to now , I found out am pregnant again and I told him he clearly told me that he is not the one responsible . I thought it was a joke I told him to be serious he told me that being pregnant is the least I could come up with , he acted so cold and inhumane to me , that's pure wickedness .. meanwhile the person is not an illiterate but a graduate that with so much knowledge... I told him that let's break up ... because it's clear that he doesn't love me am in so much pains right now , I don't know what to do, this is the same person I can do anything for , I loved him selflessly, I loved his family as my own... Because they know me... I just can't understand why he will keep doing this to me yet he claims he loves me... Am done with it...
Pls house I need ur advise.

Your monicker diverted my attention to your signature and I realized there's no need to respond to your cooked up story. However your English expression is like a bicycle rider faced with a situation of high speed trailers before and behind him in a narrow path.

I don't even know where to start from
Should I start from here
No let me start from here

I feel you're guilty or mistaken somewhere or somehow
You've been in a relationship for years without knowing someone fully, in a sense that you have not seen some odd behavior he might have put on along the line
Or you've seen it or you just ignored..

When building a relationship they are a lot of stuff you should Take note
You have to be sensitive

And lastly you ain't even married and you having sex like Mia khalifa nawa o

You couldn't read the handwriting on the wall.Your first pregnancy was enough to know what kind of person he is.

Your man isn't ready for any responsibility yet. The choice is yours to make between keeping it and getting rid of it.

I'm not trying to be a guy man here but you two were dating, your graduate boyfriend had a plan for his life , which you are trying to interrupt ....
Not everyone wants a child when they can't give him/her the best in life , before someone starts telling me -- if he was not ready why did he have sex , what they had was sex , if babies were the end product of sex as you make it seem, myself and a lot of my guys would have about 3 million kids by now as a girl you should be smart to know that the guy isn't ready for children and do your own part , so you don't end up with a round circle ....
Maybe I'm harsh , but I wouldn't blame the guy much !!

Help on what ground exactly..were we there when you were spreading legs like evening newspaper..

Maybe he is certain he is impotent!

Sorry, from the experience of the second year (earlier). I think you should've know about him already.
He doesn't want to take responsibility for the child after getting laid, are you sure he even see a future with you or just another girl to satisfy his urge (coded manner under the brand called relationship)

luv2rolly:
Maybe he is certain he is impotent!

You have a point there

I'm Not Really Sure Dis Story Is True. If At All It's True, U Should Blame Urself Of Being Foolish & Careless. Someone Got U Pregnant D 1st Time, He Rejected It & In D Process U Lost It & U Were Foolish & Careless Enough To Allow It To Happen Again. So U Can See Dat U Brought Misery Upon Urself.