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Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by WoundedLamb: 5:23pm On Oct 01
baralatie:

To achieve what purpose?

The same purpose a DNA test achieves: the truth.

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Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Winters23: 5:24pm On Oct 01
Prechgold1180:


She nur think of suicide when she Dey sleep with person husband

Unah go just Dey talk Rubbish

Adviser nowamagbe abeg advise her make she go break another woman marriage Rubbish

Mumu man
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by bepositive11: 5:24pm On Oct 01
Raalsalghul:


Not just ladies, everyone. It gives me insight into their type of person.

How do you do a background check? Any helpful tips?
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Lollittaa: 5:24pm On Oct 01
Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.
how can I advise you when your story is full of half-truths?
1. You knew or at least suspected he was married.
2. You were scheming to trap him with pregnancy.

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Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by wallrichy: 5:24pm On Oct 01
Vision, I think your advise is the wisest.We ain't angel here and that could happen to anyone and infact thousands of Nigerian female have experienced such at one time or the other so nobody should come here and pretend to be the perfect angel. Op should have been careful and also could have used contraceptives throughout. However, the worst that could happen has happened and the solution and advise now to our sister is exactly what Vision stated here.

I hope you are financially okay though.

Inform the guy that you are keeping the pregnancy.

He has given you his own opinion that you should do whatever you like. I sensed here that he's a a bit indecisive cos he's afraid of home front, how his wife would feel of gets to know and at the same time, he does have a feeling for you, not wanting to take a drastic decision for you or rather not wanting to hurt your feelings in whatever you decide to do. He's on the fence on this issue cos he's scared and confused.

Really, I don't want to discourage the OP or push her to do the unthinkable. I really pray you are financially independent and go through this situation independently incase your man is still a Lilly livered son of a man. Don't involve the family or the wife at all. If you do, you wouldn't have peace of mind to think straight or plan well for your pregnancy and even the man too might turn to your enemy immediately. Just be careful and remember many have gone through this same road and thousands will still do but what you do with it to make your life worthwhile is what matter the most. Goodluck....


Vision101:
The name-calling for the op here is too much na. Remember that she is a pregnant woman. She needs peace of mind. It can happen to anyone.

First she said that they knew each other before, lost contact and reconnected. The man was insincere with her. When she got to know she had fallen deeply in love with him. I'm assuming that this lady is a soft-hearted person. The foolish man exploited it.

Don't get the wife or relations involved. Inform him that you will keep the baby. I just hope that you have a good source of income incase he disappoints you.

Brace up. You can never know what the baby will become in future and the foolish man will like to come around and lay paternity claim. That will be the time you will show him the negative side of yourself.

It's life lesson. You have learnt it the hard way.

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Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Prechgold1180(m): 5:25pm On Oct 01
Winters23:


Mumu man
You wey wise well done
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by baralatie(m): 5:25pm On Oct 01
WoundedLamb:


The same purpose a DNA test achieves: the truth.
What does the truth of the dna test of her pregnancy will hope to achieve and to whose control?
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Arizoner: 5:25pm On Oct 01
BKsoul:
Since you have already concluded, who am i to say no Thanks for the compliment....Idiot.
scumbag, cheap harlot, idiot
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by FutureIsFemale(f): 5:26pm On Oct 01
UDUJ:


You thought process is that of a poverty stricken leech. Sad undecided
And you did not see that he tried destroying her future?
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Kobojunkie: 5:27pm On Oct 01
Larrykaysail:
leave his wife out of this ? Why would want to keep a stolen sperm

My advice let the pregnancy go, don't turn urself to baby mama , Baby mama dey suffer o .

And most guy outthere don't want to marry baby mama .

Don't message his wife don't ruin their family .
Next time do no condom no sex
The woman is now a part of his family thanks to the man. So his wife and family have a right to know, don't they? undecided
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by UDUJ(m): 5:27pm On Oct 01
Lollittaa:

how can I advise you when your story is full of half-truths?
1. You knew or at least suspected he was married.
2. You were scheming to trap him with pregnancy.

You read my mind. The signals showing he was married was there all along, she just wanted to trap him with the pregnancy. I guess it backfired.

Let this be a stern warning to all those ladies going into relationships with open eyes with married men.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by UndauntedYOCA(f): 5:27pm On Oct 01
Avoid married men oooooo, you will also get married o!
Now that you're pregnant you'll bear the brunt of it and pray that he's supportive should you decide to keep the baby.
No go break person home o, na you put yourself for the kasala wey you dey so leave the poor woman and her kids out of it.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by mayemi(m): 5:28pm On Oct 01
I have never see were she is wrong.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by FutureIsFemale(f): 5:28pm On Oct 01
alizma:

She doesn't even have the heart to blackmail him. As stupid as it may sound, it is obvious the girl is In love with him but you couldn't see that in her writing
Ok.. Let her stay there till he destroys her future.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by lonelydora: 5:29pm On Oct 01
Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.

