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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by qtguru(m): 10:18am On May 31, 2022

typical women drama lol

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by hardon1(m): 10:18am On May 31, 2022

Tell us the real Truth. For your wife to accuse you of something of such gravity and damn the consequences means she has warned and showed you of her displeasure about your closeness with your brothers wife

Perhaps you spend more time with the said woman compared to your family, you send her money sometimes, you visit her more often than not when she is sick etc

No woman will take that. when you are married, you must define your level of relationship with third parties, especially if you spouse finds it uncomfortable. This one is not even your sister sef but your brothers wife

I can't really advice your cause I don't know your wife's part of the story. But it's obvious you have shown certain level of undue care and concern for her that is why you wife is angry and resorted to false accusation

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Havertz10: 10:20am On May 31, 2022

Guessing you were generous, maybe you have more money than your brother, started to overdo for his wife aiming to sleep with her, your wife being close, noticed and chose this method to prevent it

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Mode99: 10:20am On May 31, 2022

I think you are the only one trying to resolve the issue here.....

And why would your wife accuse you of sleeping with your brother's wife??
Who does that without evidence??
.....

Your wife and your brother's wife were good friends ryt??

So what happened to the trust??

Please tell us the truth,
Cos your wife can't accuse you of doing such without an evidence!!!

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Evergreen4(m): 10:20am On May 31, 2022

DamnnNiggarr:
I don't understand,
How do you mean?

when you cut a rope and retie it, definitely the length of the rope will reduce

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by babtoundey(m): 10:21am On May 31, 2022

You're telling us 1.5 percent of the whole story and you expect us to understand or suggest the next line of action. What scattered the friendship of your wife and your brothers wife? Was she only suspicious you were sleeping or slept with her because of your limitless closseness with her or she was actually right (You indeed slept with the woman and she directly or indirectly caught you)?

If it is just a mere accusation and you as man gave her no reason to arrive at that conclusion, then you and your wife must do the right thing.

If your hands are clean and you never slept or intended to sleep with your brother's wife, such accusation is not something you allow to go unchallenged. She is your wife, but she must respect your dignity. If she can't respect yours she should respect that of another woman. You can't just get your brother's wife to start talking to your wife until your wife does the right thing; prove her accusation or tender an unreserved apology to the woman whose ego was bruised.

This is not a case of my obim, it is a matter of getting your obim do the right thing.

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Emaprince: 10:21am On May 31, 2022

franchasofficia:
Lol. Your wife head no correct, who does that to someone like he is only blood sister, how will your dick even stand for your own brother's wife? Na wa oh, wonders

Your last line caught me, man. I can't even imagine that.

My personal experience. I once met a girl online and after weeks and much chats, she visited me. She looked so much like my elder bro wife. I had goose pimples all over myself. She came and I was so cold..with so much running through my mind. She found out I wasn't excited cos the energy I was giving off wasn't romantic in any way again. I told her the truth and showed her pic of my bro wife. Bottom line, I didn't go far with her as I know I can't get an erection for her. She left, I blocked her everywhere and deleted her number. So when I hear about people having amorous affair with their inlaws, I wonder how.

As for this topic.. I have always said it here that when you see women crying, praying and fasting for a husband, one would think that any man getting married to them will be lucky. But the opposite is usually the case. They will come and destroy his relationship with friends and families...and also cheat on him. Some will go as far as getting pregnant outside her marriage and the pin the bastard on the man. Women have made marriage to look like a health risk for men. Thats why men are scared of committing to it..while women are desperate for it.

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Emmanuel909090: 10:21am On May 31, 2022

Women wahala is always extendable.

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Enumerator(m): 10:22am On May 31, 2022

Zonefree:

Two brothers that grew up together without conflict

The problem started after inviting two women from God knows where into their homes. Women they were supposed to treat as baby mamas, they foolishly converted them to wives hence giving them the leverage of trying to scatter their family.

