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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by MummyD2020(f): 9:46pm On Oct 27, 2021
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
Any guyman wey insist on say him woman must chop belleful first before marriage,I no go too blame am.... Because the rate at which young ladies of nowadays take dey voluntarily dey offer their wombs to Yahoo boys for fetish reasons reach for any guyman wmey get sense to draw that kind rain undecided

Meaning say na still the guys dey damage the wombs any any how, com still dey find fresh babe or virgin wey go born for am.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Evercurious(f): 9:54pm On Oct 27, 2021
Calitoscassius:
Ofcourse, i am sure, cheesy; what i meant was the 2 that i know of i might have more that i don't know of, i was just been honest.

Well.. life is full with risks and adventures.

Friends is fine, we can start as friends. smiley

I ve sent you a message.

Lol okay... I ve responded
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Qualer: 10:18pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:


I dey my village.


which village? If I catch you ehn!!! I have ring for you oh!! grin grin cool
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:27pm On Oct 27, 2021
okuta007:
your position yesterday today and tomorrow but you can give kpekus to Morufu the carpenter who lives across the street because he cracks jokes that makes u laugh always and when he playfully touch your hair and body while engaging in those yeye rough play with him - your kpekus start to wet uncontrollably and he as a sharp man will just corner u enter inner store go gbolarize your towtow anyhow in a kwikie for those quiet mornings or early afternoons but you are here reading the riot act to that man who genuinely wants to marry you just with a little condition

Lesson - guys for every girl forming good girl for you that no se x before marriage - there is one dude codedly wacking her puna crazily - a dude she is not proud to let anyone know about but You the mumu man who wants to desperately marry and set up a family will inherit the left over from those sexcapades…. And if u are not careful - after marriage she will still be collecting from the guy codedly and populate your house with kids from another man - BE WISE!

you were so in hurry to write the above gibberish assumptions that you fail to understand that i was a man, schooling women about why men do the above and what to do to counter it. at the end of the day, there are women out there who dont want to have sex before marriage *that aint fukcing anybody( and there is nothing wrong with it, to each their own misery... as much as there are many oloshoes out there, lets not pretend that all women are like that, thus lets give some the benefit of the doubt. if you believe all women around you are hoes then the joke is on you bro!

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by SirBunky85(m): 12:08am On Oct 28, 2021
Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.

Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.

The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.

Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.
would you had thought about his proposal if the he was broke?you're now claiming nice cuz,the guy outsmarted you.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by SirBunky85(m): 12:10am On Oct 28, 2021
Nwachi22:


I opened this thread for my fellow ladies to learn from this experience.
Most ladies hop into bed with a guy in a bid to get married without due diligence. The guy is married to a lady that lives in Dubai. He kept that part away from me.
talk true,didn't you have sex with the guy?
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by SirBunky85(m): 12:18am On Oct 28, 2021
Nwachi22:


I would have been in a situation if I had given in. The guy is married afterall. I created this thread to share my experience so that people will learn from it.
why not also share your sex experience with the said guy?abi una no have sex before his proposal?
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by SirBunky85(m): 12:22am On Oct 28, 2021
Oksman:


When the op has already said he impregnated another lady. Sometimes I wonder how people reason.
he was just whining the naive op
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by SirBunky85(m): 12:27am On Oct 28, 2021
Oksman:


Nothing will befall anybody. You are so pained that you are not married yet, and someone else acted irresponsibly faster than yourself. Look if anyone has a share in your wish/curse, it's you and your evil friend who connected you to a "married" man to hook you up. It shows the low regards and the actual worth as a person she has for you because she alone knows you and your kind of lifestyle. "Birds of the same feathers flock together" so stop bleating like a goat in a pen! Your true self is not hidden to those who have discernment even if this forum is faceless. When you said a "friend" linked you up to this man, I hope you know the true def of the above quoted word when next you make an expose of yourself in a public forum.
gbam.you discernment acumen is very active. For a friend to have hooked her up means that, the op lives a flirting lifestyle
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by SirBunky85(m): 12:31am On Oct 28, 2021
mbjsuki:
The guy is just going about doing "random sampling". You are just lucky, thank your God.
thank which god?so for your mind,the man never sample her kpekus?don't forget, the op is a hooker
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Oksman(m): 1:52am On Oct 28, 2021
SirBunky85:
gbam.you discernment acumen is very active. For a friend to have hooked her up means that, the op lives a flirting lifestyle

