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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Allisgud: 7:42pm On Apr 07, 2022
I will marry the one who love me,she go dey adore me and I will be feeling like a king,but I wount take her for granted,so it will balance

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Kaymansion(m): 7:42pm On Apr 07, 2022
The one who loves me because to even cheat on you, will be like she wanted to commit suicide

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Nobody: 7:42pm On Apr 07, 2022
Nebes:


As a guy, I've chosen to marry the woman I love. For me, a woman's love does not mean much. In the long run, what men crave is honor and respect, while women seek for love and security.

Wisdom.. too much.

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Oceanjagaban: 7:45pm On Apr 07, 2022
The two of them dey crase
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by luminouz(m): 7:45pm On Apr 07, 2022
UyaiIncomparabl:


I know your type. I handle them well.

Even without seeing me in real life at all? You must a Grand Witch o. grin

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by tolajay: 7:46pm On Apr 07, 2022
Intrinsically, women are unable to love (in the context of amorous relationship).

They simply mirror and respond to acts and words of love from their male chasers. grin Sad truth!

Look around, who does most of chasing in a relationship? Who does most of the giving?

In fact, structurally (actually biologically) women are the receivers...pun. wink Mind you, the man is often pleased to be the giver (intrinsically and egotistically), all things being equal.

Spiritually, there's a reason the Bible commanded men to love their wives. Because it knew that women can only respond to love (they can't give). However, the response of the woman is meant to be submission. Read Ephesians 5.

The woman's love is wrapped in her submission.

This is the sequence: Man submits to Christ (as Christ submitted to God) > Man loves his wife (as Christ loves the church and died for it) > Wife submits to man (as Christ submitted to God). It therefore tells you that everyone in the family is submitted to Christ either directly or by proxy. Submission is actually both ways and all rounder in the Christian family.

When these scriptural commandments are obeyed to the latter, no storm or satan can break the family.

I have noticed that it is easier for a man who truly loves a woman to tell say "I love you" than it is for the woman.

Do you know it's harder for a woman to stay in a love-less relationship than it is for man to keep up with an obstinate woman?

Summary 1: It's the man's responsibility to LOVE.

Summary 2: Christ is the premise for a happy life and a successful marriage. God instituted marriage and it can't be operated with mere human psychology or theology. Jesus is the way!



Toks2008:
Let me paraphrase this so that it can make more sense. Would you rather be with someone who wishes to be with another person? Because this is the case if you find yourself married to the one you love who does not love you and YES people marry without really wanting to be with the person they are married to...

So let us have your opinion.

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Nobody: 7:46pm On Apr 07, 2022
The one who loves me jare
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Nobody: 7:50pm On Apr 07, 2022
I don't like you, I don't care how you feel about me, just bear me kids.
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by AdeniyiA(m): 7:51pm On Apr 07, 2022
Karleb:
The one with big nyansh. grin

You have failed even before you started bro... Afidipotemole

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by showafrica(m): 7:52pm On Apr 07, 2022
Tonytonex:
WOW! I kinda agree with you. Especially on the last sentence. It's like I will follow this your advice. Cause the babe I love with all my being is not really into me and she's taking me for granted. Where as, there's this lady that loves me so much. And funny thing is that she is even more beautiful and well endowed than the one I love.

Na so e be bro, talking from experience. Go for the one wey love you genuinely for nothing. That one you love, will keep you miserable forever. I repeat, go for the woman wey love you more, find a way to love her back and mean it. But make e be say her love big pass your own.

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Avast(m): 7:53pm On Apr 07, 2022
I married the one that loves me dearly.

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by kayperry: 7:53pm On Apr 07, 2022
Nebes:


As a guy, I've chosen to marry the woman I love. For me, a woman's love does not mean much. In the long run, what men crave is honor and respect, while women seek for love and security.


Bro you are entitled to your opinion and respect your decision buh consider this a chit chat. based on the popular scripture in the bible[b] "22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands" [/b]while "25 Husbands, love your wives,"
For years it bugged my mind why the word "submit" was used instead of love, a quote like "women love your husband and husband love your wife could have made perfect sense buh with time i got to realize a woman can't love a man, highest is respect cos a woman's love is subtly reserved for her offsprings. what this literally means is that, women carry a deficit towards men but the good signs to look out for is; "if she respect you well enough thats her own true love"
As a man its not your job to love a woman, its a conditional responsibility, a man's love can be ascribed as "REWARD therefore as a man it is best to marry a woman that loves(respect) you more, @least that will alway cover up for the deficit in her nature.

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Nobody: 7:54pm On Apr 07, 2022
hopexter:


A woman’s love might not mean much to you, I have a mother and her love means a lot to me right from infant till this day. All I’m saying is it’s better to marry who loves you to who you love. Cos a woman’s love is engraved with [b]faithfulness, protection and respect. [/b]She will never allow harm into your way.

