thegroomspa:
Hi friends...

Can't sleep tonight cos of whole lot of thought going on inside of me.

Let me be brief, please permit me.

I was posted to another state on work related matter, there I meet this pretty lady. I am 35 yr she's 34 so we got along her kind behavior and her openess captivated my heart and after 3 months I said to myself I think I have found my missing rib.

Things were looking good, am actually based in one of the state in the north where am being posted from Abuja and what happens is my company sends personel from Lagos to come assist me and the person sent stays for 2month after which another person comes to replace him.

Anytime I have a colleague sent from Lag and my fiancee visit I do introduce her to my colleague as my person to be...two of my colleagues who have seen her before going back to Lagos have told me she will make a good wife.

I love and cherised her so much even when my job doesn't really pay me that much due to the part of the country where I found myself I still try to squeeze the little I have just to make her happy though she's not too demanding...

A month ago, a personel was sent from Lag on hanging out, my fiancee called me on phone I asked her where she was and told her to come see me where I was with my colleague cooling off after a busy day. She came and I introduced her to this guy they exchanged pleasantry but because we were done as at the time she arrived we dashed out immediately.

She returned back home while I and my colleague took a tricycle to our place of rest.

As we got home I noticed the mood of my guy
changed, on trying to know why he said mehnnn I like your woman she's my kind of woman...I laughed it off.

So we have meet at different places together, until the unusual began happening....my girl will call me up and will be asking after my guy on a daily basis.

She did it to a point one day, she called told me I should tell my friend she asked after him that even if she knows I was not going to tell my friend that I should tell him she's greeting him the same way my guy disturbs me about her.

One day she called me while she was at work and am off, asked me if she could bring food for me of course I accepted though she does that occasionally.

As she arrived we sat in company lodge we discussed for sometime...and only God knows how many times she was asking after my guy.

My guy was not around at the same time I wanted to know what happens when my guy returns from the gym...

Before then I took my laptop and was operating while I wanted to see if my instinct is on point. while on the laptop my guy came in, from the gym they both greeted and on the guy teasing her on what to offer her or to take her out my fiancee was so engrossed that she never knew when she told me openly she missed my guy....

Sweetvie:
Amen. Thanks
Why would I take side when I know it wrong.
I talk/ type from my own view, even if the person is my closest friend sef I'll still you truth whether you're wrong or right coz I hate rubbish and I don't like when someone else accept rubbish too

GuestJoe:
An insecure man shouldn't think of relationship. Life no too hard bro but your insecurity is making it hard.

If she flirts with your friends, then flirt with her friends or rather,go toast a girl in her presence so she go know you're still a game guy.

If it is me,I will take her out to a place where beauties hang out and I will pick a sexy one to admire and occasionally flirt around with as she watches me.

Take this advice

Stop fighting or having sleepless nights because of women. Be above the game and control the game. Nothing pains women like admiring and showering praises about another woman in their presence.

thegroomspa:
Continue...

She went back to work, and later that day evening I started receiving a message on Whatsapp from her friend I once meet asking want happened between I and her friend...

On explaining things to her, she said there was nothing wrong that if I love her friend enough that shouldn't be an issue...

I was so angered that I stopped replying to her friend...

Then my girl started texting me on Whatsapp apologizing and at the same time swearing with her life that she can't sleep or do anything that her head and her heart are heavy...

I became afraid so she doesn't hurt herself, I then replied her and fixed a place to meet her after work...

We meet and I pointed out everything she burst to tears saying it wasn't true that it's not what I think and was swearing with her life...

I told her I forgave her...

This month made it the 7th month and i have not bleeped her since we met...I initiated it to ease up a little bit...we've made love twice now...

But I still feel insecure when ever am around her and don't trust her...

I feel like quitting...




Am so pained...

bayulll011:



You are one of the few sensible ladies here.
Can u drop your handle i wanna follow u.

Marvyx:
Men sha.. While bashing the female gender, let's not forget that we too have our own issues. I mean what's so hard to respect another man's domain?

Anyways, OP come and finish the story please.

thegroomspa:
Continue...

She went back to work, and later that day evening I started receiving a message on Whatsapp from her friend I once meet asking want happened between I and her friend...

On explaining things to her, she said there was nothing wrong that if I love her friend enough that shouldn't be an issue...

I was so angered that I stopped replying to her friend...

Then my girl started texting me on Whatsapp apologizing and at the same time swearing with her life that she can't sleep or do anything that her head and her heart are heavy...

I became afraid so she doesn't hurt herself, I then replied her and fixed a place to meet her after work...

