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Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by pikechukwu6(m): 5:35pm On Oct 01
See wetin Buhari caused at 61 grin grin virginialism people... No go scatter person home sad sad

Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Stanleyq(m): 5:36pm On Oct 01
Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by femi4: 5:36pm On Oct 01
Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.
Just go to his family house and introduce yourself. Las las you ll end up as second wife or baby mama

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Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by OChimex: 5:37pm On Oct 01
Emmhychidi:


When she posted her story she had no right to morality again, we the public have every right to condemn her wrong doing and then proceed to advice her, but the one she is talki6 about texting his wife is more wrong... To prove what... If I am the man I would just lie...

And please advise to the man; go do DNA test when the child is born. It may be for another person...

I wish your own book of sins will be open, you might have done worse than her.

Then, she never gave advice only condmnation.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 5:38pm On Oct 01
GOFRONT:
Everybody be blaming the lady......But they never blamed the shameless he goat of a man who neither regard his wife as anybody nor respect his marriage to start with by calling his raging penis to order.......

If it his wife that got pregnant by another man from outside marriage, then the man would start crying DNA upandan.....
Now that she is pregnant for a married man, is it the man that will bear the burden of shame? If she tells the wife, she will be pissed off for a while but life will soon go on. When they say women should pity themselves, e get why. Continue being a woman wrapper you hear?
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by IamGreen1(f): 5:38pm On Oct 01
Foodqueen:
Congratulations on your new job as a stalker.

You go stalk, you go tire.

She must not be tired because the moment she stop that's when her life stop being miserable and that's the reward for her type.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Midas01: 5:39pm On Oct 01
So it's okay if they cheat, just not unprotected ?
Shemmyglo:
I don't know why married men will be having unprotected sex with another woman. Are people not scared of sexually transmitted diseases anymore? Even unwanted pregnancy too

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Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Stanleyq(m): 5:39pm On Oct 01
U girls are fond of opening legs to carry belle, u wont ask urself de outcome, what u are to do, bear the child, do not tell his family to ruin them, u will benefit from ur child in next 15 yrs and thank me then.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by chiedonedoor(m): 5:39pm On Oct 01
Your sin have found you out. Sin always bring shame and disgrace. Repent for the kingdom of God is at hand.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by UDUJ(m): 5:39pm On Oct 01
FutureIsFemale:
And you were not wise enough to see that the man did not tell her his status right from onset?

When a man refuses to take you to his home, but prefers to come have sex with you at your house or in a hotel should that not tell you he is hiding something? Or is that how your guy takes you to hotels or comes to your house as well? Or you are an expert in dating married men?
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by meeky247: 5:40pm On Oct 01
Upon all the days in a year u chose to tell us today that is Nigeria independence. Pls let nothing happen to that child and dont destroy another woman marriage. Its ur cross carry it.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Moneyboyz: 5:40pm On Oct 01
Most people on nairaland are not mature, someone asked for advice and you all are barking at her. You all should get a life, if you don't have positive things to contribute just shut the Bleep up.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Midas01: 5:40pm On Oct 01
Not the man who broke his vows....not the man who snooped around, cheated and got another woman pregnant, but it's the third party that is the home breaker....

You Nigerian men deserve all he paternity fraud you can get for not having sense.
Freestainworld:
Keep the baby, but bear in your mind that you are on the verge of wrecking another woman's home.

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Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by mercy87(m): 5:40pm On Oct 01
The man is a home breaker. He is the one breaking his own home. No respect to his marital vows atall. I wonder how we men empathise with ourselves even when we are wrong instead of looking at things objectively and logically. Is this how Nigeria will be better? We need to be accountable. It starts from the little things we do, from family before getting to the nation.

