My heart goes out to you OP. To be forced into a loveless marriage is truly sad.
Your parents have lived their lives and want to live yours too.
Try praying, hope all works out well for you.

I believe that parents say we should do things for our own good they are more experienced then us. They do not want you to regret yourself by having encounters with people who may not be the best people for your future. Love is just a word why dosent your boyfriend tell your parents he wants to get married to you?

This is a culture that I don't really understand, but if you (your friend) are determined to enter into this arranged marriage, these are some of the repercussions.

Puppy love is the more adequate phrase to describe what you are going through. I know it's hard to hear, but boyfriends come and go and odds are that you are just caught up in the emotions of your first serious relationship. Ask around. How many people end up with the first person that they were in a relationship with. Odds are probably less than 10%. So this means that you have a less than 10% chance of ending up with this boyfriend (who has not even asked you to marry him).

Since you indicated that you will follow your parent's wishes and get married, why be intimate with this guy? Your future husband may just be the man of your dreams, and if he realizes what you did he will be hurt, and worse, he might be angry. No guy, no matter how caring, wants to feel like he was decieved. Chances are your virginity was an important factor in his decision to marry you. Giving yourself to your boyfriend will make you look cheap, and will embarass your family. Nobody will believe that you just did it. Everyone will assume you have been sexually active for years.

Also, when you are intimate with someone you are spiritually bonding with that person. It isn't something to take lightly. Also there are the usual risk that sex brings, like others have mentioned like pregnancy, STDs, neither of which are 100% preventable when you have sex.

Buy a candle and give it your virginity.

It wld be better appreciated

Nekai:

This is a culture that I don't really understand, but if you (your friend) are determined to enter into this arranged marriage, these are some of the repercussions.

Puppy love is the more adequate phrase to describe what you are going through. I know it's hard to hear, but boyfriends come and go and odds are that you are just caught up in the emotions of your first serious relationship. Ask around. How many people end up with the first person that they were in a relationship with. Odds are probably less than 10%. So this means that you have a less than 10% chance of ending up with this boyfriend (who has not even asked you to marry him).

Since you indicated that you will follow your parent's wishes and get married, why be intimate with this guy? Your future husband may just be the man of your dreams, and if he realizes what you did he will be hurt, and worse, he might be angry. No guy, no matter how caring, wants to feel like he was decieved. Chances are your virginity was an important factor in his decision to marry you. Giving yourself to your boyfriend will make you look cheap, and will embarass your family. Nobody will believe that you just did it. Everyone will assume you have been sexually active for years.

Also, when you are intimate with someone you are spiritually bonding with that person. It isn't something to take lightly. Also there are the usual risk that sex brings, like others have mentioned like pregnancy, STDs, neither of which are 100% preventable when you have sex.

@ Poster
Thats best of the lot, take it or leave it, you are on your own

hmmn,

did you already get pounded

namfav:

did you already get pounded

sounds like a satisfied sigh to me.

Bring your virginity to me i will pay you 3 Million naira