Nwunye awo si na di atoka uto, ya jiri
nuta nke ya kworo ya n'azu.

ok

Wat is d op puffing, why do u think so many matured n marriage over due igbo guys are stil single

hakym619:
Igbo marriage is a low key poverty alleviation scheme

Why are you like this?

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It's actually from this forum that I heard that bride price in Igboland runs into millions and that Igbo men are the devil incarnate that oppress their female folks. No thanks to naive, bigoted, or bitter non-Igbos and their self-hated, ostracized, or deranged Igbo counterparts.

No matter how tempting an igbo woman is, once I hear that she's igbo. I go just japaa

thatigboman:
I want to create this post in order to disabuse the minds of nairalanders on the misconceptions about much-talked about igbo bride prices.
Contrary to the belief that igbo bride prices run into millions, the bride prices are usually a token. In my hometown in Arondizuogu, Imo State, it is about N200.

The misconception arises from the list given to family of the intending groom. That list is far different from the bride price.
Different people in igboland give different lists in igboland for the different groups in the village they come to marry - the daughters of the family (my 2 year old children get their shares in my place), the women, the youths and the elders. And there are options. You either bring the items or bring the money. Example, u can go to a community and they ask you to bring 10 big yams, another can ask for 20 kegs of palm wine, others can ask for coconut. And youths in my place must ask for a roll of cigarettes, benson or rothmas. And the groom has an option, either to buy them and bring according to specifications or just drop money.

Buying the items usually bring problem. U can buy 10 big yams, and they tell u that it is only 2 that are big, you have to pay for the other 8 'small ones'. U can buy Life and Hero drinks, and they say no, one must be Star, so some people will prefer to pay cash and will be taxed heavily.
All in all, all the issues will be settled, so no worries.

let other igbos and other nairalanders contribute.

It makes sense

Ideadoctor:
what do they want wheelbarrow for?

To move the yams to their barns

LordKO:
It's actually from this forum that I heard that bride price in Igboland runs into millions and that Igbo men are the devil incarnate that oppress their female folks. No thanks to naive, bigoted, or bitter non-Igbos and their self-hated, ostracized, or deranged Igbo counterparts.

Fixed

bigseank:
it is greed that will kill you people. Just in the name of marriage you ask for heaven and earth. see as this one dey try explain nonsense. i follow my padi go imo state go marry, it got to a time i looked at his wife and asked my self is this girl even worth it, i cried for my guy that day. U guys change your archaic ways. Your females are not cattles. they should not be a means to line your pocket.

Nothing wey you wan write wey go surprise us,the fact remains,if you no get money it will very very very hard to marry an igbo girl.

In my village (in Anambra) bride price is just ₦400..,just as the op said, it's the lists that normally makes it look big, and this list is negotiable.

In my entire life, I have never seen where parents refused to give out their daughter for marriage just because the item in the lists ain't complete. You can negotiate to bring it down. Though some items listed are compulsory.


A man can marry a lady with 2 million naira in a family where another man married the lady's sister with ₦200, 000. So it all depends on how the man present himself.

Was at yoruba wedding last Saturday here in Lagos . The bride price and the list was so much over 100 yams and boxes of clothes with wrapper...

It was so much... So I think igbo list isnnt much

did I just see Benson and rothmas. haba

Am from imo state OP
MY place if you don't have at least 350k you can't or won't be able to traditionally marry your wife

It's ridiculous to be given a list to a young man just starting life.

Our elders are not helping matters.

Angelfrost:
Mr. Op, stop this pedantry and trying to be smart by half, please!!!

Everyone knows the literal meaning of Bride Price!!!... You are the one who seems ignorant of the contextual meaning here.

When people complain of "Bride Price" being high, of course they are referring to the entire ridiculous demands from the Bride's family.... They merely lump it all conveniently into a single term "Bride Price"!!! This is quite simple na!

No offense sir, I honestly don't see the real point of this thread!!!

very on point!!!

Angelfrost:
Mr. Op, stop this pedantry and trying to be smart by half, please!!!

Everyone knows the literal meaning of Bride Price!!!... You are the one who seems ignorant of the contextual meaning here.

When people complain of "Bride Price" being high, of course they are referring to the entire ridiculous demands from the Bride's family.... They merely lump it all conveniently into a single term "Bride Price"!!! This is quite simple na!

No offense sir, I honestly don't see the real point of this thread!!!

It's high because u are not meant to pay it ...but people like u don't ask questions

It's insulting in igbo land to tell u a parable and tell u the meaning ( it means u are a fool ) ..

