jedisco:


Then why can't these men marry already established White ladies?
They have live in the West but still opted for a Nigerian lady... That should tell you something. The problems you'd encouter with the White lady is on another level.
Fact is that it's much more likely for a Nigerian man (born in 9ja) in the West to have a successful union with someone of same race and background. That's a fact that cuts across everyone?

That person (wife or not) is a human. That you facilitated yhe persons travel, paid for their schooling e.t.c gives you no right to Lord it over them. That's not how the West works.

Have you ever asked yourself if the mrn do anything that makes the wife turn around?

cococandy:


More lies. Many of them get divorced and then start looking for homely Nigerian girls who will tolerate the stuff their foreign wives don’t tolerate.

CSTRR:
Indra Nooyi and her family.

Her husband is the undisputed head of the home.

cococandy:
Why don’t good women who have accomplished a lot in life use their husbands as excuse to snap and destroy lives?
Instead they bear it diligently or divorce if the situation is unbearable. Of course people vilify them for being divorced too.

With men it’s always excuses and blaming the woman. Everything wrong in his life is the woman. From the days of being in the garden of eden. The woman made him do it. No personal responsibility. It’s almost like men can’t handle themselves much less pressure filled situations. We have normalized them lashing out and destroying lives because something doesn’t go the way they want.
How many women get such passes in life?

You guys need to do better.

lightpurple:

You should see Nigerian men here. So disgustingly unbearable. If not for the fact that Nigeria is not habitable to a point, after tasting how easy life in he US is, most of those so called Nigerian women that were brought here by their husbands would have gone back to Nigeria within months of their arrival

cococandy:


That’s not true.

Dalil8:


My guy na surrogacy sure pass. Better to live life on your own terms, be in absolute control.

No woman in the picture, just you and your kids.

Womanizer:
The United States needs to enact tighter gun laws!

lightpurple:

The Nigerian men in the US are very very very lazy

JaneYave:
When emotions are bottled up without expressions, they make people snap in odd ways. Everyone needs to learn how to start being real, talk issues out rather than pretending everything is fine. The children will have to deal with these memories for life.

genq:


But you did imply that women are "enslaved" in marriages - what does enslavement mean to you?

pocohantas:


Nigerian men always talking of foreign women, but never talking of foreign men.

Always comparing Nigerian women with foreign women, but never themselves with the men.

Few days back USA warned her citizens of Nigerians. Everyday one of you is traveling to one country or the other with drugs, tainting our national image and further reducing the value of our passport. You don’t ever talk of these things.

Yet you somehow think you are perfect and deserving of these foreign women?

Like the average young foreign woman would marry just any Nigerian man, so you guys always end up with the retired ones. Keep living out your dreams on Nairaland.

angelfallz:


You seriously want to argue that men don't lose everything in a divorce in the West?

delishpot:


If that is how you talk to your woman, I will not blame her for tormenting your life. I should learn manners when you have not even learnt what it means talk less of actively implementing it in your life. It's like telling a person to bathe very well before entering shit. I am the person, bathe is manners and the shit is you.

jajeri3216:


Are you sure

theemy:
This idea of bringing someone from naija to marry doesn’t often go well, marry someone from where u are Chilean.

you wey your ovaries don almost dry finish?
Who wan send you money
Probably some money miss road who doesn't know his worth

pocohantas:


My uncle just came back last two years for a homebased wife. He was in his early 50s.

Haven’t you noticed majority of the guys always typing that fallacy are the ones in Nigeria? They should better find way to leave this country and send dollars for me.

cococandy:


More lies. Many of them get divorced and then start looking for homely Nigerian girls who will tolerate the stuff their foreign wives don’t tolerate.

VNTS:
Nigerian men are so quick to blame women for everything. That is why I fear things will not change. A woman is not your investment. She's a real life adult human and if you can't live with her, leave. I say it agaig, your wife is not your investment. Stop feeling entitled over another person's life even if you brought her to the USA. If you cannot stay, divorce, find another babe and treat her better.

