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Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by cfree14(m): 12:11pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
pansophist:I get u bro. Let there be a difference but not much. |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 12:11pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Casham: Then you are in for a joke. A woman who is 2 years younger than you is not actually your age mate. She is far above you and more matured than you. You need to think about marriage critically. It is a huge life changing decision. As a man, this is not something to toy around with. You must be pragmatic and logical when it comes to choosing your spouse. I have a thread on this and this was complied based on my personal experience as a married man, the experiences of my married friends and the naivety of young men today. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 12:13pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Jeon: Still not enough but can be mitigate by providing sufficiently for the family and her extended family. |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by cfree14(m): 12:13pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
kokaneprodigy:Lol. U suppose know say na mistake |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by cfree14(m): 12:15pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
charlito94:Alright, I appreciate ur view |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by AfroKnight: 12:16pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
To be safe let the wife be younger. Gap shouldn’t be too much. |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 12:22pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
AfroKnight: This is not necessary for a healthy marriage. An older man can actually enjoy memories with his younger wife. This is dependent on the disposition of the man and not the woman. I would have loved to give you a personal experience but do not want to disclose sensitive information. However, I can confidently tell you the age gap to enjoy the company of each other doesn't matter. |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Casham: 12:30pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Boss13:well since you are talking out of experience(yours or others' you witnessed), I will respect that. But I will take it as just a general guideline rather than a strict rule. I believe no single moral guideline applies at all times to all people. I respect your opinion and advice sir. I will take note of it. |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 12:35pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Casham: Sure, there is no hard and fast rule on certain things in life. However, based on my experience and others. I will strongly urge young men to consider marrying younger women. Trust me on this. Women are generally stubborn, regardless of age. Also, with this liberal nonsense going on especially on social media, younger men are going to find it difficult having women follow their lead. The last thing a man needs is a woman who does not respect him. I have a friend currently experiencing this and he has been thoroughly emasculated by his wife and strip of his dignity. You do not want such situation for yourself. 5 Likes |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by AfroKnight: 12:47pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Boss13: Okay. |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Elevation(m): 12:56pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Marry the will of God, you can't marry with your naked eye alone you need God to choose for you unless you're ready to divorce your spouse in future. I am a living testimony my wife is way older than I am, but I chose God's will and I am enjoying it, everybody is unique you mustn't marry an older lady (as a man) but in any case marry in God because when fire comes to test the foundation of the marriage, it will stand the test. God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 1:02pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Elevation: You have married wrong and I am willingly to dedicate 30 mins of my time to debate you on this. 1 Like |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by MistarT(m): 1:04pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Boss13:Are you married? |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by AntichristXXX: 1:05pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Rozcol: You're smart. 1 Like |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Elevation(m): 1:10pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Boss13:Saying I married in a wrong way is like saying God is wrong. Bros do you know that God will not give you what you want (especially marriage) see He will give you the person you need to fulfil your purpose on earth. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Casham: 1:13pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Boss13:thanks sir. I will put your words to heart. I am planning to walk the aisle, at most, four years from now and I have not started girl-hunting yet. Thanks. |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 1:25pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Casham: Since you don't have a prospective women at the moment. Go and read my thread on how to pick a wife. It is on the romance page at the moment. Next, focus on increasing your earning power to ensure you are a good provider. This will increase the number of women available for you to select. Finally, approach this exercise with a discerning mind and be critically logical. Love can come later. 3 Likes |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Elevation(m): 1:40pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
In life it is important to base your points on the dictates of God and not just on the philosophies of men. Don't be too religious as not to listen to life vital information as well. If a woman or a man doesn't follow God genuinely, there will be serious challenges because there's no solid foundation on which to make key decisions. Even when you marry the God given marital choice, you'll still face challenges but it will be like Isaiah 43:2 When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee. Then the tests become testimonies, challenges become steps to greater heights while trials become triumphs. God over everything. 1 Like |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by MrSamsung(m): 1:48pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Nigerians eh. So marriage is about age. Not maturity(which doesn't come with age) Not good character and personality (which doesn't come with age). Not wizdom, agility and flexibility, financial capability not financial overbility. So you will see a suitable male or female to marry but you let age override. Do you guys even know the meaning of AGE in the context of marriage especially those on the fp 1 Like |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Casham: 2:09pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Boss13:Thanks boss! Will do just that! |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 2:17pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Elevation: We live in a practical world and hence must act practically. Our religiosity has only made us lazy to think and act. Do you know the statistics of divorce within Christian homes? Probably you will tell me their homes were devoid of the presence of God - lies. God cannot pick your clothing, food, and basic practical things and this includes your spouse. Else, we can all sit down and allow the Divine Providence to feed us, bathe us, cloth us, and even drives us to work daily. Can we for once stop these nonsense and start acting like Humans living on Earth. The young man wants to know how to pick his wife. Can you be practical enough to guide him or be quiet if you don't know how. 1 Like |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by smeag0l(m): 2:27pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Please qualify your statement on being in the biological nature of women to be cared for. This only applies to mostly African women Boss13: |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 2:27pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
