Good afternoon N'lders, so we had a compound meeting with d landlord yesterday. Note that d landlord doesn't stay with us.

During the meeting, a female married neighbor raised some complaints about another neighbor whose family are in the habit of wasting water in d compound. Their tap head is spoilt but they refused to repair it, when water is pumping, they can leave their tap on overnight and so on. My husband was also confirming what d neighbor was saying.

During the meeting, the said woman whose family was wasting water came in and was
making some side remarks and even asked the Landlord why he had to call the meeting. The landlord didn't reply but rather asked her to leave the meeting. Am sure this angered her

When she came back from her business place in the night, from the gate she started raining insults on the woman that reported her, my husband,my children and myself. I have never been so humiliated in my life. Of a truth, we re going through financial challenges at the moment and it's telling on us. She called me a skeleton, my children kwashiorkor and my husband she called a Nobody. We were inside while she kept ranting and ranting outside, she later went inside her house and continued her rant from there. She said so many unprintable things to us but by God's grace we didn't even step out not to talk of replying her.

My great n'land family, is the woman wrong to have reported her? and am I wrong to have kept quiet while she humiliated and mocked my family for being poor?

Any advice for me cos I am broken

I understand what it feels like but you shouldn't let things like these get to you. Focus on the small and important things in life and you'll be okay.

wis3:
I understand what it feels like but you shouldn't let things like these get to you. Focus on the small and important things in life and you'll be okay.

Thank you, maybe it's getting to me cos I am an introvert and by nature, we overthink things.

Mumben:

Thank you, maybe it's getting to me cos I am an introvert and by nature, we overthink things.

it's a nice thing. You're human. It's admirable. The plan was to provoke you so you'd react, possibly go physical with her and it doesn't always end well. I mean, what if, she accidentally slumped in the process? You'd have more problems on your hands.

I like d fact tha u did not reply her at all.... She will begin to fear u. .. Because na she mumu pass.... Cheers... God will make a way for u so soon.... Quote me after d good news...

You are a wise woman.


Thank you for not allowing her drag you down to her level of raising voices in the compound.




Things will become better for your family soon !



Don't over think the incident, please.

Mumben:
She called me a skeleton, my children kwashiorkor and my husband she called a Nobody.

Wotowoto ooo

I've been mocked and I still get side mockes from people cause of my locked knee!

Sometimes it gets to me and I feel sad and other times I just let it go and tell my self that my actions are what define me not the structure of my legs.


You have all right to feel sad about what your neighbor said cause painful at it sounds it's the obvious Truth.

But the only way you can seek peace is to try and better your living condition. Focus more on what will add more value to you l, your income and your family. I'm very sure this will help a lot!

Modified:

This blew up thanks for showing concern for my plight and Op's

Modified: back then when I was in primary 5, our basic science teacher was teaching a topic on deficiency and he spoke about rickets and vitamin D. All of a sudden a lady class mate, sitting behind me tapped me and looked into my eyes and said they talking about my leg structure. At that point I felt so down and broken. It was hard. Won't lie

Lol! People sha

You don't need to fight or reply her back. Leave her to God,. God will surely fight for you.

I have been mocked here on nairaland when I had accommodation issue but I hand all my mockers to God cos hes the only one that can reply them for me.

Leave her to God.

VeryWickedMan:



Wotowoto ooo

Ewu

Be a true woman, go there are beat up the nuisance. If it's a guy that is messing up, your husband would have gone to treat his fucck up. But in this instance, it is your duty to go and teach the nuisance a bitter lesson. Go and put on your jeans knicker, wear bra, wear top bra, pit on an inner singlet, then wear a thick top. Go there are keep the idiot shut forcefully.

I no dey put those things for my mind, if you no get your own for body, dey dia dey mock me.

It's an everyday something , esp in my kind of hustle , I careless about any of them , Sha let my money complete , else na there the Russia / Ukraine go start

Hmmmm

Better not to pay her any attention but it's ok to think of what she said if it bothers you.....would you like to change it or continue to roll within that circle? You are obviously a better person than her but disadvantaged. Better get your hands busier to ease your predicament. You will laugh last.

I used to be incredibly skinny and hated when people pointed it out. In fact, it got to a point that I was spending all my allowance on protein milkshakes and other foods to add weight. This might sound trivial but it was my biggest bother then and I took care of it. Again, if your state bothers you, take care of it while pretending that madam mockery is just giving you a feedback from her perceptive. Good luck darling....we need an e-hug emogen.

Mumben:
Good afternoon N'lders, so we had a compound meeting with d landlord yesterday. Note that d landlord doesn't stay with us.

During the meeting, a female married neighbor raised some complaints about another neighbor whose family are in the habit of wasting water in d compound. Their tap head is spoilt but they refused to repair it, when water is pumping, they can leave their tap on overnight and so on. My husband was also confirming what d neighbor was saying.

During the meeting, the said woman whose family was wasting water came in and was
making some side remarks and even asked the Landlord why he had to call the meeting. The landlord didn't reply but rather asked her to leave the meeting. Am sure this angered her

When she came back from her business place in the night, from the gate she started raining insults on the woman that reported her, my husband,my children and myself. I have never been so humiliated in my life. Of a truth, we re going through financial challenges at the moment and it's telling on us. She called me a skeleton, my children kwashiorkor and my husband she called a Nobody. We were inside while she kept ranting and ranting outside, she later went inside her house and continued her rant from there. She said so many unprintable things to us but by God's grace we didn't even step out not to talk of replying her.

My great n'land family, is the woman wrong to have reported her? and am I wrong to have kept quiet while she humiliated and mocked my family for being poor?

