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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by anthonnnny(m): 9:27am On Dec 11, 2020
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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Ekugbeh(m): 9:27am On Dec 11, 2020
Gayatri:

If you say so.... Atleast he would not have confessed his feelings for me... He says "friends" so as not to lose me totally.. Remember i never went for him
he said what he said at that particular time dear. Moodswing happens

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Chummynoni(m): 9:27am On Dec 11, 2020
Have you guys had sex??..whether yes or no, let him go, and you will meet the perfect one for you unlike the emotional thief

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by jossytech(m): 9:27am On Dec 11, 2020
Life Sha, d kind of girl I wish for, been messing up with a guy with uncontrollable and indecisive feeling. Just be careful, u too good to be hurt again. Girl like u are rear gem, if someone can't have u as wife as friends is a must coz u are a stiff backer n loyal supporter

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Nobody: 9:29am On Dec 11, 2020
I SO APPRECIATE ALL YOUR COMMENTS... I FOLLOWED YOU ALL THROUGH THE NIGHT WITHOUT SLEEP JUST TO SHOW HOW IMPORTANT YOUR WORDS ARE TO ME.. AND I AM TAKEN THE DECISION NOW! WITHOUT LETTING HIM KNOW!!!

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Nobody: 9:29am On Dec 11, 2020
Gayatri:


Thank You Sir! But i do not wish to be his friend... I will wipe him off totally...
That's it, maintain this type of heart and in no distant time you will have your own man who will willingly wash your pants lol. Never put your emotions before your brains in dealing with men, men are different from women, I opened a thread about sex and relationships and I was marvelled with the response I got from men. I have really liked some guys here but I can't have anything to do with them because if you traced their comments back, you will surely find out who they truly are.As I craze reach, I have the best of men willing to love me and not minding my craziness, so never be too emotional about men and never be quick to believe all they express before you,they are weird and emotionally manipulative

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Nobody: 9:31am On Dec 11, 2020
jossytech:
Life Sha, d kind of girl I wish for, been messing up with a guy with uncontrollable and indecisive feeling. Just be careful, u too good to be hurt again. Girl like u are rear gem, if someone can't have u as wife as friends is a must coz u are a stiff backer n loyal supporter

You will live long for your kind words this morning!! Thank You! Sir

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Fvckhypocrite(f): 9:31am On Dec 11, 2020
Zzor:
People are wasting their time advising her, when he impregnates her and abandon her that's when she will understand what people are telling her the hard way.
special advicer how fa?
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by vikkogg: 9:33am On Dec 11, 2020
Gayatri:
I do not know how to start this but i will write as it comes... I was in a 2 year relationship that ended in march this year.. I was so commited in it like naturally when im dating, i DO NOT notice other guys and i DO NOT ask my boyfriend for financial assistance because i feel im not his responsibility,, what i do appreciate mostly were little things like, chatting, kindness, hugs, opening and closing of doors for me,, just little things, coz i adore them so much.. But anyway it ended.. And i vowed never to date again come what may.. During the break up process, all my friends (guys, hardly have a girlfriend) were there to help me pull through.. Calls and texts constantly because, according to them, they knew my type, thus the help.. Funny enough, i never got attracted to any of them (even the ones that initially asked me out when my friendship with them was fresh) and im not the sex sex type to just fall for any to satisfy my desire.. Though i got advice from neighbours to find someone else than staying alone, i said no especially as i am a loner but a happy loner.. I keep myself busy with work or any stuff that makes me happy.

Fine, two months later (june), some guy reached out to me even as he knew he's got a girlfriend, whixh according to him later, they were in an open relationship.. He stays in oshogbo, his girl stays in kaduna while im in sagamu..Before then, he reached out online by first stalking me on facebook (even though we did same online business), after a while he got talking with me.. At first, i was harsh, very harsh to him but he never minded.. At a point i stopped talking to him.. A month later he reached out again, asking if we were still friends.. I was like yeah, not nice to him at all but he was patient with me..

