Saintmary:


You see, most of these people have nothing going for them, they are insecure, so they need to bring people down in order to feel like humans.


You really don't want to look into their hearts and minds, it's too dark in there.


A 36 year old lady is just approaching her prime sexually and in terms of natural beauty.


The only issue here is that she is carrying way too heavy burden of 4 kids. That will make her look older than her age.


It's so unfortunate because I already sense that she will bow to pressure and add to her burdens, three more people to worry about making seven and she's not even 40 yet.


Why do Nigerian women like suffering?

Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello guys, I am a 36 years old single mother of four. My son will be 15 in August, first daughter 10 in october, my third 5 and youngest 3 by june.

I have separated from my husband because he didn't want my son to come and live with us, I have been taking care of them singlehandedly for 3 years.

I have been friend with this man, a widower who is 57 years and a father of 2 children. He is asking for my hand in marriage. To be honest, I don't want to be married again, all I want is to focus on raising my kids because I have been through a lot in my previous marriage and I don't want another marriage wahala.

He asked for my hand in marriage, I rejected him and I had explained to him why I don't want to marry again. I told him what my ex did, he said he is a mature man he will love me and my children and he will never hate them or ask them to leave his house. I told him I have to think about it and I will get back to him ASAP. But I am still scared to accept his proposal because I don't want history to repeat itself and he is still on my neck. He wants me to accept his proposal. I am confused.

Please advice me. Is it a wise choice for me to get married again after everything I have been through in the past?

ogeodi:
Pls if you can take care of your kids alone pls do so. With the gist flying around about molestation abeg dey ur dey till maybe when they're grown enough to stand or defend themselves. Am also divorced with two kids since 2013 raising them alone so I understand how you feel.

alizma:

Where is his first wife? Secondly, if your heart doesn't go with his idea, never do it to Please him or anyone.

Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello guys, I am a 36 years old single mother of four. My son will be 15 in August, first daughter 10 in october, my third 5 and youngest 3 by june.

I have separated from my husband because he didn't want my son to come and live with us, I have been taking care of them singlehandedly for 3 years.

I have been friend with this man, a widower who is 57 years and a father of 2 children. He is asking for my hand in marriage. To be honest, I don't want to be married again, all I want is to focus on raising my kids because I have been through a lot in my previous marriage and I don't want another marriage wahala.

He asked for my hand in marriage, I rejected him and I had explained to him why I don't want to marry again. I told him what my ex did, he said he is a mature man he will love me and my children and he will never hate them or ask them to leave his house. I told him I have to think about it and I will get back to him ASAP. But I am still scared to accept his proposal because I don't want history to repeat itself and he is still on my neck. He wants me to accept his proposal. I am confused.

Please advice me. Is it a wise choice for me to get married again after everything I have been through in the past?

Amumaigwe:


Don't you know that women also abuse minors? Who should really be afraid of who?

Vyvyanvyvy:


Thanks. She is dead

jessylaurel:


He's looking for someone to take care of his kids.
By the way how old are his children?
How long have you known him?
Does he have a GOOD STEADY income? Because he might have seen how industrious you're and wants to stick to your money.

Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello guys, I am a 36 years old single mother of four. My son will be 15 in August, first daughter 10 in october, my third 5 and youngest 3 by june.

I have separated from my husband because he didn't want my son to come and live with us, I have been taking care of them singlehandedly for 3 years.

I have been friend with this man, a widower who is 57 years and a father of 2 children. He is asking for my hand in marriage. To be honest, I don't want to be married again, all I want is to focus on raising my kids because I have been through a lot in my previous marriage and I don't want another marriage wahala.

He asked for my hand in marriage, I rejected him and I had explained to him why I don't want to marry again. I told him what my ex did, he said he is a mature man he will love me and my children and he will never hate them or ask them to leave his house. I told him I have to think about it and I will get back to him ASAP. But I am still scared to accept his proposal because I don't want history to repeat itself and he is still on my neck. He wants me to accept his proposal. I am confused.

