pocohantas:
Nothing wrong in what the uncle did. It is just like marrying a first son with many younger siblings in the university. His father is diabetic and the mum has arthritis, so they need routine drugs. His two sisters that married ended up with broke men and would sometimes call for school fees.

Except you are ready to be their family enemy, any sane lady should japa when she sees this setup.

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

RightToReject:
Prosperity doesn't automatically follow the rule of all these too clever by half permutations. His life, and that of the lady's siblings, might equally change for good if he had married her - assuming that she possessed all of the other realistic things he needed in a companion. It's only people who haven't been at the forefront in the pursuit of real advancement or haven't seen people's economic fortunes turn from good to bad, and vice versa, that would always fail to see money and status beyond what they're.

SimplyFacts:


You're very right with your words. Most nowaday men now have choices because they know most ladies put the condition (not love) of the guys' families into consideration before going on with marriage talks.

Very soon, paying bride price would be a thing of the past. Take it or leave it

The equality that our feminists seek would be duly achieved.

Magnoliaa:

With 500,000 gallons of pre- and post-wailings from y'all in accompaniment. See as you tok am like say na bad thing. Shuu? When Nkechi Bianze got married traditionally without bride price, who cry pass? Come on, goan sit down, my friend. Me, with 99 other feminists who may prefer a traditional marriage without the bride price will do so and y'all can ONLY cry! Cry over the aspects of the culture we'll choose to modify for our wishes.

pansophist:
For me, it is not about material (financial) brokenness but the mental one. Poor people have a predatory mindset developed over a sustained period of scarcity. Any sign of abundance (e.g, rich boyfriend) is seen as a fleeting resource to exploit, ransack and parasite from. Their personal responsibility will be projected to the other party and made to feel guilty if he refuses to accept such conditions in a relationship. Their family problem becomes yours to carry with pressure coming from different angles like sharp bullet forcing you to comply.

Poor people usually do not understand the concept of a mutual relationship, its all about what they will benefit only. Ultimately, the difference between the rich and the poor is their mindset. A rich person going for a broke woman is like throwing foods to hungry fish, you will be devoured. While the smart one realizes to leave poor people alone and let them date each other, seems they understand themselves better. Different mindset.

Yusufisraelj:


There's three approach to this.

1. Jakpa; which show's the least form of true affection for the lady.

2. Accept and put a limit to how much you can help but more importantly teach older ones how to fish. This shows some level of resolve on the guys part to the lady.

3. Learn and Make money that's way beyond your needs and family, like Dangote, Bezos or Bill Gates.

But I think love that works best and long term is the one that was grown and tested through the gives and takes of life. The uncle made a weak decision in my estimation, however different strokes for different folks.

seyz91:
Abi na

No time

kinzation:

Naso baba mi

Man must wise and not be blinded by love

seyz91:
I tell you!

posty56:
what if the person is hardworking but still can't foot bills? I know people that are hardworking yet are struggling to pay bills na hardworking I go chop? abi na hardworking I go wear for body? guy rest. imagine a hard-working lady but is broke and a person like dj cuppy who has everything on a platter of gold tell me who will you go for? rest with your hardworking lol, my analogy no get k-leg, person wey get ear make in hear.

BinamRex:
This is the opposite of what I'd do. I wouldn't ditch a lady because she is from a poor family and she has too many siblings. My business would always need an extra hand. I'll employ them in my businesses but they wont deal with money, just work work work work.

I won't give them free money. They must learn that there is dignity in labour.

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.