nams77:

I'm not conversant with lagos but even I determined person will make effort no matter how small.

Why didnt the man relax at home because he was staying at ikorodu?

He can’t relax. He’s the head of the family.
Besides, it was his choice that they move there.

Knowing that they live there for free tells that it is a very remote part.

Dailyparrot:
My brother lives in the remote part of Ikorodu. They have three kids.

The children didn't go to school throughout last term and this term again, they've been staying at home. When other kids in the compound have gone to school, his kids will remain at home with the wife doing nothing.

The reason the wife stopped the kids from going to school is because she wants them to leave that part of Lagos and move to the developed part of Ikorodu or any township part of Lagos.

Invariably, she's using the kids staying at home to protest and punish the husband, maybe?

I feel she's punishing the kids and not the husband. My brother leaves for work very early in the morning and will not be able to take the kids to school himself.

He's not financially capable of relocating at this time but I feel he can plan with his wife and save towards relocating, maybe in a year's time but I doubt the wife is taking the best approach.

The wife said she's not taking up any job or starting any business until they relocate from that area. So for now, the whole burden is on my brother.

Please, what's the best approach to this their family issue. We don't want to take side and go hard on the wife, but, don't feel she's taking the best decision for the kids.

when renting an apartment the woman should approve the first before you pay … she owns the house not the husband … every responsible man should let the wife determine where to live , color to paint the house , decorating the house , picking type of windows blinds or cotton, Kitchen utensils, bed and blankets… let them decide these things because of peace

Mariangeles:


He can’t relax. He’s the head of the family.
Besides, it was his choice that they move there.

Knowing that they live there for free tells that it is a very remote part.

There is no need reasoning with you.

I have seen your response to other folks and I have come to the conclusion that you would rather die than fault a woman.

Cheers!!!

nams77:

There is no need reasoning with you.

I have seen your response to other folks and I have come to the conclusion that you would rather die than fault a woman.

Cheers!!!

Not really.
Just giving the benefit of the doubt.

Mariangeles:


She might come around when she gets used to the environment and neighborhood.
I understand her fears, especially putting into consideration where they might’ve lived before there.

Ikorodu is a very remote part of Lagos and can be very dangerous, and I’ve heard of people who moved to that place because of cheap accommodation, and moved back out almost immediately.
They just need to understand her fears.

Now the man isn't that buoyant to relocate his family, what do you think is the best solution to this case?

MufasaLion:
Never impregnate a woman that I ain't your type.

I think bleep is better suited for impregnate in this context. Baba never planned to impregnate the her

Kriss216:

Women were not created for men. God made them specifically for aliens.

I fear who no fear women!

Your mother must be married to an alien.

Munzy14:

Now the man isn't that buoyant to relocate his family, what do you think is the best solution to this case?

She can be homeschooling them till she’s ready to let go.

To tell you the truth, homeschooling is better than some “schools”
Your kids will come out worse off.
They will pick up languages and behaviors that you don’t recognize within a week.
A ma’m ihe m kwe e kwu.

Women are necessary evil. The man should just accept the wife's decision because of the future of the children. Some women are evil spirit, they doesn't care

Mariangeles:


Not really.
Just giving the benefit of the doubt.

Smh...I told you this last year...Small small i ga ahu a ma mgbe ji wuzie full time warrior ndi gender stuff. Ndi ogwu red na ha enye la gi close marking

In this case the woman is plain foolish and wicked.....I have a total dislike for lazy people..Their mouth na needle, they are usually selfish, entitled and codedly wicked..Nwunye my uncle di like that...nwaanyi ga eburu uzo rie nri tupu umu ya e rie...Growing up we eat well before mma mu enwee obi i ri nke ya...Na now we don grow, she dey look sharp and younger...Then it was sacrifice to support her husband to train us...And it paid off...

I stopped somewhere to greet a friend one day, I was with momsy, my friend told her mummy go for back this front seat na for my wife
Mma m asi ya, eeh mgbe o biara nu mu agafe na azu.


If she really want to leave that environment, let her hustle and support this man..If that man die under pressure, she will understand how painful the world is...Even urgent 2k, other guys will want her back for bed..

She can homeschool the kids. its a viable option .

Mom007:
OK. We have heard from you. Now we wait until we hear from your brother and the wife before concluding whether she is crazy or not. Could she possibly be homeschooling the kids in order to help save some money for the relocation? Could the children be at risk if that area is very isolated? I know a little of ikorodu and I can tell you that place is very rough and a lot of cultist and diabolical stuff go on there so could they be a factor? Anyways I reserve comments.

So when eggsactly are you going to hear from the brother if he is not on Nairaland?, Are you going to serve him a subpena?

