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Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by Nobody: 3:28pm On Jan 22, 2021
No point indeed. I just went through some of his posts, and I couldn't help feeling sympathy for him. There's not a single row of pages in his contributions on Nairaland where he has not attacked different people. I think he will do well to seek a psychiatrist for professional help. His attacks here are very likely symptomatic of a mental dysfunction.

Sensing that he is not well, it's better to ignore him, or even tell him he is right and everyone else is wrong.



wellmax:

Okay. No point arguing with this one

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Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by Nobody: 3:29pm On Jan 22, 2021
alasane:
Nothing is simple in igbo land, marriage as you can see,burial,plot of land for building ,farm land, friendship,food,courtship, even boyfriend and girlfriend ,apprentices, shop in their markets ,name it ...the list is endless

U are an expert in igbo land and yet u have never stepped foot in igbo land.

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Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by SeriouslySense(m): 3:31pm On Jan 22, 2021
I don't like weddings especially burials.
The concept of celebrating and spending for the dead is alien to me, the concept of huge crowds in marriage is baseless for me, just few people, have peace of mind. cheesy cheesy cheesy I don't care about how anyone feels, just my thought.
Logan23:


Dont celebrate ur marriage, it is ur choice.

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Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by Nobody: 3:32pm On Jan 22, 2021
bizme:
You must be a child, to have sweated so much just to look for a means of discrediting Yorubas and for attacking so rabidly, foaming as it were in the mouth.

And no, we don't sell our daughters in my family. We don't hope for our daughters or sons to be the ones to lift us out of poverty. In fact, we invest into the new couple's life to ensure they don't become what you out of malice think we are.




U invest in the married couple my collect such a heavy marriage list from them? grin grin grin

Investors wink cheesy

Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by fran6ix211: 3:33pm On Jan 22, 2021
Moferere:
Wetin want carry me go Njaba?

With those plenty snakes?
it's not as bad as you think. snakes are very rare there. it's my hometown. you only see them in the bush
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by Nobody: 3:34pm On Jan 22, 2021
SeriouslySense:


I don't like weddings especially burials.
The concept of celebrating and spending for the dead is alien to me, the concept of huge crowds in marriage is baseless for me, just few people, have peace of mind. cheesy cheesy cheesy I don't care about how anyone feels, just my thought.

Copy the white mans wedding and bring 3 witnesses, that's ur business.& bury ur dead alone.

Leave others to celebrate theirs
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by EMMY76: 3:38pm On Jan 22, 2021
DryMouth:
Enough is not enough anything...
I will not pay even 1naira for bride price except that girl is a virgin...
Imagine how guys fvck girls dis days and u expect me to still pay to marry her.
I won't try such. I rather go the fulani tribe and marry...


Can you be able to withstand 80 strokes of koboko to get their lady? cheesy grin
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by Enugupikin: 3:40pm On Jan 22, 2021
CzarChris:

These are very wrong assertions, I'm from Onuimo one of the LGAs mentioned by the OP, List and bride price together is around 70k. I was present when 3 of my cousins got married because I had to stand in for my late Dad who was the head of our Kindred/family before he died, so I know.
Was the goat in the list, answer me and if they was goat no how on earth the list will be 70k bc even a goat alone goes for that amount and I don't know any igbo traditional rite done without a goat
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by shigishege: 3:45pm On Jan 22, 2021
After all d gragra wna dey do b4 say eehn, wna people dey more sophisticated dan everyone for naija dats why wna girls dey cost for market. Op see as u now com dey advertise wna woman wey don nearly expire for their papa house. Even u beg us from now on till tomoro, we nor go gree marry wna babes.
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by Oshokalo: 3:54pm On Jan 22, 2021
igbo low bride price wife for marriage
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by petrage(m): 3:56pm On Jan 22, 2021
OP...thanks for the information. I met a client from Ngor Okpala who told me that the bride price ain't on the high side at his place. providence joined me later with a lady from whom I just got to discover is from Mbaise. The cost of their marital rite is legendary. OP pls enlighten me on what to anticipate...she is worth every penny.

