become better everyday in the six (6) area's of life

Xenry:
Tell me, what will happen if men stop giving women money in relationship? Many of them will be broke, abi na lie?
What if we men decide not to date broke girls (just like you guys are doing to us), how many of una go dey for relationship now? None, perhaps few of you.
This defines the aim of some relationships today, the love is dead. No much different between runs-girls and girlfriends. (both is more like a business, a source of income, a way of escaping hunger).
Dating is more like a source of income for some girls, that's why most of them usually cry after break-up's, because they know hunger will soon deal with them because they were dating out of hunger, not for love.
If we could normalize getting straight to the point, like "Hi, let's fvck, I will definitely pay you" and not beat around the bush, then everything would actually be easy for both gender.
Just do the business and waka, because we all know what the end would turn out to be.

Xenry:
Tell me, what will happen if men stop giving women money in relationship? Many of them will be broke, abi na lie?
What if we men decide not to date broke girls (just like you guys are doing to us), how many of una go dey for relationship now? None, perhaps few of you.
This defines the aim of some relationships today, the love is dead. No much different between runs-girls and girlfriends. (both is more like a business, a source of income, a way of escaping hunger).
Dating is more like a source of income for some girls, that's why most of them usually cry after break-up's, because they know hunger will soon deal with them because they were dating out of hunger, not for love.
If we could normalize getting straight to the point, like "Hi, let's fvck, I will definitely pay you" and not beat around the bush, then everything would actually be easy for both gender.
Just do the business and waka, because we all know what the end would turn out to be.

Xenry:
Hi, Yusufisraelj. Please what six areas of life do you mean?

StacyO:


Being broke is just a definition of how this girl channels the money into her future.
That I'm broke now,doesn't mean I'll be broke in the future. It means that the money I get now, are being channeled into something.

Now, your assertion only means that men have nothing aside this money they dream about to offer.


How do you define giving a woman money in a relationship?

Will you be happy if she puts that money into use and make something out of her life?

If yes,
How do you plan to achieve that?

Yusufisraelj:


Hello Xenry - here is it https://www.nairaland.com/6356078/balanced-living-system-making-life

Tloc:


This your last statement is absolutely not true, quite a higher number of Nigerian women marry up making them dependent on their partners. A lot more see their would-be partners taking up that TRADITIONAL role of a man in this modern times because that was what they saw growing up.
All the boxes for setting up a home most times falls on the shoulder of the man viz: Having enough fiances, an apartment, a job or good source of income to carry the home. The women are not asked any of these before they are deemed ready for marriage, that is why the present day scenario sees young marriage-age men shying away from the tall order responsibilities.

Xenry:

1.All of them are broke and broken— whether now or in the future.
2.I would rather show a girl how to fish, than to be giving her fish everytime while she isn't disabled. But many of them don't have that Fishing-mentality, they only request for fish as if it's easy to catch one. C'mon, hustling isn't only for guys. Normalize not dating broke girls please, because the street ain't smiling!

Yusufisraelj:



1. Don't get me wrong, the physical features matters a lot, but content should become supreme than the physique. Bkos when all is said and done breast go fall, ass go get wrinkles, beauty go fade and skin go shrink.

2. You see this talks about value, exchanging sex for money is the least form of value a woman can offer, how many people respects oloshos?


I tend to have eyes to spot ladies with potentials it comes naturally when I engage a lady. I've met three (3) on this platform these are exceptional ladies that have plans to live life at it's best and contribute dangerously to humanity.

However their strategy still needs work and I hope they find who will help them execute it effectively.



The odds for a Nigerian woman to rise depends on her relationships and what she knows and more importantly her execution.


The men I can vouch for is my circle of friends and that's about 10 guys.

so on a scale of 100 I can say 50% of guys will respect a lady with VALUE propositions of her worth and will delay the thinking of getting laid, 30% will be intimidated, 20% will be speechless, than a lady just show casing boobs and ass with fine face and nothing more.

But I must add many ladies have been victims of the circumstances surrounding their growing up, it takes a wise guy to see the worth in a lady even when she doesn't and help her become that.

Therefore society has affected most of your kind, so pls you ladies should learn to see beyond the physical and date those who will help your future become reality via a symbiotic relationship that encourages growth, original thinking and mutual help in the six (6) areas of life!

Do you have a question again?

StacyO:


What can you offer your partner in a relationship??

Yusufisraelj:


1. Circumspect spiritual walk with tangible evidence.

2. Advantageous connections to help her become better and attain her goal.

3. Peace of mind - airing her views and accommodation of her thoughts, ideas and wisdom, as far as she is willing to be right not politically correct.

