Raalsalghul:


Believe it or not, there are still smart broke guys in real life who are not interested in perpetuating generational poverty.

pocohantas:


That was not the premise of this discussion.

Do have a lovely century, Raalsalghul.

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

pansophist:
For me, it is not about material (financial) brokenness but the mental one. Poor people have a predatory mindset developed over a sustained period of scarcity. Any sign of abundance (e.g, rich boyfriend) is seen as a fleeting resource to exploit, ransack and parasite from. Their personal responsibility will be projected to the other party and made to feel guilty if he refuses to accept such conditions in a relationship. Their family problem becomes yours to carry with pressure coming from different angles like sharp bullet forcing you to comply.

Poor people usually do not understand the concept of a mutual relationship, its all about what they will benefit only. Ultimately, the difference between the rich and the poor is their mindset. A rich person going for a broke woman is like throwing foods to hungry fish, you will be devoured. While the smart one realizes to leave poor people alone and let them date each other, seems they understand themselves better. Different mindset.

pocohantas:
Nothing wrong in what the uncle did. It is just like marrying a first son with many younger siblings in the university. His father is diabetic and the mum has arthritis, so they need routine drugs. His two sisters that married ended up with broke men and would sometimes call for school fees.

Except you are ready to be their family enemy, any sane lady should japa when she sees this setup.

posty56:
Chai I wish I fit see that man, I for sell some of my stock market shares buy am drink!!, finally men are waking up relationship is not a poverty elevating scheme I can't date someone that is broke or below my financial level the man na original redipiller kudos, as for the lady you better go fine work ooh! na 21st century we dey the idea of men being the only one providing is stale.

Theboy21:
Well said

Vickyvice:

Raalsalghul:


Believe it or not, there are still smart broke guys in real life who are not interested in perpetuating generational poverty.

RightToReject:


It's a known fact that the poor's biggest problem is the fellow poor - so it's not surprising seeing the display of you poor/wannabe-rich elements against your very own, the lady in the story.

Meanwhile, one of the biggest dummies ever sold to you elements is that financial success determines one's mindset - value system and ethical leanings in general do.

A platform like this is truly a true leveler. Now scram and direct your further mention to small-minded people like you.

Citygal:
[s][/s]He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real. [s][/s]

RightToReject:
[s][/s]Prosperity doesn't automatically follow the rule of all these too clever by half permutations. His life, and that of the lady's siblings, might equally change for good if he had married her - assuming that she possessed all of the other realistic things he needed in a companion. It's only people who haven't been at the forefront in the pursuit of real advancement or haven't seen people's economic fortunes turn from good to bad, and vice versa, that would always fail to see money and status beyond what they're.[s][/s]

Raalsalghul:


I've always respected your views and opinions on Nairaland, but I'm a tad bit disappointed at the bold; to think people still believe that success is dependent on marriage partners is shocking.

Did you see the part where they mentioned the lady's siblings?

Poanan:


I hope you day this same thing when a lady refuses to marry a man cos she feels the man is below her level.

Raalsalghul:


Praise the uncle first, make him guilty second. Women!!!

A lady will not think twice about dropping a broke guy like hot potato.

Sometimes, it's good to feel what you folks dish out as well.

RightToReject =105412428:
Prosperity doesn't automatically follow the rule of all these too clever by half permutations. His life, and that of the lady's siblings, might equally change for good if he had married her - assuming that she possessed all of the other realistic things he needed in a companion. It's only people who haven't been at the forefront in the pursuit of real advancement or haven't seen people's economic fortunes turn from good to bad, and vice versa, that would always fail to see money and status beyond what they're.

RealSolution001:
What do you think? Right or wrong?

Uncle Charles 110 @AkwanCharles wrote: "My uncle refused to marry a lady because she has a lot of siblings with no dad and their income level wasn't that great. Sometimes love is not enough. He was just scared of savoring too many responsibilities and I agree with his decision."

Raalsalghul:


Well, this is one way to go about it.

You be real capitalist.

jesus19984:


[s][/s]I think his decision is understandable but, wrong.
Simetime in life, we need each other's shoulder to lean on. Assisting her siblings to succeed could end up being a plus to your future success.
Let's always learn to tolerate and assist ourselves.
What if any of that girl's siblings turns out to become a well sort after influential being in the future, knowing that you contributed to their success, don't you think you or your kids would have a lot to gain from them?

Let's try not to see this life the way it appears to us.

RightToReject:



[s][/s]I don't remember mentioning faith in that post, least of all saying that faith without grit and gumption can bring prosperity to anyone, as your opinion suggested. And the man in the story didn't state his financial standing, but from the connotation of the story, he wasn't at least as poor as the lady. That, by extension, means that it wasn't going to be a case of two absolute poor people on a journey. The fact is that prosperity isn't automatically made possible by one surrounding himself with the already made people; instead, with a support base, other things like grit, gumption, and positive energy, that don't take recognition of anyone's economic status, usually do. And marrying the lady - provided that she's scrupulous and in sync with him - wouldn't amount to him going into slavery for the family.

Well, take it from me that, apart from a natural cause, no ambitious, gumptious and gritty man, or woman, who before marriage has created and encrypted his path will go down after marrying from a supposed poor family, like the scenario under discussion, especially when the companion is scrupulous and in sync with him. Like I said to someone up there, one of the biggest dummies ever sold to people is that financial success determines one's mindset - value system and ethical leanings in general do.

I've always cringed on the idea of quantifying or relating with people based on their economic standing, especially when it involves an intimate relationship - I have a phobia for self-absorption and opportunism. In fact, about at least four different success transformation stories and show of appreciation I received within the last one month, and many others of such kinds that happen far and near continually, from most people I encountered in their not-too-good or worst financial moments, some as far back as sixteen years ago and did the little I could for them then, are some of the things that have always reinforced my belief in my philosophy. And in this same span of time under reference, I have also seen some reverses in conditions.

At the risk of sounding immodest, I've been in a vantage both in the formal and informal sectors a bit long and have always seen how things do change so quickly, many times for good, especially for the gritty and gumptious that operate independently in the informal sector of the global economy.

pocohantas:
Nothing wrong in what the uncle did. It is just like marrying a first son with many younger siblings in the university. His father is diabetic and the mum has arthritis, so they need routine drugs. His two sisters that married ended up with broke men and would sometimes call for school fees.

Except you are ready to be their family enemy, any sane lady should japa when she sees this setup.

kinzation:
Narrow escape

Make e no for turn all the burden for him head

bodybuilder:


Better safe than sorry

posty56:
love kee you dia lol, the man just Dodge a bullet he will live long because of his decision, imagine him being the only source of income do you know what that is! na steady thinking and HBP go kill am I Neva include children ooh, I dey talk of the hungry girl and her brothers, I will say it again, men avoid broke girls like plague you are not father and if the case was reverse she no go look your face cause you are broke. Adios.

CSTRR:
Well, women don't marry unconditionally either.

There must always be something to gain.

nijaomegacode:

Oga forget this long story. The man used his godgiven brain. No love should be blind.

Yusufisraelj:



Guy this your thinking get K leg small. Who said the guy has to shoulder the families responsibilities?

Look if she's a hardworking lady them that's a plus help her find something doing, her siblings put them for where them go learn handwork way them get passion for, that would help everyone succeed. Except if the family people don choose to day lazy then let him jakpa.

Else

As a result he the guy can never go down bkos he has raised people. All the lone ranger thinking no be am ooo my guy.