Any advice for me cos I am broken

You did the right thing. Ignore and avoid her. She’s obviously not ok. You are just unnecessarily sensitive about your condition. All will be well and it will work out with time. Everybody goes through good and bad times.

What are you currently doing to get your family in a better situation?

Kasdat5:
It's an everyday something , esp in my kind of hustle , I careless about any of them , Sha let my money complete , else na there the Russia / Ukraine go start

That's the spirit...keep it up!

Thanks @ all for ur kind words and encouragement. I feel much better now

Mumben:
Thanks @ all for ur kind words and encouragement. I feel much better now

it's not really easy to stomach mockery and insults, I feel your pain.
What I normally do to anyone who mocks or embarrass me is report them to a dreaded deity at Ika Annang in Akwa Ibom state. .

Exmilitant:
it's not really easy to stomach mockery and insults, I feel your pain.
What I normally do to anyone who mocks or embarrass me is report them to a dreaded deity at Ika Annang in Akwa Ibom state. .

Reporting to a deity is not an option for me.

Mumben:
Good afternoon N'lders, so we had a compound meeting with d landlord yesterday. Note that d landlord doesn't stay with us.

During the meeting, a female married neighbor raised some complaints about another neighbor whose family are in the habit of wasting water in d compound. Their tap head is spoilt but they refused to repair it, when water is pumping, they can leave their tap on overnight and so on. My husband was also confirming what d neighbor was saying.

During the meeting, the said woman whose family was wasting water came in and was
making some side remarks and even asked the Landlord why he had to call the meeting. The landlord didn't reply but rather asked her to leave the meeting. Am sure this angered her

When she came back from her business place in the night, from the gate she started raining insults on the woman that reported her, my husband,my children and myself. I have never been so humiliated in my life. Of a truth, we re going through financial challenges at the moment and it's telling on us. She called me a skeleton, my children kwashiorkor and my husband she called a Nobody. We were inside while she kept ranting and ranting outside, she later went inside her house and continued her rant from there. She said so many unprintable things to us but by God's grace we didn't even step out not to talk of replying her.

My great n'land family, is the woman wrong to have reported her? and am I wrong to have kept quiet while she humiliated and mocked my family for being poor?

Any advice for me cos I am broken

It feels normal to be broken after such insults...... People hate the truth.....

Normally if I were to be your husband, I would nt have said anything....

I have studied people and realized that they hate anytin truth....


Encourage your husband next time not to interfere in such matter... Don't worry God will raise you up and your family will build one soon by God grace

wis3:
it's a nice thing. You're human. It's admirable. The plan was to provoke you so you'd react, possibly go physical with her and it doesn't always end well. I mean, what if, she accidentally slumped in the process? You'd have more problems on your hands.

U too watch nollywood.... Chai

Must sumtin like death always happen whne two people go physical.. Must someone always slump?

You didn't even raise the concern that what if she herself slumped... God forbid....

Nollywood don make una bliv say the one attacked always slump

Exmilitant:
it's not really easy to stomach mockery and insults, I feel your pain.
What I normally do to anyone who mocks or embarrass me is report them to a dreaded deity at Ika Annang in Akwa Ibom state. .

How come your deity can't take your out of your militant life? Is it so dumb to only welcome mocking or embarrassment case but wunt better your life

naija4life247:
Be a true woman, go there are best up the nuisance. If it's a guy that is messing up, your husband would have gone to treat his fucck up. But in this instance, it is your duty to go and teach the nuisance a bitter lesson. Go and put on your jeans knicker, wear bra, wear top bra, pit on an inner singlet, then wear a thick top. Go there are keep the idiot shut forcefully.

What if the nuisance overpowers her and her husband ?

Isn't That double disgrace

Fighting wit a mad person means you are also mad... It is best to ignore them

DenreleDave:


What if the nuisance overpowers her and her husband ?

Isn't That double disgrace

Fighting wit a mad person means you are also mad... It is best to ignore them

No way, useless abusers are always weak. They fight with their mouth.

Channah1:
You don't need to fight or reply her back. Leave her to God,. God will surely fight for you.

I have been mocked here on nairaland when I had accommodation issue but I hand all my mockers to God cos hes the only one that can reply them for me.

Leave her to God.

You still haven't gotten over the fact that nobody cares about you on Nairaland. You should be appreciating God for taking you out of trenches not looking for how God will punish your mockers. Your so called "mockers" serve your God better than you do. So how God wan take punish them bayi?

The best reply you and your family can give to her is to work out a legit way to come out of your financial difficulty and become successful. You and your husband should make this a point of focus and work with God through prayers and appropriate action steps to get out of your current situation. Cheers!

@Op, sorry you had to endure those insults o. You will get over it. Your husband should learn to mind his business next time.

Your financial issue is not the reason you receive those insults. When you drag a ma.d woman or call her out over her inadequacies, then be prepared for the outcome.

Acidosis:


You still haven't gotten over the fact that nobody cares about you on Nairaland. You should be appreciating God for taking you out of trenches not looking for how God will punish your mockers. Your so called "mockers" serve your God better than you do. So how God wan take punish them bayi?

The day lapo people drag me for clothes reach their office, na that day I stop to collect loan,it was a life changing decision.

Sorry madam ehn

Ok12345:
The day lapo people drag me for clothes reach their office, na that day I stop to collect loan,it was a life changing decision.

Sorry madam ehn

Chai I can only imagine,my God!

ahnie:

Chai I can only imagine,my God!

It wasn't funny ooo
I don't take loans anymore oo,it is better I die of hunger than collect from loan sharks