JagabanDesign:
Let's wait for the elders

akanbiaa:
Where do you get money to pay for the apartment since you said you are not working, if you want her to respect you then she must be convinced you are working or doing business and not draining your brother of resources and also occasionally buy her things she will cherish as present and with some cash also(the cash is best given when they have a child, just say it's for the child)

OmoOgunOriginal:
I would advise that you give her a wide berth afterwards. She clearly doesn't want good things for you. Does she expect that you should be thrown out and become homeless?

spinna:
Just casually mention it in conversation..tell her you just came from seeing the landlord.Dont confront her

descarado:


Even if she is not adding yet. Cos majority of our ladies get married as students,in youth service or job hunting. Her state of finance as that time doesn't matter as long as she is not stagnant but she has every right to know where their resources is going to.

spinna:
Just casually mention it in conversation..tell her you just came from seeing the landlord.Dont confront her

CountVersailles:

It's a serviced apartment, so there's no landlord. Maybe I'll mention I've been talking to the real estate guys. But the problem is that she may not even believe. She may think I'm just trying to convince her otherwise, because after my brother told her that he is no longer paying, she still doesn't believe him.

OmoOgunOriginal:
I would advise that you give her a wide berth afterwards. She clearly doesn't want good things for you. Does she expect that you should be thrown out and become homeless?

CountVersailles:
Maybe "confront" is the wrong word to use here, but let me explain.

My brother and I had been sharing an apartment for a few months before he got married. He recently left to take a separate place with his new wife, who I'm friends with. No issues between us. Since my brother left I have been staying in the old apartment alone and paying the rent all my myself. Now, my brother's wife who is quite sensitive about their finances thinks that my brother is still paying for the apartment. This is because he was the one paying before, since he had been staying there for months before I moved in.

Now, I can understand her concerns. The reason she is thinking this is because,
1. I am not working, and she knows. So, she cannot believe I can pay for the apartment which is quite expensive
2. she knows my brother was the only paying before I moved in.

She doesn't realize I have taken over the payment since last two months, and has been nagging my brother to stop paying for the apartment even after he insists he is no longer paying. Maybe, she thinks he's lying to him.

I hate that this is going on. Maybe it's my ego, but I feel like talking to her directly and telling her that her husband is no longer paying for the apartment. Is this something I should do?

Hammergirl:

Please ignore her. Confronting her isn't necessary. You owe her no explanation. Unless she tells you to your face , then you finish her.

Oizee:
no issue here now, just ignore here

Nicklaus619:
Chai, things way they worry people no they bother me one bite, If am in your shoes heh, I will just be laughing anytime I hear her nagging or when am told she's vexing and thinks her husband still pays for the house, wetin consign me, I will just keep her in the dark and move the hell on until she nag and nag and nag and the day she will finally realise it's me paying for the rent all along, my rep for her side go high as she will try to make peace and apologise because she know she has messed up bad

OmoOgunOriginal:



Gbam. Or just casually mention that you are broke because you just finished paying rent

VeeVeeMyLuv:
what?

How do you mean by the bolded? we need more clarification

akajos4real:
Please, leave the POOR woman alone. She has done nothing but your mind playing games on you or you are just guilty of something you are not saying that your brodther is still doing for you.

Let the woman be and if you have issues sort it out with your brother.

I still wonder why people do not understand that when a man gets married they become one and things have changed. Yet family members keep bothering women in marriage.
What most people dont know is that MOST women are those responsible for the men not turning away from their families not saying there are no exceptions but are very very few.

My brother leave your brother's wife ALONE Oooooh!!!!!!!

showafrica:


E be like me and you get the same character.

brownemmanuel43:
Sometimes I just wonder how a man will allow a woman to bring division in the family. I don't just understand the kind of men we have this days, no guts, no boldness to confront a woman.
Imagine living happily with your brother for months or years all of a sudden one useless woman will come and divide the brothers in the name of marriage
I don't blame the woman, I only blame that your simp brother, what were they discussing that could warrant such ranting from her.
I don't know why I no dey jam such idiot women me wey my head no correct u wan come separate me from my blood brother.
No woman born of a woman shall try that nonsense for my side, if u dare try that nonsense na straight to your papa house, I hate nonsense

indigene:

Your statement in paragraph, 1. I am not working, and she knows. So, she cannot believe I can pay for the apartment which is quite expensive.
She might be right, likely you knew your elder brother's ATM pin, and she has seen one or two alerts.
How on earth can a jobless, empty pocketed man like your pay rent, when those who work 9 to 6 owes rent?

CountVersailles:
Maybe "confront" is the wrong word to use here, but let me explain.

My brother and I had been sharing an apartment for a few months before he got married. He recently left to take a separate place with his new wife, who I'm friends with. No issues between us. Since my brother left I have been staying in the old apartment alone and paying the rent all my myself. Now, my brother's wife who is quite sensitive about their finances thinks that my brother is still paying for the apartment. This is because he was the one paying before, since he had been staying there for months before I moved in.

Now, I can understand her concerns. The reason she is thinking this is because,
1. I am not working, and she knows. So, she cannot believe I can pay for the apartment which is quite expensive
2. she knows my brother was the only paying before I moved in.

She doesn't realize I have taken over the payment since last two months, and has been nagging my brother to stop paying for the apartment even after he insists he is no longer paying. Maybe, she thinks he's lying to him.

I hate that this is going on. Maybe it's my ego, but I feel like talking to her directly and telling her that her husband is no longer paying for the apartment. Is this something I should do?

CountVersailles:
Maybe "confront" is the wrong word to use here, but let me explain.

My brother and I had been sharing an apartment for a few months before he got married. He recently left to take a separate place with his new wife, who I'm friends with. No issues between us. Since my brother left I have been staying in the old apartment alone and paying the rent all my myself. Now, my brother's wife who is quite sensitive about their finances thinks that my brother is still paying for the apartment. This is because he was the one paying before, since he had been staying there for months before I moved in.

Now, I can understand her concerns. The reason she is thinking this is because,
1. I am not working, and she knows. So, she cannot believe I can pay for the apartment which is quite expensive
2. she knows my brother was the only paying before I moved in.

She doesn't realize I have taken over the payment since last two months, and has been nagging my brother to stop paying for the apartment even after he insists he is no longer paying. Maybe, she thinks he's lying to him.

I hate that this is going on. Maybe it's my ego, but I feel like talking to her directly and telling her that her husband is no longer paying for the apartment. Is this something I should do?

CountVersailles:
Maybe "confront" is the wrong word to use here, but let me explain.

My brother and I had been sharing an apartment for a few months before he got married. He recently left to take a separate place with his new wife, who I'm friends with. No issues between us. Since my brother left I have been staying in the old apartment alone and paying the rent all my myself. Now, my brother's wife who is quite sensitive about their finances thinks that my brother is still paying for the apartment. This is because he was the one paying before, since he had been staying there for months before I moved in.

Now, I can understand her concerns. The reason she is thinking this is because,
1. I am not working, and she knows. So, she cannot believe I can pay for the apartment which is quite expensive
2. she knows my brother was the only paying before I moved in.

She doesn't realize I have taken over the payment since last two months, and has been nagging my brother to stop paying for the apartment even after he insists he is no longer paying. Maybe, she thinks he's lying to him.

I hate that this is going on. Maybe it's my ego, but I feel like talking to her directly and telling her that her husband is no longer paying for the apartment. Is this something I should do?

donbachi:
If u be her brother, she for no nag. I don't know why a lot of women, think been a wife has total control over a man. i will advise u to neglect her. cos u don't owe her dat. also be careful. na her type dey accuse brother inlaws of attempted rape.