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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by ADude(m): 10:29am On Sep 04, 2021 |
passionguy:My friend just like anther poster said allow him cooloff in prison for a longtime forget this family image been destroyed you kept yammering about. Let him know you all can't wait for him to die off nobody coming to his rescue. My immediate younger brother acted same before he get sense, he knew without been told that I no send am infact I use to tell him he can go kill himself or die the next day for all I care life goes on for us the living. You need to be the big brother man, a hard one, somebody he will come to respect. Even in those days he fears and respect me. When he does come around water him with love and rally him along the family goals and dream, more importantly his contribution in the whole progress. 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by becky39000(m): 10:41am On Sep 04, 2021 |
passionguy: That is exactly what gives the Boy the guts to keep on committing more atrocities. Forget family image. He should be left to learn the hard way by facing the consequences of his actions 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Fantazy(m): 10:51am On Sep 04, 2021 |
Pray for him to stop Stealing, that's the only problem he has. Others you mentioned are normal. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Brunosamel(m): 11:01am On Sep 04, 2021 |
passionguy:my advice find a way to send him to military base to stay if that is possible when he stays there like 2 years his head go correct |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Damian10(m): 11:17am On Sep 04, 2021 |
I understand every bit of what you have said because i had a family member on such horrible ride, but glory to God he is back humble, hard working and devoted again all thanks to mom prayers and never we as family never relenting on helping him, mom woluld take a photo of him to our church crusade often believing in God power of effecing change. I don't intend getting preachy but bro, my brothers was a perfect example of "nothing God cannot do" infact we the sibblings lost all hope in him i personally wanted him jailed forever for the emotional wreck he caused us all. He got us stigmatised with his many troubles, drunkenness, pilfering, violence, touting and all vices the human mind can think of. But bro pls you people shouldn't give up on him that is what family is all about, never stop trying to talk to him, praying for him even though it seems it's not working God is forever Alive. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Damian10(m): 11:20am On Sep 04, 2021 |
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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by bepositive11: 11:54am On Sep 04, 2021 |
passionguy: Sounds like your brother is a sociopath. I read in another comment that you lost your dad years back, so you come from a broken home. Childhood trauma and abandonment and abuse are what usually create sociopaths. The mistake your family is making is you're enabling his bad behaviour by continuously bailing him out. We usually avoid bad behaviour because we don't want to face the consequences. But since your family keeps bailing him out, you're not allowing him to deal with the consequences of his actions, and that's why he keeps doing it Your brother will need therapy. But still, he needs to decide to change for himself. The only way he can decide is by dealing with the consequences of his bad behaviour and deciding that he no longer wants to face them 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by FRANKOSKI(m): 11:56am On Sep 04, 2021 |
TELL JESUS ABOUT IT. 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 12:20pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
madjune:Oh, now you open up about the pagans origin of your belief. Why did you bother mentioning the Bible earlier? Where you ashamed of mentioning that your belief is not of, or something? Please stop confusing yourself thinking you confuse me in someway. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 12:22pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Danjikanbauchi:How you arrive at this being "spiritual "? |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 12:28pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
bepositive11:What broken home? Since when does loosing one's father at age 19 amount to childhood trauma and abandonment? ROFLMAO You read own book upside down abi? |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by alhaji04: 12:35pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Well. I came late. But why not try talk to him or someone he respect so much should talk to him.. Again the family should sit him down and advice him and also try to help him. I guess if the family could open a business or an office to keep him busy.. Him go change small small . It's not an overnight stuff. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nonsky048: 12:45pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
passionguy:all he needs is to be flown out of the country so that he can concentrate and focus on his goals... because once he still remains in Nigeria especially around the same area he problems will still continue. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 1:15pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Nonsky048:what goal would that be? crime? 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by MorningStar233: 1:20pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
passionguy: The family image has already been affected by his actions..just allow that boy to be thoroughly massaged.. and then pray for him |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by hahn(m): 1:35pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
passionguy: Maybe he's on hard drugs like gbana. He needs rehab. Next time he bleeps up you guys should leave him at then station. That is natural rehab |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by madjune(m): 1:48pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: I strongly believe you're the problem child in your family. That "brother" is fake. And it's actually you. Go fix yourself. Stop asking for advice that you don't need. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 1:50pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
madjune:ROFLMAO |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by OnimiB: 2:56pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
With bet9ja in these country so many lives will be destroyed. No one want to listen to the secret cries and the pains of those who are bet9ja victims. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by bepositive11: 4:01pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Parent loss falls under abandonment and depending on the circumstances under which he loss his dad, it may also fall under trauma But ya, since he was 19, "childhood" may not applicable. It depends on how independent and self sufficient he was at that time But I double checked OP's comment, he said that "My dad is late since 2015. Before then my dad wasn't in the country for more than 5years.", so his brother wasn't with his dad since 14 or less, so "childhood abandonment" applies And parents can be around/alive and still abandon their kids A lot of the problems we have today stems from kids being brought up in dysfunctional homes. Our childhood has such a huge impact on us and our lives. I used to struggle with a lot of issues until I did self therapy which required me to address my childhood. And then it all became clear. All the issues I had was a result of the abuse, abandonment, and trauma I faced in my childhood. I'm in a much better place now because I addressed them |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Ofadaman(m): 5:37pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Lol, y'all care too much that's why. He's doing all this knowing you'd scold him or bail him out of trouble. I also lived a rough life , bad neighborhood and felt I was tough, my fams cared too much, after the issue got too much , my mum informed my elder brother, the dude who's pretty calm and quiet returned from SA one december,and without saying a word, he asked me to join him for a trip which ended up in the south Africa, in the heart of Jborg, and Sunnyside. I saw crime, trickery, schemes and so much violence in so little time, I wondered how a calm looking dude could indulge or even survived in such place environment. After three months ,I begged to return home, there are levels to these things, he's still starting ,Shebi it's just gambling ,lie and stealing. He's not tasted blood or have his ears chopped off , ,or a gun pointed to his brain, or see a friend butchered to pieces or spent hard time in prison. These days when I see people act tough, I just smile and laugh,they have not seen nothing, there are levels to these things. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by GiZcorp: 5:44pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Buy him a laptop and data, not everyone must be good. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Habib101: 5:48pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Agreed, but what do u think the problem might be |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 8:03pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
Habib101:I would need to actually examine the boy to understand that. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by MummyD2020(f): 10:22pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
passionguy: No vex, this one make me burst laff. I can relate, honestly. Time heals all wounds. If there is money, send him abroad |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by XDaBOSS(m): 10:52pm On Sep 04, 2021 |
GAZZUZZ: It can happen if they truly want him to change for good |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Habib101: 6:17pm On Sep 05, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:yeeaa |
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