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I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Nijagogetsense: 12:08pm On Apr 08
Nairalanders, I need your piece of advice. Please, don't mind my grammar. Just focus on the message. I won't come and bore you with a long story though but here is my story:

There was a girl I fell in love with when we were a little young, I really loved her as a lover but she loved me as a friend (like a plan B) owing to the reason that she was in a serious relationship then. During those time, I was pursuing my first degree in Sociology which she knew. After I knew that we couldn't be together, we parted ways. But unfortunately, I had to drop out of school after some series of carry-overs.


Some years later after my drop-out saga, I later find my way into the university system studying another course that goes in line with my passion with no support at home (My dropping-out decision cause a lot of misunderstanding between my parents and I. I'm the one solely sponsoring myself in school. Though presently, I'm in 200 level at the moment).


Few years later, we met in a shopping mall, we exchange contacts and I did the follow-up as per the guys' thing. I later heard from her that she is not in relationship at the moment. She is single and not at the moment ready to mingle. I was persistent to spend the rest of my life with her. This babe is already through with school and NYSC sef and she has started working but I'm still in my second year in school which I didn't tell her. I told her I've resigned from work but looking forward to start something on my own so that we can get married (I must confess, I've never seen any babe to make me feel in a great mood in my entire life. Should I talk about the way we are great friends? her deposits i.e. her facial and inner beauty compared with something upstairs?). She later agree to date me but this time for serious sake now. I've met with her parents, her siblings and even her pastor sef. BUT HERE IS WHERE THE PROBLEM LIES: I had lied to her and everyone of them. I had lied to them all that I finished from school and observed the compulsory NYSC sef. I never told them my dropping-out of school episode, I didn't because I don't want to lose my face but I really love this babe. Now the thing is this, I'm being pricked by my conscience to tell her everything. Even though, I don't want to lose my face, at the same time, I don't want to lose her. What are the chances for me house?

P. S: I'm in my late 20s
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Bola146(f): 12:11pm On Apr 08
cool
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by posty56(m): 12:13pm On Apr 08
Misplaced priorities. focus on yourself before you start to they reason another person

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Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Lilpen3758(m): 12:18pm On Apr 08
Call me
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Jeon(m): 12:19pm On Apr 08
Nijagogetsense:
Nairalanders, I need your piece of advice. Please, don't mind my grammar. Just focus on the message. I won't come and bore you with a long story though but here is my story:

there was a girl I fell in love with when we were a little young, I really loved her as a lover but she loved me as a friend (like a plan B) owing to the reason that she was in a serious relationship then. During those time, I was pursuing my first degree in Sociology which she knew. After I knew that we couldn't be together, we parted ways. But unfortunately, I had to drop out of school after some series of carry-overs.


Some years later after my drop-out saga, I later find my way into the university system studying another course that goes in line with my passion with no support at home (My dropping-out decision cause a lot of misunderstanding between my parents and I. I'm the one solely sponsoring myself in school. Though presently, I'm in 200 level at the moment).


Few years later, we met in a shopping mall, we exchange contacts and I did the follow-up as per the guys' thing. I later heard from her that she is not in relationship at the moment. She is single and not at the moment ready to mingle. I was persistent to spend the rest of my life with her. This babe is already through with school and NYSC sef and she has started working but I'm still in my second year in school which I didn't tell her. I told her I've resigned from work but looking forward to start something on my own so that we can get married (I must confess, I've never seen any babe to make me feel in a great mood in my entire life. Should I talk about the way we are great friends? her deposits i.e. her facial and inner beauty compared with something upstairs?). She later agree to date me but this time for serious sake now. I've met with her parents, her siblings and even her pastor sef. BUT HERE IS WHERE THE PROBLEM LIES: I had lied to her and everyone of them. I had lied to them all that I finished from school and observed the compulsory NYSC sef. I never told them my dropping-out of school episode, I didn't because I don't want to lose my face but I really love this babe. Now the thing is this, I'm being pricked by my conscience to tell her everything. Even though, I don't want to lose my face, at the same time, I don't want to lose her. What are the chances for me house?

P. S: I'm in my late 20s

mtchwee

everytime there was/is this girl.

must you guys date?

