LadyRosa:
You married a very self entitled,lazy woman who is badly nutured.Her mom is also not well trained.Very nasty upbringing!No brother of mine will ever make this mistake, except he didn't tell me.Them trust me na,I get the mind them no get.If I have an in law like yours,She won't even get pregnant before she is kicked out of the house alongside her mother.Yes!I go EXTRA length when I want something done.

What nonsense!

My elder brother's wife played that game at the beginning of their marriage.I heard rumors of her bullshit,I ignored.Came home during one of my office breaks Alas!I met him too in the family house looking all slim and weary A once vibrant young energetic man.I asked him why he was looking like that ,he laughed and downplay the reasons.Lied,but I Know the rumors already.

Kept quiet....

Till she messed up right in a family reunion.

First I reminded her she is a pauper,her father is a carpenter and her mom is not in the country to protect her as she is remarried.Nobody will clearly fight for you,you don't have the money nor the connection,nor the leverage.I open openly told my brother there that his ex gf is still available,and willing to return whenever he changes his mind.I will single handedly pay a new woman's dowry and bring her home.Her mother had to call me to apologize on her daughters behalf after the fool told me she'd leave with her child.I told her mother point black her daughter will not be alive to take even a single baby socks out of any house belonging to my father's house.Not even a diaper.I will personally bundle you out!

Now,my elder brother is a very quiet, conservative guy who never stay out late.I love him so much, very much and the man he choose to be.Them no born any woman well to run am down AS LONG AS I'M ALIVE.I will bury that woman and order for an expensive black shade for her burial.

The wife is very calm now.Like she went herself to buy humility she lacked from the local market.I don't even call her,no member of the family behaves like she exists when she is around.

Mariangeles:


Make your brother cool down na? Make e no make work hard for another man.
Na only love go fit humble her laslas.

tensazangetsu20:
I am curious why is it that if good marriages exist I never hear or see them. It's always the bad experiences I see. I mean with regards to other things in life I always see pros and cons but with regards to marriage I always see the bad why?

sgtponzihater1:
Cerebral physics:

They expect a who is at fault type write-up. The finger always points back to men in this case. You didn't search well, you didn't study her, you didn't investigate.

Interesting as the above line of thought sounds, it puts the buck back at the feet of men. Men would always be the mule that bears the brunt.

Nothing wrong shaming a pot bellied man, but it's offensive to call a lady fat; use plus sized instead. Like no harm calling a man jobless and lazy, but a woman who makes up at 12noon is one who just want to relax and be taken care of.

Life is hard for men. The only thing men need is someone to cheer him on. Tell him well done for the little he is doing, and tell him don't worry when he fails, we can try again tomorrow.

It will all be well with all the men putting in the work, and all the tears dropping down their brows will not counting as nothing in the end.

SgtPonziHater

odinson1:


With all this long talk, you still didn't mention one EXCLUSIVE benefit men have to gain from marriage.

All you wrote is a bunch of fallacies, marriage is just a Name,a term and a contract.
It doesn't make one automatically successful as you may think. Being married does not magically make one motivated to reach any goal,it is just a Term and a Contract where you devote your entire life, energy and resources,being committed to a woman who's only Goal is to have a Slave(who sees himself as king,mental slavery if you will) and Continuously milk him dry down till the very last drop.
Ever wonder why most husbands are thinner than their wives, while the wives look like baby elephants? It is because the man has been tirelessly working day and night, to Feed a Parasite whose only value to give is sex. Yes,there are women who offer way more than sex,but the Majority wins the vote right?

What a brilliant comment. I am married but I wholeheartedly support your opinion. Marriage is overrated in this part of the world. You can live a perfectly happy life with all the supposedly “benefits” married people enjoy.

DontBullshitMe:
Enough of the wailing.

You want marriage, marry.

You don't want marriage, don't marry.

sgtponzihater1:
Good stuff! Nearly a week ago, a friend mentioned to me how man had become a joke in his own house. He was pulling all the stunts for years. Unfortunately life, ill-health and frailty set in, and the wife now makes a joke out of him. Look after you health and well being.
All is well.

