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Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Vyvyanvyvy: 7:30pm On Feb 23, 2023 |
aimalohi: Thanks |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Vyvyanvyvy: 7:31pm On Feb 23, 2023 |
simplepee: Thanks |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Exceed15: 7:49pm On Feb 23, 2023 |
Whatever went wrong in your past relationship madam u sef get ur own so check yourself. My question is.. Are you ready emotionally, psychologically? If no, abeg good bye to marriage.. u don try nah... 4 children.. biko just enjoy your beautiful children and get a boyfriend if u no fit hold body. |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by eben97: 9:15pm On Feb 23, 2023 |
[quote author=Klass99 post=121135674]Don't let the past ruin your chances for a good thing. There's a chance for; 1. A new chapter of your life with an older man (I like older men sha, most tend to be mature and well grounded) what you fear may not happen, dwell on this thought instead. 2. Your children to have a male friend and mentor (hopefully a great one too) as well as new friends in their step siblings. 3. Sweet companionship between you and him. Children will grow and leave the nest one day or even sooner like when they are in boarding school. Your life shouldn't be all about your children, you are worthy of good things and you deserve good things too. 4. A nicely blended family, your kids may all get along well and you may get on well with him too. That's not to say there won't be challenges but nothing so bad or terrible that you both can't handle Take a chance and see where it all leads to, you might be pleasantly surprised.WISE ONE HERE.GOD BLESS U ,MADAM ,DO THIS |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Philosopher1979: 9:30pm On Feb 23, 2023 |
Vyvyanvyvy: It depends on you. 1 Are u sure u can stay without sex for the rest of your life. Instead of having man friends u can get married. If y don't u willbjistvstart having boyfriends up and down. Women need men at an emotional and sexual level 2. If u think u can do without sex and men then reject it. 3. But then out if curiosity I will like to know what your former husband did |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Brandiebird: 10:23pm On Feb 23, 2023 |
I don’t think you love this man or that you are attracted to him. I think you can only see what he can do for you. A lot of women do this and think they can just fake it but trust me, men will always know. And that’s when they will show you hell because you’re f*ing with his ego. Also, this is a mature man who has raised a woman, and has been married to a woman who probably loved and worshipped him. So unless you’re truly madly in love with him or at the very least find him sexually attractive, don’t do it. Remember that HE has needs and he sounds like he is a better man than the 2 dusty Bleep boys you had children with so, could you give him what he needs? You might be walking into another life lesson so… Another thing, you’re both from different times so how much could you have in common with a man 20 years older than you? Remember if he holds the financial burden then a simple ‘get out of my house’ is enough to get rid of you and your 4 children. I really feel for your kids. If you’re so independent and hardworking then why can’t your small family unit be enough for you until your children develop into healthy adults? How much trauma will it take before you sit down? I’m just thinking out loud so you can ignore me… |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Brandiebird: 10:34pm On Feb 23, 2023 |
greypencils: LOL! You think a 57 year old man has 2 years to spare on courting? He will be 60 by then 😂😂😂 This is a man from a different generation! When people didn’t have sex outside of marriage. He’s not from our Bleep Bleep generation like OP! 🤭 |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by greypencils: 10:44pm On Feb 23, 2023 |
Brandiebird:She is the one that needs to look before she leaps. The man has no problems at all especially if he is settled financially. If he cant spare the two years, he is free to bounce. He is the one that needs her young blood, she doesn't need him for anything. If she was so kin to be under a man per say, she never would have left her marriage. |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Brandiebird: 10:56pm On Feb 23, 2023 |
greypencils: 1st baby daddy left her, and the ex husband was a waste of space so I’d say she has a broken picker. She was in 2 abusive relationships (one abandoned her and one abused her) so I don’t think you spinning her story is helping her. The reality on ground is this old man knows what he wants and the only confused and conflicted person in this situation is OP. Everyone has God and both parties will be just fine if they walk away so I don’t know what you mean by “young blood” 🥴 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by UjuJoan2: 11:39pm On Feb 23, 2023 |
kingthreat: So marriage answers all? Why? Because she’s a woman? If that’s true then all married women should be in bliss right now. |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by bukkysam(f): 12:01am On Feb 24, 2023 |
Vyvyanvyvy:Don't go into marriage again go and face your children. God bless you |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by kingthreat(m): 1:24am On Feb 24, 2023 |
UjuJoan2: You must have been brought up in a dysfunctional marriage. Anyone seeking relationship advice from you is heading to doom. |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by UjuJoan2: 3:53am On Feb 24, 2023 |
kingthreat: Okay, whatever you say. |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by justlovesfarmin: 8:51am On Feb 24, 2023 |
ValCon888: My exact thought. His children are most probably grown up and he will provide the financial support and the fatherly figure the children need. |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Jesslove(f): 6:36pm On Feb 24, 2023 |
It's not easy dear but it depends on the man and his children. Try and spend some time with them and watch their behavior towards you and your children. While you're with them be close to their dad like husband and wife and watch their face, call them when in the kitchen to assist you, send them within,discuss with them and hear from them then from their you will know your stand if you can cope or not. |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by kodix(m): 9:44pm On Feb 24, 2023 |
Pls don't rush into marrying him moreover you already have 4 children, I wonder why you still want...,beside nothing like loneliness, bcs many married people are very lonely except the same company their children also keep them is all they get.Marriage is very tasking esp for women Else u want it,so think well before u act. |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Vyvyanvyvy: 9:45pm On Feb 24, 2023 |
Jesslove: He lives alone, his children are adults the girl is married and the boy lives abroad |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Klass99(f): 9:49pm On Feb 24, 2023 |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Vyvyanvyvy: 9:50pm On Feb 24, 2023 |
kodix: Thanks. I am not in a rush he is the one who has been pressuring me to accept his proposal because he is lonely |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Vyvyanvyvy: 9:50pm On Feb 24, 2023 |
Klass99: Ok sorry |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Klass99(f): 9:52pm On Feb 24, 2023 |
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Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by Kobojunkie: 10:03pm On Feb 24, 2023 |
Vyvyanvyvy: Vyvyanvyvy:From your OP, you clearly don't seem to have any feelings for this man so what exactly are your intentions in considering his proposal? |
Re: A Widower Asking For My Hand In Marriage by abuhusna1: 7:13am On Feb 25, 2023 |
@op what character does your son pocess that makes his father not want him in his house. If this happens in the newhusband place he may equally call it quit. Work on your son first in possible |
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