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Nobody: 10:22am On May 31, 2022

Op y were too close to ur brothers wife? ur wife acted Purely on jealousy and u have her every reason for that, u are the one that started the whole problem, Even if u no get respect for urslf, u re married and ur actions should show that, if u don't want to marry why did u go ahead to marry ur wife and still get too close with ur younger bro wife, now that the family is divided the best u can do is maintain good relations with ur bro, and stay off his marriage, okay, the women has succeeded in dividing u and ur bro, now is the time to take ur properties and deeds for their self, this is a divide and rule tactics used by women that want complete control of their husband's assets! if u think women don't like it when her husband is isolated from his own parents and siblings, then u re a fool, if they cant divide it, they tend to stir up controversy and hate

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by ndukwejoe(m): 10:22am On May 31, 2022

my brother for now there is nothing you can do only time will do this

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Thorondor: 10:23am On May 31, 2022

Fear woman and save your life. I am living in one a female induced nightmare right now now

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by donbenie(m): 10:23am On May 31, 2022

Uprightness100:
[s]This is where the Mystery and Power of Prayers does wonders.
Take it as a burden, stand in the Gap in Prayers. Contend with the forces of disunity, bind them , destroy the source and foundation.
Prayer is the key. But note, Prayer done in sin is a waste. Make Peace with GOD and stand in the gap.[/s]

Where was the same prayer,when your Pastors are getting divorced,left,right and center?

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by glory008(f): 10:24am On May 31, 2022

My advice is let your younger brother act like is dieing than he should tell the wife to call you and your wife to come, your brother will now tell the 2 women to make peace among themselves and let him faint at the process
You will now tell them to make peace while you form like you are taking him to the hospital and lock the 2 women in the house
Until they make peace don't open the door for them
Mean while the children should be with your sister or their grandparents

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Okobola146: 10:24am On May 31, 2022

You’re in a wrong place bro, take the matter to your elders in the village. They’ll know how to sort it out

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Enumerator(m): 10:24am On May 31, 2022

graphics112:

Things are really happening in marriages oh. How I want take carry my 2 leg enter am now?

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by FireUpNow(m): 10:24am On May 31, 2022

The OP cannot talk to his own wife and calm her down. The OP must trash out the issue first with his wife or else the OP is lying

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by chatinent: 10:24am On May 31, 2022

The guilty one will always be saying obim upandan. embarassed

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Ndidi2: 10:26am On May 31, 2022

franchasofficia:
Lol. Your wife head no correct, who does that to someone like he is only blood sister, how will your dick even stand for your own brother's wife? Na wa oh, wonders

ask him whether he actually slept with her..

U don't know what some people are capable of doing..

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Winneygirl(f): 10:27am On May 31, 2022

They must not be friends.
Reconcile with your brother.
Go for counselling with your wife.

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Donnybill(m): 10:28am On May 31, 2022

I am certain you the husbands must have been doing compare and contrast. That's what started the divisions
How?

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by edungene7: 10:29am On May 31, 2022

Good morning @ All OP you are the problem and not the women the jealousy of yr wife is the problem here you know yr wife better than any other member from yr family you should have sensed when you were crossing the lines as regards yr closeness with yr brothers wife if you also have issues of infidelity in yr marriage then lack of trust comes in because I wonder why yr wife would accuse you with such, but resolving this issue is in yr hands u must prove yr innocence or accept the accusations if you are guilty and finally make peace yr wife must apologize if you are innocent to every members of the family

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by tarantino1: 10:31am On May 31, 2022

franchasofficia:
Lol. Your wife head no correct, who does that to someone like he is only blood sister, how will your dick even stand for your own brother's wife? Na wa oh, wonders

Then you've never heard of Ryan Giggs. grin

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by almarthins(m): 10:31am On May 31, 2022

DamnnNiggarr:
My entire family which includes my brothers' wives and their kids and my sisters' families was once a peaceful and an enviable large family but right now, the devil wants to destroy the family through our wives.

My wife and my younger brother's wife who were once greatest friends are now mortal enemies, they don't talk nor regard themselves as humans, this enmity has lingered for long despite me and my brother's efforts and that of my entire family, both extended, to resolve the issues between them, over the years but all to no avail.

It becomes worse by the day as we have tried everything humanly possible that is within our reach to quell the situation, but no success.
It is that bad that as I'm typing this, their enmity is starting to effect me and my brother's relationship, as my younger brother no longer calls nor chats me as he normally does. Even if I called nor chatted him, he won't pick up and neither the missed calls nor the chats would be returned.

I want to try something different, a totally different approach in tackling the situation, that's why I brought it here. I don't want anything to come in between me and my brother nor my family. I don't want anything to happen to neither my brother's wife nor my wife because the heart of man is evil, that's why I'm seeking for a resolution to the ugly situation.

please all your opinions will help a great deal in approaching it from a different perspective.
please save my family.