Leave his relatives and wife out of this, first. Let him know you are keeping the pregnancy and he should be ready to support you.

If he says, OK...you are good. If he says "To he!l with you", then threaten him you have found his wife and that you will go further to report to his place of work.

Meanwhile, una dey fvck raw?
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by UDUJ(m): 5:29pm On Oct 01
FutureIsFemale:
And you did not see that he tried destroying her future?

And you were not smart enough to see that she was not telling the whole truth, that she knew the man was married all along?
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by naturefellow(m): 5:29pm On Oct 01
As if problems of Nigeria at 61 ain't enough already

Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Kobojunkie: 5:29pm On Oct 01
questted:
You already know wat u r asking for is wrong. Prepare for life of single mother and leave the mans marriage alone
There is nothing like alone here since she is now part of the man's family by virtue of carrying his child. undecided
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by BKsoul(f): 5:29pm On Oct 01
Arizoner:
scumbag, cheap harlot, idiot
LMAO....E pain you? Am sorry baby.... But help me tell your mama i said she is a scumbag and a useless harlot that snatched someone else husband to birth a pussy nigga like you..... Son of a side chick ... Love you baby.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by baralatie(m): 5:30pm On Oct 01
mayemi:
I have never see were she is wrong.
The relationship with a married man or that she is pregnant for a married man or that she wants to write to the wife of the married man that she is pregnant for her husband?
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Blackdisciple(m): 5:30pm On Oct 01
Hmmm
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by baralatie(m): 5:31pm On Oct 01
Kobojunkie:
There is nothing like alone here since she is now part of the man's family by virtue of carrying his child. undecided
Is she the second wife ni?
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by akins33: 5:31pm On Oct 01
Ur plan is/was to take revenge by gettin pregnant..u were hurt he left u.
Even if u cant buy condoms..wat about withdrawal methods or drugs.
Truth is u knew ..he was married..

Mayb the first break up..was cos of ur wayward ways..which he tk adv off. who gets pregnant this days n threatens a man.

for ur info..sch fees,pampers,milk,kiddies clotshav increased.
3pieces of Plantain..is 1k.

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Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by MztaIkp(m): 5:31pm On Oct 01
You will mostly likely not have him. Be wise.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Nobody: 5:32pm On Oct 01
First lala....

Pregnancy nor dey break homes again....
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by baralatie(m): 5:33pm On Oct 01
Abragidi:
First lala....

Pregnancy nor dey break homes again....
Breaking news
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by uthlaw(m): 5:33pm On Oct 01
GOFRONT:
Everybody be blaming the lady......But they never blamed the shameless he goat of a man who neither regard his wife as anybody nor respect his marriage to start with by calling his raging penis to order.......

If it his wife that got pregnant by another man from outside marriage, then the man would start crying DNA upandan.....
keep quiet and face ur front....when d man approach,why she no reject!
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Midas01: 5:33pm On Oct 01
In all your foolish epistle, where is your blame for the wayward husband ?

Kilotat:
Quote me anywhere,
No Man will leave the woman he paid her bride price (mother of his Children) for another one that he just miss fucking or side Chick. When will women know that we men naturally like sex? Do you know we can tell side chick anything just to be seeing her pants on a daily bases?
If you like, tell the wife Everything, you will then know that belle no dey kill marriage again. Married women are wise now!
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by FutureIsFemale(f): 5:33pm On Oct 01
UDUJ:


And you were not smart enough to see that she was not telling the whole truth, that she knew the man was married all along?
And you were not wise enough to see that the man did not tell her his status right from onset?
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by PastorFire: 5:34pm On Oct 01
Prechgold1180:
When you they nack another woman husband you nur come nairaland to seek for advice

When you Dey shout harder herder ya killing me o
You nur seek for my advice

When the thing slip out nah u still carry your hand plug am back insyd
U nur call for advice

When u do round 2 u nur call for advice

Now u don get belle u Dey call for advice

See let me tell you

Belle nur Dey fit break marriage nowadays

Naija women don wise if u like u tell the wife she go vex for one week
But she nur go leave the man

So just get prepared for single mother life style
I fit give u tonto dikeh number for more enquiry on how to survive

Meanwhile first to comment


October go good be that
grin grin grin See wicked man..lol
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by zeeace(m): 5:34pm On Oct 01
Your senselessness and that of Buhari is on the same level. But e be like your own worse.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Scamburster(m): 5:34pm On Oct 01
Promotions:
I won't judge you..my advice for you is to keep the baby, get yourself a good job and life, move on from the man and pray God will bless you with a man that will take you and your child as his own... keep away from married men
Can you pray for your brother to marry this kind lady?. Always trying to sound nice.

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