Toks2008:


Commot face. Focus on yourself and being a woman of value.

Your husband loves you and will never stop loving you... Look away from distractions and warn that your aproko friend to mind her business.

He loves her truly by stabbing her where it hurts most and not respecting their vows. Love kwa

Neptunium:
Exactly. And you read my mind. I was going to say her relocating to the UK (aka. joining him) won't make him leave the dating site. This isn't about her being in Nigeria. He may lie to her now or when they're together that he's no longer on it when he still is. Or he may join another dating site behind her back. Most men on dating or hookup sites are repeat or continuous users..a married man on it, who is getting access to different women, sure ain't leaving. OP is on a long tin.

Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

GloriousGbola:


It was a statement.

And she still went back to the US afterwards on her own dime, her own application.

Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

Persephone1:
He loves her truly by stabbing her where it hurts most and not respecting their vows. Love kwa

Dshocker:


If only you were an ardent reader of the bible you wouldn't have been confused as to where to locate it in the bible.

I just hope a witless and hobo person like you will admit to truth rather than displaying an act of a juvenile.

Lagbenjo:
Immature people with immature replies have derailed this thread.

My dear, when you are done with NYSC , quickly join him. The fact that he is cheating over there does not mean he doesn't love you any longer. Most men that travel before their wives cheat . That is the bitter truth.

Call him one day on video call, give him a serious stare and ask him some questions like "does he still want to continue with the marriage" ? Give him warnings that will shake him. Don't give him that impression that your life depends on him. After that, continue to show love to him, don't nag about it again so that he will not be afraid of your coming to using womens' rights to deal with him over there.

When you get there, insist that he must do STD test before you continue your sexual relations. That will make him know that he has breach the trust and that you will always be suspicious.

Igiaruwe04:


This one has lost her husband to Nigerian woman in the UK who are looking for husband here and there.

On a serious note, body no be firewood and it's cold now, so he needs someone to warm his bed. If you truly love him, let him enjoy before you join him

Saintmary:



If a person calls you stupid, run a quick check on yourself, if they have a valid point, your next action is to get smarter, but this is simple to people who are intelligent.



But mad men hate being called mad,

Same for foolish people.


Now, you credited a statement to God, which was a false quote, you couldn't supply a reference, and you are offended when a supposed "emotional being" that you wish to subjugate her kind called your lucidity to question.



Your stupidity would have been amusing if not that I have no interest in educating you.



Go and face individuals who have less IQ than you, or those around your range.



You didn't succeed in piquing my interest.

ykalhaji:


This happens because most Nigerian men were either molested by an adult female as their 1st sexual experience or had transactional/prostitutional sex as their first real sexual intimate encounter, they are not in control during these times and most often time have to go through this multiple times to be able to know how to perform. It becomes an addiction to either a childhood or ongoing emotional trauma. A new woman or body surrendering her self sexual makes them feel more whole or adequate(they are chasing sexual high and control which men can only get the more older and financially stable they get). If more Nigerian men had their 1st intimate sexual encounters in a loving and honest relationship with a woman or lady, the lesser the number of married cheats when they grow up.

You obviously read my initial post in a defensive state of mind not a receptive one. By what statistical analysis do you infer that most Nigerian Men had their first sexual experiences through molestation or paid sex can you back up this claim with verified evidence (s) . My initial post isn't about the sexual or conjugal aspects of Nigerian Men but all aspect of their lives, social, psychological, cultural, biological etc Nahhh their lack of respect for life goes beyond one Aunty playing with their young penis or some juvenile visiting a brothel for first sex. The Later shows lack of respect and value for himself,who do you blame for that?

The traditional Nigerian Man places value on only one thing His pocket( financial capacity) and it's because that's what his culture instill in him. As long as he is financially capable,he can slap the queen and get away with it. Money is the only thing Nigerian Man respects and place value on, he is taught that is all he needs in life. Other things don't matter. He can be as stubborn as an ox, dirty as a pig, heartless as the devil, all these are excused as long as he is paying bills

Little does he know that what he chose to build himself on is as common as salt. As when he gets displaced, he starts to wail .

Jeon:


Eye opening!

Thought Men said " Women are the weak vase, involves everything with emotions while Men are stronger than mountain "

And now why are you changing it?
How can the weak vases not feel lonely?

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You have said it with your mouth ... No long stories.

Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

Toks2008:


You don't know Jack.

Men will be men... It does not mean they don't love their wives. know this and know Peace

GloriousGbola:
It was a statement.

And she still went back to the US afterwards on her own dime, her own application.

yinkeys:

You’re obviously a woman thats blind to certain things
Who do you think civilized the world with roads, houses, electricity etc
You think the average woman’s palm strength is strong enough to build a house or kill a lion or predator
You also think women aren’t capable of violence and jealousy amongst themselves
Madam I’m done talking to you
It’s obvious you don’t understand reality
Just here arguing BS

Persephone1:
Men will only be Men if they start engaging or dating fellow Men.
Women get hurt when they are cheated on, that should matter!

If you really love someone you really won't want to hurt that person. Perhaps if you guys can take off the selfish veils you cover your face with you will see why women argue this.

If you love someone, you won't deliberately hurt them. Very simple!

Proffessorr:


Talk things over with your man.
Focus on improving yourself in your service year while working towards joining him afterwards.

In addition, “run” from that your friend o.

Realestatevixen:
The fact that he denied it until you showed him evidence is what is disturbing. He definitely has something up his sleeves.

Thats why I don't like couples living apart for any reason.

KanuSE:


But there's love in sharing na.

Why are people selfish?

Sharing should be on agreement with your partner.

CSTRR:
I don't support cheating, so there is no excuse for this.
And that man is playing a dangerous game.
This woman will swallow the insult and play along just to get to the UK. Once she gets there and establish herself, she would deal with that man.
Even women with good husbands are turning into monsters when they travel abroad, let alone a woman you have cheated on.
A very dangerous game.

Verifiedtrader:
If you still want your relationship to work, don’t try to disrespect the man over this matter.
Nobody is holy, if reverse was the case you might have done worse cos I know what you Nigerian girls can do.
Just wrap up your youth service and go and meet him.
My one cent.
Peace!

Igiaruwe04:


It's better you tell her the truth. She's naive. They've collected her husband simple. And there is no possibility of him choosing her when the man has moved on to white women over there.

Nigeria girls are boring

gaby:
Hmmm...

I am "words of short" as a man knowing I could get caught up in this kinda exploratory and adventurous hubris.

My only issue is how he(we) would take this sort of exploration should the case be reversed.

I no fit shout jare