Torylanez:
- My brother you need to hustle more
- Move forward and achieve something
- Obviously you both aren't ripe for Marriage una just de do gra gra
- You both are marrying for the wrong reasons
- Anytime a man marries you marry all the good and bad of your wife family and she does the same with your family

Marriage is not about age neither is it about size

Forget dis man, go nd marry
Marriage is more of a spiritual, mental and psychological move

You are not ready my bro

Take this as a golden advice from a married man

Greystone:


She's obviously a good lady. Never let her go. Good girls are so hard to find.

If I were you, I would marry her.

You can manage her brother's issues easier than replacing her.

Karlifate:


Good girl gone bad.

LMAO!

Ayt27:


I'm not married but I was REALLY surprised to see people comment saying "Marry a good girl, don't leave a good girl" Lolz person wey never serve...has no freaking idea what the world has for him.

Make him face front hustle

Torylanez:
- My brother you need to hustle more
- Move forward and achieve something
- Obviously you both aren't ripe for Marriage una just de do gra gra
- You both are marrying for the wrong reasons
- Anytime a man marries you marry all the good and bad of your wife family and she does the same with your family

Marriage is not about age neither is it about size
Marriage is more of a spiritual, mental and psychological move

You are not ready my bro

Take this as a golden advice from a married man

Vivien458:
how do you know he is not ready. Africans and myopic reasoning. You have not met this person, yet you just jumped into conclusion. Give him advise and not if he is ready or not. Someone you don't even know

Chydo63:
Everytime, Hustle o! Which hustle again will he hustle more than the one he's hustling right now? Abi until he starts selling pure water on the express, that's what you understand as hustle?

Danmaiduguri:

Forget this man, guy fo nd marry her.

Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons

She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.

I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.

Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.

Matured advice please

Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons

She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.

I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.

Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.

Matured advice please

Torylanez:


And U had to jump on another person's opinion to abuse him, nawao for this Nairaland kids sha... Na una fault ?

Vivien458:
abuse who. Please tell me where I abused this gentleman man?

LionTiger:


Bro, his response below shows that he's a mere joker who is up for mind games.
Secondly go through the rubbish he tyoed and check how accurate he is in responses, then you'll understand he's here for traffic.

Golden147:


Smile, yes bro...

Maybe because I didn't add I have got a house (4 bedroom flat) land properties too... what I don't have now as a man is car bro... anyways I won't dig deep about myself... I know myself just want to be sure of my marriage...
In my community a young guy at 22 that knows what his doing can get marry and settle perfectly fine...

What delayed me till now is my education.. I hope you understand now?

Torylanez:


Myopic reasoning is a praise ?

You kids on this platform need to learn how to make convo without insulting someone

Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons

She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.

I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.

Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.

Matured advice please

Klass99:


How you are not able to see anything wrong with the threat of suicide and this entire family you want to marry into, is beyond me I swear . The fact that you are here questioning your intent to marry and seeking advice suggests that you are not 100% certain or convinced you'll be doing the best thing for yourself if you marry her.

Forget all this my mother supports, her parents agreed and support, she is a good girl etcetera. Of course, her parents will agree and support because you are handling a crucial responsibility of theirs by taking care of their daughter for them, even before you've married her. That they've turned down 3 suitors doesn't mean you are the apple of their eye o! It's possible those suitors no hold pepper like you.

There's nothing in your original post to even indicate this girl is a good girl like you and others claim. Have you forgotten that in Naija you marry a whole family and not just an individual? The way I perceive your potential in-laws from the little I've read ehn, if you were my brother or friend, I will tell you to please abandon project and re-route, good girls are available she is not the only one in that category.

A friend of mine (Richard) is married to a last born of a family (Sharon) Sharon's older siblings are in the habit of asking and pressuring her for financial assistance because they believe Richard is well to do. Richard is not stunningly rich but he is doing well for himself, Sharon doesn't work but owns a tailoring shop with unreliable income because her customers can owe for Africa.

Richard gave Sharon the children's school fees to pay one time and rather than pay it, she surrendered to the pressure from one of her siblings and gave out the money without informing Richard until the school started calling for their money. Richard's in-laws and your potential in-laws are not any different if you ask me because you are both plagued with insensitive and parasitic in-laws who see you as their meal ticket.

Good girls and good in-laws are not extinct or hard to find, like people claim. There are too many people on the face of this earth (and in Naija alone) to limit yourself to that sort of thinking. Thoughts become things, if you think there are no good girls that will be your reality sooner or later. If you think there are good girls, that will be your reality as well.

The two of you are even young, those your in-laws go use una head die, while playing the seniority card and disrespecting both of you in the process. At least Richard na old and experienced guy, his in-laws arrange themselves well with just one look and a few words from him.

Teleprompter:
At 22, you can not really ascertain your woman's true character. She might be acting nice because you are her provider. She does not have to bring suicide into the matter.
I would not also trust the parents who are alive and comfortable with the fact that you are paying the daughter's school fees as a boyfriend.
Those brothers would not go away even if you ignore them. Their behaviour is as a result of bad upbringing. If it was just one I the brothers acting like a beggar, I would not judge them but for all four to be like this is not the kind of family that a young successful man should get entangled with...
You must find a way to test your woman for true love before going ahead to marry her.
At 24, you might be financially stable but for the Nigerian society, you might need to be a little older to be able to face the challenges of being a married man to an awkward family, at that.

AheadMarket:
Once you asked that question, then you shouldn't marry her

Golden147:


Lol...I know this advice will eventually surface...but let me ask you.. How do you know a man who is ready for marriage, does age count too or it's because I added my age and her age??

oyinda1599:
Sent you an email

Golden147:

It's a lie bro....if I add how much I have spent on the brothers you will pity me...the second son as I talk to you is oweing me 250k nd has refused to pay me...keep giving me excuses....she knows about it...
As a man, you can't endure all this, I have seek advice from different individual.. everyone conderms such act.... By the brothers..... anyways you won't know... match I spent 45k to make sure the last BRO was realized after involving in rubbish act...
Anyways..thank you for your advice.

stanley29:



You are the one stupid, because you have no sense of reasoning, that your father or brothers married late does not mean that everyone will marry like that, your mentality is what will keep people like you till 50 yrs before marrying.

Did he borrow money from you, or is it your life? Your type is can never be a source of encouragement to anyone.