From mid-july we started talking well as friends, he was very open as i was to him. We flowed well that things were happening to us coincidentally.. Whenever he yawns, i do at my place, if im having a scratch, he does too.. There was just plenty of this connection that we never got tired of each other.. In the procesa of our been honest, he told me about his girl and how she was still keeping her ex and all whatnots... I didnt feel any iota of jealousy because i had not feelings for him yet.. I asked to talk things through with his girl and he says well if she gave the chance.. So laters, by august, september,october, feelings grew.. He got so fond of me... According to him, he has not seen my type before.. Fine! During my birthday, he wanted to do something for me, i said no, then two weeks to his birthday in nov, he asked that i visit him at their family house, that i did..

What struck me most was how the elder brother (married) took care of me... I was not allowed to do nothing.. The brother even cooked for me.. God, it made me fall more for the family.. The kind gestures i have never experienced in my life.. There are kindnesses but there is kindness, the real one.. I felt it.. Every thing that i want in a man, those little things, this guy has them all.. According to him, it baffles him that with the little he shows me, i do not take for granted even before he told me he's having a girl..

When i returned home, we continued our normal talks and he then said, that his girlfriend would be visiting during his birthday.. At that point i went silent.. (Meanwhile he met his girl this year but before me, also during her break up).. He was unhappy that i displayed this little jealousy.. So he says he has not broken up with his girl to start a new relationship and he is hurting that he is hurting me.. He's got feelings for me but he loves his girl.. So i said i was going walk, even though i never meant it, twas hard to even say that but i had to and he says no... That he's become so attached to me even his family thinks he's dating me.. That he controls his feelings for me, could i do same and i said no.. I could not be friends with him when i know that feelings are involved.. Finally, we came to terms to just flow with things since he was not engaged or married to her.. Even so, this guy just lost his job and he says unlike his girl, im the one pushing him to have something doing, he says i help him alot but i wouldnt know.. So we continued to let the whole feelings to flow until last week, when with my help, he was called for an interview in lagos..

As usual we talked and i wished him well.. I always pray for him.. In lagos, we talked well until the third day, our communication changed and before it did, my heart was literally aching, so i knew something was wrong.. I called to know why but he was telling me that he'd let me in when he got back to oshogbo, which he did.. He said his girlfriend who was having something to do with her ex, called him and wanted to settle things with him.. But the truth is, because this lady already had his facebook password when they were together in kadauna, she 3 days before her birthday on the 8th of this month wanted to know why her boyfriend was no longer perturbed over her behaviour, so she saw my chats with the guy and decided to do something,,, this now pushed to talk things out with the bf and apologise to him.. Then she asked him if anything was going on between is and he said no.. That we just friends,close friends.. He lied to her but opens up to me.. He says he doesnt want the girl to ask him to cut me off totally.. So the whole thing got him confused.. He says he's never double dated and he isnt happy that he's hurting me and im taking it... I asked him again if i should walk and he says no.. He does not want to lose me and i do not want to lose him either but i want to prove my love for him so that he one day sees that the girl, probably loves him but she's got no integrity.. And i purely love him.. But because i respect his relationship, i CAN NOT TELL HIM TO BREAK UP WITH HER but wanting him to see things himself but the question is for how long.. He says they are working things out now but he doesnt want to lose me esp as a friend... Difficult.. Out of God knows what, we agreed to let things flow since i will respect his relationship, like whenever his girl is around, i should make him believe that i will be fine.. Now, he isnt happy because he said if he hadnt met the gf, he'd have gone ahead to date me.. For me, i cannot sleep, ive been typing this since God knows when and this is 3:36am.. Since he is confused now, please people, friends, family, can i use love to make him see the difference between his girl and me.. He loves his girl, he is controlling his feelings for me and afraid to let it grow because he knows we'd bond, while my feelings toward him is real.. Money has not been involved in this.. We are 6months now.. I believe in true love and that it does not come easy.. Talk to me Y'll because i have no parents to talk to,, i would have talked to my mum now but she isnt here... I want to win with true love.. I turned 27 this past november and he turned 30 same november.. Thank You and God bless..

