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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by belcom10(m): 6:09pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
I didn't type to annoy you bro. I just felt if you can employ this strategy she will change. Some women are like that. Richy4: |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by belcom10(m): 6:11pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
Mumu, what do you know about marriage. ABANGWABOI: |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by belcom10(m): 6:12pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
Try to see my points, show her more affections. Maverick777: |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Wwwq: 6:26pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
No |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Deborah98(f): 6:53pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
Dearlord:Dear Lord have mercy....it's well. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by ABANGWABOI(m): 6:57pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
belcom10: At least I know how deep and Smelly yhur MODA ToTo is.. Ediot. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by GABRIEL6036: 6:59pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
I can't believe this story until we hear from the other side of your wife. Don't come nairaland to give us lamba. I come in peace |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Kobojunkie: 7:15pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
surgevessel:1. But wait o, who send you go do wetin you dey tag "African husband" abeg? I don't treat or send money to every tom, dick and relative of mine, so why would I do that for my spouse's family simply on grounds that I accept them as part of mine? Na craze I carry for head when I marry? Abi na bribe you dey bribe your wife family so you fit claim say they are part of your family? 2. Interesting claim, however, if you look again, you will find that the major complaint OP, and many who have opined have, has to do with carrying it all on their heads, I.e. playing "African husband". What has western lifestyles got to do with complicating that? Are you somehow insinuating that your African setting does not allow relatives to come stay for over a week or what? 3. I don't think the problem has anything to do with the African woman not having an understanding of african marriage and style. Instead you seem confused about it yourself. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Dearlord(m): 7:41pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
Deborah98:Amen! |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by osazsky(m): 7:45pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
evangmx:15k a week for a family of 4...how una take dey run am...are u in naija..ur wife go soon run leave u..that's 60k for a whole full month..it is well o |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by IDERAWOLE(m): 9:25pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
Maverick777: Thank you sir. Emphathy is different from sympathy. I didn't know he's looking for sympathy. You the chief counselor why not go ahead with your own counsel? |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Spiker777: 9:32pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
zanshi: I moved on jeje and have requested for my bride price back.Even in where I come from is a taboo for her to have kept such secret from my and which can have effect on my life spiritually.Even since I married her I have sold two of my lands that worth over 15m and nothing has been working.Bottom lome women are very selfish and highly self centered 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by zanshi: 9:33pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
Spiker777: Has she in any way shown any form of remourse, and what is her family members saying? |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Kobojunkie: 9:37pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
Spiker777:Here's newsflash for you, if you do not learn the pertinent lesson from this lesson which is that you should wisely a partner that agrees with you as far as what you want in marriage, your kind will only end up repeating the same mistake. I have seen it happen so many times over. You think you won because you got your bride price back and sent her packing? Don't wait you have to do this again before you realize the fault was partly yours to begin with. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Kekenary: 9:52pm On Jun 23, 2022 |
You are not doing bad. My brother, lock up for two to three months. If children complain too much, carry them comot go buy food. Declare a total lockdown. Frown on a daily, no smile with anybody. Everything go reset. evangmx: 1 Like |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Spiker777: 12:27am On Jun 24, 2022 |
zanshi:Sure she has shown remorse but when I reevaluate all she has done even with her knowing I’m swimming i debts I see it as witchcraft so I’m done. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Spiker777: 12:28am On Jun 24, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Well said and I’m well prepared for This I aren’t rushing into any relationship again |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Spiker777: 12:29am On Jun 24, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Why do you think the fault is partly mine? |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by surgevessel: 12:41am On Jun 24, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Please go back, read and digest every point in my response. You dont even understand the write up at all.. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Kobojunkie: 1:44am On Jun 24, 2022 |
surgevessel:I think I do understand what you were trying to say only I don't see you actually pointing out any real problems except the on individuals take on themselves for really unknown reasons if you ask me. What you call being an African husband, I consider utter foolishness since such ideas are supposed to be left only for those who can afford such "wasteful" lifestyles. . |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Kobojunkie: 1:45am On Jun 24, 2022 |