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Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by Whoknowsme: 4:08pm On Jan 22, 2021
naijadrivablog:
For other Igbos always castigating other ones from Other States, stop it!

I married from Anambra (na where love been carry me go) and I know what I was billed. My cousin married from Azia in Ihiala LGA of Anambra, we almost cancelled the wedding the. because of outrageous Marriage list.

Is it Enugu? Some places like Ngwo and other places I cant mention is expensive to marry from.

Is it Abia? What about Ngwa expensive marriage, and other numerous places there

My point is, don't come here and paint your State as cheap to marry from just to feel superior (Some Igbos do this and this is BAD sad)
Yea, u're right. Some will come here to castigate other states but their's will bill their prospective son-in-law a dangote caterpillar loads of bride price.Some parts of Anambra bills like Imo too but I thank God where I come from we don't bill that much at all.

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Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by SeriouslySense(m): 4:08pm On Jan 22, 2021
I am glad we had this refreshing honest exposition, cheesy cheesy cheesy, I cannot please people all the time.
Logan23:


Copy the white mans wedding and bring 3 witnesses, that's ur business.& bury ur dead alone.

Leave others to celebrate theirs
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by hardon1(m): 4:09pm On Jan 22, 2021
Moferere:
Wetin want carry me go Njaba?

With those plenty snakes?

Wetin angry angry angry angry
That's my place o grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by kendy22(m): 4:12pm On Jan 22, 2021
Omo in Abia(Ngwa) u go buy okada ooh which is not less Dan 270k b4 u begin enterthe list
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by tweakdude1: 4:13pm On Jan 22, 2021
Abey leave bride price na quality we want.
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by SeriouslySense(m): 4:14pm On Jan 22, 2021
cheesy cheesy cheesy I am surprised, you are composed, and have not turned enraged like most Nigerians would do

Logan23:


Copy the white mans wedding and bring 3 witnesses, that's ur business.& bury ur dead alone.

Leave others to celebrate theirs
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by nams77: 4:26pm On Jan 22, 2021
naijadrivablog:
For other Igbos always castigating other ones from Other States, stop it!

I married from Anambra (na where love been carry me go) and I know what I was billed. My cousin married from Azia in Ihiala LGA of Anambra, we almost cancelled the wedding the. because of outrageous Marriage list.

Is it Enugu? Some places like Ngwo and other places I cant mention is expensive to marry from.

Is it Abia? What about Ngwa expensive marriage, and other numerous places there

My point is, don't come here and paint your State as cheap to marry from just to feel superior (Some Igbos do this and this is BAD sad)
Nice one bro. So nkwerre is on the affordable side?
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by pasol4real(m): 4:27pm On Jan 22, 2021
bizme:
Ahahahaha. Cheap or expensive Igbo wives, a sale is a sale.

Why must anyone collect anything in the first place in the name of marriage list just because your daughter is getting married? Whether you call it dowry or you call it marriage list, the money is coming from the groom's pocket. Do you disrespect your daughters so much as to be exchanging her for a list of material things? Call it tradition to make yourself feel good, but it is just another display of greed and entitlement on the part of the bride's family.

If you must collect anything as part of the marriage list, collect as much as you want and hand it over to the new couple to start life with instead of camouflaging your greed as tradition. Any family who so brazenly displays greed on the account of their daughter getting married lacks shame.
You are very ignorant n childish for this comment of yours it shows the level of your capacity to reason....
Am sure you are an afonja ,that does not take the marriage institution seriously, a tribe that their women marry more than one husband n they are ok with it.
For your info the marriage rites been practiced by igbos is biblical, go check the customs of the Jews.
Having said that we are working on refurbishing the Igbo marriage rites to make it more affordable n humane n not to eradicate it.
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by NSK4U(m): 4:30pm On Jan 22, 2021
naijadrivablog:
Enough Is Enough: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From

I have read several misconceptions on social media over the years that all parts of IMO State is expensive to Marry from. Even recently, a lady who is supposedly from IMO State made a viral video of how men from IMO don't marry "them" (ladies from IMO State).

