It is best you go with the one you're compatible with. Love is overrated. A successful marriage involves tremendous sacrifice and discipline from both parties. Many a time, we shun the wife who will not give us wahala and go for the one we love. Love usually connotes the one who excites us and not who will stick with you come rain and sunshine.(Read 1 Cor 13:4- The wife that will make you find truly successful wherever you go (Read Joshua 1:7u6r

Many men fall in love with women who have high levels of education, a good job, beauty, fine figure, great cook, and so on. We don't think of the one who will raise God-fearing children, the one who will advise we eat 1 piece of meat and use the extra money to buy land, the one you'll still love after having 2 kids and so on. We need to see beyond the surface (Proverbs 31:10-31)

Marry the one you love who also loves you back... It's a mutual thing

aylive02:
One with big yarnsh

It will end in tears

The one that love me ofcourse

VladimirPutiin:


It will end in tears

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The one who loves me sure pass.

She go always forgive me anytime I fck up and she no go leave me if table turns against me financially.

The one who loves me and the one I love. But the man must love me more, there is more peace when the man loves more.

Word from a G


Marry girl wey love you no be the one you go dey sniff her pant dey follow her for yansh,carry her bag up and down .

Simps get their tears in premium.

colgysl:
Okk

I hear say bet9ja don crash

The Bible made this discussion very simple when it said Women respect your husband and men love your wives. A woman who sorely respects her husband will enjoy the full love from him

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Double0h7:
There will always be someone who loves or shows that love just a little bit more than the other. I prefer the one I love because it makes it easier to put up with his bs.

word

Meh, I don't want to marry somebody I don't love, nor can I marry someone who doesn't love me.

I will marry the one that loves me. With time I will creat a room of love and accommodate her.

As a female, it is wise to go for the man who loves you.

Toks2008:
Let me paraphrase this so that it can make more sense. Would you rather be with someone who wishes to be with another person? Because this is the case if you find yourself married to the one you love who does not love you and YES people marry without really wanting to be with the person they are married to.

This may sound so twisted but it is not at all. It is the dream of many people to be with someone they love who also loves them in return but we all know that this is seldom the case as we usually have the feelings tilted in one direction and as they say, the person who loves less in a relationship holds the power over the other.

I have met ladies who i love and i have met those who love me and i can tell you for a fact that these two categories are not in anyway alike.

When you love someone and they don't feel same way, you usually see yourself having to do more of the work to make it work and in most cases, you are taken for granted because the other person cares less if you stay or leave..

But when you are with someone you don't really desire but the person desires you, you will feel very uncomfortable at the beginning but there will be this serenity in your life with so much inner assurance that you are truly cherished and you will feel so alive and loved so much that you will inevitably start developing strong affection for the other person. (The beauty and the Beast is not just a fiction very realistic)

As a man, if you marry a lady who truly loves you, she will submit to you, cherish you, treat you like a king and will never see any reason to be with another man. And in like manner, if a woman marries a man who truly desires her,. he will treat her like a queen and cherish her all the days of his life.

YES i understand how twisted this sounds cos whether you choose the one you love that does not love you or you choose the one who loves you but you do not feel same way, the bottom line is that there is still an imbalance in the affection.

But be it as it may, you can never know how special you are until you meet someone who genuinely desires you and sometimes it is best to leave the one you love to be with the one who loves you because with time, you will realize you made the right decision.

So let us have your opinion.

Someone I love

I married the one who loves me.
It's better, my love will gradually grow to meet with that of my spouse eventually.

I nor Dey like love girl and make girl nor love me just get yansh�

Unfortunately, most times it works like this that the one you love does not love you in return and the one who loves you you do not love equally... Life is mysterious.

But to answer your question directly, I'd rather, as a man, marry the one who loves me dearly, the love of a woman is stronger

oluwaseyi0:
I was once in this dilemma

I was pursuing this girl who is forming not yet ready for relationship while their is another giving me all the green light, green light was so bright that we had sex before I even officially toast her

I realized I deserve to be love and simply go for who love me, it make my life very easy as I've never ever regret it

Lobatan!

Never marry a woman you love more, the other way is better for a man.

The one with big nyansh.

I will go for a woman that loves me, if a man settles with a woman she love, then obviously he will be struggling till they kingdom come to satisfy her and makes things work. But for the woman that loves you.. reverse is the case.

A good write up and point you made. The thing is, women are being advised to marry who loves them more and so also men are advised to marry who loves them more.

For me, I would really prefer to marry who I love, but like you stated, most times there is always an inbalance. Personally the problem I have with marrying who loves you more is that one ends up 'settling' with who think is safer for. But is this really fair on the other person?

The one that has sense.

Toks2008:


But be it as it may, you can never know how special you are until you meet someone who genuinely desires you and sometimes it is best to leave the one you love to be with the one who loves you because with time, you will realize you made the right decision.

So let us have your opinion.

See Word! Toks Baba. GOD bless you for your insightful and very deep threads back to back. This is why i dey follow you to know when you drop your mature threads.

Kudos. I learnt something today.

luminouz:
Here we go again!!!!!

Gbas gbos coming in. 3...2...1

Choose one bros

Iamajala:
All of the above. If she loves me but I no love her nko?

As a man, it is better that way. You will grow into her when you’re getting older.