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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by samx4real(m): 7:06am On Jan 15, 2021 |
charles009: Forget that boy, he is not your child. Fear women, they only want what favours them. Am telling you this... If you where not doing well, this your ex will never remember you or come back to u. Don't pity her or whatsoever, cut her off your life like she did when she left you for her husband. Forget everything about her and child. Move on with your wife and your 3 children. And pls always treat your wife and your children right. God bless you. |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by SweetCunt97(f): 7:20am On Jan 15, 2021 |
slimjohn2k5:I hope he won't commit suicide. Fear fair weather wives. |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by grandstar(m): 7:22am On Jan 15, 2021 |
baralatie: That was why I said emotions will run high rather than reality. That's why the man's relations will eventually need to help him face reality by cutting his losses and moving on he is in really starting all over again. It's not the biological father's fault and this has to be drummed into his head. They are both victims of the machinations of an evil woman. |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by SweetCunt97(f): 7:22am On Jan 15, 2021 |
samx4real:It's obvious d lady lied and rushed to marry a simp that first proposed to her. She's a very stupid being but the kid shouldn't suffer. |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Hisxlency01: 7:31am On Jan 15, 2021 |
Send your ex monthly stipends to take care of your boy, let her stay with her husband, or better still establish your ex for the sake of your son, when your son becomes an adult, you can both seat and talk things out |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by samx4real(m): 7:35am On Jan 15, 2021 |
SweetCunt97: I don't support that saying that the child is innocent so he should be taking care of... Leave the mother to surfer her decision, and don't border yourself about what happens to the child. Let the woman be the one to expose herself to her husband and let this guy not border himself until she bring the child to him. If she don't, let it be like that... The child will look for his real father. For the now, the poster should not border himself, whatsoever about the child or what happens to him now or in the future. If the child is for him... He will come looking for him... Not the other way round. |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Ezini(f): 8:19am On Jan 15, 2021 |
Klass99: You spoke well But how come the husband of the ex is not considered here, He has been a father to this child Please OP should let.sleeping dog lye 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Steveagro: 8:23am On Jan 15, 2021 |
It happened before you got married so inform your wife, except of she is the type with a basket for a mouth |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by HRprof: 8:26am On Jan 15, 2021 |
WoundedLamb: Don't disturb yourself, we must not copy American in everything. Traditionally the child belong to the husband who father the child because he paid his wife brides price and see her through pregnancy and took care of the child. Op is just a sperm Donor, if the woman didn't open up will he know? The husband has every right to claim the child if the DNA turn otherwise but if he decided to give the child to OP that means OP will have to refund all expenses made on that child from birth till date. Let be wise when coping Americans their tradition is different from ours as well as our laws. 2 Likes |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Oyiboman69: 8:31am On Jan 15, 2021 |
DukeNija:willingly you mean?...how most you reason is beyond my imagination. I you were to be a King in a town and this same issue is brought to your attention with everyone waiting for your final judgement....be honest with yourself,how are you going to decide it? |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by grandstar(m): 8:34am On Jan 15, 2021 |
Pierocash: Easier said than done. It also isn't noble and right before the Creator to whom every family owes its name. . (Read 1 Timothy 5: What you said is what many have have done but the neglected child suffers greatly. The Davinone family in Delta has the most chartered accountants in the world-all 5 kids chartered accountants. Fantastic laurel! It does have a dark secret. The father of the family had a first child with a white woman which he completely neglected. She grew up in poverty in England. Till now, the lady being over 50 now, is only grudgingly accepted. Most importantly, once the child's needs are well taken care of by the adoptive parent, the biological father can step back. The interest of the child is the key here. Anyway, paternity fraud complicates the whole thing. |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by grandstar(m): 8:39am On Jan 15, 2021 |
woleabayo: He did nothing wrong. Anyway, he is a husband and must apologize when he is right. Yo do have a point. Your apology means her interest is fully respected and taken into account. 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by DukeNija(m): 9:12am On Jan 15, 2021 |
Oyiboman69: You can’t just come and take a mans son away because you slept with his wife before they were married. Fatherhood is beyond sperm and egg. Who will compensate the man for the years he raised that boy? So because he lost his job he shouldn’t have a son? Mr Nairaland is not the father of the boy, he’s only the biological father. According to the law, a man assumes fatherhood of a child born outside wedlock if married to the mother. 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Oyiboman69: 9:18am On Jan 15, 2021 |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Oyiboman69: 9:19am On Jan 15, 2021 |
DukeNija:According your Igbo tradition not the law anywhere around the world...go and do your research before you quote me again |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by HRprof: 9:37am On Jan 15, 2021 |
grandstar: |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by HRprof: 9:41am On Jan 15, 2021 |
grandstar: Nothing like paternity fraud, a lawyer have come on air to explain that paternity fraud does not exist in any law. Learn to do your research, Nigerian like copy and pest. Anyway there is a sperm bank for those who want to donate their sperm...... |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by grandstar(m): 9:41am On Jan 15, 2021 |
