sauer:

Nothing absolutely wrong with a woman working. It's perhaps the best option. Women should have as many opportunities/chances as men here; and a man'll be doing his wife/girl the greatest evil if he simply locks her up at home with the tv

Somaliland:

As soon as she has kids sxb she should stay at home laakiin if there are no kids or they are act school part-time job waa fiicaan.

Actually waa appreciated I don't want her sponging off me you get me bro.

Advocator:

They ought to be given credits, women are strong species. I don't we men would be able to do that. Sxb, xabadko yar labax, kadadici inadh jaceshahay, biloyin kabaxdi kuqabo, is kulul ugogudadi. Wey iney ogadan shaxari inad tahay. 

Advocator:

Great points. But you know they are traditional women who prefer not to work. They don't believe in the ideology of 50/50 in a relationship. What do you say about that?

Juggling work, the house chores, satisfying her man's need, kids and school! How do women do that?

sauer:

o'cos there are such women. Though have got no place for them, I think it's ultimately left to the woman to decide. The man's got to give her freedom to do what she wants to do, and then kinda blend that with the family. In my world, men and women are really equal, forget child bearing(rearing). . .
Second thing, u berra speak in english in here!

Advocator:

Mid marabta inan faraha kugu fiqo?

Advocator:

OK, the 1st one is midan ceynaye, mid labadnah wa kushegi dona. Hit the high notes and score sxbb when you get in the ciyar.

Advocator:

You confused you, you oppose stay home women yet you are tellingus it is a woman's choice to decide that for herself. But you are already against her wishes? Am I missing something. Women & men are diff' species, they equality lays in the nature bedder, put that in mind kid.

You are the 2nd person to tell me what to do, how does it bother you if I chat in a language that I understand for a hour? Something tells me that you are not n8ja. After reading your post about "Dem somali girls" it even make me more convince that you are a foreigner who is acting like a naija

sauer:

o'cos there are such women. Though have got no place for them, I think it's ultimately left to the woman to decide. The man's got to give her freedom to do what she wants to do, and then kinda blend that with the family. In my world, men and women are really equal, forget child bearing(rearing). . .
Second thing, u berra speak in english in here!

BABE!:

Well, if he tells me to stop working and be a stay-home mum. Fine!   No problem! Aren't we all working to get paid (most of us). Free kudi.

But on the following conditions:

1) I will be getting the same amount of money (like if I was working) from him or even more.

2) He would pay back my parents all the money they've spent on my education starting from Nursery school till Medical school, and extra money for all the stress.

If the two conditions are met, then no problem. We have a deal.  

Advocator:

They ought to be given credits, women are strong species. I don't we men would be able to do that.

Somaliland:

Haha. Waa sidaas sxb you gotta play the game to win  

sauer:

Apparently u didn't read my post. U didnt read that 'I have got no place for women who wont work'? Well, boy, u dont know me, so quit the profiling.
My point is, it's the woman's decision. How that goes with her guy is the guy's biz?

Second thing again, people are supposed to understand one another here, hence english as the medium of communication. U really do need to get yourself sorted. . .

BABE!:

Well, if he tells me to stop working and be a stay-home mum. Fine!   No problem! Aren't we all working to get paid (most of us). Free kudi.

But on the following conditions:

1) I will be getting the same amount of money (like if I was working) from him or even more.

2) He would pay back my parents all the money they've spent on my education starting from Nursery school till Medical school, and extra money for all the stress.

If  the two conditions are met, then no problem. We have a deal.  

Somaliland:

Hopefully all woman don't think like that or I think my wallet just broke

BABE!:

Haha--- wasn't he the one that said I should quit my career. Well, if he insists, those conditions have to be met.

omo_to_dun:

Advocator, allow me to say that you are wrong. I know men who can do that. Tons of men can do it. As intelligent as you are, I was completely surprised that you would resort to a generalization without facts to back it up. And what language is that?

BABE!:

Haha--- wasn't he the one that said I should quit my career.? Well, if he insists, those conditions have to be met.

@Advo---If it's not gonna work then, I ain't quiting sh1t.

Advocator:
Ladies, would you put up with a financially abusive relationship? If your husband would tell you to quit your job so you can stay home and take care of the kids, would you do it? What if he would allow you to work but wants to control your pay checks and does not give you the opportunity to make any financial decisions, would you be fine with this encirclement?

Men too can have the views on this subject.

BABE!:

Advo:
You may? **scoffs** and you want her to quit her "life".

LOL@ Gives birth to your own soccer team. You're a joke.

ogugua88:

It's my dream to financially assist any long-term boyfriend/husband of mine while raising children. I know a lot of men that don't like women who only stay at home and tend to the home and children. So, I would find it weird initially. If he can give me good reason and doesn't mind me doing it, then sure, I'm fine with it, under the condition that his job pays him enough to maintain the family and home financially. I don't think I'd be locked up with the tv lol. Even now, when I have days where I'm not working or I'm home alone, I don't spend that time watching tv. I'm usually cleaning, running errands, getting things ready for dinner, walking the dog, reading, on NL. . . I'd be fine.

If I'm working, he has no right to control my paychecks. I make the money, so any check that has my name on it, I can decide where it goes, or at least have some input in financial decision. He can't control me in that sense though. Absolutely not. I'm working for the family, not just him.

ogugua88:

Lol, yeah, a lot would. Not me though. Spending money that's not mine leaves me with the worst guilt trip. I'd prefer it if I could work. If I won't be working, I'd only ask that he leaves me a certain allotment of money for grocery shopping and gas at most. I'll only complain when my hard, diligent work goes unnoticed