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Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Bornsinner7: 12:19pm On Apr 08
Damn bro..

You bleeped up.. just tell her you're no longer interested because it's going to be a big embarrassment on you if she eventually finds out which she will some day..

Mean while I have a recipe that will help you sexually, mentally and physically.. take one shot in the morning, one at noon and crown it all with 3 at night

Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Nijagogetsense: 12:19pm On Apr 08
Lilpen3758:
Call me

I will do that. Is your number on Whatsapp?
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by nero2face: 12:23pm On Apr 08
From ur story ur love for her had always been pure and real, u made a mistake pretending to be what ur not, to a person u so truly love and want to spend rest ur life with, now back to real thing, Man u have to know the difference between fantasies and realities, the Genesis of happiness is loving the woman u got married to and not marrying the woman u love...read this well and see if u can understand the inner message...and for now u just have to concentrate and see ur self through with studies first, I tell u beautiful and loving girls will always bee there when ur ready for the real thing... Tnx

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Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by LilMissFavvy(f): 12:26pm On Apr 08
You have to be a man and tell her, whatever is the outcome, you take it. If you were younger, I would have told you to quit, but you are in your late 20s and it's not a bad thing to be in a relationship. The question is, if she forgives your lies and continues with you, do you think you can cope with school, a working class girlfriend, and the financial cost of a wedding? Only you knows your pocket and your abilities. This is could be your last chance to education, so you should not toy with it. If she loves you enough, and trusts that you will not disappoint her in future, she will hold on. But if she feels waiting on you is a risk, and age isn't on her side, she will dump you after you tell her. So be ready to give give her good reasons to believe in you.

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Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Durentt(m): 12:28pm On Apr 08
Are you working while schooling?


They always say the truth costs nothing but a lie could cost you everything. Tell her the truth and in the future avoid entangling yourself in lies

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Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by BadRadio: 12:35pm On Apr 08
Do not neglect or compromise the bro-code because of vain sentiments. You have to do more of critical logical analysis of your position right now without drawing excerpts of her with u from the past. learn to move beyond feelings of yesteryears. Dont be a sissy and an asslicking love-drunk vegetable.

yeah... I said vegetable

because that thing called love turns a big man into a vegetable and much worse a nincompoop... love paralyses the brain cells that's responsible for rational reasoning... it pulvarizes u, it maims u... it attacks your financial intelligence.


You can never find true love... the best u will get is an intact hymen that wants to be torn apart for $1000grin




NB: Nairaland will help u with broken pieces of 1 kobo advice that will add more kerosene and fuel to the fire burning ugrin

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Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Nijagogetsense: 12:39pm On Apr 08
BadRadio:
Do not neglect or compromise the bro-code because of vain sentiments. You have to do more of critical logical analysis of your position right now without drawing excerpts of her with u in the past. learn move beyond feelings of yesteryear. Dont be a sissy

Tell me more, be explicit please
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by anthonyuncle(m): 12:40pm On Apr 08
tell her the truth
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Mcslize: 12:42pm On Apr 08
Another love story. Na wa o. Where are these men coming from?
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by BadRadio: 12:49pm On Apr 08
Nijagogetsense:

Tell me more, be explicit please
re-read my reply again
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Youngpo413: 1:39pm On Apr 08
On top a mere woman.
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by SweetVibe: 2:30pm On Apr 08
Who are the men giving birth to all this new generation Simps

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Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Nijagogetsense: 3:23pm On Apr 08
BadRadio:
Do not neglect or compromise the bro-code because of vain sentiments. You have to do more of critical logical analysis of your position right now without drawing excerpts of her with u from the past. learn to move beyond feelings of yesteryears. Dont be a sissy and an asslicking love-drunk vegetable.

yeah... I said vegetable

because that thing called love turns a big man into a vegetable and much worse a nincompoop... love paralyses the brain cells that's responsible for rational reasoning... it pulvarizes u, it maims u... it attacks your financial intelligence.


You can never find true love... the best u will get is an intact hymen that wants to be torn apart for $1000grin




NB: Nairaland will help u with broken pieces of 1 kobo advice that will add more kerosene and fuel to the fire burning ugrin

Thank you, I think I get your stance and position now.
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Nijagogetsense: 3:27pm On Apr 08
Durentt:
Are you working while schooling?