[quote author=HRprof post=98078370][/quote] You wrote nothing |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Modarun(m): 9:42am On Jan 15, 2021 |
[color=#990000][/color] i feel sorry for you. Imagine sharing a child with that heartless witch. got pregnant for you then used it to trap another cos he was financially better off. Nw table ve turned, she wants out, using the child to instigate you to help break her marriage. Question is if u were worst off would she ve told you? No. Her husband and you would ve died not knowing. To think all the sleepless nights, stress, pain the poor man went through to provide for that child SMH. Mark my word Ur ex'll be the end of you, either her husband kills you or she does. My advice? Make sure every interaction with her is documented, tell her u were never a dead beat, u'll take responsibility but only if a DNA test confirms the child is yours. if it is, then tell your wife. explaining everything. but mark my word if u let that woman get you in her bed, thats the end of ur life. 2 Likes |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by grandstar(m): 9:44am On Jan 15, 2021 |
HRprof: Paternity fraud is where you have been deceived to accepting a child that isn't yours. |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by grandstar(m): 9:47am On Jan 15, 2021 |
HRprof: Paternity fraud or misattributed paternity. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paternity_fraud |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by HRprof: 9:51am On Jan 15, 2021 |
grandstar: Ask a lawyer and stop urging with your keyboard. Anything that's not in the law, legally does not exist As the saying "Only woman knows the father of her child" who is stealing the child here, OP or his Ex husband? |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by olumide4christ: 10:24am On Jan 15, 2021 |
charles009: Were you married or engaged to your wife as at the time of your affair with this lady? If the answer is no, you have no skeleton in your cupboard and thus, you should be free to discuss it with your wife. If the answer is yes or no, then in the name of the fear of God, honesty and integrity, pray to God to take control of everything, next, sit your wife down and tell her the whole truth and nothing but the truth...God will answer your prayers by giving her the ability to understand that this isn't your fault and both of you will agree on what to do next. Note that if your wife is opposed to bringing the child to your home, you must honour her desires..she is the legal wife and the other lady and her child is just an impostor. Seek God's direction, He will help you. Tread carefully! The sanctity of your home is more important than anything else! If you still need someone to counsel you in confidence, feel free to contact me via the MTN line in my signature. I'm a Marriage and Relationship counselor. |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by olumide4christ: 10:28am On Jan 15, 2021 |
Nato008: Amen and Amen! |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Gyong(m): 10:52am On Jan 15, 2021 |
charles009: Guy, discuss with your wife, the child was born before you married her, she ll understand. Even if she doesn't, you must take care of that child asap |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by olumide4christ: 10:52am On Jan 15, 2021 |
To all my fellow men who think they are having a swell time jumping from the bed of one lady to the other in the name of pre-marital and extra-marital sex, Charles009's case is a stark reminder that karma is real, what goes around comes around and God our creator is not foolish when He said in His word (the Bible) that we should flee fornication 1Corinthians 6:15-20. God through His word helps us avoid these life complications when we simply obey Him. You should not be climbing a woman when you have not legally married her. By the grace of God, not by my power whatsoever, my wife of 10 years marriage is the first and only woman I have gone to bed with; thus no daughter of Eve can ever call me one day claiming her child is mine. Long and short, there are tons of wisdom in obeying God's word and doing His will! A word is enough for the wise! 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by olumide4christ: 10:57am On Jan 15, 2021 |
charles009: As per the bolded, don't try it. You will destroy your home. You must let your wife know about everything.. that's the only ticket to keeping your home. |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by olumide4christ: 11:12am On Jan 15, 2021 |
Mrlouis: Please tell them ooo! |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by KLand(m): 11:18am On Jan 15, 2021 |
charles009: DIscuss it with your wife. Ask her for your forgiveness. Don't hide it from her, or else she will hear it from another person. |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Damicares(f): 12:10pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
charles009:Adhere to that advice strictly sir. God help you. |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Opeolami(m): 12:57pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
Pierocash: You're absolutely correct. By law the child is not yours. Any child birth within a wedlock automatically belongs to the father by law. I salute you bro! 1 Like |
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Czzy: 1:00pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
slimjohn2k5:I just lost a former classmate, yesterday. He lost his job and his wife left him. Does it mean there is no more loyalty from our wives? Does it mean when the job goes, then the marriage goes? I wonder how our society is fast changing to something else. After I lost my job, my wife took responsibility of the home for four good years before I regained my feet. She shouldered every expenses ranging from children's school fees to house rent to feeding to even my pocket money. After I heard all that happened to my former classmate, it struck me that my wife might be just a one off among present time wives. May God grant us the wisdom to meet present day marriage challenges. May God grant us the 1 Like 1 Share |
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