Dailyparrot:
My brother lives in the remote part of Ikorodu. They have three kids.

The children didn't go to school throughout last term and this term again, they've been staying at home. When other kids in the compound have gone to school, his kids will remain at home with the wife doing nothing.

The reason the wife stopped the kids from going to school is because she wants them to leave that part of Lagos and move to the developed part of Ikorodu or any township part of Lagos.

Invariably, she's using the kids staying at home to protest and punish the husband, maybe?

I feel she's punishing the kids and not the husband. My brother leaves for work very early in the morning and will not be able to take the kids to school himself.

He's not financially capable of relocating at this time but I feel he can plan with his wife and save towards relocating, maybe in a year's time but I doubt the wife is taking the best approach.

The wife said she's not taking up any job or starting any business until they relocate from that area. So for now, the whole burden is on my brother.

Please, what's the best approach to this their family issue. We don't want to take side and go hard on the wife, but, don't feel she's taking the best decision for the kids.

Your brother must have done a DNA test and found out he's not their father, hence his nonchalant attitude towards the kids education.

If he is their father and he tolerates someone stopping his children from going to school.... he should be brought out to the community and flogged.

Munzy14:

Smh...I told you this last year...Small small i ga ahu a ma mgbe ji wuzie full time warrior ndi gender stuff. Ndi ogwu red na ha enye la gi close marking

K’ahu gbasara ha.
You can never please everyone, so it is best to always be yourself, and do what you feel is right.

In this case the woman is plain foolish and wicked.....I have a total dislike for lazy people..Their mouth na needle, they are usually selfish, entitled and codedly wicked..Nwunye my uncle di like that...nwaanyi ga eburu uzo rie nri tupu umu ya e rie...Growing up we eat well before mma mu enwee obi i ri nke ya...Na now we don grow, she dey look sharp and younger...Then it was sacrifice to support her husband to train us...And it paid off...

I stopped somewhere to greet a friend one day, I was with momsy, my friend told her mummy go for back this front seat na for my wife
Mma m asi ya, eeh mgbe o biara nu mu agafe na azu.


If she really want to leave that environment, let her hustle and support this man..If that man die under pressure, she will understand how painful the world is...Even urgent 2k, other guys will want her back for bed..

E nwere ike gi hu nga ha bi, I gahu a tacha ya uta.
Ihe I shi ike wu ihe ojoo. Especially from grace to grass.

I FEAR WHO NO FEAR VAGINAL PPLE

The wife is hiding something up her sleeves...

Mariangeles:
It could be that the part of Ikorodu where they’re living is not safe, and your brother’s wife is just being careful with the children.
I’ve heard that most part of Ikorodu isn’t safe for anything. Cult clashes from time to time.

That not her reason ,the woman they miss city life

Dailyparrot:


Where they currently live, they don't pay rent. The house is built by my brother's friend.

As for those asking if my brother begged her to marry him, in fact, she's never my brother's type.

She took in for my brother and the marriage was forced. But you know, once children are involved, a woman will always use them as bargaining chip for everything.

She not your brother type but he layed her flat

na my gender you dey insult like this

Beremx:
In most cases, when a couple wants to rent an apartment, the wife’s choice is always what is agreed upon. My question is, didn’t she know her husband rented an apartment in the remote part of Ikorodu? If she did, then it’s so callous and wicked for her to use her kids to protest her anger. The couple should sort their issue amicably

Yes but op says they are staying at the remote part of Ikorodu and I'm pretty sure you the dangers associated with that part of Lagos.

She's just afraid for her kids,too many ritualists around that axis....not as though not going to school is any better

Dailyparrot:


It's a sad one. Her argument is that the school the children are attending is local because she believes that place is local.

This is someone that probably had the basic education she was able to acquire in the village ooo.

Now, school in Gberigbe, Ikorodu is too local for her kids to attend.

It's obvious that she is an illiterate. There are very good schools at Gberigbe you mentioned. Let her go to those good private schools to see for heself, that's even if they can afford their school fee. I stay there and I can boldly say that she doesn't know anything. It's even a good place for her to start something and build on it. I wouldn't blame her I blame your brother that doesn't have control over his home.

Mariangeles:


Let us be honest with ourselves; some places are more dangerous than others.

In this lagos believe all bread na equal ,even mushin now is safer than ajah awoyaya axis ,This do u know ?
Lagos now all dangerous o

Really

You sister in law is mad

Your brother is foolish

2 ge 4..

Olunmercy56:


Men like you are evils, fear them

Evil, not evils! Mumu...

Dailyparrot:


Where they currently live, they don't pay rent. The house is built by my brother's friend.