Please advise me. Is it a wise choice for me to get married again after everything I have been through in the past?

ValCon888:
Firstly, a single mother of four is a steep hill to climb for any man. You're lucky someone is ready and willing to accept you and your four kids into his home.

Not to cohabit, but to make an honest woman out of you by asking for your hand in marriage.

At the end of the day, the choice is yours. If you don't want to then don't. For me, I'd advise you to for the security and companionship.

One thing's certain; offers like this only happen once in a lifetime.

I hope 20 years from now you won't look back at this moment and be gnashing your teeth.

Mayeldah:
This is the problem with being a baby mama. The day you decide to settle down its always difficult fitting in.

It is either the young man don't want a lady with a child already or the man is scared of having too many children to take care of (Yours and his)

Too many issues!!

Kobojunkie:
Don't ever think of having kids because chances are almost guaranteed that your kids will be babamamas/babapapas. And no, this is not a curse of any kind.

Mayeldah:
Don't you think this your response isn't necessary?

alizma:

Where is his first wife? Secondly, if your heart doesn't go with his idea, never do it to Please him or anyone.

BRATISLAVA:


The woman doesn't even seem to want to get married. If genders were reversed, we could say he's trying to trap her and manipulate her into sharing her wealth as a mother with his kids through his marriage proposal. Who knows what happened to his wife, too?

If she's ready to have so many responsibilities, she should go ahead with it. Otherwise, she can suggest they remain partners without going that extra mile.

Vyvyanvyvy:


I had 2 kids before my ex husband

SeeThisLoser:


Olodo urchin !

Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello guys, I am a 36 years old single mother of four. My son will be 15 in August, first daughter 10 in october, my third 5 and youngest 3 by june.

I have separated from my husband because he didn't want my son to come and live with us, I have been taking care of them singlehandedly for 3 years.

I have been friend with this man, a widower who is 57 years and a father of 2 children. He is asking for my hand in marriage. To be honest, I don't want to be married again, all I want is to focus on raising my kids because I have been through a lot in my previous marriage and I don't want another marriage wahala.

He asked for my hand in marriage, I rejected him and I had explained to him why I don't want to marry again. I told him what my ex did, he said he is a mature man he will love me and my children and he will never hate them or ask them to leave his house. I told him I have to think about it and I will get back to him ASAP. But I am still scared to accept his proposal because I don't want history to repeat itself and he is still on my neck. He wants me to accept his proposal. I am confused.

Please advice me. Is it a wise choice for me to get married again after everything I have been through in the past?

Klass99:
Don't let the past ruin your chances for a good thing. There's a chance for;

1. A new chapter of your life with an older man (I like older men sha, most tend to be mature and well grounded) what you fear may not happen, dwell on this thought instead.

2. Your children to have a male friend and mentor (hopefully a great one too) as well as new friends in their step siblings.

3. Sweet companionship between you and him. Children will grow and leave the nest one day or even sooner like when they are in boarding school. Your life shouldn't be all about your children, you are worthy of good things and you deserve good things too.

4. A nicely blended family, your kids may all get along well and you may get on well with him too. That's not to say there won't be challenges but nothing so bad or terrible that you both can't handle as mature/responsible adults.

Take a chance and see where it all leads to, you might be pleasantly surprised. Don't let negative thoughts or past hurts rule you. You guys can work out a living arrangement where you live close to each other (as a married couple) but in separate cribs with your kids, spending as much time as you can together......that may help reduce feelings of overwhelm and slowly blend both families.

ValCon888:
Firstly, a single mother of four is a steep hill to climb for any man. You're lucky someone is ready and willing to accept you and your four kids into his home.

Not to cohabit, but to make an honest woman out of you by asking for your hand in marriage.

At the end of the day, the choice is yours. If you don't want to then don't. For me, I'd advise you to for the security and companionship.

One thing's certain; offers like this only happen once in a lifetime.

I hope 20 years from now you won't look back at this moment and be gnashing your teeth.

pappilo:


You are an illiterate and the person who liked your post is an even bigger one!