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Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Prazo1: 9:10am On Oct 30, 2021 |
Nice Thread.... So many views Some foolish, some wise. Some foolishly wise, Some wisely Foolish . Let’s all just try to do better Gracias..... 2 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by revolt(m): 1:03pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
Hyerin:You said a lot there ... for a start. Women and men express love very differently. Women express love by nurturing, exclusive sex to one partner and faithfulness. Women are built to follow and respect/ pair bond with people they love. A nun in love will support her drug dealer husband irrespective of her values. In our natural state the female of most species are weaker and smaller than the males. Women since time immemorial have always needed to survive by pairing and matng with the strongest male to protect her/ offspring. A woman's response to this protection and provision is expressed emotionally a.k.a love. Men on the other hand, love differently and this is where blue pillers get it wrong. Men naturally have evolved for defense, labor, resilience, gritt. Succinctly put a man is built with the capability to destroy, kill, invade . HOWEVER he is also built to act with rationality more often.Theres a reason men have nor destroyed the world with nuclear bombs yet they possess the power to do so. So these traits are usually docile and only come out when needed(exceptions exist though). Men don't express love by sexual excluvity, nurturing and etc men do this by providing security, protection and would die in the process. A man would in his natural state, go hunting ( solitary)/ gather or conquer other men and bring the spoils to his woman/ family while expecting nothing in return. This is how men show love. A King can marry a slave and automatically she becomes a queen.. a queen will not even look at peasant talk less of love. cos she gains no security. Sex for men is like scratching an itch. Man isn't even designed for one woman biologically. When it comes to reproduction a woman has a far greater burden of investment as she would be demobilised for 40 weeks thus she needs to mate with the best she can get with. A weak male doesn't get to mate in the natural order. On the other hand, the man can make 40 + babies in the same period while stI'll conquering and hunting/ providing. This doesn't make him aberrant. That's just how he's built. Men are not the only ones committing all the sex crimes in the home heck .. most of us were disvirgined by sexual predators and cougars ie our aunties and big cousins. We even have mothers in lagos sleeping with their sons, mother in laws sleeping with daughters husbands... it goes both ways but sex affects women more which is why any sensible society should protect and if possible repress female sexuality. We can argue men and women face domestic abuse in the west but with the laws in place women are committing more domestic abuse these days because the laws tilt towards female bias. The implication .. men abandoning marrIage/ pairing with women in droves, children raised without protection from the male and a bunch of dysfunctional men that act emmotionally cos they were raised as women. Death of society. Go and read the history of WW2 Germany to add a few. Once the German machine fell, the invading Red army and allied forces descended on the women and offspring of the germans. They r#ped what ever they found NOT just to bust a nut, but ensure the German society was wiped out. Guess what the women did to survive? They pair bonded and married the new marauding conquerors for protection. THEY FELL IN LOVE. Then the men began to protect the ones they loved from other soldiers. They had children with them and voila the former men were history. The truth is EVERY SOCIETY THAT ATTEMPTED BLURRING THE LINES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN CRASHED/ IMPLODED..Roman,Japan Hausa Egyptian empires etc 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Nobody: 1:40pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
revolt: Just a bunch of evopsych (that has been widely debunked and invalidated by the scientific community) and ahistorical, MRA nonsense put together. Not only is this complete garbage but reductionist as well as off point. Let me guess, you're a redpiller. Explains the low I.Q I will reiterate, nobody loves unconditionally; not men, not women. The only unconditional love that exists (this can even be contested) is familial love; one between a parent and their child, and if you're religious, then it's God who is capable of that. You just wasted your time typing out this bullshit for nothing 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by revolt(m): 6:34pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
Hyerin: As usual I gave you empirical facts and history to read yet as typical blue pill ediots always do, they argue with emotions and abuse/ shaming tactics ... NEVER debunking facts or putting up superior points. Lol scientific comm indeed... 2 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Jasmine17(m): 8:08pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
DrFunmisticGlow: Will you agree before? Your lot are the unruly ones jare. Una go dey alright last last |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Jasmine17(m): 8:15pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
kunle75: I met one in my first month here. You need to see the care and love she showered at first. I immediately started dreaming marriage and long term things. Then the bombshell drops; she came with a visitor’s visa 3 years ago and have overstayed her visa. She doesn’t want to go back and apply for PR the right way. She needs a guy with papers that will marry her and legalize her stay. Because of the care she already showed, I was willing to do that for her. But she was not able to convince me that her love was not because of her ambition. And other wise counsel prevailed. Funny thing was if she was legal, she would have had this same character I talked about in my first post. 4 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Jasmine17(m): 8:17pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
Hyerin: Na illiteracy dey worry you. Sorry o |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Jasmine17(m): 8:20pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
Hyerin: Simple question, and you called him a dimwit Shows your mentality and upbringing. I wonder why you are so pained and bitter by this topic. Better go get a life outside Nairaland and stop displaying your unruliness. 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Jasmine17(m): 8:22pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
revolt: You really have time to be typing these long epistles for such an unruly fellow. Dont give her attention henceforth please |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by DrFunmisticGlow: 8:25pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
