Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

Wittyduchess:
No ,you cant just come and cancel without dropping your input as to why you think it's an unreasonable fallacy. If you are smart enough to cancel then you should be smart enough to tell us why you think so?.


Any ignorant fool can cancel a comment and use big words ,but only an intelligent person will be able to counter with their own points.

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

DEMZEE:


As A Man who wants to b a Patriarch, how will u rule and run ur home of money has nothing to do with marriage uhn

Casham:
My big bro will be 32 this March. He is getting married April to his girlfriend of ten years(shit started 2011 during JAMB lessons). Right now he's earning N40k per month. She's earning N11k. She's 30yrs old. I tried to talk him out of that shit, but dude won't listen. All I am saying is people hardly ever change their minds because of others. Just sit him down and talk to him about your fears and the sacrifice he's asking you to make if he still wants you to wait. If you two can't agree, then I'll advice you still keep him for a year, but codedly start looking for backup. When you find one who is ready, then table his(the present bf's) options to him.

PoliteActivist:


Wise talk. But answer me this: why must a man or woman be financially stable before marriage?

Zzor:
You are beginning to piss me off on this forum, respect yourself

JOACHINpedro:

Fixed

LINTUNE:
lol..are u for real?..u can't date a
a man below 50?..

PoliteActivist:


Are you saying that having a wife by your side will prevent you from making money? How?

DEMZEE:


Women are hypergamous

Women see weak and strong men not equality of the sexes. That's why they date upwards and not downwards.

Men now because of our idealized way of loving a woman see equality of the sexes.

As a patriarch, ur wife isn't coming to build ur world with u, she's coming inside ur already built world. U rule over her and dominate her in ur world in all areas except for the feminine role areas of ur world. Her femininity blossoms and shines because u are already her lord and her husband.

Her supporting u is going to make her masculine and she will hate u for it. I don't depend on any lady to support me, I just want her to come into my built world and use her femininity to beautify it.

CSTRR:
8 years of dating with no break in between.

Performing all the conjugal duties for him.

Abeg, hold him tight and force him.
He Don too chop you abeg.

I am sure he can draw you naked perfectly offhand.

SimplyFacts:
Few months to graduation, na so my gf started persuading me for marriage. She said her savings from N-Power salary would go a long way while we seek for better offers (not knowing the first set beneficiaries would be discarded last year). I know she's so concerned about getting married early,,,,@23. I just advised her to look for someone else that I wasn't ready financially. She did & got married last year. Sincerely,,,, if not for one kind stain wey dey her white, I for force myself into the marriage coz the girl is 70x better than Zzor . I no wan hold any grudge inside marriage

Wittyduchess:
Nah, there have been cases of women waiting for guys who are abroad and still ended up getting dumped .so what will you say about that?

Kirkman:

My sister advice your fellow sister OP o! E go shock her pass Nepa high-tension wire.

Zzor:
I don't have eyes for young men,I don't want to complicate someone's life,my comfort, security and happiness matters a lot to me

PoliteActivist:


But that's IF you have a built world. The question again: how does having her prevent you from building it? If anything you'd even use her in building

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

Zzor:
Because financial stability sustain marriage to a great extent

Zzor:
Sweetheart I'm on his side on this,its always wise for a lady never to date a man in her age group, a man must be stable financially before thinking marriage and he already made you understand that,the only mistake you made is dating him.Since he's not ready please look for someone who's ready and settle down with him,never let your emotions direct your thinking in marriage issues.Please let him go so as not to waste more time as you already have. Follow this tips:Cut off from a relationship that has no head way after six months to avoid stories that touch.As for me I already resolve never to date a man below 50yrs because most Nigerian men below 50 are still struggling.Such a messed up country

JOACHINpedro:

I'll say what any reasonable person will say.
Know your worth

Wittyduchess:
So that means you do agree that your comment was born out of ignorance.

DEMZEE:


Don't u get my point

Women are hypergamous and will always seek a man who has high value And his value is higher than hers for mating and for commitment.

Women hate building with a man because she will be forced to b masculine and she detests entering the masculinity essence. It kills her femininity bro

Only a weak and useless man will depend on his wife for financial support or use his wife as backup plan for finances!!!

Perfectsouth:
she gave me like 5missed call this morning and was like, I only send money for upkeep and don't even call to check on them.. That I only call to talk to my kids whenever she is not at home...
This is someone that left when I Had financial issues,she no even look back.. She don roam the whole place and realized, men out there are only for the Bleep and not settling down.. She now wants to come back to me, the Boda ode she left..

Young woman, leave the man to decide hsi life.. You are only clamoring for proposal and thereafter wedding because you want to settle down cos age is no longer on your side..
After marriage and he is not doing OK, na una go still mount pressure on the poor man..

So many ladies of nowadays use marriage as a front.. Once they pitch their tent with a man, they now start coded runs because they know they have a home.
I thank God for opening my eyes cos I too suffer for woman hand..
Believe me, na married women fornicate pass..

Leave the young man to arrange and organize his life and don't distract him from becoming who he wants to be...
One thing I like about the male gender is,we are just like wine, the older, the better

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.