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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by jericco1(m): 4:14pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:


Wish kor! Wish ni! Would you wish for any of your sisters or daughters to marry this kind of man?

You didn't play your cards why you're in this situation..
If not, you wouldn't come here to yammer

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by RightToReject(m): 4:23pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:


Well, you’re entitled to your opinion.
Ladies should beware and watch before accepting any proposal from men to avoid regret. There are a lot of irresponsible guys without conscience out there.

Irresponsible - wannabe-woke - people cut across both genders, so don't make it a male issue. In fact, don't blame men who insist on having the non-virgin women in their lives proving the potency of their fertility by getting pregnant before formalizing their relationship - however unpalatable it seems - citing the kind of life most women live.

One is in my house as a guest presently; her fiance, who happens to be the godson of one of my trusted associates, pleaded that I host her in my house and allow her to stay in my guest room because she told them that she's here on an official assignment on behalf of the Nigeria branch of her employer. Her fiance even made me understand beforehand that she's a scrupulous woman, which fortunately or unfortunately she appears to be like in her persona and demeanor, but the reality from what I have observed and seen as her character is that of a typical high-end corporate LovePeddler who is here not just only running high-end hookups, but also fighting a man she's unconsciously told me made her abort severally for him when she was younger. All this is happening without the knowledge of her fiance, who's back home believing that he has the best kind of woman as a fiancee, citing how he boasted to me about her scrupulousness.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 4:34pm On Oct 26, 2021
RightToReject:


Irresponsible - wannabe-woke - people cut across both genders, so don't make it a male issue. In fact, don't blame men who insist on having the non-virgin women in their lives proving the potency of their fertility by getting pregnant before formalizing their relationship - however unpalatable it seems - citing the kind of life most women live.

One is in my house as a guest presently; her fiance, who happens to be the godson of one of my trusted associates, pleaded that I host her in my house and allow her to stay in my guest room because she told them that she's here on an official assignment on behalf of the Nigeria branch of her employer. Her fiance even made me understand beforehand that she's a scrupulous woman, which fortunately or unfortunately she appears to be like in her persona and demeanor, but the reality from what I have observed and seen as her character is that of a typical high-end corporate LovePeddler who is here not just only running high-end hookups, but also fighting a man she's unconsciously told me made her abort severally for him when she was younger. All this is happening without the knowledge of her fiance, who's back home believing that he has the best kind of woman as a fiancee, citing how he boasted to me about her scrupulousness.

Inukwa! So you think that once a woman is a virgin, it automatically makes her fertile. Lol.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Kobojunkie: 4:36pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:
Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.
You dodged a bullet! undecided

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by RightToReject(m): 4:48pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:


Inukwa! So you think that once a woman is a virgin, it automatically makes her fertile. Lol.

Stop trying to be too clever by half. A responsible man who got married to a true scrupulous woman, virgin or not, who turned out to be infertile won't find it difficult bearing with her, but the same can't be said of a hypocritically disingenuous unscrupulous woman who wears the garb of scrupulousness and whose infertility is as a result of her wayward lifestyle.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 5:14pm On Oct 26, 2021
RightToReject:


Stop trying to be too clever by half. A responsible man who got married to a true scrupulous woman, virgin or not, who turned out to be infertile won't find it difficult bearing with her, but the same can't be said of a hypocritically disingenuous unscrupulous woman who wears the garb of scrupulousness and whose infertility is as a result of her wayward lifestyle.


Lol. So how do you know a true scrupulous woman.
I bet you didn’t comprehend my message before dropping this.

I think I understand your personality. No need wasting my time arguing with you.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Angelacruz: 5:24pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nawoooo...maybe d wife can't give birth
Nwachi22:


I opened this thread for my fellow ladies to learn from this experience.
Most ladies hop into bed with a guy in a bid to get married without due diligence. The guy is married to a lady that lives in Dubai. He kept that part away from me.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Angelacruz: 5:26pm On Oct 26, 2021
Pele bro...adoption is still good,IVF nko
Collysmith:
If i insisted for her to be pregnant before marriage I wouldn't be suffering right now. I don't even know what to do whether to marry another wife because adoption is not in my plan.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by MufasaLion: 6:20pm On Oct 26, 2021
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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by numericalguy(m): 6:29pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.
Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.
The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.
Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.

He doesn't want to marry a woman who cannot bear him children. The reason why some guys take that route is because some ladies have lived a rough and carefree life and later became church girls, but the womb may have been damaged already.

I personally don't subscribe to pregnancy before marriage because of my religious beliefs.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by numericalguy(m): 6:38pm On Oct 26, 2021
lilvicky68:
If you had hoped in two months ago you would have been the pregnant one now..

Are you sure you're not regretting your decision? grin

She is seriously regretting it.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by numericalguy(m): 6:40pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:


Why would I regret my decision? I’m thankful that God saved me from what would have destroyed my life.

How is a the other lady's life destroyed?