Thank you.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 5:07am On Oct 28, 2021
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SirBunky85:
he was just whining the naive op
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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 5:08am On Oct 28, 2021
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SirBunky85:
gbam.you discernment acumen is very active. For a friend to have hooked her up means that, the op lives a flirting lifestyle
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Thrash
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 5:12am On Oct 28, 2021
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SirBunky85:
thank which god?so for your mind,the man never sample her kpekus?don't forget, the op is a hooker
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I learnt from your mama.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 5:17am On Oct 28, 2021
SirBunky85:
why not also share your sex experience with the said guy?abi una no have sex before his proposal?

The guy in question is online following this thread.
I can give you his monicker so you can ask him yourself.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nobody: 7:02am On Oct 28, 2021
Shellsploit:
Wetin carpenter no go see for ontop asbestos roof shocked
grin grin grin... only builders can relate

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by JoeCool3150(m): 7:06am On Oct 28, 2021
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
Any guyman wey insist on say him woman must chop belleful first before marriage,I no go too blame am.... Because the rate at which young ladies of nowadays take dey voluntarily dey offer their wombs to Yahoo boys for fetish reasons reach for any guyman wey get sense to draw that kind rain undecided
Yes oh
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by gibsonwales(m): 7:19am On Oct 28, 2021
Me, I no fit buy 'no testing'.... Before U buy any electronics, U no go tell Emeka mek he open & test am ?? grin
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Salako01(m): 7:30am On Oct 28, 2021
Nwachi22:


I opened this thread for my fellow ladies like you to learn from this experience.
Most ladies hop into bed with a guy in a bid to get married without due diligence. The guy is married to a lady that lives in Dubai. He kept that part away from me.


You cut your story into half and wanted to have conversation with other ladies. You sef. Why are you now talking about this part now, why didn't you include it into the main story. People up there have given answers based on the half baked story you dished. grin
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 7:48am On Oct 28, 2021
Salako01:



You cut your story into half and wanted to have conversation with other ladies. You sef. Why are you now talking about this part now, why didn't you include it into the main story. People up there have given answers based on the half baked story you dished. grin

Oga, you’re right. Would have added more details.
Anyways, the married guy in question is following the thread and has been in my inbox begging me not to include more details. Na coded player im be.
Will respect that. Don’t want to scatter any home.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by MisterKennedy(m): 10:40am On Oct 28, 2021
Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.

Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.

The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.

Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.
Good morning Nwachi

I've just read your post and I was super impressed. Please never give in to any guy asking you to get pregnant before he marries you. That's a very foolish and bizzare thing for a guy to ask. If he thinks you're barren then he has no business marrying you.

I have a female friend -- a very good, gentle, hardworking lady with a good character. A man asked her hand in marriage about 7 years ago and got married to her. And she gave birth for him. Later they found out the man has already married and has a wife and 3 children in another state.

It pained me so much because this particular lady is one of a kind. She's everything a man would ask for in a wife. And an idiot just deceived and made her look like a joke. And this is really going to affect her psychologically. Now whenever she talks to me she's ashamed and has a very low self esteem.

You did the right thing dear. I respect you so much. You might be on the verge of accepting his deceptive proposal but God has saved you.

I have also read your profile and I respect the kind of woman that you seem to be and your mindset.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 10:55am On Oct 28, 2021
MisterKennedy:

Good morning Nwachi

I've just read your post and I was super impressed. Please never give in to any guy asking you to get pregnant before he marries you. That's a very foolish and bizzare thing for a guy to ask. If he thinks you're barren then he has no business marrying you.

I have a female friend -- a very good, gentle, hardworking lady with a good character. A man asked her hand in marriage about 7 years ago and got married to her. And she gave birth for him. Later they found out the man has already married and has a wife and 3 children in another state.

It pained me so much because this particular lady is one of a kind. She's everything a man would ask for in a wife. And an idiot just deceived and made her look like a joke. And this is really going to affect her psychologically. Now whenever she talks to me she's ashamed and has a very low self esteem.