I write this article to clear the air about this generalisation about marriage in IMO State. I am a married man from Imo State and well travelled individual and take it from me when I tell you that NOT ALL parts of IMO State is expensive to marry from. Stop the ignorance and stop peddling lies.

Also, I noticed that most people mistake Bride Price to be the only money paid in traditional marriages, as you can hear one say, "IMO bride price na 1 Million Naira", etc.

Bride price in an Igbo Traditional marriage is the agreed sum (by law, it is N50 but families can state the amount they want) paid by the groom or his family member to the family of the bride. This has both physical and spiritual implications as the authority over the bride is passed to the groom and his family via that sum and other rites performed during traditional marriages. Even if you, in a traditional marriage, kill 100 cows, give your inlaws both gold and diamonds but haven't paid the bride price of a woman, YOU ARE NOT married. Most times, a family may charge, for example, N10,000 but will return a sum from it to the groom, while saying that they are not selling their daughter and other pieces of advice.

Apart from bride price, other items like goat, yams, snuff, kola, garden egg and so on are written on a MARRIAGE LIST usually given to the prospective groom, upon acceptance of marriage proposal and Introduction of both families of the groom and bride.

It is true that some parts are expensive to marry from but this article will focus on the largely unmentioned areas that you can marry from without spending an arm and leg.

I must state here that whatever items any part of the Imo State or any other place in Nigeria require as traditional marriage rites to give out their daughters' hand in marriage is their prerogative.

Below are some of the areas in IMO State where you won't spend an arm and leg to get married (traditionally):

1. Orlu (Ihioma, Umuna etc)

2. Oru West and Oru East (Amagu, Mgbidi, Akata, Ubulu (formerly called, Ubulu Ihejiofor), Nempi etc)

3. Orlu LGA (Awo Idemili, Amannachi, Amaebu, Umuhu Okabia (Cubana Chief priest's village), etc
4. Isu/Njaba axis (Ekwe, Ofekata Orodo etc)

5. Onuimo LGA

6. Nwangele LGA (Linda Ikeji's place)

7. Ideato South and Ideator North (Akokwa, Osina, Obodoukwu etc)

8. Even some places in the feared Owerri is cheap, eg. Agwa

I know that some villages/towns in these Local Government areas may be "expensive" to marry from but you can add other areas that you know are cheap to marry from.

This is a new year, find love, go for what you want. IMO ladies hardly abandon their husbands when things are tough (there are exceptions though), most are hardworking, Most are God fearing, they are the most beautiful, they HARDLY marry and remarry or engage in extramarital affairs, they are sociable, they are ambitious and so on.

NOTE: In every 12 Apostles, there must be a Judas so, pray and understudy your prospective wife.

Expensive traditional marriage can be when you spend 600,000 Naira to 1 Million Naira or more TO FULFILL ALL the REQUIREMENTS IN THE MARRIAGE LIST (decoration, band, DJ, Aso Ebi and other things in a traditional marriage event not inclusive)

While an affordable marriage is when you spend 50,000 Naira to 300,000 or less to FULFILL ALL THE REQUIREMENTS in the MARRIAGE LIST (DJ, Aso Ebi, food, etc not inclusive)

If there are areas that I didn't cover, please add.

what's the meaning of this thread?

Does nairaland look like the right platform to make this kinda discussion?

what do you intend to achieve with it? nawa o
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by Nmezor(f): 4:33pm On Jan 22, 2021
Hmmm
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by kendy22(m): 4:34pm On Jan 22, 2021
Omo for Abia(Ngwa) u go buy okada ooh wch is not less Dan 270k
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by Reelmii: 4:34pm On Jan 22, 2021
I married from Abia state, all I spent was #450k bride price inclusive
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by slowice(m): 4:36pm On Jan 22, 2021
okoroemeka:
imo state the land of beautiful women,I am from arondizuogu in idea to north LGA,#150k will get you the requirements in the list,while the bride price is #25 naira,you are traditionally married,if you like you can call Lady Gaga to be your mc we don't care.