You are seriously regretting your decision which is why you had to open a thread of lamentations over someone who has obviously moved and doesn't even remember you again.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Truvelisback(m): 6:47pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.
Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.
The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.
Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.
That's not the issue. The issue is that, did he marry the lady? If yes, then, the lady didn't messed up her life. Infact, she is even lucky. Note: some men are scared of delay in child bearing or barreness. My uncle once fell for this trap. The wife he married is yet to bear him a child. Although, the wife manoever him with fake pregancy, so that my uncle would marry her. It was after their marriage that my uncle discovered that she had dated/married several men, because she couldn't bear them children, they broke up with her. Nai my simp uncle go marry so. Now, she is yet to bear him a child.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Truvelisback(m): 6:53pm On Oct 26, 2021
jericco1:


You didn't play your cards why you're in this situation..
If not, you wouldn't come here to yammer
She f*ck up, she no know. She go slack, another girl come take her space.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 7:10pm On Oct 26, 2021
Truvelisback:
That's not the issue. The issue is that, did he marry the lady? If yes, then, the lady didn't messed up her life. Infact, she is even lucky. Note: some men are scared of delay in child bearing or barreness. My uncle once fell for this trap. The wife he married is yet to bear him a child. Although, the wife manoever him with fake pregancy, so that my uncle would marry her. It was after their marriage that my uncle discovered that she had dated/married several men, because she couldn't bear them children, they broke up with her. Nai my simp uncle go marry so. Now, she is yet to bear him a child.

He didn’t marry the lady. The guy is married.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 7:12pm On Oct 26, 2021
Truvelisback:
She f*ck up, she no know. She go slack, another girl come take her space.
I go slack for married man. Lol.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 7:13pm On Oct 26, 2021
numericalguy:


How is a the other lady's life destroyed?

You are seriously regretting your decision which is why you had to open a thread of lamentations over someone who has obviously moved and doesn't even remember you again.
Mr. Lamenter. Lol.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 7:18pm On Oct 26, 2021
jericco1:


You didn't play your cards why you're in this situation..
If not, you wouldn't come here to yammer

I would have been in a situation if I had given in. The guy is married afterall. I created this thread to share my experience so that people will learn from it.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Truvelisback(m): 7:35pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:
I go slack for married man. Lol.
was he married b4 u met him?
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 7:38pm On Oct 26, 2021
Truvelisback:
was he married b4 u met him?
Yes he was but never mentioned it to me.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Truvelisback(m): 7:39pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:


He didn’t marry the lady. The guy is married.
U should have said so in ur post. I hope u aren't trying to use that to cover up?

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 7:40pm On Oct 26, 2021
Truvelisback:
U should have said so in ur post. I hope u aren't trying to use that to cover up?
Cover up for wetin. Lol.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Truvelisback(m): 7:40pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:
Yes he is but never mentioned it to me.
How did u find out?
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 7:42pm On Oct 26, 2021
Truvelisback:
How did u find out?

Did my findings when he started asking me out.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Truvelisback(m): 7:44pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:

Did my findings when he started asking me out.
From people or from him?
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 7:45pm On Oct 26, 2021
Truvelisback:
From people or from him?

From his family.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by 1Sharon(f): 7:51pm On Oct 26, 2021
MrBrownJay1:


the mere fact that you would even consider marriage to a man you only knew for 2 months says a lot about your desperate state of mind... sadly, many men know that Nigerian women look at marriage as a do or die mission and thats why they will promise it to you in order to do what the fukc they want with you.
furthermore, with the state of oloshoism in NIgeria and bitches having abortions left right and center, no wonder a man wants to make sure that you still have a healthy womb before marrying you....but this trick could also be a great way to get unrestricted/unprotected access to your toto lol!



so now, you remember your god?!?!??! go read your damn holybook and tell us all where it says that its ok to have sex and get pregnant before marriage? abeg all you confused religious people should get a damn BRAIN!

There is a better way to deter if she's fertile before marriage. They can both go for genetic counselling together and have themselves tested.

If she gets pregnant there's no incentive to get married anymore.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by 1Sharon(f): 7:52pm On Oct 26, 2021
Olachase:
Me I support the guy... I no get strength to day go pastor house for prayer cus I day find baby... Only God fit save we men cus if you see the rate way all this girls take day do abortion you go pity devil

There's a better way to determine if a woman is fertile for Christ sake. You can both go for medical check ups together.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Truvelisback(m): 7:55pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:


From his family.
U are very smart then. Has his wife bear him any child?

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by 1Sharon(f): 7:55pm On Oct 26, 2021
Angelacruz:
Nawoooo...maybe d wife can't give birth

And he may be the cause ya know?
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 7:57pm On Oct 26, 2021
1Sharon:


And he may be the cause ya know?

Don’t know. Not my business.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 7:58pm On Oct 26, 2021
Truvelisback:
U are very smart then. Has his wife bear him any child?

Don’t know. Not interested.

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