MrSamsung: Let's put your reasoning to practical test. How do you test for maturity? Do you agree with me that a baby and an 18 years old individual are not on the same maturity scale. What is the test of the scale - AGE. What is your objective test of good character and personality? How do we validly test for this? Obviously we cannot reliably test for these values. However, we can all agree that the number of years an individual spend on earth can directly relates to his/her maturity and experience. There maybe outliers, but this is valid is most cases. I don't deal with outliers and reasonable people don't. I think you have use words out of context such as agility and financial overbility, which is not a proper English word. Consequently, I cannot decipher what you mean. |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Elevation(m): 2:28pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Boss13:From the way you speak you need the touch of God. You are dwelling more on the physical things any home that is broken today never really allowed God my brother, if anyone needs a wife He should go to God He alone can get a good wife for Him, he will find but God will guide. Proverbs 19:14 House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD. Boss 13 I do not know where you are or what you're doing, but I stand with the truth, don't do things mechanically consult God you will thank me later my friend as regards you telling me to be quiet if I do not know what to tell the young man, if you submit your utterances to the Holy Spirit you will not reply a brother that way. God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by smeag0l(m): 2:37pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Again, this only happens in west Africa and some other black African nations. I'll tell you what the problem is. West Africans believe in gender roles right from the beginning of their existence up till now. This means that the man is meant to provide for the family while the woman is meant to take care of the domestic needs of the family. There wasn't any issue with this until recently when young west African ladies started travelling out to places like the US and UK and imbibing their liberalisation culture. While I have no problem with this, my major concern is that the African ladies are not taking or imbibing this culture in full. They only take the parts that sooth them and also propagate it to their friends of same gender. I'll give an example. The Liberal White couple believes that the husband and wife should contribute equally to financial demands of the family. They also apply this same rule to everything including domestic chores. However, the african/Nigerian lady(they do this a lot) only takes up the part of her splitting domestic chores with her husband but will not want to split bills. More like wanting to eat your cake and have it. This is the number one reason why a lot of Nigerian ladies abroad don't have husbands or boyfriends. They took their narcissist mentality of a man being the one to ask them out, always being the one to call them, always being the one to pay the bills etc and have mixed it up with wanting to also split the chores with same man. Is that not unfair? Boss13: 1 Like |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 2:43pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
smeag0l: Lies. I lived in the Western World. It is the biological nature of women to be cared for and protected. In the west, women who marry below their class are the least desirable women. This is also applicable in Africa. A woman is less desirable when she is old, fat, ugly, or can no longer give birth to children. In the modern age, a less desirable woman includes single mothers too. Women who have children out of wedlock or divorced women with kids. I read a lot of stories where Nigerian men always compare western women and praise western women for not being too materialistic. I can confirm to you that when you marry these western women and cannot provide for them, they will kick you out. Only a small minority of these women will continue to allow your lazy bum around the house and these are women who have acquired masculine traits. Please note, the biological nature women all over the world are the same. 1 Like |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 2:45pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
smeag0l: Please read my post below yours |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by evil1: 2:47pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
It all depends in individual perspective. Some like it older while some like it much younger while some like it in between age grade. For me I prefer someone within my age bracket |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Boss13: 2:50pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Elevation: There is nothing wrong with seeking the guidance of the DIVINE. However, we seem or pretend to do this all the time. The DIVINE has given us the ability to reason, to think, to act and to discern. We must exercise these abilities. You are more concerned about my response and also attribute it to the Holy Spirit. I believe I never insulted you. I have no cause to do so and don't engage in such gutter behavior. I was only irritated by your post and still irritated by it because what is the essence of we being human if we cannot exercise the gift of discernment given to us by the CREATOR. Trust me, you don't want to go on a spiritual argument trip with me. I can confidently assure you the spirit of the DIVINE flows in me. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by MrSamsung(m): 3:16pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Boss13:So let me get you, are you saying that age is directly proportional to maturity. Wow. Okay let me test you with one common and most important factor. If a man named A cheats on his wife and he is older or far older than a man called B who refuses to cheats on his wife or fiancee or girlfriend(assuming the wives or women here equally don't cheats). To you, who among these two men is matured? As for your last sentence, check your dictionary definitions of agility and you will find the one I am using. As for overbility it is a contructs that should be understood with paragraph context though I should have put quote and unquote. |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by Kaybae(f): 3:18pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Rozcol:But men of 35_40 are mostly married men, so ...... |
Re: What Should Be The Proper Age Gap For A Man And Woman Planning Marriage? by stunnert(m): 3:24pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Rozcol:
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