I hate it when lovely people get hurt. I'm a guy and I'll tell you the fact right now. The fact that he has agreed to work things out with his gf is enough to let you know he doesn't love you wholly. Someone who loves you truly will call off every other relationships just to be with you. Stop subjecting yourself to the position of a side chick. The guy is just too selfish. He wants to have both of you around. If he can't leave his babe for you, block the hell out of him. I hate nonsense. Let him make his choice nah. You can't be in Abuja and Lagos at the same time. Only selfish people do that. Take care.

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Amiee99(f): 9:35am On Dec 11, 2020
Kindly reply your mail @ OP

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Nobody: 9:35am On Dec 11, 2020
Fvckhypocrite:
special advicer how fa?
I'm good jor, she's just annoying me this morning, i hate to see women being deceived and display so much ignorance. Have a nice day
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by xtervaganza(m): 9:35am On Dec 11, 2020
Gayatri:


I appreciate this Sir... Truly he has no job.. He lost his job while he was in kaduna with his gf. He could not continue staying there because of expenses... So he had to return home, their family house in osogbo..
enough of all these shalaye on top wey de dribble you.



I'm a man and I know what's up

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by DECLAN2015(m): 9:37am On Dec 11, 2020
Openbusiness:
Ok. I just finished reading the story. Quite an interesting one. It gave me some bit of poignant mixed emotions like making me laugh, that horror movie kinda evil laugh though grin; it made me feel pity, made me feel angry or maybe a bit disgusted, and made me feel nostalgia and a bit of pain about some of my own past stupid moments and stupid decisions in other areas of life.

It seems like, one way or another, one time or another, one aspect of life or another, everyone has their own share of having stupid moments and making stupid decisions. I think it's a ground zero curse on humanity, everyone at one point in time has done something very stupid. So I won't "condemn" you in this regard. You're not the first to do something stupid and you won't be the last. I think that's why Albert Einstein said, “Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.” ― Albert Einstein. But like they say, Learn from mistakes, preferably OTHER PEOPLE'S mistakes.

Maybe I'm wrong or maybe I'm right, I don't know, you tell me, BUT what I see is: i see a woman with courage, I see a woman with raw naivety and I sense a woman with a good heart to some extent, and I see that's where these your "moves" are coming from.

Really, such qualities look like a wonderful thing on paper but in the real world out there, when mixed together, those are exactly the kind of qualities that will get you "killed" (quote and unquote). Courage + Naivety + Good heart = Trouble raised to power 2 grin. You will walk straight into danger smiling like a fool, dancing kumbaya grin, I know this for a fact because I've been there, done that.

And do you know why this combination is dangerous? It's because bravery makes you confront challenges head-on, you won't run, you will face your fear like a champion. All that is a wonderful thing really, but then naivety gives you a "wrong assessment" or "no assessment" at all of what you are walking into, and then a good heart makes you feel what you're doing is "okay", in short with a good heart, everything is "okay" grin. If you need a perfect description of what trouble looks like, this is IT grin. Being brave, nice and stupid at the same time is how a rat ends up in the belly of a snake.


The only reason I want to wholeheartedly contribute is because from your communication I can see you have humility and a good heart with good manners, a quality very rare with the females of this generation, But before I continue, I have to tell you that I can be very blunt, am not a Mr Nice guy oh, in short, me ehnn, bomb dey my head, nuclear bomb, an sumtyms ma mouth can scatter and rearrange pipu's DNA. So if u kno u are d over sensitive type, tell me now, lemme sherrup oh, so dat I wunt kontinu. But if you have a thick skin like a Rhinoceros and don't mind hearing the truth even if it stings like a 1000 bees, then I can talk.


