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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by sinola(m): 7:28am On May 07, 2021 |
Bros, I have a feel that your brother is the cause of all these nonsense..Maybe he has rubbished you before his wife and the wife is now seeing you as 'efulefu' (worthless) I can assure you that if care is not taken, when you eventually plan to marry, she will be suspecting that it is her hubby that is footing all the bills. Show her class and don't confront her with any explanation. Let her find out herself how you roll..... 1 Like |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by dipson4u08(m): 7:33am On May 07, 2021 |
CountVersailles: look for anither apartment within your budget, coz wether you like it or not you cant change her mindset.... |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by richie240: 7:39am On May 07, 2021 |
CountVersailles:And what is wrong even if ur bro is still paying for our rent? Ur bro is not really wise in divulging his wife's nagging attitude towards d matter. The average wife won't mind her husband spending ALL his salary on her and her family but will 'raise shoulder' when she learns he is helping his own kin. She will coax him into helping her fourth cousin travel abroad (visa+ticket) but still (hypocriticalky) challenge him if he buys jamb form for his own blood brother Ur brother shd watch/wash his mouth else he facilitates d destruction of his marriage. It is not everything that happens BTW him and his wife that he shd tell his family, and vice-versa |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by goody36: 7:40am On May 07, 2021 |
What is wrong with your brother helping you now that you are not working?Whatever happened to Charity work.These Wives are very selfish.If a favour is extended to a member of her own family,she will not complain.This is your brother's call and not yours. He should be the one to caution his Wife on family matters,who knows you may be the one to help your brother or his Children tomorrow. Don't worry,what you are passing through is a phase which will also pass. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by dahnimoh(m): 8:01am On May 07, 2021 |
CountVersailles: I guess its your joblessness that is worrying you. Otherwise what is your business with what a woman is thinking or are you a mind reader? |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Nobody: 8:08am On May 07, 2021 |
akanbiaa: Must be ment! Trying to appease her because she's feeding him or she's the second in command to God. Best is to ignore this kind of people, avoid there house and distance yourself from them, including the brother since he has no balls. The more you move around this kind of people, the more they cause you humiliation. He doesn't owe her or anybody explanation on how he live his life. Stop humiliating yourself by trying to make useless people feel important, by giving them unnecessary attention. Both the husband and wife is mad! |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by sniperr007(m): 8:09am On May 07, 2021 |
CountVersailles: I understand. Let her husband handle it joor Which one is doubt within months of marriage. Make she pack well, does she not know you are capable to make her life miserable in that marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Nobody: 8:12am On May 07, 2021 |
You don't need to confront her. Why? What for? Just let her be. You don't owe her any explanation or confrontation. Let your brother know what to tell his wife and what not to tell his wife about his family. |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by stigman(m): 8:18am On May 07, 2021 |
CountVersailles: Don't, allow her to come out from her shell first ( she dey pretend all this while) |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by CountVersailles(f): 8:20am On May 07, 2021 |
Lazycapitalist2: Wow! So many comments. I didn't expect this to get the visibiility it did. For those wondering, I don't think I need to explain my source of money. It is not illegitimate anyways. But I'm a careful spender and a good investor. I am not an azaman. |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Nobody: 8:24am On May 07, 2021 |
marwanafrica: You married folks who couldn't handle there woman right really struggling hard to make this simping of a thing the standard. No!it's not the standard, it's you that have tolerate what you should not. Women are like children, you shape them into what you want once they come into your life, while you care for them like you care for a child. They are meant to be handled with both iron and soft hand just like somebody said in the thread. The one that refuse to be calm is not your match. It's really devilish fighting your husband for paying his brothers rent and all you could do as a husband is stay at her mercy and trying to convince her you're not paying it. To think he's not even paying it. We didn't grow up see our mothers doing this shitty things. |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Nobody: 8:24am On May 07, 2021 |
CountVersailles: I think you need to explain to your sisterinlaw..(or get her husband,your borther to do thee xplaining,) the full details of how you make your money, and how you are paying for your accomodation so that she can have peace of mind....if, as you say, your source of money is legit. Because, let's be frank, women worry about money a lot...especially when they get married and start thinking about how their children would be fed.And any spending they deem unecessary attracts their attention.... 1 Like |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by kingreign(m): 8:26am On May 07, 2021 |
OmoOgunOriginal:very wrong advice. |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by tsbigbuduwarrib: 8:27am On May 07, 2021 |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by niyiduke01(m): 6:58am On May 05 My piece of Advice.....1.How did you know that she has been nagging about your brother paying the rent..If it's your brother that told you, fine. Then you called everybody together I mean the 3 people involved. Explain to her and show the receipt of the last payment with your name written on it.Then you will save everybody a lot of headache.PEACE My broda u have said it all shikena |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Suzie1(f): 8:28am On May 07, 2021 |