Very correct...
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by Grace2Grace(m): 4:38pm On Jan 22, 2021
I didn't hear much about oteri municipal, especially owerri north LGA..
Let's know how cheap or expensive their marriage list dey..
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by kendy22(m): 4:39pm On Jan 22, 2021
I married from Abia state, all I spent was #450k bride price inclusive.

What part sir?
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by Nobody: 4:44pm On Jan 22, 2021
pasol4real:

You are very ignorant n childish for this comment of yours it shows the level of your capacity to reason....
Am sure you are an afonja ,that does not take the marriage institution seriously, a tribe that their women marry more than one husband n they are ok with it...
.

Too bad you weren't brought up properly, perhaps it was you who was incapable of attaining the smallest degree of civility. In any case I sympathize with your condition.

pasol4real:

For your info the marriage rites been practiced by igbos is biblical, go check the customs of the Jews.
Having said that we are working on refurbishing the Igbo marriage rites to make it more affordable n humane n not to eradicate it
.

Let see if you're capable of further discussion without losing control again: In one breath you claimed 'the marriage rites being practiced by Igbos' (according to you) as being rooted in the Bible just like the Jews. In the next breath you admitted that efforts were being made 'to refurbish' (i.e. reform) the same practice so it could be 'more affordable and human' (your own words). You simply confirmed other people's perception by agreeing that the marriage rites are unnecessarily expensive (why make it more affordable if they are not) and inhumane. You only reform what has become deformed: why reform something you claimed to be rooted in the Bible?
grin grin grin


pasol4real:

You are very ignorant n childish for this comment of yours it shows the level of your capacity to reason....
Am sure you are an afonja ,that does not take the marriage institution seriously, a tribe that their women marry more than one husband n they are ok with it.
For your info the marriage rites been practiced by igbos is biblical, go check the customs of the Jews.
Having said that we are working on refurbishing the Igbo marriage rites to make it more affordable n humane n not to eradicate it.

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Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by alasane: 4:44pm On Jan 22, 2021
Logan23:


U are an expert in igbo land and yet u have never stepped foot in igbo land.
listen to yourself.......
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by pasol4real(m): 4:52pm On Jan 22, 2021
naijadrivablog:
Enough Is Enough: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From

I have read several misconceptions on social media over the years that all parts of IMO State is expensive to Marry from. Even recently, a lady who is supposedly from IMO State made a viral video of how men from IMO don't marry "them" (ladies from IMO State).

I write this article to clear the air about this generalisation about marriage in IMO State. I am a married man from Imo State and well travelled individual and take it from me when I tell you that NOT ALL parts of IMO State is expensive to marry from. Stop the ignorance and stop peddling lies.

Also, I noticed that most people mistake Bride Price to be the only money paid in traditional marriages, as you can hear one say, "IMO bride price na 1 Million Naira", etc.

Bride price in an Igbo Traditional marriage is the agreed sum (by law, it is N50 but families can state the amount they want) paid by the groom or his family member to the family of the bride. This has both physical and spiritual implications as the authority over the bride is passed to the groom and his family via that sum and other rites performed during traditional marriages. Even if you, in a traditional marriage, kill 100 cows, give your inlaws both gold and diamonds but haven't paid the bride price of a woman, YOU ARE NOT married. Most times, a family may charge, for example, N10,000 but will return a sum from it to the groom, while saying that they are not selling their daughter and other pieces of advice.

Apart from bride price, other items like goat, yams, snuff, kola, garden egg and so on are written on a MARRIAGE LIST usually given to the prospective groom, upon acceptance of marriage proposal and Introduction of both families of the groom and bride.