Jasmine17:you too |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Nobody: 9:12pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
revolt: I could literally sit down now and begin to pick apart your entire argument if I really wanted to. Typing out essays doesn't make you right like you badly want it to be. There's alot of misinformation, inaccuracies, concocted bullshit, romanticization of the past, and a complete lack of complexity in your pro male driven narratives. You're not worth the keystrokes because redpillers like yourself are irrationally emotional, obstinate, psychotic rage-filled misogynists with a collective I.Q in negatives. Mentally incapable of attaining rationale. It's like talking to a racist; they're both sides of the same bigotedness. I have already addressed what was needed to be addressed and that was, refuting your claim that men loved unconditionally. You're the one who wasted your own time in compiling redpill talking points to prove your deficit in certain areas. 4 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Nobody: 9:34pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
Jasmine17: I understand the need for you to show brotherly solidarity towards your fellow male but in doing so, you too flaunted your dim-wittedness. I'm not pained nor bitter like you so badly want me to be. Again, easy on the projection. It was never that serious as you can see, my previous replies to you were free of invectives and level-headed. Thus, your claims of me being bitter or pained are unfounded. Sorry to burst your bubble but I do have a life outside nairaland unlike some male folks on here. Moving on! 4 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by kunle75(m): 10:28pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
Jasmine17: Exactly almost all of them,and they get bombed by guys here all the time,because we all knew there love isn't genuine. |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by alphaNomega: 11:03pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
Jasmine17:I don't think they should change the mentality. It keeps them from procreating and spreading their stupidíty. Let it end with them |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by paddyboi: 11:43pm On Oct 30, 2021 |
Jasmine17: Last time i was in America. It was my black American lady friend that was driving me around Atlanta. Truth be told you may be better off looking for a black American lady or Nigerian born and raised in the States. 2 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by revolt(m): 5:19am On Oct 31, 2021 |
Jasmine17:I gave up on him/ abi sis / her,..... Whatever gender "they identify with "....you know they are gender fluid these days .. 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by depato88(m): 10:12am On Oct 31, 2021 |
Just like someone stated here, such behaviour by them is due to past experiences and stories, so they are being protective of themselves but being over protective is to their own detriment on the long run, infact it's already happening cos there are many ladies in thier late twenties, thirties , forties lonely, fustrated and single crying for marriage(husbands), partnership etc My advice to ladies is not to follow the stereotype, rather be open minded while still being careful while dating and vigilant to watch out for redflags cos there are many many genuine newcomers wanting true relationship with them, they chasing or rejecting every Tom and Harry due to the already bad stereotype is to their own detriment. They should know that even in every stereotypes there are always exceptions. And in the case of the argument about unconditional love in this thread, facts, events and nature have shown that that MEN truly in love, love UNCONDITIONALLY as compared to WOMEN (Am not saying women doesn't love genuinely, some do but the number is very minute ) WOMEN are generally HYPERGAMIC in nature. 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by NayTayMan: 1:33pm On Oct 31, 2021 |
@Jasmine. I see your point. I recall when we (myself and 4 of my guys) just arrived Yankee to school (different schools, different regions), our experiences were pretty similar. At that time, none of us had time for girls not to talk of relationship. We were laser focused on the goal. As it happened, the most sincere friendships that we had were with Naija guys and US- born Naija females. Those were the people who took to us and showed genuine interest in helping us navigate the system and integrating with less hassles. The Naija girls that immigrated with their families were in a totally different category- they considered us as JJC’s and honestly were not as friendly or helpful. They always had this air around them but we cared less. Even in the Naija churches, some of them Naija born ladies still have those dynamics in their interactions with us but man no send- there was too much energy invested by us into the dream for there to be any time spared for random issues. As it turned out- one of my guys eventually married one of the US born naija girls and she has been amazing (they have been married for over 10 years now). She has raised their children with solid decency, risen in her career to an executive position (with 6 figure bonuses, not to talk of base pay/salary o), and she still treats my guy like a King. You need to see the way she respects and treats my guys family members whenever they visit Yankee or my guy goes to Naija with her. My guy has done extremely well for himself too! I think like lost people have stated, character and upbringing is the main thing. As per we the 3 other guys, our story Na for another day- but it was all a happy ending! 5 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Jasmine17(m): 1:50pm On Oct 31, 2021 |
NayTayMan: Wish I could like your post more. Glad you guys are securing the bags More grace |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Jasmine17(m): 1:51pm On Oct 31, 2021 |
depato88: Exactly my point bro |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Jasmine17(m): 1:53pm On Oct 31, 2021 |
alphaNomega: Wawuuuu I feel it’s a learned habit Hence it can be unlearned 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by muheeb01(m): 2:26pm On Oct 31, 2021 |
So there's no difference between those ones back home here and the ones abroad nawa o |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by 1Sharon(f): 4:34pm On Dec 14, 2021 |
DrFunmisticGlow: Lool...I'm going open a thread on you DIEvestors. Oh, and black women are not loyal that's a lie. |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by JohnOkolo: 4:53pm On Dec 14, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: One uncultured, untrained shit hole over here. |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by Fourwinds: 5:19pm On Dec 14, 2021 |
BigDawsNet: Forget church matter...nonsense dey they church...all manner of foolish characters full church too...don't take the notion because it is house of God ooooo |
Re: My Experience With Nigerian Ladies In The West by DrFunmisticGlow: 7:21pm On Dec 15, 2021 |
1Sharon:please do so 1 Like |
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