We meet and I pointed out everything she burst to tears saying it wasn't true that it's not what I think and was swearing with her life...

I told her I forgave her...

This month made it the 7th month and i have not bleeped her since we met...I initiated it to ease up a little bit...we've made love twice now...

But I still feel insecure when ever am around her and don't trust her...

I feel like quitting...




Am so pained...

Sweetplum:

And you didn't bother to see her so that you can v real confrontation to discuss your fears and that confrontation ll be your evidence if your fiancee is actually hitting on your friend.
You can't accuse a woman without evidence.
All you v said are suspicion.
I don't tolerate cheats be it a fellow woman or from a man.
I preach equality in relationships.
But your action may trigger what you v been expecting. If your girl actually has any infatuation for your friend, you neglecting her ll make her turn to him.
It happens if it's a male too so no boy should come here and say am supporting a girl cos of my gender.
Or any moro n here to come & bash women as if men don't do stupid things.

omotoshodontee1:
u want to commit suicide because of girlfriend.. c'mon bro,ur wife can still be bleeped self.never take woman too serious even if it x ur legal wife..one of my guy is presently knacking a bride of 1 and half month , that's the society we found ourselves....

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

Looking for best subtle way to tell her...

It really hurts you may not understand...

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

kingsceemark:


See them partner in crime, Nigerian girls are useless and foolish, all of them

OdefaGirl:



You conclude so fast..... Age has nothing to do with a lady being loose.
There are 13yr olds whose organs are now loose (especially in this time and era we found ourselves)...saggy and all and there are 33+s whose own are intact... Everything bam!
No capping

thegroomspa:
Continue...

She went back to work, and later that day evening I started receiving a message on Whatsapp from her friend I once meet asking want happened between I and her friend...

On explaining things to her, she said there was nothing wrong that if I love her friend enough that shouldn't be an issue...

I was so angered that I stopped replying to her friend...

Then my girl started texting me on Whatsapp apologizing and at the same time swearing with her life that she can't sleep or do anything that her head and her heart are heavy...

I became afraid so she doesn't hurt herself, I then replied her and fixed a place to meet her after work...

We meet and I pointed out everything she burst to tears saying it wasn't true that it's not what I think and was swearing with her life...

I told her I forgave her...

This month made it the 7th month and i have not bleeped her since we met...I initiated it to ease up a little bit...we've made love twice now...

But I still feel insecure when ever am around her and don't trust her...

I feel like quitting...




Am so pained...

Baselm:


You acted quite immature for a 35 year old. There is nothing wrong in your fiancée and a so called friend of yours getting along well and asking after one another from you. They might both be good talkers while you are a quiet type, of course they will enjoy each other's company, but if they date it won't work out well.

She will never be expressive around you anymore, your insecurity is of the highest order.

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

Looking for best subtle way to tell her...

It really hurts you may not understand...

Marvyx:
Men sha.. While bashing the female gender, let's not forget that we too have our own issues. I mean what's so hard to respect another man's domain?

Anyways, OP come and finish the story please.

thegroomspa:


My dear I don't want the film to play to the point where I will get to know they bleeped each other that could be suicidal...I acted fast but I can still handle myself now than.

Sweetvie:
Awwn
The girl is blushing
Thanks.
Sorry, m not is any social media stuff atm for personal reasons... You don't mind me sending hello on email, do you?

Awesomeking:
Would you like to have access to her whatsapp chats so you can see everything both past and present? If so ,kindly respond

GuestJoe:
An insecure man shouldn't think of relationship. Life no too hard bro but your insecurity is making it hard.

If she flirts with your friends, then flirt with her friends or rather,go toast a girl in her presence so she go know you're still a game guy.

If it is me,I will take her out to a place where beauties hang out and I will pick a sexy one to admire and occasionally flirt around with as she watches me.

Stop fighting or having sleepless nights because of women. Be above the game and control the game. Nothing pains women like admiring and showering praises about another woman in their presence.

thegroomspa:
Continue...

They had a lot of eye contact, and frankly there was seduction going on underground even when I pretend to be operating on my laptop but was deeply observing things.

On our way out as she was going home I asked her if she likes my guy, immediately she refuted and said no she only likes how he speaks like an American...

I was pained at this point, I dragged her phone and I told her I would gladly give her the contact of my friend so they can connect well...

and she was asking why...as soon as she had gone the whole pictures began playing in my head.

By the time she got to her place of work and she called me I shouted on her and told her never to call my line again that she's a loose girl and I blocked her....

She ran back to my lodge and wanted to see me I was ahome but pretended not to...