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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by lastchild: 9:44pm On Jan 13
Oleku93:
Suicide is not the way out. It's even a sin!
when I see things like this, I just realize that am the strongest person on planet earth

going through all that Ive been through and still here

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Charlieyoung(m): 9:44pm On Jan 13
UDOKABESTLUV:
Update From NAIJA COVER . COM

Nigerian man declared missing in Lagos found dead; See the suicide note he shared hours before he went missing

Nigerian man, Dele Bandele, who was declared missing by his friends and family on Tuesday, January 12, has been found dead.

Bandele, an advertising agent, was last seen at Omole Phase 2 and his last location was the 3rd Mainland Bridge.

Sadly, his body has been found.

Hours before his disappearance, Bandele left an apparent suicide note on his Instagram page in which he detailed his struggles with depression, He stated that he had battled with depression for seven years and was about to go find peace. He asked for forgiveness from anyone whom he might have offended.

He asked for everyone to pray for him to find rest and peace.



https://mobile.twitter.com/DrOlufunmilayo/status/1349341845697028096
the problem is that nobody will want to listen when you try to tell them, they'll just take you for fun
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by ChengHun(m): 9:57pm On Jan 13
Depression is real and unfortunately some evil people, once they know ur problem, instead of helping you out, they start saying things that can fuel ur depression.

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by mojid22000: 10:02pm On Jan 13
PenName55:


Many of the people they reach out to don't care until it's too late.

Some won't.pick his call.
"It's him again. Oooooh this guy leave me"

When they hear he is gone, "chai and this guy dey call yesterday night o. Why I no pick im call?"


So true
We don't truly know those that care.....
Many ll even mock you
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by mojid22000: 10:04pm On Jan 13
ChengHun:
Depression is real and unfortunately some evil people, once they know ur problem, instead of helping you out, they start saying things that can fuel ur depression.

Reality....
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by einsteine(m): 10:10pm On Jan 13
falopey:
The noise got too loud, but now the noise can stop"

Now that you have committed suicide. Little did you know the noise just started at the great beyond. Suicide is not an option. Stay away from suicide.

I battled depression for ten years. My mom would always tell me, “ anytime you feel like killing yourself, just know that it’s the devil talking to you “. She stood by me and encouraged me everyday.

Today I’m thankful. I have overcome through Christ Jesus.

Mumu have you been to the "great beyond" to know what lies there? It is idiotic Christians like you that create some of the pressures that cause depression for people.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by mojid22000: 10:12pm On Jan 13
CoolJul:


You are welcome. You are correct about this. You know why it is so? cos we all have our peculiar challenges. We are all fighters but some become WINNERS because they they didn't QUIT. As for the QUITTERS, they are the LOSERS.



May God never make us to see what will make us to conceive the thought of suicide.


KNOW JESUS, KNOW PEACE!


Mr WINNER pele
We are all QUITTERS, We are all LOSERS
We are all gonna die someday

You are lucky to have never been in that shoe of depression
Thank your God
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by YouAreFinished: 10:17pm On Jan 13
bluefilm:
Was he gay or something?
He likely is

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by mojid22000: 10:25pm On Jan 13
inumidun2010:



OGA, You are going no where.. YOU MUST SHOCK THOSE PEOPLE.... WHEN YOU STOP HAVING FUN.. Tell the DJ to switch SONGS.. If e no GREE.. throw am PURE WATER... GOD PUNISH DEVIL...

grin cheesy grin

Wish it were that easy for many...
Some are just luckier, I guess.....
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by grim33(m): 10:39pm On Jan 13
Wow. Educated yourself okay
futurerex:
Suicide is not an option and can never be. It is low self esteem, not depression that leads to suicide. RIP
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by futurerex: 10:43pm On Jan 13
grim33:
Wow. Educated yourself okay
The money spent on your education is a waste. Gibberish.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by mojid22000: 10:48pm On Jan 13
Sequence10:
Depression is real.. I'm having a mental stress and I know what am going through everyday.. Since March last year that's when it started till now I'm still having sleeping disorder everyday.. Sometimes I do have suicide thought 07045087546 here's my WhatsApp number in case you wanted to reach out to me for advice...
After going to many hospital still same thing.. Hospital have exhausted me financially.. Now I'm always thinking about finance + the mental stress now imagine both what am passing through.. The worst part of it is that my family members and friends never understand what am going through.. Any time I complain my mom will start shouting at me that I always like complaining and it hurts me so bad�...

Rip for the guy that lost his life...I understand because I'm witnessing it..
Cognitive deficits that's what I'm suffering from...
Don't underestimate anyone for complaining.. Try and help them out because it has not been easy with them that's why they're complaining it to you...
What they need is advice and consoling thanks

Your family sef no fit help, gbam!