As for those asking if my brother begged her to marry him, in fact, she's never my brother's type.

She took in for my brother and the marriage was forced. But you know, once children are involved, a woman will always use them as bargaining chip for everything.

Lol...how can you force marriage. Is there any law that states you must marry your babby mama? I dislike people won't can stand their ground. Now the innocent children are suffering because of your brother's mumurity.

The under developed part of ikorodu is actually a ghetto oo
I rather teach my kids in the house than let them grow the ghetto way !!!

Mariangeles:


She can be homeschooling them till she’s ready to let go.

To tell you the truth, homeschooling is better than some “schools”
Your kids will come out worse off.
They will pick up languages and behaviors that you don’t recognize within a week.
A ma’m ihe m kwe e kwu.

How are they going to socialise and interact with others if they learn in Isolation?

My neighbour doesn't allow their kids interact or step out...ga hu umu ya, ha na eme ka Ndi eriri eri...Until the first son enter uni...Just one year...he has changed a lot..And automatically he scattered that Isolation stuff.

Now their friends do visit their home...

Kids are sensitive..They will question some actions when they grow.

Mariangeles:


K’ahu gbasara ha.
You can never please everyone, so it is best to always be yourself, and do what you feel is right.



E nwere ike gi hu nga ha bi, I gahu a tacha ya uta.
Ihe I shi ike wu ihe ojoo. Especially from grace to grass.

Of course, you shouldn't even try to please everyone.

Iwe m wu, the woman refused to do anything...I mean I thought a wife is a helpmate?
She stopped the kids from going to school, she too doesn't want to work..mstchwww..Some men tolerate rubbish in the name of having a companion...I just can't deal.

The man is to be blamed, for enbaling her excesses till ya ru this extreme boldness/daring...

Even a good working class mom wouldn't dare her husband like this...She will simply economize resources, save up and add up to what the man brought and relocate.

Anyway for men wey want marry house wife...Not me... Things like this should be a lesson.

Even Regina and Ned some lazy ladies make reference to, Regina is making her own money and is also, an asset to Ned...Regina's fame spread to Ned and Increased his popularity...

A woman coming into a home, should be an asset to the man that found her..That is the favour you always hear.."A man who found a wife, found a good thing and obtained favour from the lord.

Make we no meet liabilities tha will frustrate us to early grave..

Dailyparrot:
My brother lives in the remote part of Ikorodu. They have three kids.

The children didn't go to school throughout last term and this term again, they've been staying at home. When other kids in the compound have gone to school, his kids will remain at home with the wife doing nothing.

The reason the wife stopped the kids from going to school is because she wants them to leave that part of Lagos and move to the developed part of Ikorodu or any township part of Lagos.

Invariably, she's using the kids staying at home to protest and punish the husband, maybe?

I feel she's punishing the kids and not the husband. My brother leaves for work very early in the morning and will not be able to take the kids to school himself.

He's not financially capable of relocating at this time but I feel he can plan with his wife and save towards relocating, maybe in a year's time but I doubt the wife is taking the best approach.

The wife said she's not taking up any job or starting any business until they relocate from that area. So for now, the whole burden is on my brother.

Please, what's the best approach to this their family issue. We don't want to take side and go hard on the wife, but, don't feel she's taking the best decision for the kids.

I understand the woman and the man but, she's taking things too far. They can have an arrangement for her to move to her parent's house for the time being if they live in Lagos. They can then plan on raising the money to rent an apartment in the busier part of town

Dailyparrot:
My brother lives in the remote part of Ikorodu. They have three kids.

The children didn't go to school throughout last term and this term again, they've been staying at home. When other kids in the compound have gone to school, his kids will remain at home with the wife doing nothing.

The reason the wife stopped the kids from going to school is because she wants them to leave that part of Lagos and move to the developed part of Ikorodu or any township part of Lagos.

Invariably, she's using the kids staying at home to protest and punish the husband, maybe?

I feel she's punishing the kids and not the husband. My brother leaves for work very early in the morning and will not be able to take the kids to school himself.

He's not financially capable of relocating at this time but I feel he can plan with his wife and save towards relocating, maybe in a year's time but I doubt the wife is taking the best approach.

The wife said she's not taking up any job or starting any business until they relocate from that area. So for now, the whole burden is on my brother.

Please, what's the best approach to this their family issue. We don't want to take side and go hard on the wife, but, don't feel she's taking the best decision for the kids.

If the environment is not safe for the kids...the wife is right. Skull mining and kidnapping is real on many remote parts of afonjaland.

EDOSBROWN:
I FEAR WHO NO FEAR VAGINAL PPLE

Vagina people ?