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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by qtguru(m): 10:18am On May 31, 2022 |
typical women drama lol |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by hardon1(m): 10:18am On May 31, 2022 |
Tell us the real Truth. For your wife to accuse you of something of such gravity and damn the consequences means she has warned and showed you of her displeasure about your closeness with your brothers wife Perhaps you spend more time with the said woman compared to your family, you send her money sometimes, you visit her more often than not when she is sick etc No woman will take that. when you are married, you must define your level of relationship with third parties, especially if you spouse finds it uncomfortable. This one is not even your sister sef but your brothers wife I can't really advice your cause I don't know your wife's part of the story. But it's obvious you have shown certain level of undue care and concern for her that is why you wife is angry and resorted to false accusation 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Havertz10: 10:20am On May 31, 2022 |
Guessing you were generous, maybe you have more money than your brother, started to overdo for his wife aiming to sleep with her, your wife being close, noticed and chose this method to prevent it 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Mode99: 10:20am On May 31, 2022 |
I think you are the only one trying to resolve the issue here..... And why would your wife accuse you of sleeping with your brother's wife?? Who does that without evidence?? ..... Your wife and your brother's wife were good friends ryt?? So what happened to the trust?? Please tell us the truth, Cos your wife can't accuse you of doing such without an evidence!!! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Evergreen4(m): 10:20am On May 31, 2022 |
DamnnNiggarr:when you cut a rope and retie it, definitely the length of the rope will reduce 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by babtoundey(m): 10:21am On May 31, 2022 |
You're telling us 1.5 percent of the whole story and you expect us to understand or suggest the next line of action. What scattered the friendship of your wife and your brothers wife? Was she only suspicious you were sleeping or slept with her because of your limitless closseness with her or she was actually right (You indeed slept with the woman and she directly or indirectly caught you)? If it is just a mere accusation and you as man gave her no reason to arrive at that conclusion, then you and your wife must do the right thing. If your hands are clean and you never slept or intended to sleep with your brother's wife, such accusation is not something you allow to go unchallenged. She is your wife, but she must respect your dignity. If she can't respect yours she should respect that of another woman. You can't just get your brother's wife to start talking to your wife until your wife does the right thing; prove her accusation or tender an unreserved apology to the woman whose ego was bruised. This is not a case of my obim, it is a matter of getting your obim do the right thing. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Emaprince: 10:21am On May 31, 2022 |
franchasofficia:Your last line caught me, man. I can't even imagine that. My personal experience. I once met a girl online and after weeks and much chats, she visited me. She looked so much like my elder bro wife. I had goose pimples all over myself. She came and I was so cold..with so much running through my mind. She found out I wasn't excited cos the energy I was giving off wasn't romantic in any way again. I told her the truth and showed her pic of my bro wife. Bottom line, I didn't go far with her as I know I can't get an erection for her. She left, I blocked her everywhere and deleted her number. So when I hear about people having amorous affair with their inlaws, I wonder how. As for this topic.. I have always said it here that when you see women crying, praying and fasting for a husband, one would think that any man getting married to them will be lucky. But the opposite is usually the case. They will come and destroy his relationship with friends and families...and also cheat on him. Some will go as far as getting pregnant outside her marriage and the pin the bastard on the man. Women have made marriage to look like a health risk for men. Thats why men are scared of committing to it..while women are desperate for it. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Emmanuel909090: 10:21am On May 31, 2022 |
Women wahala is always extendable. |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Enumerator(m): 10:22am On May 31, 2022 |
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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Nobody: 10:22am On May 31, 2022 |
Op y were too close to ur brothers wife? ur wife acted Purely on jealousy and u have her every reason for that, u are the one that started the whole problem, Even if u no get respect for urslf, u re married and ur actions should show that, if u don't want to marry why did u go ahead to marry ur wife and still get too close with ur younger bro wife, now that the family is divided the best u can do is maintain good relations with ur bro, and stay off his marriage, okay, the women has succeeded in dividing u and ur bro, now is the time to take ur properties and deeds for their self, this is a divide and rule tactics used by women that want complete control of their husband's assets! if u think women don't like it when her husband is isolated from his own parents and siblings, then u re a fool, if they cant divide it, they tend to stir up controversy and hate |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by ndukwejoe(m): 10:22am On May 31, 2022 |
my brother for now there is nothing you can do only time will do this |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Thorondor: 10:23am On May 31, 2022 |
Fear woman and save your life. I am living in one a female induced nightmare right now now 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by donbenie(m): 10:23am On May 31, 2022 |
Uprightness100:Where was the same prayer,when your Pastors are getting divorced,left,right and center? |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by glory008(f): 10:24am On May 31, 2022 |
My advice is let your younger brother act like is dieing than he should tell the wife to call you and your wife to come, your brother will now tell the 2 women to make peace among themselves and let him faint at the process You will now tell them to make peace while you form like you are taking him to the hospital and lock the 2 women in the house Until they make peace don't open the door for them Mean while the children should be with your sister or their grandparents 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Okobola146: 10:24am On May 31, 2022 |
You’re in a wrong place bro, take the matter to your elders in the village. They’ll know how to sort it out 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Enumerator(m): 10:24am On May 31, 2022 |
