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Re: What Lesson Has Friends Taught You So Far by DonroxyII: 9:42pm On May 14, 2022 |
Munzy14:Your God who lives in Your Brain: That's why you have to Develop Your Brain enough to Understand Your God inside of it: If not Na wakawaka tire and people go dey push you around: |
Re: What Lesson Has Friends Taught You So Far by emmaodet: 7:30am On Mar 12, 2023 |
pansophist: That is the more reason you don't need to take a horse to the river rather a cow because a cow will naturally drink water when it gets to river without the herdsman forcing it. |
Re: What Lesson Has Friends Taught You So Far by Qatar2022: 10:43am On Mar 12, 2023 |
seguno2:As their GOD or father? You can't please everyone |
Re: What Lesson Has Friends Taught You So Far by Qatar2022: 10:45am On Mar 12, 2023 |
pansophist:You see the kind sense this person you quote Have? That's the kind of person that can bring his rich friend down and can even poison him |
Re: What Lesson Has Friends Taught You So Far by pansophist(m): 10:54am On Mar 12, 2023 |
emmaodet: This your calabar analogy, abeg break am down. Are you saying that a successful person should help someone who is hardworking (the cow) and not lazy (the horse)? If yes, then it's true. You're right. There is this false notion that when someone is suffering, it's not their fault. That he is suffering because his brother didn't help him, or his father is a drunkard. In many cases, lots of people are suffering due to their own fault. I know many idiots like that. I am a very empathetic person and hate seeing people suffer, which made me became a magnet for lots of people who need help. Over the years, I've come to accept the harsh fact that some people are like stone, even if they believe they are seeds. Doesn't matter if you expose them to the brightest sun, freshwater, manure and the most fertile ground, they are loosers. They won't grow. If you help them up, then you must keep being the foundationso they will keep staying up. If you leave, they disintegrate. Their strength is external, not internal. They are basically scum. Right now if someone miserable comes for help, I first try to analyse if he is suffering because of a fault that is not his own. If I see that they lived a reckless life and still don't want to own up to it, I ignore. If you didn't knew the story of Cain in the Bible, you'll pity him and wonder why he is suffering. He will lie and explain how life have not been good to him. But the idiot killed his brother Abel, gave God trash as a burnt offering, and was punished for it. His suffering is legitimate and as a result of his handwork. You don't interfere with nature's work. Leave him. I know a looser with three baby mamas, smokes and do drugs, lazy and pompous to the core. I hosted this guy in my house for a year, but while I though I was helping, I didn't know I was training a snake filled with envy. His seasonal Yahoo money was not sustainable, but he wouldnt go get a job. This was far back when I was still a student. I was doing a dirty job, struggling in a foreign land, but when I come back home, I can't sleep on my bed because this idiot brought a girl home. Until I kicked him out. Up till now, he lives in lonely women's house. Women whom are desperate for a man. He is a leech that needs a host. If you don't know him, he will create stories that will make you pity him and help. So that's just a good example of how a lot of idiots are the architect of their own problems. So yes you're right. You help a cow, not a horse. Cow that have sense. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Lesson Has Friends Taught You So Far by pansophist(m): 11:03am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Qatar2022: This is nairaland. Many people no get sense here. But I respond because a young clueless man might be reading, so I give an alternative views. 2 Likes |
Re: What Lesson Has Friends Taught You So Far by Autobot05: 1:02pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
Im Antisocial.. I don't do friends Well they are only there in the fairweather days .. once it gets tough they switch. I have only one person I refer to as a friend ( a bro from another mother ) .. he has been there for me for 13 years now. |
Re: What Lesson Has Friends Taught You So Far by Freo(m): 1:07pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
Emmydarsy: Not everyone is perfect, he made a mistake. No one is above that kind of mistake(Including you) , plus he was young.. |
Re: What Lesson Has Friends Taught You So Far by emmaodet: 1:57pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
pansophist: You are right. I have come to notice also that if you keep helping people, they will keep coming back again and before you know it, your reoccurent expenditure is almost up to your income and you save or do no tangible things with your money and if you go broke, they will be the first to ask - what did he used his money for? If you tell them they are the reason, they will ask how much did you give me sef? No be 5/10k? But they forgot that a 5k here, a 10k there if garthered is what makes money. A drop of water fills a drum. Like you said, some people are just deadweights. My immediate brother is also like your friend. The family has tried to give him a life but it seems no matter how many times you throw a cutlass up, it will always come down flat and not pointed into the soil. Got him a job of 50k in Nigeria in 2017 has a teacher and hostel warder - he doesn't pay house rent since he stays in hostel house and he eats hostel food. Collects money from parents weekends who come to see their kids and also collects 10k per term for after school lesson to kids whose parents are interested. He was making money yet no savings, infact he will be calling home for more sef. A single guy fahh. Okay, after so much complain about Nigeria been hard and telling everyone at sight that I don't want to help him, my mum and I decided to bundle him to UAE Got a job through an agent in Ibadan for a private driving work with a company in Dubai for 150k naira equivalent with accommodation. My bro did this job for 5 years but no savings. Company didn't renew his work permit and he is back to Nigeria 2 weeks ago after 5 years. No savings, no investment, no wife, no kids, no lands, just Nothing I mean Nothing. A bag of liability. So unfortunate he is a man in his mid 30s. Wished he is a lady, we would have arranged a Hot thirsty simp to marry her off and take such liability off our face but unfortunately he is a man. Where do we start from now? My uncle that went to the same Dubai and same company a year after he left has turned his wretched family life around. Roofed his house last November. Sent his kids to better school and moved from a face me I slap you room to a flat. Same company ooo and this is even a married man with 3 kids compared to a hopeless single bachelor. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Lesson Has Friends Taught You So Far by Raalsalghul: 3:05pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
emmaodet: Egbon una no go kill me for this Nairaland. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 @ Hot Thirsty Simp. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Lesson Has Friends Taught You So Far by pansophist(m): 3:11pm On Mar 13, 2023 |
emmaodet: Last last, na them de suffer. Just don't interfere, because no matter what you do, it will make it worse for him. If you keep helping and pushing his Armageddon far into the future, the urgency to sit up will not come. Also, he would be convinced that he has shock absorbers, in form of families that will rescue him. The mindset of loosers are very different to winners, and until you can think like them, you won't know how they operate. One thing everyone must come to accept is the simple fact that the evil we hate outside sometimes is in us, in our families, especially parents, children and siblings. Your son might become a thief, your parent a drunkard and wife a narcissist. Just like we all know we shall die one day, but live our lives like it's other people that will die, and not us, it's the same thing. Bad and lazy folks can be our family too. And this we must accept. His first responsibility is towards himself, and his behavior doesn't seems like someone that is responsible for himself, so his actions has release you from any obligation to be responsible towards him. Even the Bible said, "do not cast pearls to swines", meaning you don't give value to a person who can't utilise it. I mean, you're not a Superman. You want ally as a brother, not a permanent dependant. You want him to rescue you if you ever need help. The assistance has to be mutual, not one-way. Your family have given him the sword (education, financial help etc) to fight for his financial freedom, but if he refuse to fight, then leave him there. The battleground is unforgiven and will deal with him until he learns. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
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