Full_lips:

Finally, an interesting topic that I can also shed light on. Being a psychology major, love, and perceptions of love has been widely studied. Let me start by saying love is subjective and not everyone can define love in the decorum. There are different explanations for why people can be afraid of falling in love. One is that Love in its great purported magnitude, can be incredibly intense, which can be wonderful if you are ready for it, but may be unwelcome if not. It can be disruptive to someone's life especially if that person has a a busy work/social life. Another part of the fear of love, is the risk that the feeling will not be reciprocated. Unreciprocated love can be distressful; yearning for a person that may not be there emotionally, even if they are there physically. So the person may just try not to develop those feelings in the first place.

Full_lips:

But I think the biggest fear of falling in love comes from the fear of loss. While it may be the most obvious, and perhaps most common, fear about love, it is also the most self-defeating, because the person ends up avoiding love out of fear of losing it. Which is why I think the saying "it is better to have love and lost, then never to have loved at all",  is complete bull-s*** actually our natural mental instincts would be to avoid love it if we have any indication it will end up in loss. Loss is one of the biggest psychological fear.


This is very true! But I think we have to learn to totally love, in the moment, in the face of our fear of losing.Because what are we losing? We dont own love or each other. We only share a mutual loving experience for as long as it lasts.

Goldieluks:

190 must your derial every thread with your ado about nothings?
ingrate.

u know wat u have to do

Full_lips:

@claremont,  By bad was that confusing?  I was trying to say the love depends on the individual (subjective) and its not definable by a certain set of rules and standards. LOL is that more clear?

Full_lips:

But I think the biggest fear of falling in love comes from the fear of loss. While it may be the most obvious, and perhaps most common, fear about love, it is also the most self-defeating, because the person ends up avoiding love out of fear of losing it. Which is why I think the saying "it is better to have love and lost, then never to have loved at all",  is complete bull-s*** actually our natural mental instincts would be to avoid love it if we have any indication it will end up in loss. Loss is one of the biggest psychological fear.

Phate07:


Why are some folks saying that does not exist? It exist in everyone of us. It's just that we all have different ways of expressing it.

Everybody has the capacity to love and be loved.

Full_lips:

Claremont, I think you have a definite right to your opinions and belief, but I think we do to. To tell us that love does not exist because there is no objective definition is unfair. I love everyday, and it is very real to me. I love you Claremont *hugs*

190_@:


so u can keep me
Still waiting for an answer to my proposal yesterday
Not kiddin im serious

hey man

Dyt:

Gd Luiz
where u run 2?

luizworld:

why the angry face. show me your teeth immeditely been right here dear

Dyt:

Oh u jst hide den
Claremont
i said we shld love eachoda u avoidin abi?

claremont:

Let me tell you what the honest truth is, which I believe you know already!
You "love" because you believe that "love" exists, your belief in "love" or "God" is not backed by any scientific fact whatsoever. I make my assertions on the basis of firm science, not on the basis of my beliefs, and the scientific world overwhelmingly agrees that "love" has not, does not, and will never exist . I do understand that you and everyone else have a right to believe in "love", but don't use science to try to justify your personal belief system.