But there are grave repercussions in which ever! Another day’s discussion smiley

You all keep getting it wrong. Love may make a woman faithful but it's not love that makes a woman or anyone for that matter faithful but their values/ principles as a person. Integrity, honesty, respect, contentment and stability.

My point is, you need not be in love to respect your spouse and be faithful to them. It's values that count when it comes to choosing a partner.

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Richarlison640(m): 7:55pm On Apr 07, 2022
I will prefer someone who loves me my peace of mind matter more to me
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Tonytonex(m): 7:59pm On Apr 07, 2022
showafrica:


Na so e be bro, talking from experience. Go for the one wey love you genuinely for nothing. That one you love, will keep you miserable forever. I repeat, go for the woman wey love you more, find a way to love her back and mean it. But make e be say her love big pass your own.
okay. Thank you so much.

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by MadamOk(f): 8:04pm On Apr 07, 2022
I concur to this point, you are real niggar of Nlanders smiley smiley
slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Marry a woman that loves me more

To all my real niggarz
If you finally decide to change your mind and marry...then please marry the woman that loves you more....he get why...

When a woman loves....she loves for real

And thier sympathetic and empathy hormones will circulate and increase the more
Any little thing they will easily forgive you..they will never mount pressure on you

You must be a real niggar....you are very correct...right hand on keyboard and left hand on my weed anyday anytime twice on Thursday...key board warrior for a reason
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by kayperry: 8:05pm On Apr 07, 2022
tolajay:
Intrinsically, women are unable to love (in the context of amorous relationship).

They simply mirror and respond to acts and words of love from their male chasers. grin Sad truth!

Look around, who does most of chasing in a relationship? Who does most of the giving?

In fact, structurally (actually biologically) women are the receivers...pun. wink Mind you, the man is often pleased to be the giver (intrinsically and egotistically), all things being equal.

Spiritually, there's a reason the Bible commanded men to love their wives. Because it knew that women can only respond to love (they can't give). However, the response of the woman is meant to be submission. Read Ephesians 5.

The woman's love is wrapped in her submission.

This is the sequence: Man submits to Christ (as Christ submitted to God) > Man loves his wife (as Christ loves the church and died for it) > Wife submits to man (as Christ submitted to God). It therefore tells you that everyone in the family is submitted to Christ either directly or by proxy. Submission is actually both ways and all rounder in the Christian family.

When these scriptural commandments are obeyed to the latter, no storm or satan can break the family.

I have noticed that it is easier for a man who truly loves a woman to tell say "I love you" than it is for the woman.

Do you know it's harder for a woman to stay in a love-less relationship than it is for man to keep up with an obstinate woman?

Summary 1: It's the man's responsibility to LOVE.

Summary 2: Christ is the premise for a happy life and a successful marriage. God instituted marriage and it can't be operated with mere human psychology or theology. Jesus is the way!






woof ! if i had seen your comment i for no waste my hard earn ink wink
Buh i have heard guyz say they love "challenges".. so i'm like can a woman give respect and still give challenge or how does it work undecided
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Ebakere: 8:08pm On Apr 07, 2022
The one who loves me cos I will fall in love immediately I finds out you love me






Honey where are you �
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Revolva(m): 8:08pm On Apr 07, 2022
The one who truly.love me
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by frankson1(m): 8:09pm On Apr 07, 2022
luminouz:
Here we go again!!!!!

Gbas gbos coming in. 3...2...1

N.B: That's why redpillers subscribe to being CHOSEN. It's the best feeling ever. You don't suffer from urgent 2k requests, birthday billings, Pay-my-school fees-naaa scenarios and all that entitlement bullshiit. You, are in control because it's the person who loves less that has the upper hand in the relationship. You enjoy the true benefits of having a woman take care of you,

I have never bought a phone for any girl, never paid for her hair...or her school fees or apartment or given her allowance. Anytime I hear men say they did such to make their girlfriends love them more, I shake my head. These dudes don't know what's up. I have in many occasions even collected the monies given to these girls by their 'hard working ATMs' after having their guts blown out by me. I'm the prize, because I made myself so.




And you're very proud of yourself undecided undecided

Oga, go and learn to be a man because you're still a boy.




But when we tell men to become the best versions of themselves, they scream 'hustle o, make another man no fuq your wife ooooo'... Forgetting that we fuq their so-called girlfriends too, despite the money they have invested in these girls. Money won't get the girl all the time. Chosen does
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by luminouz(m): 8:13pm On Apr 07, 2022
[quote author=frankson1 post=111741405][/quote]

Please quote me properly next time.

Yes I am a man. If you doubt it, PM me to see me na.

Frankson1, don't waste your money on women who don't love you. It always ends in premium lager Tears!!!
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by ikorodureporta: 8:19pm On Apr 07, 2022
That's why you shl chase that person that u're interested in... Before she starts feeling that you don't love her the way she loves you

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Lima98(f): 8:25pm On Apr 07, 2022
Toks2008:
Let me paraphrase this so that it can make more sense. Would you rather be with someone who wishes to be with another person? Because this is the case if you find yourself married to the one you love who does not love you and YES people marry without really wanting to be with the person they are married to.