That's reality, everybody have their own concerns and worries
When you talk to them, you start becoming a burden to them.
Hospitals too will drain you financially

God give us inner strength to carry on.... Amen
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Herbephe1(m): 10:52pm On Jan 13
Please can you mention one of the drugs,my friend is battling with depression,due to sickness and financial challenge,his father has stroke and he(my friend) is battling with "chronic" headache for almost seven months now,he escaped 2020 i pray he will scale through this year.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Oizatobad(m): 11:21pm On Jan 13
bluefilm:

Je ne comprends pas, monsieur
inutile
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by studentofTruth: 11:21pm On Jan 13
NextD18:
"The noise got too loud, but now the noise can stop"

That statement was deep coming from him. To even think he battled depression for 7 years while carrying out his daily activities makes me believe depression got no particular symptom to get people's attention to you.

You can look and appear like the happiest person alive in the public, social media or gathering, whereas you are mentally struggling and battling a lot.

You can battle it for 10 years without even knowing you are battling depression because you'll have to nurture your system on how to cope and endure overthinking, unrest and no peace of mind. All these will be endured without speaking to anyone because you've gotten use to it and feel it's normal until it hits you to the point you can't endure anymore which normally leads to suicidal thoughts.

Please learn to speak up when you start loosing your sanity and peace of mind.

Speak to who? Nigerians are too frustrated to listen to anyone and think of how to help. Most people are only interested in themselves and when they look your direction, they're only trying to see how they measure up and weaknesses to exploit.

The only right person to talk to is a qualified clinical psychologist.

Sharing your problems with a fellow Nigerian will worsen your situation and even trigger depression. I advocate self sufficiency — measuring yourself by your own standard and not what others think. You're enough!

RIP Dele
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by ODJ124(m): 11:23pm On Jan 13
arantess:

na so
has life been fair to leah sharibu and chibok girls or dead ones killed by bokoharam or homeless ones under the bridge or or the ones in the orphanages...
he made his choice and will bear the consequences in the afterlife

I don't really believe in after life.. though..

Cus u can't say over more than a billion people who aren't Christians..are gonna end up in hell . its absurd..
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by 3verblazing(m): 11:30pm On Jan 13
Kriss216:
embarassed

LIFE IS LIKE A PARTY, WHEN YOU STOP HAVING FUN, LEAVE.
how about those having fun as a result of ur presence ...u end their fun too ... when u stop having fun find out why n fix it...!!!

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Etudy: 11:31pm On Jan 13
Not knowing him almost didn't stop me from tiering out, all hasn't been rosy for me as well but suicide can never be an option.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by meliziz12(m): 11:34pm On Jan 13
Exactly the thought and note I ruminated over and over and over and over again particularly on 3rd of October 2020. I passed that day but I I'll celebrate it every year! This shit isn't easy at all. I'm still recuperating I'ma gonna drop fine❤️
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by studentofTruth: 11:38pm On Jan 13
Sequence10:
Depression is real.. I'm having a mental stress and I know what am going through everyday.. Since March last year that's when it started till now I'm still having sleeping disorder everyday.. Sometimes I do have suicide thought 07045087546 here's my WhatsApp number in case you wanted to reach out to me for advice...
After going to many hospital still same thing.. Hospital have exhausted me financially.. Now I'm always thinking about finance + the mental stress now imagine both what am passing through.. The worst part of it is that my family members and friends never understand what am going through.. Any time I complain my mom will start shouting at me that I always like complaining and it hurts me so bad�...

Rip for the guy that lost his life...I understand because I'm witnessing it..
Cognitive deficits that's what I'm suffering from...
Don't underestimate anyone for complaining.. Try and help them out because it has not been easy with them that's why they're complaining it to you...
What they need is advice and consoling thanks

I'm sorry for what you are passing through. My only advice is to ignore everyone and leave the rat race for them. Rather than follow their rules, reinvent yourself, create your own rules, and follow them. Find what you're passionate about and go for it.

This is my 14th year with chronic insomnia and all the associated complications — headaches (migraine), poor concentration, slow reaction time, etc. But we're kicking and moving ahead.

The only person who can strengthen you is you.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by CoolJul: 11:42pm On Jan 13
mojid22000:





You are lucky to have never been in that shoe of depression
Thank your God
mojid22000:





You are lucky to have never been in that shoe of depression
Thank your God
mojid22000:





You are lucky to have never been in that shoe of depression
Thank your God

Are you sure of that, hey I don't know how to type long post so lemme keep my story for now. Putting it simply, I have known depression.

2017 could have been the year...but I am too strongwilled to give in. plus I thought of my mother, I loved her too much to put her through that pain losing a child again ( through such horrible act of suicide for that matter). God forbid!

