bigpicture001:


Women only see financial superiority as qualities....so it boils down to exactly what the OP is saying.....

Our parents stayed in marriage because of their financial disadvantage as compared to their hubby....only Asians marry and stay in marriages this days

LadyTiannah2:

You Nigerian men truly do not know what you want. Today you'll shame women for asking the men they're involved with for money and not contributing money to the relationship...tomorrow you'll advocate for relationships where the men have the upper hand financially. Very confused lot

bigpicture001:


No. U don't get it dear...men want ladies to assist if they are also working....but the ultimate aim of a man is to b able to direct his partner and sh agrees...

LadyTiannah2:

Y'all should be prepared to also assist in the home-front if you want her to assist financially tho

bigpicture001:


Nobody is seeking very hard working ladies...

Just little soft work like teacher, nurses, petty trader etc..not to work and die and b so tired like men

LadyTiannah2:


A man who deserves respect doesn't need to demand for it or go extra length to achieve it. When your woman sees the good qualities in you, her respect for you just flows

LadyTiannah2:

Ehn work is work. You think nurses and teachers don't get exhausted? Not to mention after having to add chores, cooking and child rearing to it...yet you people see it as mission impossible to help with small chores at Home
Lai lai, if I'm contributing a little financially, he will contribute a little domestically. Doesn't make him any less a man

Remijuice:


You see!

If I must do this he must do that, that's the problem...

NiRfreak:
Recently, I'm having a paradigm shift of the ideal woman to marry in the midst of tension and uncertainties surrounding marriages. A popular fact is that the woman a man marries determine so much about a man's achivement, happiness, health, longevity and the fate of his children, and since I cherish peace of mind so much I've decided to go for an uneducated woman.
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She will be a secondary school holder and I will set her up for business and these are my reasons.

1. Intellectual gap and economic difference between husband and wife is a big factor in determining the success of a marriage. Women generally will look up to their spouse and are easily moved and obligated to respect him when he's obviously superior intellectually and economically. Whereas, unnecessary power play ensues when a woman is very close to her man in terms of education and economic means. This alone has broken many homes and still counting.


2. New definition of gender roles: feminist and mainstream media are misleading women to reject their traditional roles that have made them successful and happy as women for thousands of years.This new mindset and role shift is largely incompatible with marriage and it's the reason why 70% of marriages in Western world hit the rock within 5 years of wedlock. Even in our society, divorce is so prevalent as women try to change marital roles and values to copy the oyibo. Only few men can cope with this role shift.


3. Uneducated women are more devoted to their men, as they have few engagements, amusements and lofty frivolities. When you are also a good man who shows her that you truly love her and care so much for her happiness, most times they go all length to pls you and you see them glow for you. They are more proud of having you and grateful for what you do.

4. They are more teachable. I believe you can easily blend them how you want. They are also very happy, when your educated friends come around and still shower them respect as Oga's wife, cos you don't joke with her or disrespect her.

5. Feminism promotes sexual decadence. Check what our ladies are doing on the internet. Feminism expose them to such. Most educated women, feminist and all, take their freedom too far that they do all kind of sexual experimentation and are more bold with less scruples to be sexually daring. As they are less religious, less modest, wilder, subscribing to strange philosophies that jeopardise marital values and family cohesion just for personal pleasure and happiness

This is not saying it's 100% foolproof for good marriage, women also have their personalities, either educated or not. but in general this limits avoidable tussle.
And some will say I'm only a control freak, well, men should lead, and there's nothing wrong if they are in control as long as they are reasonable, and a good woman doesn't have problem submitting to a man whom they love and respect apart from our new generation feminist who believe they are equal to men and thus want to dictate.

You may air your view as regard to this school of thought, either positive or negative they are welcome.

NiRfreak:

Yes...once she can read or write. A secondary schoo leaver can do such.

femi4:
Your kids will suffer for it

Evolutionlove:


In shiiiithole, there Is nothing special between being a Bsc and A School Cert. All na rubbish and nonsense. A cattle Man Is the one leading you stupid lots. I've seen School Certs who are 1000% better than so many mediocre worthless Bscs'.......

NiRfreak:

Abi...Many intelligent women who dint go to schl are doing well in their business. You will be amazed the kind of millions they count. I have one on my street..the woman is even richer than her husband that's works with govt

JudgeKronos:


This is unbelievable!
Like .... how can? You quoted his entire write up just to tell him that his kids will suffer for his choice of an ideal wife ?? Geeeez !!!
We need a total reorientation in this part of the world , honestly.

