I am not a "cheat" etc. I believe everything is a negotiated agreement. I dont want to be locked down to only one woman my whole life. I plan on telling the prospective wife that im going to get married to her but that I am still free (this doesnt mean sleeping around oh); it just means im free to talk to anyone else I see and like....

1. Why do women demand exclusivity from men?
2. What if she agrees I will be married to her but still free? I heard traditional marriage does not tie a man down to only one woman - can i only do traditional marriage?
3. What is the benefit of exclusivity to a man?

Rational thinkers only! Religious nut jobs please stay out.

what about if she wants freedom as well, I mean the same condition to apply to her as well. I hope you'll feel okay with that?

Ehnnnn what you are asking for is not out of place in African settings but it comes with a price,you must be very rich(billionaire),you must have properties everywhere that'll reach everyone (including) your concubines when you die,when you are sick be free to invite your concubines to come take care of you as well as we will be doing shifting in taking good care of you,as father Abraham that you aspire to be please never demand DNA for any of your kids because a father is not only a father to the seeds of his groins,he's a father to all.With all these you are good to go.

Youngwiz71:
what about if she wants freedom as well, I mean the same condition to apply to her as well. I hope you'll feel okay with that?

Yes I am completely fine with it.... but an agreement will be signed that no party shall transmit an STD to the other party in case she decides to have sex with someone else.....

everyone uses protection.

Iyaebe:
Ehnnnn what you are asking for is not out of place in African settings but it comes with a price,you must be very rich(billionaire),you must have properties everywhere that'll reach everyone (including) your concubines when you die,when you are sick be free to invite your concubines to come take care of you as well as we will be doing shifting in taking good care of you,as father Abraham that you aspire to be please never demand DNA of your kids because a father is not only a father to the seeds of his groins,he's a father to all.With all these you are good to go.

this is good news! Because in truth, exclusivity is unnatural to me.... well i dont think I have to be a billionnaire but I think I have to be at least middle class.

BigBashiru:


this is good news! Because in truth, exclusivity is unnatural to me.... well i dont think I have to be a billionnaire but I think I have to be at least middle class.

Middle class? no oooo it can't work that way else something will happen ooo,your wife can not be reasoning with you while your prick will be reasoning other women,its unfair. Its either you are billionaire or you dead those thoughts else you'll carry penis go market and e no go work.

Iyaebe:
Middle class? no oooo it can't work that way else something will happen ooo,your wife can not be reasoning with you while your prick will be reasoning other women,its unfair. Its either you are billionaire or you dead those thoughts else you'll carry penis go market and e no go work.

il be rich then... so I can afford them....

Bro, no one go hold you to ransome this includes your reasonable wife if you talk ( if na just talk) to anyone wey you like other than her.

Wetin dey needed na commitment... show commitment to her wellbeing, things important to her etc, that exclusivity claim na just subtle slavery.
So like wise your wife sef go fit follow anyone we she like talk(if na just talk) sef, nothing wrong.

But e sure me say Sooner, one of una go weep

BigBashiru:


il be rich then... so I can afford them....

OK then but you'll have to show a sample of your will because it has to be assured that your wife's sacrifice and endurance weren't in vain.

Do u mean all the married people are freedom restricted?

BigBashiru:
I am not a "cheat" etc. I believe everything is a negotiated agreement. I dont want to be locked down to only one woman my whole life. I plan on telling the prospective wife that im going to get married to her but that I am still free (this doesnt mean sleeping around oh); it just means im free to talk to anyone else I see and like....

[s]1. Why do women demand exclusivity from men?
2. What if she agrees I will be married to her but still free? I heard traditional marriage does not tie a man down to only one woman - can i only do traditional marriage?
3. What is the benefit of exclusivity to a man? [/s]

Rational thinkers only! Religious nut jobs please stay out.

If a polygamous situation is what you want, then you should endeavor to engage only those women who are open to such a marital setting, simple!

If what you seek is instead an open marriage, then find for yourself a woman who agrees with the idea .... case closed.

Odoogu:


Bro, no one go hold you to ransome this includes your reasonable wife if you talk ( if na just talk) to anyone wey you like other than her.

Wetin dey needed na commitment... show commitment to her wellbeing, things important to her etc, that exclusivity claim na just subtle slavery.
So like wise your wife sef go fit follow anyone we she like talk(if na just talk) sef, nothing wrong.

But e sure me say Sooner, one of una go weep

no be just talk na other things excluding sekks fit follow na.....

BigBashiru:


1. Why do women demand exclusivity from men?

Same reason you'd demand exclusivity from your woman, I suppose. But if you don't mind her doing what you do, I'm sure there's a woman out there for you.

Just be mindful of what you both might bring home to share with one another, like a child that's not your's and Hiv/Aids.