All these wetin hm come be
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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Nobody: 9:39am On Dec 11, 2020
Gayatri:
I SO APPRECIATE ALL YOUR COMMENTS... I FOLLOWED YOU ALL THROUGH THE NIGHT WITHOUT SLEEP JUST TO SHOW HOW IMPORTANT YOUR WORDS ARE TO ME.. AND I AM TAKEN THE DECISION NOW! WITHOUT LETTING HIM KNOW!!!
You are darling, so we have to go hard on you to get you out of that manipulative grip. Be firm with your decision and You shall be fine. Never let anyone hold the key to your happiness, God bless you

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Harry81(m): 9:39am On Dec 11, 2020
God will see u through
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Queenserah26(f): 9:40am On Dec 11, 2020
Can't agree less

dominique:
Set awon "I wish I met you before I met my wife", na from courtship they dey start. The guy is playing both of you and messing with both you and his girlfriend's heads. Since he has told you that he doesn't want to leave a girl he claims not to love, do yourself a favour and block all forms of communication with him. Except you want to remain his side chick even after he marries her sha o.
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Daddycharger: 9:42am On Dec 11, 2020
Gayatri:

I appreciate this, thank you Sir..
Don't follow the advice oo, kindly leave the guy for your mental health
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Kiddllc: 9:46am On Dec 11, 2020
Gayatri:

What is your take please??..
Smart boy cheesy
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Omeife2: 9:46am On Dec 11, 2020
This classic playbook is still working? My dear, many have been down this road. It always ends in heartbreak
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by babzlim(m): 9:47am On Dec 11, 2020
If this said guy keeps going off and on with his ex/present without even given you a tryal or some kind of chance, then you sure need too get ur brain checked.

My advice pick one among ur friends they know and understand you better.

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Fvckhypocrite(f): 9:49am On Dec 11, 2020
Zzor:
I'm good jor, she's just annoying me this morning, i hate to see women being deceived and display so much ignorance. Have a nice day
you sound intelligent on this thread but why do you choose to act abnormal sometime? Just curious

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Dagz007(m): 9:49am On Dec 11, 2020
Gayatri:


Thank You Sir! But i do not wish to be his friend... I will wipe him off totally...

Then safe yourself the likely sad eventuality.
Quit immediately and unapologetically.

Be intentional and bold about it, walk away for your own emotional well being. Because I can assure you that it can only end in even deeper pains and I think the fact that you love someone shouldn't make you a victim of hurt. So safe yourself now.

You do not need to take permission or tell him you are quitting else you'll be emotionally caged.

QUIT NOW
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by TheSERAPH: 9:49am On Dec 11, 2020
Gayatri:
I do not know how to start this but i will write as it comes... I was in a 2 year relationship that ended in march this year.. I was so commited in it like naturally when im dating, i DO NOT notice other guys and i DO NOT ask my boyfriend for financial assistance because i feel im not his responsibility,, what i do appreciate mostly were little things like, chatting, kindness, hugs, opening and closing of doors for me,, just little things, coz i adore them so much.. But anyway it ended.. And i vowed never to date again come what may.. During the break up process, all my friends (guys, hardly have a girlfriend) were there to help me pull through.. Calls and texts constantly because, according to them, they knew my type, thus the help.. Funny enough, i never got attracted to any of them (even the ones that initially asked me out when my friendship with them was fresh) and im not the sex sex type to just fall for any to satisfy my desire.. Though i got advice from neighbours to find someone else than staying alone, i said no especially as i am a loner but a happy loner.. I keep myself busy with work or any stuff that makes me happy.

Fine, two months later (june), some guy reached out to me even as he knew he's got a girlfriend, whixh according to him later, they were in an open relationship.. He stays in oshogbo, his girl stays in kaduna while im in sagamu..Before then, he reached out online by first stalking me on facebook (even though we did same online business), after a while he got talking with me.. At first, i was harsh, very harsh to him but he never minded.. At a point i stopped talking to him.. A month later he reached out again, asking if we were still friends.. I was like yeah, not nice to him at all but he was patient with me..

From mid-july we started talking well as friends, he was very open as i was to him. We flowed well that things were happening to us coincidentally.. Whenever he yawns, i do at my place, if im having a scratch, he does too.. There was just plenty of this connection that we never got tired of each other.. In the procesa of our been honest, he told me about his girl and how she was still keeping her ex and all whatnots... I didnt feel any iota of jealousy because i had not feelings for him yet.. I asked to talk things through with his girl and he says well if she gave the chance.. So laters, by august, september,october, feelings grew.. He got so fond of me... According to him, he has not seen my type before.. Fine! During my birthday, he wanted to do something for me, i said no, then two weeks to his birthday in nov, he asked that i visit him at their family house, that i did..