LadyTiannah2:
All I see is a man with insecurity issues coupled with a superiority complex, looking for a woman to control.

And before you start accusing me, I'm not a feminist, I believe in gender roles.
You want to set up a business for her, where will she get the knowledge to run it? Your choice anyway

JudgeKronos:


Don’t mind them ..

.... one low monthly salary earner up there is saying children will suffer if a man decides to choose a non schooled woman for a wife.

femi4:
The kids are closer to the mother than the father. I will not have a wife that cannot engage the kids intellectually or assist them with school work

femi4:
The kids are closer to the mother than the father. I will not have a wife that cannot engage the kids intellectually or assist them with school work

LadyTiannah2:

Marriage is about partnership and team work, is it not? Why do you Nigerian men hate helping out at home so much but you want the woman to bring money? Doesn't make sense

LadyTiannah2:

Ehn work is work. You think nurses and teachers don't get exhausted? Not to mention after having to add chores, cooking and child rearing to it...yet you people see it as mission impossible to help with small chores at Home
Lai lai, if I'm contributing a little financially, he will contribute a little domestically. Doesn't make him any less a man

NiRfreak:
Recently, I'm having a paradigm shift of the ideal woman to marry in the midst of tension and uncertainties surrounding marriages. A popular fact is that the woman a man marries determine so much about a man's achivement, happiness, health, longevity and the fate of his children, and since I cherish peace of mind so much I've decided to go for an uneducated woman.
.
She will be a secondary school holder and I will set her up for business and these are my reasons.

1. Intellectual gap and economic difference between husband and wife is a big factor in determining the success of a marriage. Women generally will look up to their spouse and are easily moved and obligated to respect him when he's obviously superior intellectually and economically. Whereas, unnecessary power play ensues when a woman is very close to her man in terms of education and economic means. This alone has broken many homes and still counting.


2. New definition of gender roles: feminist and mainstream media are misleading women to reject their traditional roles that have made them successful and happy as women for thousands of years.This new mindset and role shift is largely incompatible with marriage and it's the reason why 70% of marriages in Western world hit the rock within 5 years of wedlock. Even in our society, divorce is so prevalent as women try to change marital roles and values to copy the oyibo. Only few men can cope with this role shift.


3. Uneducated women are more devoted to their men, as they have few engagements, amusements and lofty frivolities. When you are also a good man who shows her that you truly love her and care so much for her happiness, most times they go all length to pls you and you see them glow for you. They are more proud of having you and grateful for what you do.

4. They are more teachable. I believe you can easily blend them how you want. They are also very happy, when your educated friends come around and still shower them respect as Oga's wife, cos you don't joke with her or disrespect her.

5. Feminism promotes sexual decadence. Check what our ladies are doing on the internet. Feminism expose them to such. Most educated women, feminist and all, take their freedom too far that they do all kind of sexual experimentation and are more bold with less scruples to be sexually daring. As they are less religious, less modest, wilder, subscribing to strange philosophies that jeopardise marital values and family cohesion just for personal pleasure and happiness

This is not saying it's 100% foolproof for good marriage, women also have their personalities, either educated or not. but in general this limits avoidable tussle.
And some will say I'm only a control freak, well, men should lead, and there's nothing wrong if they are in control as long as they are reasonable, and a good woman doesn't have problem submitting to a man whom they love and respect apart from our new generation feminist who believe they are equal to men and thus want to dictate.

You may air your view as regard to this school of thought, either positive or negative they are welcome.

JudgeKronos:


I see..... but Oga, being schooled does not guarantee intellectual aptitude.

KevinDein:
Nice to see more guys thinking this way. Below is my comment on another thread;

Might sound a little controversial, I'm really not so keen on a highly educated/intellectual woman. I find them to be too argumentative just for the sake of it; always trying to prove some non-existent point. Give me a beautiful woman with just enough education to pass her points across when needed. When I want to discuss intellectual stuff, I'll do it at the bars with the boys or the manosphere such as this

NiRfreak:

It's not big deal if she can't assist them intellectually. That's why we have lesson, home tutors.

...there are kids that orphan or who lost their mom while young, yet they still became educated...