This may sound so twisted but it is not at all. It is the dream of many people to be with someone they love who also loves them in return but we all know that this is seldom the case as we usually have the feelings tilted in one direction and as they say, the person who loves less in a relationship holds the power over the other.

I have met ladies who i love and i have met those who love me and i can tell you for a fact that these two categories are not in anyway alike.

When you love someone and they don't feel same way, you usually see yourself having to do more of the work to make it work and in most cases, you are taken for granted because the other person cares less if you stay or leave..

But when you are with someone you don't really desire but the person desires you, you will feel very uncomfortable at the beginning but there will be this serenity in your life with so much inner assurance that you are truly cherished and you will feel so alive and loved so much that you will inevitably start developing strong affection for the other person. (The beauty and the Beast is not just a fiction very realistic)

As a man, if you marry a lady who truly loves you, she will submit to you, cherish you, treat you like a king and will never see any reason to be with another man. And in like manner, if a woman marries a man who truly desires her,. he will treat her like a queen and cherish her all the days of his life.

YES i understand how twisted this sounds cos whether you choose the one you love that does not love you or you choose the one who loves you but you do not feel same way, the bottom line is that there is still an imbalance in the affection.

But be it as it may, you can never know how special you are until you meet someone who genuinely desires you and sometimes it is best to leave the one you love to be with the one who loves you because with time, you will realize you made the right decision.

So let us have your opinion.
thats reality
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by badbros(m): 8:30pm On Apr 07, 2022
slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Marry a woman that loves me more

To all my real niggarz
If you finally decide to change your mind and marry...then please marry the woman that loves you more....he get why...

When a woman loves....she loves for real

And thier sympathetic and empathy hormones will circulate and increase the more
Any little thing they will easily forgive you..they will never mount pressure on you

You must be a real niggar....you are very correct...right hand on keyboard and left hand on my weed anyday anytime twice on Thursday...key board warrior for a reason

grin grin would love to light one with you some day and catch cruise, you dey
Yarn correct grin grin

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by stasius: 8:30pm On Apr 07, 2022
The one who loves me
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Emdebby2: 8:32pm On Apr 07, 2022
Hard to decide.
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Nebes: 8:34pm On Apr 07, 2022
kayperry:



Bro you are entitled to your opinion and respect your decision buh consider this a chit chat. based on the popular scripture in the bible[b] "22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands" [/b]while "25 Husbands, love your wives,"
For years it bugged my mind why the word "submit" was used instead of love, a quote like "women love your husband and husband love your wife could have made perfect sense buh with time i got to realize a woman can't love a man, highest is respect cos a woman's love is subtly reserved for her offsprings. what this literally means is that, women carry a deficit towards men but the good signs to look out for is; "if she respect you well enough thats her own true love"
As a man its not your job to love a woman, its a conditional responsibility, a man's love can be ascribed as "REWARD therefore as a man it is best to marry a woman that loves(respect) you more, @least that will alway cover up for the deficit in her nature.

From my experience and learning, love is not equal to respect.
A man's love for a woman softens him towards her. But if you rely on a woman's love, don't be surprised when she scolds and disrespects you even while confessing her love for you.

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by sirp9898(m): 8:36pm On Apr 07, 2022
But we Nigerians dont love ourselves
Y are we one?
Pls explain no insults
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Berankis: 8:37pm On Apr 07, 2022
Simply the one who loves me.
Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by Gkemz: 8:40pm On Apr 07, 2022
As a man, marry who loves you. Though she may not be attractive to you. It's your duty to make her attractive. Just as you p.i.m.p your car you cherish, so you can p.i.m.p her to look as good as you wanted, but so long as she's worthy of such.

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Re: Who would you marry? The one you love or the one who loves you. by frankson1(m): 8:41pm On Apr 07, 2022
luminouz:


Please quote me properly next time.

Yes I am a man. If you doubt it, PM me to see me na.

Frankson1, don't waste your money on women who don't love you. It always ends in premium lager Tears!!!




I don't waste money on women neither do I give them money in exchange for love.

Besides, I have more male 'friends' who tries to take advantage of me than the female friends.

The problem with lots of guys when it comes to giving to ladies is that they always expect something in return which is nothing more than sex. And when the lady turn them down, they become cry babies.

How many of the guys in this group help a fellow guy when in distress


With your comment, I thought it's a taboo for you to assist ladies who genuinely need your assistance.



HELP THOSE WHO GENUINELY NEED YOUR HELP WITHOUT EXPECTING SOMETHING IN RETURN BECAUSE IT WON'T MAKE YOU BECOME WEAK.



Please, how did I quote wrongly so I can correct it next time

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