What struck me most was how the elder brother (married) took care of me... I was not allowed to do nothing.. The brother even cooked for me.. God, it made me fall more for the family.. The kind gestures i have never experienced in my life.. There are kindnesses but there is kindness, the real one.. I felt it.. Every thing that i want in a man, those little things, this guy has them all.. According to him, it baffles him that with the little he shows me, i do not take for granted even before he told me he's having a girl..

When i returned home, we continued our normal talks and he then said, that his girlfriend would be visiting during his birthday.. At that point i went silent.. (Meanwhile he met his girl this year but before me, also during her break up).. He was unhappy that i displayed this little jealousy.. So he says he has not broken up with his girl to start a new relationship and he is hurting that he is hurting me.. He's got feelings for me but he loves his girl.. So i said i was going walk, even though i never meant it, twas hard to even say that but i had to and he says no... That he's become so attached to me even his family thinks he's dating me.. That he controls his feelings for me, could i do same and i said no.. I could not be friends with him when i know that feelings are involved.. Finally, we came to terms to just flow with things since he was not engaged or married to her.. Even so, this guy just lost his job and he says unlike his girl, im the one pushing him to have something doing, he says i help him alot but i wouldnt know.. So we continued to let the whole feelings to flow until last week, when with my help, he was called for an interview in lagos..

As usual we talked and i wished him well.. I always pray for him.. In lagos, we talked well until the third day, our communication changed and before it did, my heart was literally aching, so i knew something was wrong.. I called to know why but he was telling me that he'd let me in when he got back to oshogbo, which he did.. He said his girlfriend who was having something to do with her ex, called him and wanted to settle things with him.. But the truth is, because this lady already had his facebook password when they were together in kadauna, she 3 days before her birthday on the 8th of this month wanted to know why her boyfriend was no longer perturbed over her behaviour, so she saw my chats with the guy and decided to do something,,, this now pushed to talk things out with the bf and apologise to him.. Then she asked him if anything was going on between is and he said no.. That we just friends,close friends.. He lied to her but opens up to me.. He says he doesnt want the girl to ask him to cut me off totally.. So the whole thing got him confused.. He says he's never double dated and he isnt happy that he's hurting me and im taking it... I asked him again if i should walk and he says no.. He does not want to lose me and i do not want to lose him either but i want to prove my love for him so that he one day sees that the girl, probably loves him but she's got no integrity.. And i purely love him.. But because i respect his relationship, i CAN NOT TELL HIM TO BREAK UP WITH HER but wanting him to see things himself but the question is for how long.. He says they are working things out now but he doesnt want to lose me esp as a friend... Difficult.. Out of God knows what, we agreed to let things flow since i will respect his relationship, like whenever his girl is around, i should make him believe that i will be fine.. Now, he isnt happy because he said if he hadnt met the gf, he'd have gone ahead to date me.. For me, i cannot sleep, ive been typing this since God knows when and this is 3:36am.. Since he is confused now, please people, friends, family, can i use love to make him see the difference between his girl and me.. He loves his girl, he is controlling his feelings for me and afraid to let it grow because he knows we'd bond, while my feelings toward him is real.. Money has not been involved in this.. We are 6months now.. I believe in true love and that it does not come easy.. Talk to me Y'll because i have no parents to talk to,, i would have talked to my mum now but she isnt here... I want to win with true love.. I turned 27 this past november and he turned 30 same november.. Thank You and God bless..

 
Been following up on your story and the

comments but didn't want to comment but I will

now cos the most important part of this your

story is been skipped by people that

commented. WHAT ENDED YOUR LAST

RELATIONSHIP. WHY DID YOU GUYS BREAKUP.