BigBashiru:


no be just talk na other things excluding sekks fit follow na.....

Excluding sekks, like extramarital affairs right?

It's no bad now. The bigger work is on you bro. Other than the quality of a good woman from her, you need to let her know that You( husband) can be trusted.
cos, Some of those *talking* situations can sometimes be confusing ( shey you understand).

Hian.

No need to even get married bro instead have baby mamas, it pays off

chumaZ:
No need to even get married bro instead have baby mamas, it pays off

I've been hearing this baby mama of a thing for a while now but not clear exactly what it means...I heard it's when you agree with a woman to just bear you children and then she leaves afterwards...is that what a baby mama means? Will you still be seeing her after the child birth?

BigBashiru:


I've been hearing this baby mama of a thing for a while now but not clear exactly what it means...I heard it's when you agree with a woman to just bear you children and then she leaves afterwards...is that what a baby mama means? Will you still be seeing her after the child birth?

Depends on your arrangement, you can even get a surrogate mother and pays her off after delivery.. surrogate mother is way better but kind of expensive. It cost my friend who did 2 million naira. Mind you the mother will never come back because both signed an agreement

chumaZ:


Depends on your arrangement, you can even get a surrogate mother and pays her off after delivery.. surrogate mother is way better but kind of expensive. It cost my friend who did 2 million naira. Mind you the mother will never come back because both signed an agreement

Haba so the child will now grow up without a mum and without breast milk...not good na....

BigBashiru:


Haba so the child will now grow up without a mum and without breast milk...not good na....

Lol, they're many children who grew up without breastfeeding and they are doing amazingly well

Iyaebe:
Ehnnnn what you are asking for is not out of place in African settings but it comes with a price,you must be very rich(billionaire),you must have properties everywhere that'll reach everyone (including) your concubines when you die,when you are sick be free to invite your concubines to come take care of you as well as we will be doing shifting in taking good care of you,as father Abraham that you aspire to be please never demand DNA for any of your kids because a father is not only a father to the seeds of his groins,he's a father to all.With all these you are good to go.

nice report

chumaZ:


Lol, they're many children who grew up without breastfeeding and they are doing amazingly well

But the motherly care na.

chumaZ:


Lol, they're many children who grew up without breastfeeding and they are doing amazingly well

While I agree, some most definitely would have benefited from breast and motherly care.

https://www.nairaland.com/6833717/why-boys-suddenly-not-doing/1#107327824

BigBashiru:
I am not a "cheat" etc. I believe everything is a negotiated agreement. I dont want to be locked down to only one woman my whole life. I plan on telling the prospective wife that im going to get married to her but that I am still free (this doesnt mean sleeping around oh); it just means im free to talk to anyone else I see and like....

1. Why do women demand exclusivity from men?
2. What if she agrees I will be married to her but still free? I heard traditional marriage does not tie a man down to only one woman - can i only do traditional marriage?
3. What is the benefit of exclusivity to a man?

Rational thinkers only! Religious nut jobs please stay out.

If you can't commit, don't get put urself into marriage.

Then you don't go into marriage.

If you are rich, you will have your way with women.

BigBashiru:
I am not a "cheat" etc. I believe everything is a negotiated agreement. I dont want to be locked down to only one woman my whole life. I plan on telling the prospective wife that im going to get married to her but that I am still free (this doesnt mean sleeping around oh); it just means im free to talk to anyone else I see and like....

1. Why do women demand exclusivity from men?
2. What if she agrees I will be married to her but still free? I heard traditional marriage does not tie a man down to only one woman - can i only do traditional marriage?
3. What is the benefit of exclusivity to a man?

Rational thinkers only! Religious nut jobs please stay out.

Monogamy is for people who want and are capable of forming a deep emotional connection. It for some people not for everyone

It's good that you're honest with yourself and that you plan on being honest with your wife. Just find a woman who's on the same page with you but don't expect genuine love because love comes with being possessive. No woman who truly loves you can stand seeing you with other women. It'll tear her apart

bepositive11:


Monogamy is for people who want and are capable of forming a deep emotional connection. It for some people not for everyone

It's good that you're honest with yourself and that you plan on being honest with your wife. Just find a woman who's on the same page with you but don't expect genuine love because love comes with being possessive. No woman who truly loves you can stand seeing you with other women. It'll tear her apart

A woman's love to a large extent is dependent on what she's benefitting from you...

BigBashiru:


A woman's love to a large extent is dependent on what she's benefitting from you...

That's not love

If she only treats you well when she can get something from you, it's not love. She's just using you and manipulating you

bepositive11:


That's not love

If she only treats you well when she can get something from you, it's not love. She's just using you and manipulating you

We are in the animal kingdom. True love only comes from God and can't come from a woman unless divinely inspired. Trust me on this...