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Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by Ginaz(f): 10:20pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
ozo13: lolz. i get your point, things like these ain't easy to say most times. you just gat to use indirect ways to make a point least you are accused of breaking self esteem which wasn't your intention. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by dettolgel: 10:24pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
Ginaz: You know yourself better and you understand the situation more than us. I agree that doing what is right and best for you is a wise choice as long as it does not harm anyone or against the law. |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by ozo13(m): 10:26pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
Ginaz:there is someone I need to advise abt the type of pant but for like 4/5months now .I don't know how to say it for her not to be angry with me.is there anyway u can advise please |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by Ginaz(f): 10:36pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
dettolgel: why would i want to continue the discussion with her when it's obvious i may have over stepped my boundary. I'm a very expressive individual. one who wanna make people understand deeply whatever I'm saying. how would she understand the severity of her odor if i shy away from telling her point black she smells? when a person is severally sick , would the doctor shy away from telling the patient the severity of the sickness all cos the patient esteem is in danger? won't it be for the good of the patient to know how deep the sickness so he could tackle it and stop it from getting worst? but what do i know though! no wonder people rather mind their business. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by newcommer: 10:39pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
HRHQueenPhil: Eva soap makes someone smell like rotten fish? |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by Ginaz(f): 10:41pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
ozo13: my dear I'm at loss. maybe you should buy her flowers and new pants, play cool music and write poetry to save her "self esteem". or you tell her point blank with all sincerity and goodwill only to be called a demon, arrogant and wicked being. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by bluebay(m): 10:42pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
I noticed you’re a lady too. Anyway you’ve done her a pending favor . She will thank you when the time comes . Kuddos to you babe |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by lovediehatelive(m): 10:57pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
HRHQueenPhil: Watin do Eva soap |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by Preciousppearl(f): 10:58pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
You did nothing wrong, there is no reason way you would have said it to make her feel good.. it's now hers to do what she wants with such info.She might just be shy to face you that's why she is acting that way.hope u adviced her to also try to wash her clothes properly and undies too. Some ladies can actually wear 1 bra a year without washing. |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by robinso01(m): 11:02pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
Itzurboi: Because it is indeed African proverb |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by williaam(m): 11:04pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
Roll on would suppress the smell to an extent, when u see her just tell her to get a lemon or lime, and apply it for 3-5days on her armpit for 15mins; then she takes her bath, the foul smell would varnish even without her using roll-on. Since u have started the process don't give up on her. Thanks |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by FavouredNK: 11:12pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
Ginaz:Please stop bothering yourself explaining so much cos I didn't see anything wrong in your actions, someone somewhere would still have told her the bitter truth maybe in a more insulting way so the earlier she learn to deal with it however it's said the better for her. You may seem like her enemy now just because you told the truth that even her friends may have been discussing behind her, but soon she will realize what it means for someone to walk up to you and tell you that bitter truth that others have been avoiding to say to your face yet make jest of you at the back. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by AfroKnight: 11:23pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
You are brave. I don’t know how to tell someone they have body odour. One babe I liked had serious mouth odour. Omo, that was the main reason I stopped chyking her. She hates me now. Nice shape, nice skin, fine babe but mouth odour. I couldn’t continue kissing her. E choke. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by FavouredNK: 11:25pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
ozo13:Honestly there's no point romancing the truth, fact is one who is wise is wise and the foolish will still display their stupidity no matter how you handle that truth. Even at just dashing them roll ons and perfumes without saying why, the foolish ones will decode your intentions and take offense in it or feel insulted. So to me she handled this the best way anyone can, sure we can't always please everyone 1 Like |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by FarmTech(m): 11:45pm On Sep 21, 2022 |
I've seen a number of girls that smell so bad. And some of them are married oo. Is it natural or due to uncleaniness? |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by Tzar(m): 12:56am On Sep 22, 2022 |
