aareopeyemi75:
She's obviously not a good spender. Note that every lady have their good and bad, but this type of lady obviously don't know how to manage funds, so if you are not also financially discipline, it's a disaster, but if you are, you marry her but both of you should have a written document stating that you won't be a lavish spender in the marriage.

If she start making her money, note that she won't be very helpful as her needs will always consume the income.

Munzy14:

You maybe right ogwu malaria m ga wuzi 2months interval..ike ya agwulam.

Next treatment I will try the 4.

Mariangeles:


Ole otu I di ta?
Ahu oku o kwushila?

Happy Sunday.

Munzy14:

I am fair o..Just waking from sleep after morning drugs, application of balm to fight cold.

Zero appetite..When my sickness don reach this level, e don bad...A force ga m onwe m to eat as little as to help the drugs.

Ahu oku akwushila.

Wish you best of Sunday.

Mariangeles:
O ga a wu na typhoid so na ihe mege gi, (maka na o ja e bute onu I ju nri), or the malaria kariri and the drug wasn't effective enough.

maikbanj:
Good morning dear Nairalanders,

Thank you for being there in the past with your timely advise(s). I am here again just to get some more on a case.

I have a girlfriend which I plan getting married to as both families are all involved. My girlfriend has had a bad past. She was once abused and all but then I was able to help shape her when I got into her life. I have been there for her in my own little way but lately, she has not been behaving too well and I am not happy about that fact.I will itemize these:

1. She once borrowed her friend her school fees to rent an apartment with the promise the friend was going to pay her back before exams started. Her friend failed to pay her back and I had to provide her with the money in order not to miss her exams. Note, the said friend is a female.

2. Second semester, her pops gave her school fees which I saw the alert. Yea,she travelled down to see me from Lag and she spent some but then I told her she would not have spent her school fees to come see me. Infact at that time I never knew she was going to come because I was sick but she did. So I told her not to touch her school fees again that I was going to refund her the money. She left and I refunded. I paid her flight back to Lagos.

I later found out my girlfriend didn’t pay that school fees. She spent it and when it was time to pay she kept complaining. I was mad at her wondering what she must have used it for. I scolded her and gave her part of the money.(N100k)

3. I have paid several debts for her as she made some mistakes in her online business and was swindled. The most recent one now, she went to get loans from apps online. I don’t even know what would have made her do that as I try assist her when she’s in need. I have warned her severally against borrowing but she went to borrow and now she’s into debt.

I have asked what she used the money for but she can’t even point to one thing. She said she used the initial loan for her personal needs and when she couldn’t pay back, she had to borrow from another app to pay and all. That’s how she kept borrowing to pay another till she borrowed from over 15 loan apps and her debt is running into 350k as at today.

I honestly can’t pay such an amount as I have my own personal problems to carry. I was mad because in the past I have warned her against borrowing and all. Now she’s in trouble and they’ve been threatening her to pay back.

I have told her I don’t have such monies to pay back and even if I had I won’t pay back. I have advised she talk to her parents and siblings about it but she has been scared. I have that money but I can’t pay back as I have more pressing needs to attend to. Since she has refused to tell her parents, I am thinking of telling her parents. I am very close to her family.

This is someone I wanna get married to but with all I’m seeing, I am already having doubts.

She’s from a very good home. Deep down, I love her and she does too. But why these problems, I don’t understand.

Please I seek your advice on how to handle this as I can’t pay such debts. I have done several in the past

Thanks

apiski:

OP Please, listen to this madam.

Munzy14:

A ga m aga widal test echi...I think injection and drip treatment is needed now..

Since 2014.. I am not a fan of injections.

My people a dila worried..normal 2days I don bounce back to life.

Mariangeles:


Ngwanu.
A riakwala.

Munzy14:

Yea.

I will ones I complete the conventional medications.