You did the right thing dear. I respect you so much. You might be on the verge of accepting his deceptive proposal but God has saved you.

I have also read your profile and I respect the kind of woman that you seem to be and your mindset.



Wow! Thanks for this, Sir. God bless you.
I’m glad to know that there are still sensible and well brought up guys on Nairaland. smiley

I’m so sorry about your female friend. One of my cousins almost fell into this same trap in August this year but God saved her. The man is even married with three children (a boy and 2 girls) in Owerri. Their wedding card was even out. The experience really shattered her. She’s yet to recover from the shock till today. I advice ladies to always take their time to ask questions about any man that approaches them for marriage, don’t be in a hurry to accept his proposal and jump into bed with him, and don’t totally believe all that he tells you. Above all, pray for God to give you a discerning spirit.
God will help us sha.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by MisterKennedy(m): 11:21am On Oct 28, 2021
Nwachi22:


Wow! Thanks for this, Sir. God bless you.
I’m glad to know that there are still sensible and well brought up guys on Nairaland. smiley

I’m so sorry about your female friend. One of my cousins almost fell into this same trap in August this year but God saved her. The man is even married with three children (a boy and 2 girls) in Owerri. Their wedding card was even out. The experiment really shattered, she’s yet to recover from the shock till today. I advice ladies to always take their time to ask questions about any man that approaches them for marriage, don’t be in a hurry to accept his proposal and jump into bed with him, and don’t totally believe all that he tells you. Above all, pray for God to give you a discerning spirit.
God will help us sha.

Wow! Thanks for the praise. My head wants to burst lol

God will help you dear. This is the reason why most ladies are hard heartened and don't care about love but money.

My prayer for all the good and honest people out there is that may good things and good people also locate them

God will see us through it in Jesus Name
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Zanzibar1: 12:12pm On Oct 28, 2021
Naa better be that
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Blackdisciple(m): 1:10pm On Oct 28, 2021
Kai....

Wetin fake news no go see for lie Mohammed hand...!
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by okuta007: 1:28pm On Oct 28, 2021
MrBrownJay1:


you were so in hurry to write the above gibberish assumptions that you fail to understand that i was a man, schooling women about why men do the above and what to do to counter it. at the end of the day, there are women out there who dont want to have sex before marriage *that aint fukcing anybody( and there is nothing wrong with it, to each their own misery... as much as there are many oloshoes out there, lets not pretend that all women are like that, thus lets give some the benefit of the doubt. if you believe all women around you are hoes then the joke is on you bro!

whatever you are is none of my business - wether you are male female or transgender it’s not necessary I was only saying my mind and if you don’t agree with me then make your own case for others to read and agree or disagree with you. there is no grading scale to measure intelligence or foolishness on nairaland - nobody dey carry first for here because of comments so why the competition? the joke is on anyone and so what? abeg free your mind and understand that i do have freedom of speech and we all can’t agree on everything - take care!
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by nuelyoyo(m): 1:29pm On Oct 28, 2021
Nwachi22:


I opened this thread for my fellow ladies like you to learn from this experience.
Most ladies hop into bed with a guy in a bid to get married without due diligence. The guy is married to a lady that lives in Dubai. He kept that part away from me.
And you also kept that part away from your first post. The person you quoted, made her post based on what you first posted.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by yetunsbay(m): 1:59pm On Oct 28, 2021
Nwachi22:


By their fruits comments, you shall know them.
Most of the guys on Nairaland are terrible.
It's high time you begin to roll with good guys. The assumption should be that you're also bad....reason being attractive to bad guyz
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:02pm On Oct 28, 2021
yetunsbay:
It's high time you begin to roll with good guys. The assumption should be that you're also bad....reason being attractive to bad guyz

Oga, read to comprehend.
Please go through my comments again.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by SirBunky85(m): 11:47pm On Oct 28, 2021
Nwachi22:


The guy in question is online following this thread.
I can give you his monicker so you can ask him yourself.
aunty,pls endure your painment in peace
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 12:09am On Oct 29, 2021
SirBunky85:
aunty,pls endure your painment in peace

Lol. You must be one of his errand boys.
Get a job anuofia.

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