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Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by ETIIKO: 5:44pm On Oct 01
Please do anything that will maintain peace and at the same time prove how mature you are.
Reporting indirectly to his family members is absurd; communication is more important now. He may be thinking of you aborting the baby but invite him and have a word with him. Thank you

Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by oluwaahmed: 5:44pm On Oct 01
When u were f├╣cking the hell out 9f him, did u tell his wife, friends or relatives? Why do u want to involve them now? Home wrecker. Cant u carry the baby and STFU?
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by florixi: 5:44pm On Oct 01
Am not understanding??

when you said you; I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him

So which advice do you want now?. Onise ku se!

Abeg no come dey whinny person here jare.

Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by takimsipho(m): 5:45pm On Oct 01
Kobojunkie:
I don't understand your reasoning at all. undecided

What does it matter how many other single men approached her while she was in this relationship with this man? undecided

What does it matter to this story how some gals praise or don't praise sugar daddies? undecided

I really don't understand how what you have related here has to do with this story as told? undecided
It all matters and if you don't understand that you don't understand anything. She had choices to make to have prevented what has become of her. She just simplified everything in one post, did you know how long their relationship lasted. Or you think he didn't buy her gifts or gave her money when they were together. Baba her greed and poor decision making is what has brought her to this point. All this white knights call a spade a spade. You think if I know my sister is dating a married man, I would support her? Cos I know this is how it always ends
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by IamGreen1(f): 5:46pm On Oct 01
GOFRONT:
Everybody be blaming the lady......But they never blamed the shameless he goat of a man who neither regard his wife as anybody nor respect his marriage to start with by calling his raging penis to order.......

If it his wife that got pregnant by another man from outside marriage, then the man would start crying DNA upandan.....


You're right about this to some extent but have it in mind that this is one side of the story which I'm very sure that it's full of half truth and lies. She saying she 'want to keep the man to herself' is a trait of a psychopath, selfish, desperate and manipulative bitch. You won't be surprised that she maybe the one that has been emotionally blackmailing the guy to sleep with her.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by takimsipho(m): 5:48pm On Oct 01
udemzyudex:


This your talk no get head I swear.
Na you no get head to understand am.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by jodecibmw: 5:49pm On Oct 01
My advise to you first is that you should not contact his wife about the development, as that might destroy the marriage and cause more avoidable problems that might come back to haunt you. The best thing to do in this situation is to call the man and have a matured talk with him about the pregnancy telling him that you're keeping (i can't advice you to do abortion) the baby.

If the discussion is not reassuring then you must inform an older sister/aunt/cousin who is very understanding and close to your family to break the news to your mum/dad and let them be in the picture, that is provided you're still dependent on them for upkeep. They'll later get over the situation after the expected backlashing and bashing. They will now contact the man and ask him to come for discussions and how he may provide support. Note he may not marry you, as long as he agrees to be in the picture.

But if you're a working/entrepreneur adult, it should be a lot easier. Also it doesn't mean you can't still get married to your own man later in life. Don't make any hasty decisions that would complicate and worsen the issue. Allow your parents/guardians to contact the man and his relatives only if it has to come to that.

These kind of crazy mistakes happen in life, how you handle them and learn from them is what matters. Everyone messes up sometime in life, even do worse things than this, just brace up for the consequences, it's not the end of your life yet. Cheers!

Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.

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Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Kobojunkie: 5:50pm On Oct 01
takimsipho:
It all matters and if you don't understand that you don't understand anything. She had choices to make to have prevented what has become of her. She just simplified everything in one post, did you know how long their relationship lasted. Or you think he didn't buy her gifts or gave her money when they were together. Baba her greed and poor decision making is what has brought her to this point. All this white knights call a spade a spade. You think if I know my sister is dating a married man, I would support her? Cos I know this is how it always ends
Try to learn to not inject your personal biases into any story you read. That way you can infact pick up on exactly why the author is telling you. undecided

None of what you continue to infer makes sense as regards this story. undecided
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by UDUJ(m): 5:51pm On Oct 01
IamGreen1:



You're right about this to some extent but have it in mind that this is one side of the story which I'm very sure that it's full of have truth and lies. She saying she want to keep the man to herself is a trait of a psychopath, desperate and manipulative bitch. You won't be surprised that she maybe the one that has been emotionally blackmailing the guy to sleep with her.