Thanks.

armyofone:


Mariangeles, bring big pot and fire wood. Fetch fresh water from river @ 4am, I will bring pawpaw leaf, dongoyaro and guava leaf, barks etc

Village medicine- i wondered if it really worked or it our immune fighting for us and illness (bacteria, virus etc) running its course

odinson1:


Women are adult children,you need to discipline them so they know the consequences of their Foolish Actions. But real men won't agree,real men like the op

armyofone:


Mariangeles, bring big pot and fire wood. Fetch fresh water from river @ 4am, I will bring pawpaw leaf, dongoyaro and guava leaf, barks etc

Village medicine- i wondered if it really worked or it our immune fighting for us and illness (bacteria, virus etc) running its course

xpertoyin:
Love is not blind.
First don't marry her until she has a job.
Second let her clear her debt upto say 3/4.
Then explain the need for her to submit her financial management to you until you can trust her. This my involve getting alerts on her account and such.
Apart from that keep assuring her of your love and acceptance because she may be doing this out of a fallout of her assault and molestation.

oke2018:
This your girl go sell her papa house one day , some get head no cap , some get cap no head , I pray make God give us better head with cap wey go fit am.

Mercury12:
Nobody is perfect.
So before you go for her then you must be sure that she listens to you.

Maybe you not doing enough to warn her and beside not everyone is good at spending money wisely and that is why you are the perfect person for her.

Many men also have their wife as the person that puts a break on any of their reckless spending.
So I would say that you the perfect person help plan her finances but you must make sure she opens up to you and listens too

Kirkman:

This kind girl na to leave her with her stupidity and materialisic lifestyle.

maikbanj:
Good morning dear Nairalanders,

Thank you for being there in the past with your timely advise(s). I am here again just to get some more on a case.

I have a girlfriend which I plan getting married to as both families are all involved. My girlfriend has had a bad past. She was once abused and all but then I was able to help shape her when I got into her life. I have been there for her in my own little way but lately, she has not been behaving too well and I am not happy about that fact.I will itemize these:

1. She once borrowed her friend her school fees to rent an apartment with the promise the friend was going to pay her back before exams started. Her friend failed to pay her back and I had to provide her with the money in order not to miss her exams. Note, the said friend is a female.

2. Second semester, her pops gave her school fees which I saw the alert. Yea,she travelled down to see me from Lag and she spent some but then I told her she would not have spent her school fees to come see me. Infact at that time I never knew she was going to come because I was sick but she did. So I told her not to touch her school fees again that I was going to refund her the money. She left and I refunded. I paid her flight back to Lagos.

I later found out my girlfriend didn’t pay that school fees. She spent it and when it was time to pay she kept complaining. I was mad at her wondering what she must have used it for. I scolded her and gave her part of the money.(N100k)

3. I have paid several debts for her as she made some mistakes in her online business and was swindled. The most recent one now, she went to get loans from apps online. I don’t even know what would have made her do that as I try assist her when she’s in need. I have warned her severally against borrowing but she went to borrow and now she’s into debt.

I have asked what she used the money for but she can’t even point to one thing. She said she used the initial loan for her personal needs and when she couldn’t pay back, she had to borrow from another app to pay and all. That’s how she kept borrowing to pay another till she borrowed from over 15 loan apps and her debt is running into 350k as at today.

I honestly can’t pay such an amount as I have my own personal problems to carry. I was mad because in the past I have warned her against borrowing and all. Now she’s in trouble and they’ve been threatening her to pay back.

I have told her I don’t have such monies to pay back and even if I had I won’t pay back. I have advised she talk to her parents and siblings about it but she has been scared. I have that money but I can’t pay back as I have more pressing needs to attend to. Since she has refused to tell her parents, I am thinking of telling her parents. I am very close to her family.

This is someone I wanna get married to but with all I’m seeing, I am already having doubts.

She’s from a very good home. Deep down, I love her and she does too. But why these problems, I don’t understand.

Please I seek your advice on how to handle this as I can’t pay such debts. I have done several in the past

Thanks