It is true that some parts are expensive to marry from but this article will focus on the largely unmentioned areas that you can marry from without spending an arm and leg.

I must state here that whatever items any part of the Imo State or any other place in Nigeria require as traditional marriage rites to give out their daughters' hand in marriage is their prerogative.

Below are some of the areas in IMO State where you won't spend an arm and leg to get married (traditionally):

1. Orlu (Ihioma, Umuna etc)

2. Oru West and Oru East (Amagu, Mgbidi, Akata, Ubulu (formerly called, Ubulu Ihejiofor), Nempi etc)

3. Orlu LGA (Awo Idemili, Amannachi, Amaebu, Umuhu Okabia (Cubana Chief priest's village), etc
4. Isu/Njaba axis (Ekwe, Ofekata Orodo etc)

5. Onuimo LGA

6. Nwangele LGA (Linda Ikeji's place)

7. Ideato South and Ideator North (Akokwa, Osina, Obodoukwu etc)

8. Even some places in the feared Owerri is cheap, eg. Agwa

I know that some villages/towns in these Local Government areas may be "expensive" to marry from but you can add other areas that you know are cheap to marry from.

This is a new year, find love, go for what you want. IMO ladies hardly abandon their husbands when things are tough (there are exceptions though), most are hardworking, Most are God fearing, they are the most beautiful, they HARDLY marry and remarry or engage in extramarital affairs, they are sociable, they are ambitious and so on.

NOTE: In every 12 Apostles, there must be a Judas so, pray and understudy your prospective wife.

Expensive traditional marriage can be when you spend 600,000 Naira to 1 Million Naira or more TO FULFILL ALL the REQUIREMENTS IN THE MARRIAGE LIST (decoration, band, DJ, Aso Ebi and other things in a traditional marriage event not inclusive)

While an affordable marriage is when you spend 50,000 Naira to 300,000 or less to FULFILL ALL THE REQUIREMENTS in the MARRIAGE LIST (DJ, Aso Ebi, food, etc not inclusive)

If there are areas that I didn't cover, please add.
Bro you are not entirely correct. Am from umuhu okabia ( cubana’s village) and my sis just got married this last December. The total cost of the cultural/ traditional list was 450k. Thank God the hubby is a big boy so he just paid in 500k into my dads Acc to cover the list n went ahead with other plans.
What if he was a hustler or an average guy? 450k just to cover the list is really on the high side . So to get married to a girl from my place (including the Traditional ceremony n excluding the white wedding) one would have to make a budget of at least 1million.I had to raise the matter during the “Umunna” meeting but met a brick wall as their disposition to reducing or tuning down on the list was completely a no go area.
I think it’s high time our legislators from that region did something drastic to stop this outrageous bills been levied on potential suitors.We cannot overemphasize the fact that this is already affecting our girls cos av heard several stories of suitors who abandoned their fiancés, because of outrageous cultural lists.

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Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by vickydevoka(m): 4:56pm On Jan 22, 2021
JOACHINpedro:
Enugu and palmwine are like inseparable siemese twins kiss
Enugu men are all drunk

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Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by braunny(m): 4:58pm On Jan 22, 2021
BabaIbo:


Are you new here?
nope am not..... i ve met a lot of amazing girls here thats why am asking u
Re: Not All Parts Of Imo State Is Expensive To Marry From: Enough Is Enough by MummyD2020(f): 5:03pm On Jan 22, 2021
gtrader:
Na lie ooo. Everywhere in IMO is damn expensive to marry especially if you come from Anambra State. They always feel men from Anambra have Storehouse full of money.

I had first hand experience when my friend got married to a medical Doctor. The yam my guy bought was more than 350 tuber of yams.

No be joke ooo.
It's not. Pls u guys should just quit this hasty generalization. I am from Orsu LGA and got married in the same orsu LGA. My bride price was very little. Just like where I got married to.

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