4. Great and adventurous sex life, making her mad on bed In a good way.

5. Business insights if she is so inclined, made terrible mistakes but have learnt and grown and still learning, unlearning and relearning.

StacyO:



I couldn't point out how much more a difference this makes from what a woman can offer.

StacyO:



Then comes the insecurities.



Most Nigerian men this days gets goosebumps when they see women progressing.


How many do you think can actually watch their wife secure more zeros than them??

Tloc:


Only for you ladies to term it GOLD DIGGING. A wise contemporary mam should always look out for a financially stable lady or that who has trained herself in more that ways to be invaluable to her man.

StacyO:



Being insecure towards a progressive woman isn't gold digging.

It simply means that you wouldn't want women to progress under your watch and you possibly want to lord over her.


If so, why then do you all complain that Nigerian women can't make their own money? Whereas even when they try to, they're looked down upon and called different types of names.

Yusufisraelj:


Okay then, let hear what women can offer, or better still what can you offer your partner in a relationship?

HellVictorinho:

All men don't reason the same way.
All women don't reason the same way.
But all humans have needs/wants/desires that they express in different ways.
Different men treat different women in different ways .
Different women treat different men in different ways.

StacyO:



You still didn't answer my question


What else can a man offer in a relationship?

StacyO:


But, then again, the generalization I see here actually makes me believe otherwise.


I haven't met half the population of Nigeria but, I bet you this place portrays what the country is all about and how women are veiwed here.

StacyO:
Before we proceed, take a look at my latest publication. About a family living their simple lives until politics, betrayal and lust leads to bloodsheds in this once loving family.

https://okadabooks.com/user/Anano



Now, let's get this show on the road.



Don't be scared, I'll take it easy on you guys.



NB: This thread is open to all. But, no use of emotions.

If no man accepts this challenge, then believe me when I say that THE FUTURE IS TRULY FEMALE


I challenge all the so called outstanding men here.
Reasons being that I want to test the authenticity of the notion which states that women can't hold a stable conversation without being emotional.

I equally want to set straight, the record of women being useless, especially your women (Nigerian women).

Perhaps, equally get how intelligent nairaland men can be.


I really want to see how cute it would be seeing you guys cry like babies here, that's if y'all aren't too scared to accept the challenge.

I have all the time today ooo.



RULES:


No emotional engagements.

No fallacies, try make use of facts instead, please.

No use of insults in a bid to prove a point.

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My second question goes thus


2) What do you as a man, have to offer in a relationship?



Modified:



Some of the comments are quite sensitive

I knew it.
Nairaland might just be filled with emotional cry babies.

StacyO:



In as much as ladies always have it hard being financially secured, there is no doubt you'll enjoy every bit of your relationship when you're in one with someone who understands and obsessed the same mindset as you.


1) Equal contribution in every aspect of life. Both financially,spiritually,physically,emotionally and otherwise.


2) Commitment. Now that's one thing men cease to look out for in a relationship.
You just do the moment and that's it.

3) Communication. Constant communication like they say is key enough and once any woman is able to offer you this, she is good to go.

4) Humility. Very hard to come by, no need to say much on this.

5) Security and support. We all need someone who would be there for us at all times. Getting a woman who is ready to show you support should never be swept under the carpet.

No matter how hard you try to deny it, women offer men financial help as well. Try grow your circle with women and empower them financially.

When you're in need, a woman can never ask you for sex before she offers help (something majority of men do).


6) Amazing sex. mmmmmmm


7) Encouragement and teamwork. Like the saying goes "two heads are better than one".

I'll rather walk with someone and go far than walk alone and go fast.


8.) Adventure. Making you see the other side of life.




Women can offer you this and many more. It all depends on how you define the relationship.

You can't sow a mango and expect orange as an end product.

Truvel:
Wahala Be Like Pikin Wey Mess 4 Class.

Yusufisraelj:



We are both saying the same thing but in different perspectives.

Equally note that contributions are never equal in a relationship in these different aspects; spiritually, financially, physically, emotionally. One may contribute more than the other in these areas. But overall let there be honest efforts from the part of the lagging partner.

No doubt some women contribute financially to men, 100%.

BabbanBura:


I would have stepped in if your intentions were not ulterior. We won't give you cheap statistics for your book .y dear, go pay ya bills and gather data the conventional way!!!

Truthabulabula:

Put me through.
What does this mean?
Wetin you mean?

Truthabulabula:


You mean your woman gives you money?

Yusufisraelj:

Lols

Truthabulabula:


Do you?


It's all shades of wrong.