[quote author=CountVersailles post=101392256][/quote] I wondered why more than 90% comments I read, condemned the wife. Let's break it down and assume that the wife nags about it. That discussion was just a discussion between husband and wife, why would your brother told you about it? It means your brother is not mature enough to be married. The wife might be worried considering the fact that many grown-ups refuse to be independent. 2. What if it's a cunning way your brother is using to disconnect you from his financial life. He doesn't have any budget for you anymore based on the increase in his own needs. He only wants you to find a way to keep getting the house rent paid. Just a manipulation! When would people allow others to live their lives freely, give freely without being a burden or feel entitled? |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by kingreign(m): 8:28am On May 07, 2021 |
madridguy: No need for these needless insults. She's not a wicked wife. Things aren't easy these days, this most likely is the reasons for her telling her husband to minimize spendings. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by kingreign(m): 8:30am On May 07, 2021 |
oluwafreshkid: Very sound advice. |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by belcom10(m): 8:31am On May 07, 2021 |
I don't get it, why is she complaining or nagging. Are they facing some financial issues presently or she's not getting enough from your brother. If your brother can afford the bill what's wrong him paying house rent for his brother Pending when you have something doing. CountVersailles |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Collyno82(m): 8:34am On May 07, 2021 |
adadike:The future is adadike 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by adadike(f): 8:37am On May 07, 2021 |
Collyno82:na so 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by UYEMDO35(m): 8:37am On May 07, 2021 |
Firstly! u said u are jobless!....and secondly the House is quite expensive... So how do u meet-up with the demand of the house or is there something u are not telling us? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by vickydevoka(m): 8:37am On May 07, 2021 |
brownemmanuel43:It's not a muscle thing. No be by strength brother. Women de wait until she born. If na Igbo Woman untill she born boy. If all ur siblings get money una no go ever get problem. Buh if one person na dangote n de rest na nothing, wahala go dey. It happened to my cousin that's y I have this knowledge. So what my rich cousin did was to establish de poor ones to stand, now de are all one. No hatred or quarrell |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Collyno82(m): 8:40am On May 07, 2021 |
oluwafreshkid:show her how you're making money,,, efaihear. Na your type day dey use< for your family because of woman(wife) mtcheew |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by omonnakoda: 8:41am On May 07, 2021 |
It is better that she continues too believe what she already believes do not try to change her mind . In fact do everything to encourage that belief |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by skondo09(m): 8:41am On May 07, 2021 |
CountVersailles: Pls my little question..how are you able to pay since u said u av no job and the rent is quite expensive?... |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Collyno82(m): 8:42am On May 07, 2021 |
Nonexistent:Iseee!!! |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Nobody: 8:49am On May 07, 2021 |
keypha1: Waooo! how did it end? |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Montaque(m): 8:52am On May 07, 2021 |
Don't let your ego bring you out. You may be going before your shadow if you bring the issue up to show "i am the man in charge". Things may not work out tomorrow on your side financially and your brother may step in to bail you, so why should you announce beforehand that you are in charge. Nobody knows tomorrow. Let the issue continue, as long as you are paying now and you have the receipts. Thats all that matters. Let her keep thinking whatever. Dont burn your bridges too early. |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Nobody: 9:06am On May 07, 2021 |
Explain how he get money to her for what exactly? Make una no dey encourage rubbish na. As per his mother abi watin? So the whole family is now a surbordinate to her because she's a "wife". He doesn't owe anybody explanation. He hasn't step out of his boundary. Best is to ignore her and give the family space. Distance brings respect. Lazycapitalist2: |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Nobody: 9:08am On May 07, 2021 |
CountVersailles: I'd advise you to totally ignore her. It isn't your business what she thinks about you. You have nothing to prove to her. If she doesn't have the boldness to approach you, then it's none of your business. When she decides to confront you, you give her a piece of your mind put her in her place. Make sure you rub it in well. Then free her. She's a silly woman. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by OILOFGLADNESS: 9:11am On May 07, 2021 |
spinna: best advise I dont know why she will be behaving like that, IF YOUR BROTHER CHOOSE TO BEAR UR BURDEN , provided he is baering HIS IMMEDIATE FAMILY BURDEN, WHAT BUSINESS of hers is it......... this life is too short for all these meaningless frivolities BUT THAT NOT WITHSTANDING, U YOU SHOULD PAY A VISIT AND JUST TRY TO THROW IT AT YOR BROTHER IN A CONVERSATION, BRO NAWAOOO, SINCE U MARRY , U NO JUST WAN ADD LITTLE THING TO SUPPORT MY RENT, U KNOW SAY MY HAND NEVER STRONG.....,THEN GREET THE WIFE AS USUAL....... BUT ALL THESE WOMEN PREVENTING THEIR HUSBANDS FROM HELPING THEIR SIBBLINGS, WHAT IS THEIR OBJECTIVE IF NOT JUST BITTERNESS AND JEALOUSY TOMMORROW NOW, IF THEIR HUSBAND TURN AGAINST THEM, THEY WILL BE ASKING WHAT THEY DID WRONG........... ""PEACE ONLY""" |
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Dchampion65: 9:13am On May 07, 2021 |
You are still connected to them some how If you can afford to pay the rent, though not working, then stop totally from depending on them for anything. Not even a dine. Don't have ill feelings towards her either. Your worthy overtime will bring desire respect. Ire o |
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