Babaken:

You have told us his bad side let's hear his good side.
You can also tell us your bad and good side so that we can balance the equation. Marriage is never a bed of roses.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.



You have all these signs and evidences and you're still planning to go ahead, sister think twice, marriage is not by force, the same you're running away for today may cause you ur life in the future!

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

millionboi:
have u died before, how do you know is better to be alive?

BRATISLAVA:


What could be better than being capable of battering her to death, after his romantic good sides?

If he kills her from beating her, all he has to do is flash his good side cards for you, and her bad side cards for you, and you will acquit him?

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

It is better you call off the wedding now and damn what the society will say because they will still have what to say when you start going through challenges in your marriage.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Bola146:


No I haven't, you can ask your elders

Phraences:


You need to see a psychiatrist. I think you love him beating you so people can tell you sorry. You love him beating you so you can come to Nairaland and write sob stories and have people commenting and giving advice. You love the attention. Or he is rich and you have not found a better rich maga. Since you love marriage so much and you are prepared to suffer for it, please go ahead.

Babaken:
In as much I don't support men raising their hands on wemen are you telling me there's nothing good that attract her towards the guy to the extend of accepting marriage proposer. A man will just wake up and start beating her for just nothing let's here from the both side.

Winters23:




I was in this situation 4yrs ago, date fixed and all, wife to be and her family decided to catch cruise on me I was like wtf...


I simply called it off


Can't come and kill myself on top my own money

mediaspy:
I wish I could talk to you privately. The truth is you should end it now. Reach out to me and I can guild you. I know why how you feel about the embarrassment, it is not easy but it has to end, reach out if you want someone to guild you through the situation. I am not a pastor, I am a married man with a clear understanding of life and marriage

BRATISLAVA:


He won't just wake up, but he did wake and beat her up, so what are you saying? Did you know that battery is a crime under Nigeria law? Did you know the police will arrest him without listening for his good side? If he's so good, why battering her?

You don't support it, yet you're looking for reasons to justify why a person commits the crime of battery, by asking for the the victim for the batterers good sides? Does that some how erase the blood spilled and the broken bones? If you don't support it, of what use are his good sides? Will the good side make him more marriageable? When he beats her to death, will you ask for his good sides too?

If you know you can marry a good woman with other qualities who beats you to a pulp, then advice OP to continue and list the good sides of the guy.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

BRATISLAVA:
This is a thread that goes to show you can not please people with your choices.

The same people telling her to run are the ones who frequently tell women that it's their mouths that get them beaten, that they deserve the beating because they made the man into a beast, and that a good woman is tender hearted and forgiving of the excesses of her man. They will even tell her to kneel and apologize to him, then use sellotape to keep shut for life just to be ideal wife material. Let's not forget the burden of prayers that women must do while men don't need heaven.

Suddenly they are saying otherwise? These people must be against the success of her impending wedding. Don't listen to single people who want you to be single too. Etc etc.

Sounds like a red pill piece of work, though. How do women meet and excuse these types of men? Is it that they don't date and see their interactions online, with their mothers and sisters, their exes and other people, too?

obowunmi:


That’s why it’s important to live life on your own terms.

Babaken:
The choice is hers to stay or not you are telling me a responsibile man will just wake up and start beating the person he claim to love to the extent of proposing to her did she tell you what she did that warrant the beating. When some of you hear that a man lay hands on a woman authentically the man is a beast the lady is an angel without asking the offense of the lady You that's preaching am very sure out of anger you may have lay your hands on your junior or kid's for things they did wrong you have been cautioning them for long.
The man is a woman beater he is not caring not romantic there's nothing good about the man still you accept his proposal seeking for opinion if to continue with the marriage or not.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.

Warrior14:
I will be getting married in 3 weeks time but I'm not happy
I'm getting married to a man who has beaten me two different times. I'm getting married to a man who is heartless and doesn't know how to love and treat a woman right. I'm getting married to a man who does not have a mind of his own.

I'm getting married but I'm already thinking of divorce.

I'm overwhelmed! I'm physically strong but I'm weak.
Just don't want to wake up from my sleep so I won't have to continue with this marriage plans as I can't stand the shame of calling off the marriage at this time.