Suicide is a stigma that can never be forgotten in generations. It's so painful and hurtful to the loved ones u will leave behind, most especially to your mother. If one dies by taking ones own life, the way it will get to ur loved ones cannot be compared to when one die by external factor. mehn! I don't pray for any of my family members or friends to go through that.


see, them say "e nor get wetin eye go see wey e go fit cry blood" Whatever you think you are passing through in life today, there's some1 somewhere that has passed through or is passing through worst of it! e nor get who life treat nicely pass the other. If na so nor be everybody too for taste dealth.


Only Jesus can save! Try Him!
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by ceeceeuwa: 11:44pm On Jan 13
Kriss216:
embarassed

LIFE IS LIKE A PARTY, WHEN YOU STOP HAVING FUN, LEAVE.
False! Go to hospitals and see critically I'll people struggling to live... they will do everything just to continue living!
6 years ago, I had a medical Condition. With two major surgeries in a space of 2 weeks, and a newborn I was blessed with 2 days to my birthday. I had just concluded a masters degree a few months back... all hope was lost. The hospitals were on strike, blood banks had few reserves because of the strike. But with each excruciating pain I felt on my sick bed, I knew I needed to live. Not just for my self , but for my new born son, aged parents and darling husband. I couldn't bear to have my son grow up without me!
I am not here to judge the deceased, but to let other depressed people know that living is not just about oneself! If you love your loved ones, you won't want to cause them pain and let them live with the stigma of being labeled a 'family of a suicide victim'. This is Africa! Such stigmas never fade!
Love and light to all depressed soul!

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by CoolJul: 11:49pm On Jan 13
Kayberg:


Thanks bro….
Would appreciate that… really….
You are welcome! I will pm you so we can chat but it can only be on Whatsapps if u don't mind please. smiley

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by ericmor: 12:06am On Jan 14
NextD18:
"The noise got too loud, but now the noise can stop"

That statement was deep coming from him. To even think he battled depression for 7 years while carrying out his daily activities makes me believe depression got no particular symptom to get people's attention to you.

You can look and appear like the happiest person alive in the public, social media or gathering, whereas you are mentally struggling and battling a lot.

You can battle it for 10 years without even knowing you are battling depression because you'll have to nurture your system on how to cope and endure overthinking, unrest and no peace of mind. All these will be endured without speaking to anyone because you've gotten use to it and feel it's normal until it hits you to the point you can't endure anymore which normally leads to suicidal thoughts.

Please learn to speak up when you start loosing your sanity and peace of mind.

My brother, the problem is who do u talk to? The people u talk to dont even care, why some only advice you without offering any help even tho they have the power to help. With all dis things happening our government still not helping matters rather they are busy borrowing money to finance themselves and enrich their families. Out of a million people, the government will take 10thousand and offer them little help and started shouting they have enrich over 500thousand people . As God help us. we should also help ourselves
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Herrymax(m): 12:07am On Jan 14
habsydiamond:
No matter how bad this year is or will be. My people, friends, I and family will celebrate success upon success. We will never be elements of bad news... Amen.

Amen
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Clinghton: 12:41am On Jan 14
We all go through depression, but the thought of suicide makes me feel like a coward that's why I can't quite.

E GO BETTER las las.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by aspiring44: 12:48am On Jan 14
Raysleek:
That devil is a liar. Depression is a spirit. Whenever you feel down and depressed like this, confront that devil and tell it to loose hold of your mind. Dont give up, Don't give in. Its not you, its the devil. Close all doors to the devil


One's spirit has to be well fortified to overcome suicidal thoughts. It's not always easy.

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Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by showafrica(m): 2:37am On Jan 14
Raysleek:
That devil is a liar. Depression is a spirit. Whenever you feel down and depressed like this, confront that devil and tell it to loose hold of your mind. Dont give up, Don't give in. Its not you, its the devil. Close all doors to the devil

Up till now i no understand what depression is... Is it poverty or lack of success or lack of fun, or disability. This life where excess enjoyment dey.. Big nyash, drinks, weed and even worshiping God... So how can a complete healthy handsome person will decide to take his life. I no really understand sha.
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by bashir247: 5:31am On Jan 14
Depression here and there. May almighty help us
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by sirchrislatestn: 5:35am On Jan 14
squash47:
Wahala full this new year.
it pathetic this guy die
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by opportunities12(m): 6:24am On Jan 14
einsteine:


Mumu have you been to the "great beyond" to know what lies there? It is idiotic Christians like you that create some of the pressures that cause depression for people.

Continue, your eye will soon clear undecided
Re: Missing Dele Bandele Commits Suicide Over Depression (Suicide Note) by Becca350(f): 6:37am On Jan 14
If I had the courage I would have do It a long time ago, I have this thought that restrict me am so damn angry with life.

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