LondonDating:
True talk. A friends Mum in Nigeria waited for her 80 something year old husband to go blind before unleashing torture on the blind man.

Whenever he goes to wee and he misses the toilet bowl due to his blindness, she locks the front door and starts flogging the blind man with koboko to the point that the neighbors have to break the door down to rescue the blind husband from her koboko.
And these are people who studied in England many years ago.
The vulture is a patient bird.

Kobojunkie:
What did the man do to her?

LondonDating:
I don't have a clue as I am just relaying what my friend told me.

But regardless, who flogs a blind person (especially someone in their eighties) who can not defend themselves or know where the lashes are coming from.

odinson1:


With all this long talk, you still didn't mention one EXCLUSIVE benefit men have to gain from marriage.

All you wrote is a bunch of fallacies, marriage is just a Name,a term and a contract.
It doesn't make one automatically successful as you may think. Being married does not magically make one motivated to reach any goal,it is just a Term and a Contract where you devote your entire life, energy and resources,being committed to a woman who's only Goal is to have a Slave(who sees himself as king,mental slavery if you will) and Continuously milk him dry down till the very last drop.
Ever wonder why most husbands are thinner than their wives, while the wives look like baby elephants? It is because the man has been tirelessly working day and night, to Feed a Parasite whose only value to give is sex. Yes,there are women who offer way more than sex,but the Majority wins the vote right?

odinson1:


With all this long talk, you still didn't mention one EXCLUSIVE benefit men have to gain from marriage.

All you wrote is a bunch of fallacies, marriage is just a Name,a term and a contract.
It doesn't make one automatically successful as you may think. Being married does not magically make one motivated to reach any goal,it is just a Term and a Contract where you devote your entire life, energy and resources,being committed to a woman who's only Goal is to have a Slave(who sees himself as king,mental slavery if you will) and Continuously milk him dry down till the very last drop.
Ever wonder why most husbands are thinner than their wives, while the wives look like baby elephants? It is because the man has been tirelessly working day and night, to Feed a Parasite whose only value to give is sex. Yes,there are women who offer way more than sex,but the Majority wins the vote right?

cindylindy:
Yes from my own marital experience and from my own perspective marriage in this modern era is a big scam

odinson1:

The marriage rate is declining yearly,more men who gain more in marriage (according to you),are opting out for their Peace of mind and freedom.
Now i ask again,what do you gain in marriage that i won't gain being unmarried? By gain i mean something Tangible and Exclusive to only men.

ibechris:



I have benefited immensely from Marriage like it or not.

Marriage benefits far outweighs its disadvantage. When it comes to investments,my wife is my partner and my advisor and in fact,someone I rely on to offer her cherished ideas.

I have never been depressed as a married man but many of u singles are already depressed with baby mama's.

Financially,married people like me reach their financial goals faster than singles out there...who are looking for a baby mama to impregnate.

Married people have shown commitment to appointments and responsibilities than singles.

Marriage is a driving force that helps u to take ethical responsibility and that is why u will see more unserious singles caught as yahoo plus men.

ibechris:



Men benefits more in marriage than women.

Hathor5:
Edited

Now that I have read the entire story, I have this to say. You blame that other people tricked you into marriage by saying that marriage life was sweet. Your experience was bitter though.

Did you ask those people how they made their marriages sweet? Or did you believe it takes a wedding ceremony for a marriage to be sweet?

You say that your single life was awesome. Did the things you were enjoying before you got married fall from heaven? Or had you worked for them?

Why do you people put so much effort into their careers but believe that a good relationship/marriage must fall from heaven? Why are people willing and ready to go the extra mile for their career goals but not for their marriages/relationships/families?

The truth is: if you want your marriage/relationship to be sweet, be ready to work for it.

I wish those other people would have told you that too.

Slynation:
what did I just read... Anyways, A wise man once told me "You won't know the effects until it starts affecting you"