BRATISLAVA:


I don't watch it, but they sound like the usual arrogant sex addict types. Without access to money, what do they have to offer any woman? Finishing condoms, bullying themselves and flogging themselves?

You don't want intelligent women, that's why you see it as rivalry. Which is exactly what was being said.

Why must her ideas upscale the man? Most Nigerian men are just looking for a woman they can stand on who will build them while they give nothing in return except judgement. What happened to a man developing himself instead of looking for a woman who isn't his mother to do that? What sort of liability is that? Let men build themselves to the point where they can be in a relationship, financially and character wise

Way too many unrealistic expectations for women. Nigerian men don't even try to understand women, yet they expect to be understood.

This thread has exposed them.

Since you emphatical stated you don't watch the show ... OBJECTION OVER RULED ! order !

without money a man, can still offer a woman a roof, protection, last name/title nd above all motherhood
A woman's idea is suppose to compliment her man's idea cos the woman is emphatically registered as an helper ... its in the neck best interest to keep the head focus not the other way. most naija gurlz are into ready made men which depict most naija men developed themselves ... whether una help or not it takes nothing from us. from reality stats women are the ones leeching on men which affirms men are more developed, go to the mall n come back n tell me naija men aint financially capable.
How can men understand women, when its crystal clear women don't even know what they want ... last sunday ebuka asked queen who she loves in the house .. she said pere cos he is talk, dark n handsome, then cross cos he looks good and finally whitemoney cos he is fair in complexion ..is that the gender i will waste my time to understand cumma be going

Caramia2020:

There's no need to mock anybody, their time will surely come.

Not everyone is destined for marriage.U are not God

They regretted last

MALIGNANTGuest:
Okk
Many should reject more.
That's my prayer.
MEN should be made to retrace their steps too.
They have really messed up Big Time.
IF the Lady you have around you isn't an asset to you, then what business do u have with her?

I still don't understand how some hardworking men will obviously see a LIABILITY & walk straight into her life.
What magic is more than that.?
This is something even empowered LADIES will never attempt

Wats this pained bitter feminist saying? Did u even understand the topic? If all women reject proposal do u think men will suffer or do u think all women would be so gullible as u are?

My religion dictates that a wife should submit to her husband in all things, so therefore I reject marriage proposal because:
1) I know I can never submit to the man in question. I can't imagine myself submitting to a clueless man who is terrible at making decisions. I can't imagine submitting to nonsense for the rest of my life.
2) a selfish man who cares only about himself and doesn't have my best interest at heart.
3) a man I cannot flow with on a spiritual and intellectual level.
4) a man that cannot to be a good leader in the home, good father or role model to my future children.
5) A man that lacks good character, discipline and self control when it comes to women, anger and money.
Contrary to popular opinion, beauty and financial capabilities is the least on my list

Verysmart101:


Not everyone is destined for marriage.U are not God

It's a reality n I av never dispute dat fact. Y are u attacking me?

reason to do what meanwhile lets make money

Romanoff:
Hmmnn.

Might not be a proposal but someone who claimed he wanted a relationship with me cause he wants to marry me said something when we were getting to know each other. This is what he said that made me turn back and face my father's house, "I am sorry to say this, but a man is not complete without a male child".

Since I knew that I didn't have a store house for male children nor did I have a guarantee of bearing him a son, I told him I wasn't interested in the relationship or marriage.

To my surprise, dude insisted on knowing why I turned him down after some months, I told him his comment about male children put me off. He tried to convince me he didn't mean it the way I saw it but I just wasn't convinced.

Ladies don't like honest people.Do u think majority of men would enter marriage without having a male child at the back of their mind?Even if ur nxt boyfriend or would-be husband does say anything about it,just don't have a male(it's not ur portion) u will understand reality

okwadatigbogal:


Mark my words, people will mock you mercilessly in this life! You will forever be an object of ridicule! You people just open your useless mouth WAAA....

BTW, If you like think I am bitter, nah you sabi!

Are u an evening newspaper? Did he refer to you?

We were not compatible for some
While others I foresaw doom with the marriage
I can discern by Gods Grace so nothing takes me unaware except God wants it so
I mostly see where I’ll end up if I accept their proposal

Caramia2020:

It's a reality n I av never dispute dat fact. Y are u attacking me?

No am not! Does the truth come as an attack to you?

Caramia2020:

It's a reality n I av never dispute dat fact. Y are u attacking me?

No am not.Does the truth come as an attack to you?

HE DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO FVCK.

Verysmart101:

No am not! Does the truth come as an attack to you?

