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Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by diogo23: 1:38pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
segtech68:Come out open my friend, any lady in Nigeria that want court marriage have bad intention 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by diogo23: 1:39pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
Romanoff:It's a very big lie |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Ishilove: 1:40pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
AbdulMagaji:And this is the crux of the matter. People neglect the God factor when choosing a life partner |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by michoim(m): 1:41pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
Romanoff:Very poor, lopsided judgement... |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by BigBashiru: 1:42pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
Ralphlauren: Nigeria is not the West |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by babavik: 1:50pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
Sweetplum: Plum leave this your cheating issue one side, he expressed his fear because human beings can't be trusted 100%. He's scared of the future and the question of "what if". I feel he should open up to his partner so that they can be on the same page. BTW who says "men own women after marriage"?? |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Romanoff(f): 1:51pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
diogo23: Which part is a lie? |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by CaptainFM1: 1:52pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
Romanoff: Just for knowledge sake, how about traditional marriage? |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Nobody: 1:52pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
babavik:Your brethren here said so. And I v seen it as a means used by wife abusers. Always saying they owned their wives after paying bride price etc. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by GloriousGbola: 2:02pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
ibkayee: Naija is a society where men can get away with anything and have been brought up and, conditioned this way. The west is a society where women can get away with plenty. No one can predict what will happen with their wife when they travel to a place where the power dynamic is flipped. It is what it is |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by staga: 2:03pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
segtech68: Mr man, Your reasons for avoiding court marriage are not tenable. If you marry in church, you still have to register the marriage certificate with the local government authorities. Same with court. Unless you have some ulterior motives. If you cannot trust that the woman you are getting married to will be the same when you relocate, then do not commit to the union. As simple as that. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by OkoRemi2023(m): 2:05pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
I did court marriage and I never regret it but if you're a good friend to your fiance why worried about what's happening to others abroad? there are still many couple abroad who cherish themselves. imagine me getting scared with a lady I friend for 10yrs before marriage? |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by charlsecy(m): 2:06pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
Romanoff:Not really. Experience by others may have shaped his attitude |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by babavik: 2:06pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
Sweetplum: Did I mention you on two threads We know these are unfounded. No one owns anyone, abuse in marriage goes both, society will be sympathetic to the woman while telling men to "swallow" it as a "man". Psycho knows no gender. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Romanoff(f): 2:12pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
CaptainFM1: Customary law is different. I know nothing about customary law. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by ibkayee(f): 2:12pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
GloriousGbola:I wouldn’t say the power dynamic is ‘flipped.’ At least there’s some kind of objective due process in the West, there are laws to protect her but it isn’t always guarantee that things will swing in her favour In Naija it’s the man’s way, end of 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Munzy14(m): 2:13pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
segtech68:See you talking about marriage when you can't comfortably discuss critical issues with your woman. Oga go and talk to her..What you more factor in is the right time to talk about it and your valid reasons. On a second thought, if you plan relocation, then you sure know court wedding is necessary....You only have to make sure you understand who you really want to do this lifetime with. Humans change at anytime they want to..it could be -ve or +ve. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by BabbanBura(m): 2:14pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
segtech68: Abroad doesn't recognise any marriage except court wedding and certificate |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by akintunde63: 2:14pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
segtech68: It's simple, just tell you're no more interested in the marrying her |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Nobody: 2:14pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
Then u should consider a prenuptial agreement with ur wife before getting married let this Prenup be legalized by your solicitor or attorney, with more than 5 witnesses as signatory then signed by a renowned Judge, this prenup is to be upheld even upon ur demise, make sure you have children cos if u don't, the state would trsf ur estate to your wife who would look for a younger lover and tour the world with ur hard earned money with a dammed rotten fool |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by akintunde63: 2:15pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
segtech68: It's simple, just tell her you're no more interested in the marrying her |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by GloriousGbola: 2:21pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
ibkayee: Maybe for a man raised in obodo oyibo. A naija man will be at sea and have no idea what to do. I can see the man in court saying to the male judge it was just a small slap while his lawyer facepalms. The thing is a lot of relationships in Nigeria are transactional at their core. Bad they are zero sum /lose-lose games. There are also a lot of things women will tolerate in Nigeria Because it is expected that they will not tolerate abroad. Sorry I just got back from work. Make your own damn food! Sorry I am too tired for sex (and I know there is no side chick for you here ) you have to help the kids with their homework too 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by SPAMBOX7: 2:23pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
segtech68:Lmfao @bolded. Marry never even start this one don go |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by riverbird: 2:25pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
Op I have only one thing to say to you which is "marriages favour the men in Africa while it favours the women more in western countries", imagine your wife kicking you out of your own house , ,so look very closely before you leap, I may have sounded very harsh but it's the truth. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by CaptainFM1: 2:26pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
Romanoff: I don't think there's any hold back/contract binding in customary marriage. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Masterace(m): 2:29pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
well you sounding as if you dont trust her enough, well things to note is that most good women will feel insecure if you tell her that you are not interested in court marriage, she on the other hand will think you are up to something. the best best is if you really love her and shes that God fearing as you claimed then you should not be scared of during court wedding with her, and i think thats part of the documents you will even need if you both want to travel as a couple. my humble suggestion for your consideration. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by blaise26abj(m): 2:31pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
advanceDNA: The fear makes sense . That’s why he is asking for advice. He thinks voiding court here will protect him there . I believe if he gets a prenup ( I don’t know how that will work - not a legal expert) , he might be able to protect himself ….and by extension the wife too if she turns out more successful than him . No matter how uncomfortable it might be , it should be discussed . Very important . Without communication , a marriage is nothing but two strangers living together |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by ibkayee(f): 2:32pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
GloriousGbola:I feel like this is infantilising the guy, a ‘small slap’ is universally bad so I don’t think we can blame this on a cultural gap, he knows it’s bad but he does it because he knows he’ll get away with it The only reason he’ll be ‘lost’ is because he’s used to a certain type of privilege that he’s fully aware of and is happy about. I’ve even seen Naija men boast about it The ‘fear’ is from being held accountable 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Epic79: 2:34pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
God bless you. People like to mislead people. Read the laws under the country you want to travel to. It is not compulsory you must do court wedding. That was how they said my wife cannot do nysc service where the husband resides except you do court wedding. Absolutely lie. I did traditional marriage only and my wife served where I reside. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by crafteck(m): 2:39pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
Romanoff: Lol.... When the inequality of marital legality backfites... Tone would change. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by Exceed15: 2:39pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
Just tell her. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by GloriousGbola: 2:40pm On Jan 11, 2023 |
ibkayee: The Qur'an says when your wives misbehave first step is to beat them lightly Hindu proverb - women animals and children and worthy of being beaten African adage - the broom used to beat the old wife will still be used to beat the new wife. As to privilege - just as white men are totally unaware of their privilege and believe everything they have they earned through hard work, same for African men. The whole point of privilege is all but the most self aware are aware of it. |
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