You did nothing wrong. Never be afraid to cut off idiots who detest hearing the truth. You did not only tell her what the problem is, you offered help by giving her your roll on. Unfortunately, she has a bigger problem than body odor, and that is pride and a bad attitude. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by dejifun(m): 1:15am On Sep 22, 2022 |
Well, you have done nothing wrong! She will understand it better by and by. I think my wife has a similar issue, she got an apprentice: anytime she comes everybody in the shop feels very uncomfortable due to the odours (body and mouth). My wife started complaining bitterly, she came to me for a piece of advise. I told her you have to be diplomatic about it and make sure you don't discuss it while every other apprentice is around. She waited for a good time, but there was none. Fortunately; the girl(apprentice) was having her birthday very close. Wifey told me about one of her apprentices' birthday and she mentioned her; I quickly advised her to get some gifts-Roll-on and body spray and also make sure she gifts her these gifts while no others were there. As a matter of fact, all things went to plan-for about one and a half month the atm was encouraging. But the unfortunate thing is that after the one and a half month-guess the stuff's finished, the odour resumed work. Wifey came to me to complain again. I told her point blank, "call her and tell her she smells and she needs to take care of herself," period!! 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by Ybaby: 2:50am On Sep 22, 2022 |
Ginaz: Most teens have body odor...a combination of new hormones and poor hygiene. You did the right thing telling her and she did the right thing to not greet you again... After court case no more friendship. Let her be pls! |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by PeachtreeReside(f): 3:23am On Sep 22, 2022 |
You did nothing wrong Haba, don't they know when they stink? Too many unladylike ladies around |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by darlenese(f): 3:54am On Sep 22, 2022 |
During my puberty age ,I didn't know how to take care of my armpit , I didn't smell nice at all, I knew I was smelling bad but had no idea what to do, my parents were too busy and all they tell us is wash your armpit, that doesn't solve the smell, as a matter of fact I spend all the soap and water in the bathroom washing just the armpit . Sometimes I would sit down and cry. I gradually withdrew from people and became so timid . Each time I remember my childhood it makes me hate my parents, parents should do more to care for their children abeg. This ungrateful lass doesn't even know what you are doing for her . In my case on faithful day we had a female visitor and I noticed she was always rubbing and spraying something in her under arm, that was how I wrote the name and used all my saving to buy my first deodorant . And the journey of smelly puberty ended 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by olab059(m): 4:25am On Sep 22, 2022 |
NemoDatQuod: GREAT COMMENT. TWO THUMBS UP. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by olab059(m): 4:34am On Sep 22, 2022 |
Cutehector: lol! So true. |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by twosquare(m): 5:31am On Sep 22, 2022 |
Ginaz, don't forget this, I hope this suggestion helps.... williaam: |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by fluffybaby(f): 5:31am On Sep 22, 2022 |
Instead of her to be thanking you. Anyways, she still has childish mindset. Just look past her and move on. Someone would use it to insult her one day. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by phemmyfour: 5:49am On Sep 22, 2022 |
Ginaz:Mind your biz next time Aunty. You bruised her ego |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by Mjshexy(f): 6:24am On Sep 22, 2022 |
HRHQueenPhil:I love the foreign purple Eva soap, what's your issue with the brand? |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by drlateef: 6:28am On Sep 22, 2022 |
Ginaz: I live abroad and I know how they have learnt to be polite and mild in the way they say even very unpleasant news. This is one reason why many Nigerians enter into trouble abroad. Because they have not learnt to be polite and mild in speech. |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by ChiefAtang: 6:31am On Sep 22, 2022 |
Ginaz: And that's just the armpit oo Imagine how the puna will smell �� 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by Mjshexy(f): 6:35am On Sep 22, 2022 |
Ginaz:You did great darling, don't mind her present attitude she will definitely follow your kind advice, just watch her. |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by yMcy56(f): 6:38am On Sep 22, 2022 |
Ginaz:@Op you did well. Those teenagers could be forming sometimes, just ignore her attitude and behave normal towards her she'll come around. She might just not appreciate the way you put it, thinking you embarrassed her. It's very good you called her attention to the armpit smell. We ought to be doing that especially if we notice such, could be very disgusting. Quite a lot of them don't know about roll-on. Could remember one as well. I didn't go straight......first asked her which type of perf or body spray she uses, she said none..... Again asked which type of roll-on she's using, said none. So I came in from there and she was happy. Think the way we pass the message across matters too. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by Realist777: 6:44am On Sep 22, 2022 |
Ginaz:Thank you for saving her from herself |
Re: Should I Have Minded My Business? Did I Do Wrong? by Majesty33(m): 6:57am On Sep 22, 2022 |
This gender are the most difficult people to deal with, you become too friendly with them, with time they will start disrespecting u, u are so strict, they call u a bad person, u correct them and they tag it as insult. I wonder how men who live with them for so many years cope. Already correction on poor hygiene that is affecting her and glaring to the eye, she is angry for being corrected. |
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