Lol, I can't be God n I av never judge anyone in anyway, so pls move ahead bcoz I know dat it's African mentality dat everyone must married. We move.

Randy100:
Seriously, it's you that don't understand advanced Biology. I come in violence peace is overated.

Indaboski, you are not a preacher of peace at all.

Verysmart101:


Ladies don't like honest people.Do u think majority of men would enter marriage without having a male child at the back of their mind?Even if ur nxt boyfriend or would-be husband does say anything about it,just don't have a male(it's not ur portion) u will understand reality

I could have chosen to not tell him and just moved on. It was a conversation that led to it and that's how I get to know people. By listening to what they say.

My husband doesn't think like that. And I'm thankful God opened my eyes to see. I'm thankful I didn't enter one chance.

Thank God and thank you.

Romanoff:


Well, he didn't come to beg. He came to find out why. He's entitled to his opinion and I'm entitled to mine. It doesn't mean I'm feeling myself.

I am married and I believe he's well on his way to getting married or even married already.

So why e dey pain you?

You are so calm and mature in your responses.I like you for that.

Hammergirl:
Due to my health status, I have developed fear for marriage. So I deliberately send them away.

Or you’re still heart broke from the “osu” you wanted to marry?

catwalq:
When I talk: You want to show me that you're intelligent.

When I don't talk: You think you are too intelligent and this is beneath you.

that is inferiority complex in disguise. An intelligent man will want an intelligent woman.

MALIGNANTGuest:
Okk
Many should reject more.
That's my prayer.
MEN should be made to retrace their steps too.
They have really messed up Big Time.
IF the Lady you have around you isn't an asset to you, then what business do u have with her?

I still don't understand how some hardworking men will obviously see a LIABILITY & walk straight into her life.
What magic is more than that.?
This is something even empowered LADIES will never attempt

This is something even empowered LADIES will never attempt Gbam... Women will go for higher than their level. I realize quite late that if men play the game the way women do, there will be less and less heartbreaks.

CharisEleos:


Your opinion.

i dey my house cumma beat me

CharisEleos:


Wow interesting!

I know i should have helped but you know how irritating that thing can be and I felt for someone of his status he should have consulted a doctor or specialist and gotten rid of it. not letting anyone see it.
Another problem is, he was always touching it. so the thought of touching me with that hand just put me off altogether.

Funnily enough, as soon as he started courting another Sister ( she's in the medical line) the thing just cleared off completely even before their wedding. I guess she advised him to do something about it.

siofra:
He was a redpiller

Tueh!!!

you were slab one

baby124:

Your fellow association of redpillers are the ones that like marriage the most. When they are rejected, they carry red piller banner till they find the next girl to force or deceive into marriage.

Everybody gets rejected. You will not meet someone who has not been rejected be4. Differnt things drive different ppl to the red pill. Whatever it is that Drives somebody to the truth is fine with me.

Mscheew. A question better suited for Quora and Reddit. This place is full of juveniles so the thread can hit ten pages, but only five or less posts will relate to the subject matter.

Klass99:
Caveat - Oversabi, ITK and opinionated people, please miss me with your criticisms and judgment this afternoon.

Richard - Wanted kids, four kids in particular and I don't want to have children. I'm interested in marriage for the companionship and sex only. Secondly, as an Igbo man I knew that even if I wanted children but didn't give birth to a male child that would be a whole new problem on its own, so I declined his proposal and truthfully told him my reasons.

Nathan - Proposed at a time I was going through some life issues, my emotions were all over the place and my head wasn't in the right space. Besides that, I sensed he was holding back himself in some ways and not being 100% real with me, so I passed. We are still in touch and he often claims he really wanted to marry me, but my 6th sense wasn't buying it then.

Tony - Wanted us to get married as soon as I finished school (I was in my final year when we met and started dating) but I had spent all my life in our home state and I just wanted to break free, broaden my horizons and pursue the desires in my heart which was basically self sufficiency and financial independence.

One of my siblings worked and lived in Lagos at the time, she and 2 other ladies were doing a flat share in a 3 bedroom apartment. Whenever I visited from school I was always so impressed by the fact that 3 women were holding it down and paying their bills, without runs or prostitution. They all worked in different organizations but would each contribute towards the rent, cleaning services, food stuff and other bills, while maintaining a really good relationship with each other. They were an excellent example of the sort of woman I could be.

