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Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by bukatyne(f): 11:26am On Jun 22, 2021 |
Village people were on the guy's matter. I hope not to meet someone who thinks getting someone sacked is a commensurate 'punishment' for colour bullying sha. I also hope the girl has never broke shamed, body shamed, skin shamed, career shamed, tribe shamed or country/race shamed anyone. As always, I come in peace. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by Nobody: 11:28am On Jun 22, 2021 |
thebosstrevor1: Well he was very rude and unprofessional. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by Nobody: 11:33am On Jun 22, 2021 |
davidadenrele: So if I was your co-worker you would like it if i abused you verbally every day? The guy was at fault. He is no longer in primary school. He is an adult and he is facing adult consequences 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by Nobody: 11:36am On Jun 22, 2021 |
thebosstrevor1: If it was the other way around the man would have been right to report Look there are certain behaviour that is expected of us as adults. The joker did not learn the lessons He was supposed to learn as a child. Let us not make this a man woman thing. The guy messed up. Play silly games win silly prizes 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by Nobody: 11:38am On Jun 22, 2021 |
NwaAmaikpe: On the other hand behaving childishly as an adult usually brings consequences that can be very devastating. Oga don't justify the man's silly behaviour. It was wrong. Plain wrong. When in Rome, do as the Romans. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by shesawesome(f): 11:56am On Jun 22, 2021 |
thebosstrevor1:No be only second chance 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by shesawesome(f): 11:59am On Jun 22, 2021 |
WoundedLamb:million likes for you 5 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by WoundedLamb: 12:39pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
angelfallz: I'm Nigerian. No, I didn't grow up in Nigeria. I don't know what that has to do with anything though but I'm interested in finding our your perspective. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by WoundedLamb: 12:40pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
IJOBA11:I never said it was. |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by angelfallz(m): 12:56pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
it has a lot to do with everything. Mentality WoundedLamb: |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by WoundedLamb: 1:01pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
BuyAndSellStuff: She'll lose her job too? Lol Anyway, that is in Nigeria. This is not Nigeria. If the Nigerian style was so good, people wouldn't be running away from the country today. If such attitudes are taken lightly in the US like y'all do in Nigeria, the US wouldn't be that sane country everyone is running to. You can't be in the US and be living the Nigerian lifestyle. Even if you, as an individual, take worse from people anywhere in the world (in case you're no in Nigeria), the lady is not obliged to do the same. You think what the lady did was extreme but it never occurred to you that the guy's words could get someone suicidal. Wherever the chat happens, it doesn't make it any better. You don't just get into people's space and start shaming them for no reason, no provocation at all. If you do that, you're purely sadistic. You want the lady to take that cause she's also a Nigerian but you don't think the guy should have known he was also black when he was delibrately trying to hurt a fellow black person? I'm a man but I don't care if you call me a drama queen; if I were the lady, I'd do the same. You guys should learn to treat each other with respect. 5 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by Nobody: 1:02pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
NwaAmaikpe:I've confirmed it now you are as useless and as foolish as hell. Useless creature. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by Nobody: 1:04pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
WoundedLamb:All this grammar on top of a country with a huge amount of useless and stupid illiterates. |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by WoundedLamb: 1:04pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
angelfallz: Hhmm... I see. So you think my mentality is screwed up? Just curious. |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by WoundedLamb: 1:06pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
SegFault: Lol... no comment. |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by Nobody: 1:09pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
WoundedLamb:As usual always sensible. Remember talking with my cousins who stayed in the US, educated people there are usually sensible, but here even a man with a PhD can behave like a Neanderthal and others would see it as normal. Tueh. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by Nobody: 1:10pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
WoundedLamb:To talk to these sort of people is so tiring. |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by WoundedLamb: 1:26pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
SegFault: Lol @Neanderthal. That's extreme. But I get you, Nigerians don't realize that development starts from the mind. |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by BuyAndSellStuff: 1:29pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
[s] WoundedLamb:[/s] You still haven't shown proof that the guy typed that. |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by WoundedLamb: 1:29pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
SegFault: Yeah but ignoring them isn't exactly the best option really. |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by WoundedLamb: 1:30pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
BuyAndSellStuff: I should have known I was wasting my time here. Enjoy your day, sir. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by sterlingD(m): 1:39pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
