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Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Unrated900(m): 4:44pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
LotaTee: Trash |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Unrated900(m): 4:46pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
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Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Lovebliss2(f): 6:35pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
From all you wrote about her, I think she's good to go. No perfect woman or man anywhere. |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by angelfallz(m): 7:07pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
There is a banker here in my compound she goes to work before 7am She eats breakfast and cooks her lunch which she carries with her to work. Since when is cooking breakfast for your husband slavery? You're funny. Xilsbridalhouse: |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Xilsbridalhouse(f): 9:46pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
angelfallz:I’ll do anything for my husband, but op finding fault in this is annoying! I actually don’t mind, but we need to be realistic here, body no be wood and if breakfast is needed, it should be cooked a night before. |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by angelfallz(m): 10:59pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Look, you obviously have issues with cooking breakfast that early, you also have issues with a woman cooking and doing house which you see as slavery. If you see it as slavery that is fine. So, if you're planning to marry, ensure that your potential husband sees things in the same way that you do. The OP doesn't know what he wants, if he does, it is obvious that his fiancee is not into cooking or doing house chores. This is a potential family problem, and it is enough grounds to not move forward with the marriage. Xilsbridalhouse: |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by CassieSunshine(f): 5:54am On Jan 17, 2022 |
Hope you don't find it difficult to provide the necessary stuffs for the house? |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by BigBashiru: 7:25am On Jan 17, 2022 |
Xilsbridalhouse: I had this thread conversation with someone recently... Look in summary if a woman wants to wake up whenever she likes to cook whenever she's hungry then she cannot be in a husband's house. She should go and rent her own flat of house where she can do as she pleases and her and her husband can visit themselves. Shekina. |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Xilsbridalhouse(f): 8:18am On Jan 17, 2022 |
angelfallz:Nooooo! Don’t get me wrong and you jumped into conclusions about me. First I’m married, and one my favourite hobby not even chore is cooking and cleaning the house. My hubby can always attest to this and yes I’m also submissive though I’m not perfect as I could be stubborn at times but being a Christian, Holy Spirit speaks sense into me when I try to be stubborn or anything like that, so I’m quick to apologize. Now, because I love cooking, doesn’t means I would want to cook that early. Most wives sleep late and still need to wake up early to prepare breakfast and go to work. Think about it, it is stressful! If I need to eat breakfast, I always prepare it a night before or just get it at an eatery. While working, I’d get back home from work, tired and exhausted, stop by at the market and happily make dinner and eat the rest in the morning or we both eat at work. To me, it isn’t an issue unless she doesn’t have to resume work so early. Some ladies can pull this off effortlessly but not everyone and yo think there are various countless worse situations that this in some marriages, op should accept this as a flaw unless she has other terrible habits. Op himself isn’t perfect. 1 Like |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by angelfallz(m): 8:52am On Jan 17, 2022 |
God bless your home. Xilsbridalhouse: |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Xilsbridalhouse(f): 3:48pm On Jan 17, 2022 |
angelfallz:Amen!!! Thanks a lot !!! 1 Like |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Gabflex: 7:54pm On Jan 17, 2022 |
Ladyhippolyta88:I have no problem fixing breakfast for myself. From the OP's plight ehn, he is not comfy with doing it and na wetin dey make am vex. If he cannot manage her like this now, then he should not go into the marriage. Girl wey don dey suggest house maid even b4 marriage. Run oooo |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Divay22(f): 3:44pm On Jun 17, 2023 |
QuizPay How is your marriage going? |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by valiju: 5:40pm On Jun 17, 2023 |
Bro I will advice you to run for your mental health I am In a similar situation though in my own case we are married with kids but the marriage is killing me 1 Like |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by LagBae(f): 6:23pm On Jun 17, 2023 |
If she leaves by 7/7:30,what time does she wake up and at what time would she make breakfast? She closes by 6pm and probably gets home around 6:30/7pm since you said her work place is close by. So as soon as she comes back from work, she enters straight into the kitchen to make dinner which might take at least 1 hour 30 mins, from Monday to Friday. It might be tough for her too, except she gets a job where she closes earlier or you set up a business for her as you have said, where she would have time for herself and the new family you guys are about to start. |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Oluwaseunbandur: 1:35pm On Jun 18, 2023 |
Divay22: No relationship yet, not to talk of marriage |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Divay22(f): 5:23pm On Jun 18, 2023 |
Oluwaseunbandur:And how did you know that |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Oluwaseunbandur: 10:55pm On Jun 18, 2023 |
Divay22: Ahahahaha, I sensed it na, But seriously I don't like relationship when I know it won't end in marriage, maybe am the one always pushing for everything to work out which I am now realizing it's a big mistake |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Oluwaseunbandur: 10:56pm On Jun 18, 2023 |
Divay22: Wished am married, my life would av been more better |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Divay22(f): 3:28am On Jun 19, 2023 |
Oluwaseunbandur:Don't tell me you're the OP and maybe this is just your alternate Why not discuss with whoever you're dating... We all have a reason for dating. And again if you want marriage you should be going for whoever is ready for that also... |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Divay22(f): 3:28am On Jun 19, 2023 |
Oluwaseunbandur:Hmmmm |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Oluwaseunbandur: 4:44am On Jun 19, 2023 |
Divay22: Am not the op and I don't av alternate account I can't discuss marriage at the beginning of dating Pls are u married?? |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by eedhrisademola(m): 8:16am On Jun 19, 2023 |
[quote author=QuizPay post=109317630]I will make this epistle to be as short as possible, forget about the grammar and focus on the content ... Is this a red flag or not or its just what it is, or what is your take in this? My fiancee Fines it difficult to cook (though she can cook and a very good cook), I am not the type that eat outside always (I love home food), I only do such once in a while. She cooks sometimes in the evening or at night but it's a no no in the morning, I have to make my dishes for myself before going to work and house chores is even the worst. l gave her 9.9% that's how worst in terms of house chores, her excuse is "my weakness is house chores, I will try to be adjusting blablabla. She only tidy/clean when I complain, after that she returns to former ways except if I complain again. Any time she does house chores she won't let me hear words, I did this, I did that, you don't even appreciate me. NA WETIN SHE GO DEY ALWAYS DO AFTER U MARRY HER BE DAT O... RED FLAG!!! |
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