graphics112: 1 Like |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by FireUpNow(m): 10:24am On May 31, 2022 |
The OP cannot talk to his own wife and calm her down. The OP must trash out the issue first with his wife or else the OP is lying |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by chatinent: 10:24am On May 31, 2022 |
The guilty one will always be saying obim upandan. |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Ndidi2: 10:26am On May 31, 2022 |
franchasofficia:ask him whether he actually slept with her.. U don't know what some people are capable of doing.. |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Winneygirl(f): 10:27am On May 31, 2022 |
They must not be friends. Reconcile with your brother. Go for counselling with your wife. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Donnybill(m): 10:28am On May 31, 2022 |
I am certain you the husbands must have been doing compare and contrast. That's what started the divisions How? |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by edungene7: 10:29am On May 31, 2022 |
Good morning @ All OP you are the problem and not the women the jealousy of yr wife is the problem here you know yr wife better than any other member from yr family you should have sensed when you were crossing the lines as regards yr closeness with yr brothers wife if you also have issues of infidelity in yr marriage then lack of trust comes in because I wonder why yr wife would accuse you with such, but resolving this issue is in yr hands u must prove yr innocence or accept the accusations if you are guilty and finally make peace yr wife must apologize if you are innocent to every members of the family 1 Like |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by tarantino1: 10:31am On May 31, 2022 |
franchasofficia: Then you've never heard of Ryan Giggs. |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by almarthins(m): 10:31am On May 31, 2022 |
DamnnNiggarr: Some women can be dramatic. Two things I hate in women drama and nagging. No just use that one near me at all |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by ThePlugg(m): 10:32am On May 31, 2022 |
I didn't bother to read,but did you do it? 1 Like |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Drenix(m): 10:32am On May 31, 2022 |
flejnr2: Dumb response. |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by when2(f): 10:32am On May 31, 2022 |
You didn't limit your boundaries with your brother's wife. Hence the accusations from your wife. She maybe right or wrong. There must have been some kind of body language you must have displayed towards your brother's wife. Well, that's the consequences of involving yourself in women's affairs. Advise: if you're innocent try and convince your wife of your innocence and promise her to limit your boundaries towards her co-wife. Compel her to make peace with her co-wife. And you should make peace with your brother too. |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by CCC2(m): 10:34am On May 31, 2022 |
If truly u are innocent of sleeping with ur inlaw, then you have to severely punish ur wife for such accusation. I would rather sacrifice my marriage than allow her pollute the entire family. End that marriage if she refuse to apologize to the entire family. |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Nobody: 10:35am On May 31, 2022 |
DamnnNiggarr: Hahaha. You are a funny man. So, this small issue is why you are already something else. Your case is very common when there are boys in the family. For example, a family of 3 to 5 boys only is going to be on fire in Nigeria when the boys start getting married. Or if there are two big brothers who are the eldest... those two big brothers' wives will scatter the whole family with their wahala...and the younger sisters of the two brothers will be the victims. The parents sef usually don't count the two big brothers are the ones who will bury them. This is the story of Nigerians and marital issues. Male children in Nigeria when they are the eldest arent not that good. I have seen so many cases. The wives are the terrorists who will destroy the family. Listen sir, you are a weak person in this situation. When your wife accussed you of infidelity and you took it lightly, and she is still insisting that if it will make you go away from your younger brother's wife...hmmm....you are the cause. I cant tell you what to do, but that woman is a devil if truly you didnt do it. And listen, she should be in her parents' house by now. Na you no know weting dey worry you. Listen again, if I was the wife of your younger brother, see....I would make my man curse you sef on phone for calling my man...you that cannot handle your wife. You no well oo. And you are even saying you want your brother and you and their children to be fine. E no go better for that fine you dey talk. Go and think it through na. See, you are a yeye big brother. Na fact a dey tell you. You are weak. So, if you want to keep her, then, no wahala...keep her with your family and mind your business. If I am to advise your younger brother's wife, you esp are no go area cos you are the weak one. If you are serious, you would have drilled that wicked woman you called your wife. That thing that made her to be wicked, she would have vomited it so that you can know what is really happening. And if she is innocent, you will know and defend your wife. Perhaps, you are the only one even in dark. Dem just dey look you like say you be mumu. Your wife is your problem and not your brother. Face your wife and know what really happened. If she insists she doesnt want you close to her, then...if you be me....she don pack her loads to her parents' house. When she is ready to say what exactly is wrong...then, we can continue. If not, divorce letter dey dance Azonto in the cooler. Simple matter, people go dey treat am like .....lol. person accused you of infidelity with your inlaw, and you are still laughing with her. E bi like say na your head no correct among all of them. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Rexymania(m): 10:35am On May 31, 2022 |
Makes me remember one movie in the 90s... 'how can my loving brother, become my enemy'. It's a popular movie sha 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Ndidi2: 10:35am On May 31, 2022 |
Emperor88:if they didn't pass boundaries the wife will not have the boldness to accuse them openly.. If d op is innocent do u think he will be seeking for advice? That is a grave accusation.. The wife knows what she is saying.. 1 Like |
Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by jesmond3945: 10:36am On May 31, 2022 |
DamnnNiggarr:op your brother is not picking call because of you but rather your wife. His wife has convinced him to despise your wife. The consequence is that your kids would be estranged from each other. Trying to resolve this would be burning more energy because your wives are adults and if they are not ready to reconcile there is nothing you can do. |
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