angelfallz: angelfallz:See eh over there it is a big deal. Even if she did not react to it to this extent years later someone will sieve through the internet and dig it out. You know America is a place where you can aspire for something and most times get it unhindered but people will go and do thorough background check on you and dig out everything about you whether good or bad and you know the internet never forgets. We have seen cases where actors,politicians,.......etc especially made derogatory comments on social media years back and when they get into lime light all of a sudden from no where those comments they made while back surface and it puts dents to their career. For some of them it was a miracle their careers did not take a dip from grace to grass but for others that became the end of them. While on the net and on whatever platform show decorum,etiquette and maturity. People are different. What one can tolerate another can not and will not tolerate and even if one tolerates there is a limit to it. Also note if the corporate existence of the society frowns at such and puts up mechanism to deal with such they will take appropriate and decisive action to set example so as to mitigate such. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by angelfallz(m): 2:04pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Shey it was a private message. sterlingD: |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by angelfallz(m): 2:09pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Lol. Funny you. No, I don't think your mentality is screwed up. What I meant by mentality is, in Nigeria yabbing(making jest) of people due to their skin tone is normal and it is not a big deal. That is the Nigerian mentality. But since you did not grow up in Nigeria, you would not have that mentality would you? You grew up in an environment that is sensitive to skin colour(race) therefore you would be sensitive to it and take the woman's side on this matter and condemn those that don't. WoundedLamb: |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by MrSamsung(m): 2:24pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Till this day, Nigerians have not yet realized that they are one of the most racist people if not most racist here on earth. If they and other African countries were to have the status and advancement that the white men have, they would have done things that hands and mouth will refuse to talk. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by sterlingD(m): 2:32pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
angelfallz:See eh forget that thing o. Private or not them fit use am against person when time reach and u know na this kind of news dey catch fire spread well well and dey sell market well well especially when you are known to be a renowned public figure or celebrity. Right now l am reading a Book Titled;DESTROY A MAN NOW (D.A.M.N).And from the few pages l have read l am in shock and speechless. |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by Nobody: 2:32pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
angelfallz: Well, I grew up in Nigeria, and I think the man's comment on the woman's looks was awful, and he deserved to be sacked. Now, I grew up in Nigeria, as I said, and I know yabis, I even enjooyed doing some of it. But the thing is, both of them were in a new environment...a new society, with different ways of doing things. And there is a saying for that...when in Rome, do as the Romans. You are in America, a society that looks down on verbal and other forms of 'bullying'...and let's be honest if the woman had not reported...someone else would have done so on her behalf. I feel sorry for the sacked guy.Honestly I do. But bros should have known him no dey for naija anymre. Him dey yankee, him suppose adjust accordingly. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by WoundedLamb: 2:35pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
angelfallz: I appreciate the extra mile you go just to figure out the source of our differences, and I don't take for granted the fact that you gave me a soft landing/escape route even though you don't seem to agree with my stance on the subject. That's not very common on Nairaland. However, even though I don't understand the logic behind mocking a black skin, I believe such "yabbing" is meant for friends and family. I don't think walking up to a stranger and telling her her skin is black as charcoal is ideal even in Nigeria. The difference between jest and insult is the relationship between the parties involved, and even at that, you should know when the recipient is not okey with a particular "yabbing" like the lady clearly indicated in the chat. You can't call the guy's second statement "yabbing", he obviously wanted her to feel bad. You don't insult or say hurtful things to people in the guise of jest, and act all surprised when they feel hurt. I appreciate the Nigerian social life but talking each other into depression and desperation is a different thing. |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by davidadenrele: 2:49pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Beancounter93: I stand on my point does she has to mention the office the guy in question works what's her motive if we asked who in question offends the guy or the organization he works for?? make we reason things well ooo,Because someone body shamed you go on social media to mention where he works just to get back him to the extend of trying to get him sacked it's still doesnt guarantee she will get the apology common sense they say is not common. |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by Nobody: 2:58pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
davidadenrele: Well, even on the interent, we must behave as adults. Also, the guy and girl were based in the US of A. So, if she had not reported, someone else who was offended might have done so When in the US, do as they do. Life is not like Nigeria everywhere else. Nigerians tend to forget that. Plus, even in Nigeria, if I adressed one of my co-workers that way, I could get into trobule.... 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Man In Trouble With His US Employer After Color Shaming A Lady. by angelfallz(m): 3:43pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
I agree with the statement when in Rome do as the Romans. But you are forgetting that it was a private chat. It was not on a public forum. Beancounter93: |
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