And answer to that will help me to advise you

on how to kill your feelings for this current

f**kboy

       
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Worksunlimited: 9:49am On Dec 11, 2020
Gayatri:
I do not know how to start this but i will write as it comes... I was in a 2 year relationship that ended in march this year.. I was so commited in it like naturally when im dating, i DO NOT notice other guys and i DO NOT ask my boyfriend for financial assistance because i feel im not his responsibility,, what i do appreciate mostly were little things like, chatting, kindness, hugs, opening and closing of doors for me,, just little things, coz i adore them so much.. But anyway it ended.. And i vowed never to date again come what may.. During the break up process, all my friends (guys, hardly have a girlfriend) were there to help me pull through.. Calls and texts constantly because, according to them, they knew my type, thus the help.. Funny enough, i never got attracted to any of them (even the ones that initially asked me out when my friendship with them was fresh) and im not the sex sex type to just fall for any to satisfy my desire.. Though i got advice from neighbours to find someone else than staying alone, i said no especially as i am a loner but a happy loner.. I keep myself busy with work or any stuff that makes me happy.

Fine, two months later (june), some guy reached out to me even as he knew he's got a girlfriend, whixh according to him later, they were in an open relationship.. He stays in oshogbo, his girl stays in kaduna while im in sagamu..Before then, he reached out online by first stalking me on facebook (even though we did same online business), after a while he got talking with me.. At first, i was harsh, very harsh to him but he never minded.. At a point i stopped talking to him.. A month later he reached out again, asking if we were still friends.. I was like yeah, not nice to him at all but he was patient with me..

From mid-july we started talking well as friends, he was very open as i was to him. We flowed well that things were happening to us coincidentally.. Whenever he yawns, i do at my place, if im having a scratch, he does too.. There was just plenty of this connection that we never got tired of each other.. In the procesa of our been honest, he told me about his girl and how she was still keeping her ex and all whatnots... I didnt feel any iota of jealousy because i had not feelings for him yet.. I asked to talk things through with his girl and he says well if she gave the chance.. So laters, by august, september,october, feelings grew.. He got so fond of me... According to him, he has not seen my type before.. Fine! During my birthday, he wanted to do something for me, i said no, then two weeks to his birthday in nov, he asked that i visit him at their family house, that i did..

What struck me most was how the elder brother (married) took care of me... I was not allowed to do nothing.. The brother even cooked for me.. God, it made me fall more for the family.. The kind gestures i have never experienced in my life.. There are kindnesses but there is kindness, the real one.. I felt it.. Every thing that i want in a man, those little things, this guy has them all.. According to him, it baffles him that with the little he shows me, i do not take for granted even before he told me he's having a girl..

When i returned home, we continued our normal talks and he then said, that his girlfriend would be visiting during his birthday.. At that point i went silent.. (Meanwhile he met his girl this year but before me, also during her break up).. He was unhappy that i displayed this little jealousy.. So he says he has not broken up with his girl to start a new relationship and he is hurting that he is hurting me.. He's got feelings for me but he loves his girl.. So i said i was going walk, even though i never meant it, twas hard to even say that but i had to and he says no... That he's become so attached to me even his family thinks he's dating me.. That he controls his feelings for me, could i do same and i said no.. I could not be friends with him when i know that feelings are involved.. Finally, we came to terms to just flow with things since he was not engaged or married to her.. Even so, this guy just lost his job and he says unlike his girl, im the one pushing him to have something doing, he says i help him alot but i wouldnt know.. So we continued to let the whole feelings to flow until last week, when with my help, he was called for an interview in lagos..