They always say the truth costs nothing but a lie could cost you everything. Tell her the truth and in the future avoid entangling yourself in lies

Yes, I'm working while schooling... though it's not a fixed job though, I'm still trying to find my balance to set up something at the moment. I pray it clicks (Amen).

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Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by PlsBanMe: 3:36pm On Apr 08
Any relationship based on false foundations will eventually have problems.

If you tell her the truth, you will lose her. If you don't tell her the truth, you will have to keep inventing lies to keep up with your lies and you will never have peace of mind.

You have to a make sacrifice. Tell her the truth.

There are so many wonderful women you will still meet and there is still time on your part.

Its your choice to either set yourself free or to set her free.
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by BadRadio: 4:04pm On Apr 08
Nijagogetsense:


Thank you, I think I get your stance and position now.
yeah bro... never forget the bro-code

incase u dont know what the bro-code is... ask ilegendd, Bigcowhorn, Offpoint1, zheeko or deepfeel... I would have added Ubunja, but Ubunja is dead. grin


Ask them...
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by milcah5050: 4:11pm On Apr 08
On top a mere woman.
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Deepfeel(m): 4:13pm On Apr 08
BadRadio:
yeah bro... never forget the bro-code

incase u dont know what the bro-code is... ask ilegendd, Bigcowhorn, Offpoint1, zheeko or deepfeel... I would have added Ubunja, but Ubunja is dead. grin


Ask them...

I'm dead too, why did you mentioning me in the land of the living? I thought I sent you back to China?
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by BadRadio: 4:16pm On Apr 08
Deepfeel:


I'm dead too, why did you mentioning me in the land of the living? I thought I sent you back to China?
u did good for sending me to china... but I cant forget the Simps I left in Nigeria... I am only trying to empathize with them... they are all in pains right nowgrin


Sorry for disturbing your sleep in the grave... u are really enjoying your diamond casket.grin
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Lilpen3758(m): 4:17pm On Apr 08
Nijagogetsense:

I will do that. Is your number on Whatsapp?
Nope i use a small phone
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Deepfeel(m): 4:20pm On Apr 08
BadRadio:
u did good for sending me to china... but I cant forget the Simps I left in Nigeria... I am only trying to empathize with them... they are all in pains right nowgrin


Sorry for disturbing your sleep in the grave... u are really enjoying your diamond casket.grin

you dey crazy lol
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by BadRadio: 4:28pm On Apr 08
Deepfeel:

you dey crazy lol
grin
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Offpoint1: 5:34pm On Apr 08
I read the story, but can someone help me with what the story is all about?
Did her aunt found out she's pregnant for him?
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Nijagogetsense: 6:23pm On Apr 08
BadRadio:
yeah bro... never forget the bro-code

incase u dont know what the bro-code is... ask ilegendd, Bigcowhorn, Offpoint1, zheeko or deepfeel... I would have added Ubunja, but Ubunja is dead. grin


Ask them...

I know more about RedPill. I'm just being a purple-pill
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by Nijagogetsense: 6:26pm On Apr 08
PlsBanMe:
Any relationship based on false foundations will eventually have problems.

If you tell her the truth, you will lose her. If you don't tell her the truth, you will have to keep inventing lies to keep up with your lies and you will never have peace of mind.

You have to a make sacrifice. Tell her the truth.

There are so many wonderful women you will still meet and there is still time on your part.

Its your choice to either set yourself free or to set her free.

You are very right cos I keep inventing one almost every blessed day.
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by NobleDeSage001: 1:10am On Apr 09
The shit you are passing through now is the cost of living a life full of lies. Nip it in the bud now and stop causing yourself heartache.

Come clean and free yourself by telling the truth. Certainly, you will lose both your face and the lady.

You can't continue to invent lies daily just to save face. You are just shifting your doomsday which will surely come sooner than later.

Then, learn to live a truthful life. It costs much less than lies. Telling lies will get you temporary relief on the interim, but it will cost you almost your life on the long run.
Re: I'm Confused:; What Should I Do? by mosdii(m): 6:15am On Apr 09
All these lies to secure a typical Naija farm tool?
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

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