Spiker777:Did you and your wife agree, pre-arrange, to share bills and all? Yes or no please? |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Kobojunkie: 1:49am On Jun 24, 2022 |
Spiker777:There is no set blueprint as far as marriage is concerned. So you need to think well what you would like in your marriage partner before you even enter into any long term relationships. Have them typed out if you will so you remind yourself that your partner has to agree to all listed with no compromise. That is a good way to helping you make sure you don't get less than what you desire in marriage, right? Again, marriage is an agreement between a man and woman. And unless you both agree on the basics, there really isn't any point in going on with the relationship, if you ask me.. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Lawly: 2:55am On Jun 24, 2022 |
ufotty2001: Hmmmmm my brother. God will see good men through. it is well 1 Like |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Lawly: 3:01am On Jun 24, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: i agree with you bro 1 Like |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Kobojunkie: 3:01am On Jun 24, 2022 |
Lawly:God no dey any of this abeg! You lot need to make wiser decisions if you want God to even look yourself. God does not visit us in our foolishness. Instead, He waits for us to begin to exercise wisdom before He then directs us further. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Spiker777: 8:29am On Jun 24, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: You don’t get it,I’m not even after sharing bills with her.What is booking me up is keeping that child a secret from me and even snicking that child back into my home as a niece and mismanagement of my funds for upkeep is what is making me quit.If you could hide that from me just to deceive me into the marriage then she can’t be trusted |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Freelane33(m): 8:31am On Jun 24, 2022 |
You’re not doing anything bad big brother , , that woman ( your wife ) was just saying those stuffs to compromise the integrity of your brain . Don’t Listen to her just keep doing whatever you have the capability to do . There will always be light at the end of the tunnel evangmx:Actually I don’t know you in person but I envision this , seems we have a lot in common when it comes to families . I have always got a big heart for everyone around me even not up to walking away from them when there is an absolute conflict . I do love people for people because my heart is bigger than my body . I actually inherited that from my dad and I’m gonna instilled that in my kids when I start having them . Dad is a peaceful and happy person and he has this sayings “ it’s not profitable to be negative because negativity is the thief of happiness “ my dad is a great teacher and he teaches without speaking . What she wanted is your negative parts and that’s why she’s trynna say things to compromise the integrity of your brain also trynna talk you out of your space but pls don’t show it to her . The end justifies the means 1 Like |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by NoToPile: 9:44am On Jun 24, 2022 |
I won't join the bandwagon of those insulting your wife. You give her 60k monthly and you take care of all bills. What bills? Houserent, Nepa, security etc etc You said she buys clothes for the children sometimes, do you buy clothes for the children or pay for the clothes? what about other things the children need who pays for that? You or her? The 60k is for food only which is relatively expensive nowadays, what type of food do you guys eat, are you the cowleg, goat meat, bokoto saki, different provisions, kind of people, or the pomo, concoction rice and panla kind. What kind of food do you guys eat? How much does she earn? Private school teacher earning 10k is working, someone earning 200k is also working all na work. Answer all these questions first then we can have a clearer picture. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Blacksavage: 11:08am On Jun 24, 2022 |
Sir don’t kill yourself for any woman that will send you to your early grave… You are doing your best as your strength carry 1 Like |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Nobody: 3:37pm On Jun 24, 2022 |
NoToPile:Nothing can ever rationalize the woman’s actions. Firsts, your husband has no steady job(cab is subject to breakdown and accidents with no savings), if you go cooking cow leg and isiewu from 60k, you have failed at home economics. He said “I PAY ALL THE BILLS”. All the bills range from rent, sch fees, electricity, transportation, medical, etc. Most of these bills don’t fall on a monthly category, but when you factor it on a monthly basis, he is spending well over 100k on his family. The NL billionaires claiming its small should tell us how much minimum wage is(30k)? How many of them even take home 100k? How are the civil servants coping when even most state governments are paying percentage salary? Abi no be same Nigeria that NDIC gave a stat that 99.4% of bank accounts hold below 500k? Yet everyone is a billionaire online. He is not even asking for a contribution, but against making extra demands when you contribute nothing from your end. 60k(food only) monthly for 2 adults, 2 kids is definitely not luxury in this economy, but is very much more than enough! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Kobojunkie: 3:45pm On Jun 24, 2022 |
Spiker777:If this is truly the reason why you divorced your wife, why did you complain then of the loan you owe and the 240k you gave her for spending? |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by NoToPile: 3:52pm On Jun 24, 2022 |
redseason: Let the guy answer the questions first. @bolded you have not seen where the man will be demanding that ontop small chop money? What is their standard of feeding and how much does the wife earn? You are not certain she Contibutes nothing even th OP didn't say so. He should answer the questions. |
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