*Modified*
Obim, My wife is actually the cause of the whole drama,
She accused my brother's wife of having extramarital affair with me due to how close I was with her as a result of the love they(my wife and her) had for each other. It lead to a very heated quarrelling and the lady vowed never to forgive my wife in her life time and my wife whole heartedly accepted the conquest. Obim said if that will keep her away from me that it's a welcome development.

Now, how it's affecting my family is that my kids no longer go on vacation to their place likewise their kids no longer come over to my house during vacation and many more troubles it has caused my entire family.
Initially, My brother understood that it was one of the wahalas associated with women but I'm surprised and confused about his recent change in attitude.

Some women can be dramatic. Two things I hate in women drama and nagging. No just use that one near me at all

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by ThePlugg(m): 10:32am On May 31, 2022

I didn't bother to read,but did you do it?

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Drenix(m): 10:32am On May 31, 2022

flejnr2:
Watin Dey pain you be sey the children your brothers wife born for you no Dey come holidays for your house again

Dumb response.

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by when2(f): 10:32am On May 31, 2022

You didn't limit your boundaries with your brother's wife. Hence the accusations from your wife. She maybe right or wrong. There must have been some kind of body language you must have displayed towards your brother's wife. Well, that's the consequences of involving yourself in women's affairs.
Advise: if you're innocent try and convince your wife of your innocence and promise her to limit your boundaries towards her co-wife. Compel her to make peace with her co-wife. And you should make peace with your brother too.

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by CCC2(m): 10:34am On May 31, 2022

If truly u are innocent of sleeping with ur inlaw, then you have to severely punish ur wife for such accusation. I would rather sacrifice my marriage than allow her pollute the entire family.

End that marriage if she refuse to apologize to the entire family.

Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Nobody: 10:35am On May 31, 2022

DamnnNiggarr:
My entire family which includes my brothers' wives and their kids and my sisters' families was once a peaceful and an enviable large family but right now, the devil wants to destroy the family through our wives.

My wife and my younger brother's wife who were once greatest friends are now mortal enemies, they don't talk nor regard themselves as humans, this enmity has lingered for long despite me and my brother's efforts and that of my entire family, both extended, to resolve the issues between them, over the years but all to no avail.

It becomes worse by the day as we have tried everything humanly possible that is within our reach to quell the situation, but no success.
It is that bad that as I'm typing this, their enmity is starting to effect me and my brother's relationship, as my younger brother no longer calls nor chats me as he normally does. Even if I called nor chatted him, he won't pick up and neither the missed calls nor the chats would be returned.

I want to try something different, a totally different approach in tackling the situation, that's why I brought it here. I don't want anything to come in between me and my brother nor my family. I don't want anything to happen to neither my brother's wife nor my wife because the heart of man is evil, that's why I'm seeking for a resolution to the ugly situation.

please all your opinions will help a great deal in approaching it from a different perspective.
please save my family.

*Modified*
Obim, My wife is actually the cause of the whole drama,
She accused my brother's wife of having extramarital affair with me due to how close I was with her as a result of the love they(my wife and her) had for each other. It lead to a very heated quarrelling and the lady vowed never to forgive my wife in her life time and my wife whole heartedly accepted the conquest. Obim said if that will keep her away from me that it's a welcome development.

Now, how it's affecting my family is that my kids no longer go on vacation to their place likewise their kids no longer come over to my house during vacation and many more troubles it has caused my entire family.
Initially, My brother understood that it was one of the wahalas associated with women but I'm surprised and confused about his recent change in attitude.

Hahaha. You are a funny man. So, this small issue is why you are already something else. grin

Your case is very common when there are boys in the family. For example, a family of 3 to 5 boys only is going to be on fire in Nigeria when the boys start getting married. Or if there are two big brothers who are the eldest... those two big brothers' wives will scatter the whole family with their wahala...and the younger sisters of the two brothers will be the victims. The parents sef usually don't count the two big brothers are the ones who will bury them. This is the story of Nigerians and marital issues. Male children in Nigeria when they are the eldest arent not that good. I have seen so many cases. The wives are the terrorists who will destroy the family.