As usual we talked and i wished him well.. I always pray for him.. In lagos, we talked well until the third day, our communication changed and before it did, my heart was literally aching, so i knew something was wrong.. I called to know why but he was telling me that he'd let me in when he got back to oshogbo, which he did.. He said his girlfriend who was having something to do with her ex, called him and wanted to settle things with him.. But the truth is, because this lady already had his facebook password when they were together in kadauna, she 3 days before her birthday on the 8th of this month wanted to know why her boyfriend was no longer perturbed over her behaviour, so she saw my chats with the guy and decided to do something,,, this now pushed to talk things out with the bf and apologise to him.. Then she asked him if anything was going on between is and he said no.. That we just friends,close friends.. He lied to her but opens up to me.. He says he doesnt want the girl to ask him to cut me off totally.. So the whole thing got him confused.. He says he's never double dated and he isnt happy that he's hurting me and im taking it... I asked him again if i should walk and he says no.. He does not want to lose me and i do not want to lose him either but i want to prove my love for him so that he one day sees that the girl, probably loves him but she's got no integrity.. And i purely love him.. But because i respect his relationship, i CAN NOT TELL HIM TO BREAK UP WITH HER but wanting him to see things himself but the question is for how long.. He says they are working things out now but he doesnt want to lose me esp as a friend... Difficult.. Out of God knows what, we agreed to let things flow since i will respect his relationship, like whenever his girl is around, i should make him believe that i will be fine.. Now, he isnt happy because he said if he hadnt met the gf, he'd have gone ahead to date me.. For me, i cannot sleep, ive been typing this since God knows when and this is 3:36am.. Since he is confused now, please people, friends, family, can i use love to make him see the difference between his girl and me.. He loves his girl, he is controlling his feelings for me and afraid to let it grow because he knows we'd bond, while my feelings toward him is real.. Money has not been involved in this.. We are 6months now.. I believe in true love and that it does not come easy.. Talk to me Y'll because i have no parents to talk to,, i would have talked to my mum now but she isnt here... I want to win with true love.. I turned 27 this past november and he turned 30 same november.. Thank You and God bless..

Move On.. Before it's too late..

If you still come back ere to shout "All men are scum", I go laugh you.

Count your losses and move on, Now!

Kolewerk ni kolewerk!

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by ojotobiloba1: 9:51am On Dec 11, 2020
dominique:
Set awon "I wish I met you before I met my wife", na from courtship they dey start. The guy is playing both of you and messing with both you and his girlfriend's heads. Since he has told you that he doesn't want to leave a girl he claims not to love, do yourself a favour and block all forms of communication with him. Except you want to remain his side chick even after he marries her sha o.
Different strokes for different folks sha, pls let's talk.. ojotobiloba1@gmail.com
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Nobody: 9:51am On Dec 11, 2020
Fvckhypocrite:
you sound intelligent on this thread but why do you choose to act abnormal sometime? Just curious
I'm whoever I want to be at any point in time lol. Nothing serious
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Ajiswaggs(m): 9:52am On Dec 11, 2020
Nonsense.....27yrs and still doing mumu love. When all your mate don born finish.
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by seanwilliam(m): 9:53am On Dec 11, 2020
All of una Dey mad... na so so relationship topics since last week.. make una drop sexcapade jare
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Nobody: 9:55am On Dec 11, 2020
seanwilliam:
All of una Dey mad... na so so relationship topics since last week.. make una drop sexcapade jare
Carry your "I burst two nuts for 5k" away from here yeye man, this thread is for responsible people to comment.Brolosho
Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by Daddycharger: 9:56am On Dec 11, 2020
You seem to be a very nice girl who is a loner and needs love desperately, don't forget that desperation kills faster. Don't compete with any girl. During the period the guy stopped talking with you was when his relationship was going well before he noticed the girl was still cheating with his ex. Stop being an option, focus on yourself and forget the dude, frankly you're only there to support him emotionally anytime he has issues with his girl and sexually if possible. Learn to be alone cos love is nothing but a myth. I cum in piece

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Re: He Has A Girlfriend But Does Not Want To Let Me Go by newmoney133: 9:58am On Dec 11, 2020
Listen Carefully my sister.You are making a mistake by believing all he says about his girlfriend.He loves the girlfriend more than you and he is scared of losing the girlfriend hence always telling his girlfriend lies about your relationship.Do you know if his girlfriend threaten him to stop talking to you,he will stop.He values the girlfriend more than you.please avoid this guy before he damage you emotional.you deserve to be number 1 in your man heart and not side chick.Some ladies follow this side chick path till they successfully break others relationship but complains of lack of respect from their husband after wedding.

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