I'm sure your igbo in-laws would be speaking but u are not smart enough to get it

Bar1941:
Really, so that list is about house warming not wedding? You are talking as if the list is about something else. What brought about the list in the first instance if not the bride?

I thought I was the only one that was being gaslighted here

bigseank:
it is greed that will kill you people. Just in the name of marriage you ask for heaven and earth. see as this one dey try explain nonsense. i follow my padi go imo state go marry, it got to a time i looked at his wife and asked my self is this girl even worth it, i cried for my guy that day. U guys change your archaic ways. Your females are not cattles. they should not be a means to line your pocket.

Leave them... It is already backfiring on them. Go research the region with highest number of desperate and aging spinsters.

A lot of my friends from there either married from abroad, from less greedy regions, or are simply co-habiting.

They will eventually bow to the pressures of the fast changing times!

For my village, Umuagama Enugu Ezike, Enugu state, the bride price itself is not more than 100 naira. The things that consume money are things for the ceremony. And you are not necessarily mandated to celebrate. Just give palm wine to the UMUNNA, and that is all

Extortion is the name of the game.

livinbygrace:
Nothing wey you wan write wey go surprise us,the fact remains,if you no get money it will very very very hard to marry an igbo girl.

oga did u see the list of Nigerians beauty Queens, na them carry am so what do u expect, but let's say the truth, even in my region there are some family u are marrying into the bride price is high, all I will say if is what u can do, no wahala

We dont want to know

Nazgul:
Marriage in Igbo land depends on the family like you rightfully stated.

If you're marrying from a greedy family, it will take God's divine intervention for you not to loose your patience with them.

I've been to a wedding where the groom literally walked out cos of excessive billing he said he isn't doing again. Worse of it all was that his supposed in-laws were even mocking him telling him that he's not man enough to get married that what is he doing here.

It was the cries of his bride to be and her mum and some other direct female relatives that brought him back.

So my brother it just depends on the family and most especially if the girls father is still alive. Cos if her father is alive there are some nonsense he wouldn't tolerate cos he knows that any financial burden he places on you, his daughter would bear it as well.

But if it's all these useless uncles who don't even care about the girls welfare, they'll try to use her marriage as a route to escape poverty thereby billing you heartlessly.

How dare u pay the complete bride price in igbo land ...it's insulting to the bribes family if u do

Go the girls family tell them how much u have and promise to keep paying for life and watch the magic happen

Una just funny Sha learn culture

1x2x3:


After settling the long list which will likely be within the range of 500k to 1M are you still going to buy drinks, buy cow, canopies, cook food for the main function or once you settle the list then the brides family take charge?

No those things u bought most like drinks and rice would be used for the traditional wedding and shared there ...so look at it logically it's not expensive as people think

psyco:
What of motorcycles? Wheelbarrows. And foods for the whole extended families.

Lady bike

Angelfrost:
Mr. Op, stop this pedantry and trying to be smart by half, please!!!

Everyone knows the literal meaning of Bride Price!!!... You are the one who seems ignorant of the contextual meaning here.

When people complain of "Bride Price" being high, of course they are referring to the entire ridiculous demands from the Bride's family.... They merely lump it all conveniently into a single term "Bride Price"!!! This is quite simple na!

No offense sir, I honestly don't see the real point of this thread!!!

As if he doesn't know, some villages will collect N20 and give you list of nearly N700k, when you complain they'll tell you that they only collect N20 from the bride price.
Imo state bikonu, amend the price so that other Igbos will be happy marrying ur daughters.

Igbochief001:

How dare u pay the complete bride price in igbo land ...it's insulting to the bribes family if u do

Go the girls family tell them how much u have and promise to keep paying for life and watch the magic happen

Una just funny Sha learn culture

You obviously did read what I wrote

Why this useless explanation? We all know that just as Fulanis rear cattle, Igbos rear women.

When it's time for marriage, they maximise profit because those female children are sold out in marriage. This disrespectful attitude is why women aren't allowed to inherent property in Igboland.

Thanks OP for this. In my town in Attah Njaba LGA a person with 250k will finalize all his marriage right with traditional ceremony. Orlu zone mainly don’t overkill when it comes to traditional marriage. The 4 days wine carrying which is done one day with the Igba Nkwu is quite affordable in my place. People should stop generalizing the rites done in some parts of Mbaise or Mbano to stereotype the whole Imo.

It's similar to what is obtainable in Kalabari where you keep paying marriage bills till you get old, or the nonsense done in some parts of Akwa-Ibom. Before you come out to judge a tribe, a state or a people it's good you carryout proper research and not jump on a stereotypical bandwagon.

Igbos are actually not as expensive as Akwa ibom& Calabar own...my people are just unreasonable