Listen sir, you are a weak person in this situation. When your wife accussed you of infidelity and you took it lightly, and she is still insisting that if it will make you go away from your younger brother's wife...hmmm....you are the cause. I cant tell you what to do, but that woman is a devil if truly you didnt do it. And listen, she should be in her parents' house by now. Na you no know weting dey worry you.

Listen again, if I was the wife of your younger brother, see....I would make my man curse you sef on phone for calling my man...you that cannot handle your wife. You no well oo. And you are even saying you want your brother and you and their children to be fine. E no go better for that fine you dey talk. Go and think it through na. See, you are a yeye big brother. Na fact a dey tell you. You are weak.

So, if you want to keep her, then, no wahala...keep her with your family and mind your business. If I am to advise your younger brother's wife, you esp are no go area cos you are the weak one. If you are serious, you would have drilled that wicked woman you called your wife. That thing that made her to be wicked, she would have vomited it so that you can know what is really happening. And if she is innocent, you will know and defend your wife. Perhaps, you are the only one even in dark. grin

Dem just dey look you like say you be mumu.

Your wife is your problem and not your brother. Face your wife and know what really happened. If she insists she doesnt want you close to her, then...if you be me....she don pack her loads to her parents' house. When she is ready to say what exactly is wrong...then, we can continue. If not, divorce letter dey dance Azonto in the cooler.

Simple matter, people go dey treat am like .....lol. person accused you of infidelity with your inlaw, and you are still laughing with her. E bi like say na your head no correct among all of them.

grin

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Rexymania(m): 10:35am On May 31, 2022

Makes me remember one movie in the 90s... 'how can my loving brother, become my enemy'. It's a popular movie sha

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by Ndidi2: 10:35am On May 31, 2022

Emperor88:
Some people people feel insecure but for it to generate to this point then there something you ain't telling us....another may have been that your brother's wife have a crush and she might have unknowingly express it to your wife and your wife seeing how close both of you are then becomes suspicious of you both. You need to stand your ground against your family and let them so their worse of you ain't guilty. Stop feeling emotional. If your wife could be boldly accusing you of such thing then stand your ground make her apologize or you quit the union.

if they didn't pass boundaries the wife will not have the boldness to accuse them openly..

If d op is innocent do u think he will be seeking for advice?
That is a grave accusation..

The wife knows what she is saying..

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Re: My Family Is At The Verge Of Destruction by jesmond3945: 10:36am On May 31, 2022

DamnnNiggarr:
My entire family which includes my brothers' wives and their kids and my sisters' families was once a peaceful and an enviable large family but right now, the devil wants to destroy the family through our wives.

My wife and my younger brother's wife who were once greatest friends are now mortal enemies, they don't talk nor regard themselves as humans, this enmity has lingered for long despite me and my brother's efforts and that of my entire family, both extended, to resolve the issues between them, over the years but all to no avail.

It becomes worse by the day as we have tried everything humanly possible that is within our reach to quell the situation, but no success.
It is that bad that as I'm typing this, their enmity is starting to effect me and my brother's relationship, as my younger brother no longer calls nor chats me as he normally does. Even if I called nor chatted him, he won't pick up and neither the missed calls nor the chats would be returned.

I want to try something different, a totally different approach in tackling the situation, that's why I brought it here. I don't want anything to come in between me and my brother nor my family. I don't want anything to happen to neither my brother's wife nor my wife because the heart of man is evil, that's why I'm seeking for a resolution to the ugly situation.

please all your opinions will help a great deal in approaching it from a different perspective.
please save my family.

*Modified*
Obim, My wife is actually the cause of the whole drama,
She accused my brother's wife of having extramarital affair with me due to how close I was with her as a result of the love they(my wife and her) had for each other. It lead to a very heated quarrelling and the lady vowed never to forgive my wife in her life time and my wife whole heartedly accepted the conquest. Obim said if that will keep her away from me that it's a welcome development.

Now, how it's affecting my family is that my kids no longer go on vacation to their place likewise their kids no longer come over to my house during vacation and many more troubles it has caused my entire family.
Initially, My brother understood that it was one of the wahalas associated with women but I'm surprised and confused about his recent change in attitude.

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op your brother is not picking call because of you but rather your wife. His wife has convinced him to despise your wife. The consequence is that your kids would be estranged from each other. Trying to resolve this would be burning more energy because your wives are adults and if they are not ready to reconcile there is nothing you can do.

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