Nairalandwizerd:
na them. Did you consider your kids before sleeping around?

cococandy:
I’m sure you live with them.

Also make sure you marry an Indian woman

oz4real83:
what will u say about Americans or other Caucasians who have also done the same thing? Will u say America was not for them? Humans are the same everywhere, we have the good and the bad in every ethnic group and we all react either positively or negatively to issues. Let's learn to avoid being tribalistic in issues.

CSTRR:

They should go back.
You can't benefit from somebody and still be a thorn in his side.

CSTRR:

There are different kinds of white ladies.
Some are very sensible.

Nigerian women take undue advantage of the gender chaos in THE West.
It is Like they discovered Gold.

Men won't change. They know what they married and they expect it.
In fact, they would be more compromising than if they were in Nigeria.

It's the women that change of their own accord and for the worst.

HisMajesty1:

Really? But that's what we see every time. See, I've been following your line of argument on this particular thread and I understand it, but then, emotional things hurt more. Let's leave this case since it's still been investigated. My uncle in Albany, New York told me that the very moment newly migrated Nigerian women in the US fully understand how so much the laws favour them (usually they get tutored by more experienced Nigerian women who have stayed longer and surely seperated from their husband's and have gotten all the man has) they start provoking their husband's. Starts with nagging then graduates to brazen infidelity and more. The man snaps hits her she calls the authorities and there goes the beginning of the end of all a man's hard work. And you expect a Nigerian man at heart regardless of how long he has stayed in the US to suck it up like his white counterparts will? Only exceptional Nigerian men like the uncle of poster early in the thread.

Frustrated007:
you wey your ovaries don almost dry finish?
Who wan send you money
Probably some money miss road who doesn't know his worth

Magnoliaa:


Exactly. It's not "really" about women's servility, but men's attitude towards women (and their exploitation of the behaviors bred in women). Indoctrination and conservatism are largely tools that have been used to keep women subdued, and things are fast changing. We cannot go back to the wives in the fifties' era. So the gender wars will persist if men refuse to change and adapt. Why should women be the ones to remain below for men to be satisfied?

CSTRR:

Look at this one.

I am a gentleman to the core but I don't tolerate nonsense.

Talk well or don't talk at all.

GayPontiff:
This is becoming a norm in The US.
That society is just not for thorough bred Africans.
The men who turn themselves in after killing their spouse don't even show any remorse. Only God knows how unbearable what happened that made this man want to kill his family n off himself too.

You can be thrown outta your house for just raising ur voice at your wife.
Our women embrace this new found independence that makes the man seem incapable of playing the role he has always known.

Most cases, these men sacrifice everything to bring their women over and still lose it all.
Not siding these men or encouraging they go on killing rampage, but the death tolls r increasing and these women need to slow down a bit.

My drunkard uncle lost custody of his kids many years ago, he doesn't drink anymore, moved on and remarried..but just like that he can't even go close to his kids anymore. First wife stripped him of everything and is even sleeping around with younger boys. Aunty never contributed to his wealth by the way. She was also brought to come and study and from there she got married to my uncle.

Magnoliaa:


Exactly. It's not "really" about women's servility, but men's attitude towards women (and their exploitation of the behaviors bred in women). Indoctrination and conservatism are largely tools that have been used to keep women subdued, and things are fast changing. We cannot go back to the wives in the fifties' era. So the gender wars will persist if men refuse to change and adapt. Why should women be the ones to remain below for men to be satisfied?

hustla:


Hmm.. Women are necessary evil is the problem that is

Me thinks that Prenup will put everybody in line as there is no side benefiting ahead of the other

blazer90707:

Aren't you tired of constantly having to educate these nairaland people. The arijies dat guy posted I watch them on YouTube. Fact is she's actually Bengali and not Indian and also half of the stuff her husband does, the average nigerian man would never do it. Please leave then to their foreign princesses because if they would be sincere to themselves they don't behave same way with a foreign wife as they would a Nigerian . So please rest and leave all this people