Apart from that I loved reading books while in school and one author in particular James Patterson exposed my mind to a world of possibilities with his book series ''The Women's Murder Club.'' He characterized 4 women who worked in different fields but formed a friendship and would regularly hang out to discuss their lives, work, a murder case and everything in between. One was a cop, another a reporter, there was a pathologist and a DA (lawyer) Each of his characters were depicted as honest hard working women, with a life of their own, which inspired and tripped me to pieces. It was a work of fiction but it had a remarkable impact on my mind.

Coupled with my book reading and Lagos experience, the last thing on my mind after school was marriage. So, when Tony proposed and was mounting pressure, my heart and soul yearned for an entirely different thing.

Fictional or real names?

Redpillar:
Thread for ladies, 95% comments would be from men. Spits on this generation of talkative males.

Ahhhhh, babeeee, asinnn! You just expressed my anger at these men! What the fúck is wrong with them?? What the fúck?? Do they not know how to keep quiet?! What kind of women do they date? How?! How do they keep relationships? I'm-!!! Damn!

justscorchone:

[s]Women dey enter road to hookup with strangers , you think they are scared of common post? They don't have anything tangible to say, I know alot of women that complain of being single but then the number of gentlemen lining up just to kiss where they walk are not given a chance. I guarantee you this women don't know what they want.[/s]

Shut the fk up, joor. Women don't have anything tangible to say yen yen yen yen yen. Because of comments like yours! Nonsense.

No be una tok say women love no genuine? So they should accept proposal from guys they don't like/feel, cheat on them tomorrow and you'll still come to bash them tomorrow?? I don't know where you people's brand of ment was imported from. Women are desperate, yet they are not accepting marriage proposals.

Romanoff:


I know too many women raising their daughters alone cause their husbands threw them out for not having male children.

I learn from experiences o.

Wow. yOu DoN't MeAn ThIs. Kondomatic would disagree o. From a very justified logical stance. Mba. This must be in your imaginations.

Klass99:
Caveat - Oversabi, ITK and opinionated people, please miss me with your criticisms and judgment this afternoon.

Richard - Wanted kids, four kids in particular and I don't want to have children. I'm interested in marriage for the companionship and sex only. Secondly, as an Igbo man I knew that even if I wanted children but didn't give birth to a male child that would be a whole new problem on its own, so I declined his proposal and truthfully told him my reasons.

Nathan - Proposed at a time I was going through some life issues, my emotions were all over the place and my head wasn't in the right space. Besides that, I sensed he was holding back himself in some ways and not being 100% real with me, so I passed. We are still in touch and he often claims he really wanted to marry me, but my 6th sense wasn't buying it then.

Tony - Wanted us to get married as soon as I finished school (I was in my final year when we met and started dating) but I had spent all my life in our home state and I just wanted to break free, broaden my horizons and pursue the desires in my heart which was basically self sufficiency and financial independence.

One of my siblings worked and lived in Lagos at the time, she and 2 other ladies were doing a flat share in a 3 bedroom apartment. Whenever I visited from school I was always so impressed by the fact that 3 women were holding it down and paying their bills, without runs or prostitution. They all worked in different organizations but would each contribute towards the rent, cleaning services, food stuff and other bills, while maintaining a really good relationship with each other. They were an excellent example of the sort of woman I could be.

Apart from that I loved reading books while in school and one author in particular James Patterson exposed my mind to a world of possibilities with his book series ''The Women's Murder Club.'' He characterized 4 women who worked in different fields but formed a friendship and would regularly hang out to discuss their lives, work, a murder case and everything in between. One was a cop, another a reporter, there was a pathologist and a DA (lawyer) Each of his characters were depicted as honest hard working women, with a life of their own, which inspired and tripped me to pieces. It was a work of fiction but it had a remarkable impact on my mind.

Coupled with my book reading and Lagos experience, the last thing on my mind after school was marriage. So, when Tony proposed and was mounting pressure, my heart and soul yearned for an entirely different thing.

Wow. This is so refreshingly lovely and beautiful to read.

I love James Patterson! And I'm going to go find that novel you mentioned because of this comment.

BRATISLAVA:


That's some serious low esteem. But something common among Nigerian men.

They want intelligent women, but when they get one, they will gravitate towards the ones that aren't, so that they can feel smart.

They talk with two sides of their mouths.

I have studied low self esteem and its effect on Nigerians especially Nigerian men.
That's the bane of our problem.

We need functional psychologists in this country.
No matter how rich and well connected they are, majority, I mean vast majority have very low self esteem. That's why a politician will steal cos to them, money means power. A clergy man will leave preaching love to preaching and acquiring by all means at the expense of his adherents

Without re orientation, we are going nowhere