Are you really a woman? If you are, you have my utmost respect for not having any gender bias and saying it as it is. Respect sis cool

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Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by nijaomegacode(m): 5:52pm On Oct 01
Prechgold1180:
When you they nack another woman husband you nur come nairaland to seek for advice

When you Dey shout harder herder ya killing me o
You nur seek for my advice

When the thing slip out nah u still carry your hand plug am back insyd
U nur call for advice

When u do round 2 u nur call for advice

Now u don get belle u Dey call for advice

See let me tell you

Belle nur Dey fit break marriage nowadays

Naija women don wise if u like u tell the wife she go vex for one week
But she nur go leave the man

So just get prepared for single mother life style
I fit give u tonto dikeh number for more enquiry on how to survive

Meanwhile first to comment


October go good be that
You nailed it!
Amen to good October!
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by debbydams(f): 5:52pm On Oct 01
Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.
pls abort the baby when u can..don't spoil someone marriage,when he told hes married u should have walk out of the relationship..I was in a relationship with a guy, the guy is cool nd rich I really love him I went extra miles for him after a month I find out he's married tru his brother I confronted him yet he still denied..it hurt but that was the end of everything,I told his brother if I had known hes married I wont give my number or go extra miles for him..married men is a big no for me,in fact if I love a guy nd I find out he has a gf, I'll walk out tho it might hurt..my dear pls abort the baby before its too late,I know abortion is not advisable but we still have expert in D & C.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Rhozabeth(m): 5:54pm On Oct 01
Na wa o! Girls of nowadays just Bleep anything and everything without protection! Mehn, i dey fear girls these days o!
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Nekky5(f): 5:54pm On Oct 01
Dear sis, I hope you have collated enough advice that you wanted on this issue. There are issues you do not bring up publicly especially when you know you are not strong enough to handle the responses coming from people you do not know anything about their lives. It is really sad but it has happened!!! Do not make the mistake of involving the wife of that guy because you wouldn't like the outcome. Forgive yourself first and do not think of terminating the pregnancy. Ask God for forgiveness and lean on his directions. All will be well afterwards.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Kobojunkie: 5:54pm On Oct 01
baralatie:

Is she the second wife ni?
She might as well be... unofficially at least, and he made that possible. undecided
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by princewarri1985: 5:55pm On Oct 01
Send his wife text about it you are very foolish for saying that and also trying to break another woman home and happiness, common sense suppose tell you say he is ghosting you because he does not want the baby, the wise thing to do is to get rid of the pregnancy or if you know you can afford to keep it you can keep it, delete the man from your life and move on, he is married for christ sake, MOD YOU NEED TO STOP PUSHING ALL THIS IRRELEVANT SHIT TO FRONT PAGE HE GET WHY
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by toren(f): 5:56pm On Oct 01
Prechgold1180:
When you they nack another woman husband you nur come nairaland to seek for advice


This your comment precious. E sweet die.

Crazy girl. She thinks calling the wife will make her leave so that she can enter. She wants to break another woman's home.

Foolish girl @Darhmmy having sex without condoms.
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Kilotat: 5:56pm On Oct 01
udemzyudex:


Quote you anywhere? Churchill no leave Tonto wey him pay bride price dey fvck him mistress wey he come later wife?

Una go dey yarn nonsense online with confidence, tufiakwa
Tonto dey smoke, and she dey Bleep around, Any man will leave that kind woman.
No dey talk Weytin you no know
Re: Help I'm Pregnant For A Married Man. by Kilotat: 5:58pm On Oct 01
toren:


This your comment precious. E sweet die.

Crazy girl. She thinks calling the wife will make her leave so that she can enter. She wants to break another woman's home.

Foolish girl @Darhmmy having sex without condoms.
No mind her, make she call the wife. Na that time she go know say belle no dey kill marriage for naija again, Married women don wise now

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