based on my experience, naija men are not the romantic sort -genereally few men are. They use the romance to get the girl -in any way they need her, be it for sex, marriage, children, money, you name it. Ask any woman married for five or ten year how many romantic words she hears per month.
but one thing Nigerian men are good at is making a woman BELIEVE they are in love with her, especially if she is the idealistic, love-seeking, romantic kind.

One advice from me (and not to naijasexy, as she is quite aware of what she is doing, and he is clearly a player) when you want to find out if your man loves you is -ask him WHY.

fake love:
-because you make me feel good/special/loved
-you make my heart tremble
-you are so sweet, patient, understanding (to me)
and so on -everything that is connected to HIM, what you do to HIM and how you make HIM feel

real love:
-because you are good/original/different
-you have a big heart
-because of the way you smile when noone looks at you
-because you are loyal and loving towards your friends/family
-because you are YOU
and so on -everything connected to YOU, who you are, what you like -even if he never existed.

Of course the true love doesn't exclude the first set of options, but if it's ONLY about him, then the love is not real, even if he himself thinks it is.
Many of us love this way -selfishly, but it won't take us anywhere as it is strongly connected with expectations

OOmpa:

based on my experience, naija men are not the romantic sort -genereally few men are. They use the romance to get the girl -in any way they need her, be it for sex, marriage, children, money, you name it. Ask any woman married for five or ten year how many romantic words she hears per month.
but one thing Nigerian men are good at is making a woman BELIEVE they are in love with her, especially if she is the idealistic, love-seeking, romantic kind.

One advice from me (and not to naijasexy, as she is quite aware of what she is doing, and he is clearly a player) when you want to find out if your man loves you is -ask him WHY.

fake love:
-because you make me feel good/special/loved
-you make my heart tremble
-you are so sweet, patient, understanding (to me)
and so on -everything that is connected to HIM, what you do to HIM and how you make HIM feel

real love:
-because you are good/original/different
-you have a big heart
-because of the way you smile when noone looks at you
-because you are loyal and loving towards your friends/family
-because you are YOU
and so on -everything connected to YOU, who you are, what you like -even if he never existed.

Of course the true love doesn't exclude the first set of options, but if it's ONLY about him, then the love is not real, even if he himself thinks it is.
Many of us love this way -selfishly, but it won't take us anywhere as it is strongly connected with expectations

Thanks for the advise boo! And about what you mentioned that Nigerian men are not romantic, I second that.

The man is married with kids!!!

That was quite some information to leave out.